WarEternal
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How to deal with sadness
Posted by Jan12girl
I don’t you if u can open this here
https://www.instagram.com/reel/CkgOZ0MDMX1/?igshid=MDJmNzVkMjY=
We are here just to experience it all. The good and the bad.
I don’t have any advice but to accept it.
Posted by WarEternal
I’ve read books, played video games, worked out, tried to stay off social media and it just doesn’t work for me
Dealing with heartache(in the acceptance stage)from the guy that ghosted me who refuses to communicate and my friend who’s closing off from me who also left me on read and doesn’t seem to budge either
Just dealing with both is quite overwhelming and as much I want to reach my friend, I don’t know the right words and feel I’ll just push her further. How do you guys deal with grief?
None of that doesn't sound griefworthy to me. Move on is how I deal with it.
Posted by Jumpin_JupiterPosted by WarEternal
I’ve read books, played video games, worked out, tried to stay off social media and it just doesn’t work for me
Dealing with heartache(in the acceptance stage)from the guy that ghosted me who refuses to communicate and my friend who’s closing off from me who also left me on read and doesn’t seem to budge either
Just dealing with both is quite overwhelming and as much I want to reach my friend, I don’t know the right words and feel I’ll just push her further. How do you guys deal with grief?
None of that doesn't sound griefworthy to me. Move on is how I deal with it.click to expand
Cool story bro, your comment was pretty useless
Posted by TXCowboy
1. Get dressed
2. Go out
3. Get a strong drink
4. Eat good food
5. Make a new friend
Been my MO for years.
Does everyone except me knows what is ‘MO’?
Posted by GemiMayPosted by WarEternal
I’ve read books, played video games, worked out, tried to stay off social media and it just doesn’t work for me
Dealing with heartache(in the acceptance stage)from the guy that ghosted me who refuses to communicate and my friend who’s closing off from me who also left me on read and doesn’t seem to budge either
Just dealing with both is quite overwhelming and as much I want to reach my friend, I don’t know the right words and feel I’ll just push her further. How do you guys deal with grief?
You seem like a person who are dwelling on things that you made up for yourself.
It’s been 6 months at least you moaning about a ‘problem’ you created with both of those people and you still there.
Imagine if you ACTUALLY had something going on with this Pisces and THEN he dumped you?
You would be suicidal!
STOP dwelling on shit! Think how you are acting and see if YOU wanted to be WITH you?
Doubtful…
So jump on some dating site and start fucking those people’s brains. Maybe you will find somebody who is as frustrated and willing to talk about it. Or even several people. Then you come back here and make some new annoying posts about how NEW people doesn’t want you.
IDK…at least it’ll be something new. For us.
That old shit is boring…click to expand
I stopped reading after “6 months” which is false
Thanks for bumping my post 🙂
Posted by WarEternalPosted by GemiMayPosted by WarEternal
I’ve read books, played video games, worked out, tried to stay off social media and it just doesn’t work for me
Dealing with heartache(in the acceptance stage)from the guy that ghosted me who refuses to communicate and my friend who’s closing off from me who also left me on read and doesn’t seem to budge either
Just dealing with both is quite overwhelming and as much I want to reach my friend, I don’t know the right words and feel I’ll just push her further. How do you guys deal with grief?
You seem like a person who are dwelling on things that you made up for yourself.
It’s been 6 months at least you moaning about a ‘problem’ you created with both of those people and you still there.
Imagine if you ACTUALLY had something going on with this Pisces and THEN he dumped you?
You would be suicidal!
STOP dwelling on shit! Think how you are acting and see if YOU wanted to be WITH you?
Doubtful…
So jump on some dating site and start fucking those people’s brains. Maybe you will find somebody who is as frustrated and willing to talk about it. Or even several people. Then you come back here and make some new annoying posts about how NEW people doesn’t want you.
IDK…at least it’ll be something new. For us.
That old shit is boring…
I stopped reading after “6 months” which is false
Thanks for bumping my post 🙂click to expand
Don’t lie! You read it all! And your first cry about Pisces is dated 5 months ago. So I said 6 just in case you haven’t posted right after and waited for a bit. So you know if it was 6 or 8…I don’t. And yeah! Be anal! Dwell on days now…see you ARE dwelling on petty shit!
Posted by LaLueurPosted by GemiMayPosted by WarEternal
I’ve read books, played video games, worked out, tried to stay off social media and it just doesn’t work for me
Dealing with heartache(in the acceptance stage)from the guy that ghosted me who refuses to communicate and my friend who’s closing off from me who also left me on read and doesn’t seem to budge either
Just dealing with both is quite overwhelming and as much I want to reach my friend, I don’t know the right words and feel I’ll just push her further. How do you guys deal with grief?
You seem like a person who are dwelling on things that you made up for yourself.
It’s been 6 months at least you moaning about a ‘problem’ you created with both of those people and you still there.
Imagine if you ACTUALLY had something going on with this Pisces and THEN he dumped you?
You would be suicidal!
STOP dwelling on shit! Think how you are acting and see if YOU wanted to be WITH you?
Doubtful…
So jump on some dating site and start fucking those people’s brains. Maybe you will find somebody who is as frustrated and willing to talk about it. Or even several people. Then you come back here and make some new annoying posts about how NEW people doesn’t want you.
IDK…at least it’ll be something new. For us.
That old shit is boring…
God,you are becoming a more and more horrible each day 🙄click to expand
I didn’t know I can DO THAT! Wow! The power I have!!! 😂😂😂🤦♀️
Posted by alexscariesPosted by GemiMayPosted by TXCowboy
1. Get dressed
2. Go out
3. Get a strong drink
4. Eat good food
5. Make a new friend
Been my MO for years.
Does everyone except me knows what is ‘MO’?
Yes. Modus Operandiclick to expand
If I had a friend every time I dressed and go out and have a drink…😂😂🤦♀️🍆👅🥵
Posted by alexscariesPosted by GemiMayPosted by TXCowboy
1. Get dressed
2. Go out
3. Get a strong drink
4. Eat good food
5. Make a new friend
Been my MO for years.
Does everyone except me knows what is ‘MO’?
Yes. Modus Operandiclick to expand
Yeah…he is proud of his Modus. 😂😂
Feel the feelings, to work through the pain.
Choose to move on, but allow the process. It’s not an immediate, but you must work through it or it doesn’t leave, is just hidden.
In the meantime, live life. Do the things you enjoy. With or without someone else.
Choose to move on, but allow the process. It’s not an immediate, but you must work through it or it doesn’t leave, is just hidden.
In the meantime, live life. Do the things you enjoy. With or without someone else.
Posted by Jumpin_JupiterPosted by WarEternal
I’ve read books, played video games, worked out, tried to stay off social media and it just doesn’t work for me
Dealing with heartache(in the acceptance stage)from the guy that ghosted me who refuses to communicate and my friend who’s closing off from me who also left me on read and doesn’t seem to budge either
Just dealing with both is quite overwhelming and as much I want to reach my friend, I don’t know the right words and feel I’ll just push her further. How do you guys deal with grief?
None of that doesn't sound griefworthy to me. Move on is how I deal with it.click to expand
How do you define someone else’s grief? 😾
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by Jumpin_JupiterPosted by WarEternal
I’ve read books, played video games, worked out, tried to stay off social media and it just doesn’t work for me
Dealing with heartache(in the acceptance stage)from the guy that ghosted me who refuses to communicate and my friend who’s closing off from me who also left me on read and doesn’t seem to budge either
Just dealing with both is quite overwhelming and as much I want to reach my friend, I don’t know the right words and feel I’ll just push her further. How do you guys deal with grief?
None of that doesn't sound griefworthy to me. Move on is how I deal with it.
How do you define someone else’s grief? 😾click to expand
I don't know about anybody else star. All I know is I only feel grief stricken if someone close to me died.
Posted by GemiMayPosted by WarEternalPosted by GemiMayPosted by WarEternal
I’ve read books, played video games, worked out, tried to stay off social media and it just doesn’t work for me
Dealing with heartache(in the acceptance stage)from the guy that ghosted me who refuses to communicate and my friend who’s closing off from me who also left me on read and doesn’t seem to budge either
Just dealing with both is quite overwhelming and as much I want to reach my friend, I don’t know the right words and feel I’ll just push her further. How do you guys deal with grief?
You seem like a person who are dwelling on things that you made up for yourself.
It’s been 6 months at least you moaning about a ‘problem’ you created with both of those people and you still there.
Imagine if you ACTUALLY had something going on with this Pisces and THEN he dumped you?
You would be suicidal!
STOP dwelling on shit! Think how you are acting and see if YOU wanted to be WITH you?
Doubtful…
So jump on some dating site and start fucking those people’s brains. Maybe you will find somebody who is as frustrated and willing to talk about it. Or even several people. Then you come back here and make some new annoying posts about how NEW people doesn’t want you.
IDK…at least it’ll be something new. For us.
That old shit is boring…
I stopped reading after “6 months” which is false
Thanks for bumping my post 🙂
Don’t lie! You read it all! And your first cry about Pisces is dated 5 months ago. So I said 6 just in case you haven’t posted right after and waited for a bit. So you know if it was 6 or 8…I don’t. And yeah! Be anal! Dwell on days now…see you ARE dwelling on petty shit!click to expand
Were you behind me or something? 🤔 A monkey is able to distinguish the timeline that this transpired occurred JUST recently if you know how to read. Your negativity doesn’t stop me from posting about it soooo 😂
Posted by WarEternalPosted by GemiMayPosted by WarEternalPosted by GemiMayPosted by WarEternal
I’ve read books, played video games, worked out, tried to stay off social media and it just doesn’t work for me
Dealing with heartache(in the acceptance stage)from the guy that ghosted me who refuses to communicate and my friend who’s closing off from me who also left me on read and doesn’t seem to budge either
Just dealing with both is quite overwhelming and as much I want to reach my friend, I don’t know the right words and feel I’ll just push her further. How do you guys deal with grief?
You seem like a person who are dwelling on things that you made up for yourself.
It’s been 6 months at least you moaning about a ‘problem’ you created with both of those people and you still there.
Imagine if you ACTUALLY had something going on with this Pisces and THEN he dumped you?
You would be suicidal!
STOP dwelling on shit! Think how you are acting and see if YOU wanted to be WITH you?
Doubtful…
So jump on some dating site and start fucking those people’s brains. Maybe you will find somebody who is as frustrated and willing to talk about it. Or even several people. Then you come back here and make some new annoying posts about how NEW people doesn’t want you.
IDK…at least it’ll be something new. For us.
That old shit is boring…
I stopped reading after “6 months” which is false
Thanks for bumping my post 🙂
Don’t lie! You read it all! And your first cry about Pisces is dated 5 months ago. So I said 6 just in case you haven’t posted right after and waited for a bit. So you know if it was 6 or 8…I don’t. And yeah! Be anal! Dwell on days now…see you ARE dwelling on petty shit!
Were you behind me or something? 🤔 A monkey is able to distinguish the timeline that this transpired occurred JUST recently if you know how to read. Your negativity doesn’t stop me from posting about it soooo 😂click to expand
I am not trying to stop you from posting. It seems the only thing you CAN do. And dxp seems the only place you have to bring your inane bullshit to. How can I deprive you from it?
How is Pisces? Anything new?
Posted by ImperfectStorm
I saw a quote that said “grief is just love with no place to go” and I felt that in my soul. That’s why it’s so overwhelming, because it’s an energy that you want to express but it’s trapped inside because of the conflict between you and the other person. I can so relate to your frustration.
Sometimes we just have to sit in that void.. you’re doing all the right things by keeping yourself busy with working out, accepting things as they are, etc.. but we can’t always escape the pain or discomfort. The distractions just delay the inevitable.. Sometimes a part of the acceptance phase is just accepting that we have to experience that painful or uncomfortable period because that is when we experience growth and resilience, or even gain clarity.
We can’t control other peoples reactions to our actions or even the outcomes to situations.. we can only control our behavior in relationships. It’s always in the back of my mind, that as long as I move with integrity and do right by people.. i am ok with them leaving my life if they so choose. That is their choice to make. And it does hurt.. but I remind myself that it wasn’t the first time I’ve been hurt (and healed) and certainly won’t be the last. Then that helps remind me that the pain is only temporary.
I sometimes just let myself have a good cry and then sleep on it.. sleep is healing on it’s own. Focus on taking care of yourself. If your soul feels tired, do things that make you feel nourished whether that’s laughing, spending time outside, journaling, it’s different for everybody.. just pay attention to how you feel when you do things, and do more of what makes you happy.
I loved reading this and it’s what I needed 🥺 I appreciate your kind words. I’m sure I’ll heal but will take time with the advice you’re giving me to try. I just overthink…”is it my fault for speaking up?” With the guy, I impulsively removed him from my socials because of the rollercoaster ride of emotions he put me through (I never wanted him gone, I just needed space) and he treated it as we’re over and my bestfriend refuse to talk so yeah. Thank you for empathizing as I feel heard
Posted by GemiMayPosted by WarEternalPosted by GemiMayPosted by WarEternalPosted by GemiMayPosted by WarEternal
I’ve read books, played video games, worked out, tried to stay off social media and it just doesn’t work for me
Dealing with heartache(in the acceptance stage)from the guy that ghosted me who refuses to communicate and my friend who’s closing off from me who also left me on read and doesn’t seem to budge either
Just dealing with both is quite overwhelming and as much I want to reach my friend, I don’t know the right words and feel I’ll just push her further. How do you guys deal with grief?
You seem like a person who are dwelling on things that you made up for yourself.
It’s been 6 months at least you moaning about a ‘problem’ you created with both of those people and you still there.
Imagine if you ACTUALLY had something going on with this Pisces and THEN he dumped you?
You would be suicidal!
STOP dwelling on shit! Think how you are acting and see if YOU wanted to be WITH you?
Doubtful…
So jump on some dating site and start fucking those people’s brains. Maybe you will find somebody who is as frustrated and willing to talk about it. Or even several people. Then you come back here and make some new annoying posts about how NEW people doesn’t want you.
IDK…at least it’ll be something new. For us.
That old shit is boring…
I stopped reading after “6 months” which is false
Thanks for bumping my post 🙂
Don’t lie! You read it all! And your first cry about Pisces is dated 5 months ago. So I said 6 just in case you haven’t posted right after and waited for a bit. So you know if it was 6 or 8…I don’t. And yeah! Be anal! Dwell on days now…see you ARE dwelling on petty shit!
Were you behind me or something? 🤔 A monkey is able to distinguish the timeline that this transpired occurred JUST recently if you know how to read. Your negativity doesn’t stop me from posting about it soooo 😂
I am not trying to stop you from posting. It seems the only thing you CAN do. And dxp seems the only place you have to bring your inane bullshit to. How can I deprive you from it?
How is Pisces? Anything new?click to expand
if you have any intelligence of the internet…it’s called a public forum. Deal with it or don’t read it 🤷🏻♀️
I like hide somewhere and completely immerse myself in the feeling. Like play or watch the saddest things possible, and just put it on repeat for hours on end. It's kind of hard for me to break to the point I can't hold back sadness. At the point I can't anymore, I like to hide myself far from anyone or anything and just live it for a bit. Like I get embarrassed if my dog even sees me crack in any way, so complete isolation is mandatory. I actually find it really relieving and cathartic, because sadness isn't something I normally find easy to let out.
There are many forms of grief other than death ~ when a relationship breaks up, when a child leaves home, loss of a home or job, friendships ending and each one can bring immense feelings of sadness
I’ve experienced all the above and allowed myself to feel the loss and pain, by crying, talking things through with therapists, family and friends and generally being gentle with myself
Take it easy and know it will eventually become easier …. Time and patience help
Hugs ❤️
I’ve experienced all the above and allowed myself to feel the loss and pain, by crying, talking things through with therapists, family and friends and generally being gentle with myself
Take it easy and know it will eventually become easier …. Time and patience help
Hugs ❤️
Posted by Jumpin_JupiterPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by Jumpin_JupiterPosted by WarEternal
I’ve read books, played video games, worked out, tried to stay off social media and it just doesn’t work for me
Dealing with heartache(in the acceptance stage)from the guy that ghosted me who refuses to communicate and my friend who’s closing off from me who also left me on read and doesn’t seem to budge either
Just dealing with both is quite overwhelming and as much I want to reach my friend, I don’t know the right words and feel I’ll just push her further. How do you guys deal with grief?
None of that doesn't sound griefworthy to me. Move on is how I deal with it.
How do you define someone else’s grief? 😾
I don't know about anybody else star. All I know is I only feel grief stricken if someone close to me died.click to expand
100% agree!
All other shit is just minor inconvenience but Star and OP (among with others) are too dramatic and living for drama. Can’t fight THAT!!
Posted by MyStarsShine
There are many forms of grief other than death ~ when a relationship breaks up, when a child leaves home, loss of a home or job, friendships ending and each one can bring immense feelings of sadness
I’ve experienced all the above and allowed myself to feel the loss and pain, by crying, talking things through with therapists, family and friends and generally being gentle with myself
Take it easy and know it will eventually become easier …. Time and patience help
Hugs ❤️
How is child leaving home - a drama?
For parents who has no life - I suppose…
All other examples - sadness is NOT a grief!
Have a drink follow up with sex and get over it!
@WarEternal
Hopefully this article will help you? It explains the different types of grief people can experience…
https://www.joincake.com/blog/causes-of-grief/
Hopefully this article will help you? It explains the different types of grief people can experience…
https://www.joincake.com/blog/causes-of-grief/
Being an introverted extrovert this time a year is great.
I can drive around with Starbucks and look at the Christmas lights.
I’m alone but in public at the same time. 😉
I can drive around with Starbucks and look at the Christmas lights.
I’m alone but in public at the same time. 😉
Posted by WarEternal
I’ve read books, played video games, worked out, tried to stay off social media and it just doesn’t work for me
Dealing with heartache(in the acceptance stage)from the guy that ghosted me who refuses to communicate and my friend who’s closing off from me who also left me on read and doesn’t seem to budge either
Just dealing with both is quite overwhelming and as much I want to reach my friend, I don’t know the right words and feel I’ll just push her further. How do you guys deal with grief?
...all the above is part of a process ...so it´s not futile ....i reckon if you don´t receive the answers or closure you seek or crave; it´s time to give yourself those answers ...it might lift you to the next level.
edit; also ...there once was a time in your life, where you didn´t know these people ....
Posted by WarEternal
I’ve read books, played video games, worked out, tried to stay off social media and it just doesn’t work for me
Dealing with heartache(in the acceptance stage)from the guy that ghosted me who refuses to communicate and my friend who’s closing off from me who also left me on read and doesn’t seem to budge either
Just dealing with both is quite overwhelming and as much I want to reach my friend, I don’t know the right words and feel I’ll just push her further. How do you guys deal with grief?
I understand more then you ever know. I don't know if it's the right way however, my instincts is transmutation of these thoughts and feelings, though understanding of them.
For instance anger is in fact disappointment of something not happening the way you want or done. Emotions are a compass 🧭
If you miss something, that means it's something you value, that you believe you no longer have or access you right?
Yet the very concept of feeling the low means the existence of the high. How luck are you to find something that causes you to feel that way?
Why do we focus on the lows of things?
Take funerals for instance. There are ones were people mourn the loss of someone. They dwell in the "lows".
There is another kind, "Irish funeral".
It's a party, a celebration of that person's life. They share the highs.
What's the difference, other then how we perceive it? Why do people focus on the "lows" instead of the high, aren't we luck to have found something that stirs us in the first place?
I mean think about it. It's OUR OWN emotions, feelings and thoughts. We have a choice of which and how we think and feel about things?
If we feel sad about something that's means we felt happy about something. If it never happened we would feel nothing, but we get to. That is a blessing is it not, to experience these things.
Now Which would you rather feed and focus on?
idk sometimes i still cry randomly every now and then whenever the thought of a loved one comes to mind. i lost too much this year. but i suppose that goes with it being my saturn return.
Posted by WarEternal
I’ve read books, played video games, worked out, tried to stay off social media and it just doesn’t work for me
Dealing with heartache(in the acceptance stage)from the guy that ghosted me who refuses to communicate and my friend who’s closing off from me who also left me on read and doesn’t seem to budge either
Just dealing with both is quite overwhelming and as much I want to reach my friend, I don’t know the right words and feel I’ll just push her further. How do you guys deal with grief?
Find solace in that your friends ain't dead but just left you on mute.
You can always come back from mute, but you can't wake the dead.
You rather they be dead?
There, U welcome.
Posted by MyStarsShine
There are many forms of grief other than death ~ when a relationship breaks up, when a child leaves home, loss of a home or job, friendships ending and each one can bring immense feelings of sadness
I think the real question to this thread is if the grief is REASONABLE in proportion the the background story. Of course, all people have different triggers and react differently but there is such a thing as reasonable and normal vs. morbid and sickly.
Surely there's more to this than just a flame ghosting her and her friend muting her? And why did the friend mute her, i mean it doesn't just happen overnight between two friends? What happened? She must have an idea. Were they even real friends? etc.
Posted by FindingbalancePosted by Enfant-Terrible-IIPosted by MyStarsShine
There are many forms of grief other than death ~ when a relationship breaks up, when a child leaves home, loss of a home or job, friendships ending and each one can bring immense feelings of sadness
I think the real question to this thread is if the grief is REASONABLE in proportion the the background story. Of course, all people have different triggers and react differently but there is such a thing as reasonable and normal vs. morbid and sickly.
Surely there's more to this than just a flame ghosting her and her friend muting her? And why did the friend mute her, i mean it doesn't just happen overnight between two friends? What happened? She must have an idea. Were they even real friends? etc.
Mmmff. Is it reasonable in YOUR perspective for hers? Only she can define what's reasonable to her. Different people feel differently about the same thing. And why does the backstory matter, if she feels sadness, she feels it.click to expand
That's not how that works.
If I'm a unhinged borderline personality with severe abandonmant issues that makes it unable for me to form healthy relationships, my feelings are not at all unreasonable?
Or if you are overly sensitive to the point that it's crippling you and keeping you back in life.....?
It is definitely NOT a matter of perspective. When put in a context, there is definitely an unreasonable way to see things, and a reasonable and healthy one.
Posted by Enfant-Terrible-IIPosted by MyStarsShine
There are many forms of grief other than death ~ when a relationship breaks up, when a child leaves home, loss of a home or job, friendships ending and each one can bring immense feelings of sadness
I think the real question to this thread is if the grief is REASONABLE in proportion the the background story. Of course, all people have different triggers and react differently but there is such a thing as reasonable and normal vs. morbid and sickly.
Surely there's more to this than just a flame ghosting her and her friend muting her? And why did the friend mute her, i mean it doesn't just happen overnight between two friends? What happened? She must have an idea. Were they even real friends? etc.click to expand
True
All nine members of my family passed over … mum, dad, sister, grandparents, aunt and uncle. When I have endings in my life now, they can act as a trigger to memories of all the loss I’ve experienced. As soon as I became aware of this, I was able to work on it and notice why I felt the way I did when something came to an end. I think it’s about self awareness and dealing with the feelings that come up…
By doing many things you enjoy, with or without the people who like you just the way you are.
Also, in your case, by not getting emotionally involved with people xxx miles away from you, even before you met them irl. Such "relationships" rarely turn out to be more than a seasonal (mind) fuck. Especially if your love interest is someone "in high demand" aka has plenty of other attractive options wherever they are!
Get out and mingle when you stop feeling pity about yourself. Plenty of new people to establish "connections" with, just waiting to be discovered.
Also, in your case, by not getting emotionally involved with people xxx miles away from you, even before you met them irl. Such "relationships" rarely turn out to be more than a seasonal (mind) fuck. Especially if your love interest is someone "in high demand" aka has plenty of other attractive options wherever they are!
Get out and mingle when you stop feeling pity about yourself. Plenty of new people to establish "connections" with, just waiting to be discovered.
Posted by FindingbalancePosted by Enfant-Terrible-IIPosted by FindingbalancePosted by Enfant-Terrible-IIPosted by MyStarsShine
There are many forms of grief other than death ~ when a relationship breaks up, when a child leaves home, loss of a home or job, friendships ending and each one can bring immense feelings of sadness
I think the real question to this thread is if the grief is REASONABLE in proportion the the background story. Of course, all people have different triggers and react differently but there is such a thing as reasonable and normal vs. morbid and sickly.
Surely there's more to this than just a flame ghosting her and her friend muting her? And why did the friend mute her, i mean it doesn't just happen overnight between two friends? What happened? She must have an idea. Were they even real friends? etc.
Mmmff. Is it reasonable in YOUR perspective for hers? Only she can define what's reasonable to her. Different people feel differently about the same thing. And why does the backstory matter, if she feels sadness, she feels it.
That's not how that works.
If I'm a unhinged borderline personality with severe abandonmant issues that makes it unable for me to form healthy relationships, my feelings are not at all unreasonable?
Or if you are overly sensitive to the point that it's crippling you and keeping you back in life.....?
It is definitely NOT a matter of perspective. When put in a context, there is definitely an unreasonable way to see things, and a reasonable and healthy one.
It's an internet forum based in anonymous posting. Even a licensed professional can't make a diagnosis here so anyone's potential mental health diagnosis are immaterial unless they chose to share. Even then no one here should be trying to delve to deeply into specifics like that. So it IS a matter of perspective, besides the op didn't ask for psychoanalysis she asked how others deal with sadness. So you can certainly share how YOU handle it and why, and even what constitutes something you personally feel worthy of grief for yourself, otherwise you're not really answering the question and are just adding what could be perceived as less than helpful attacks. Which isn't going to help someone with bpd for instance.click to expand
I did not make a diagnosis.
I presented two hypothetical scenarios to illustrate a point: There is such a thing as UNREASONABLE grief, anger, sadness, anxiety, shyness, etc.
If the feelings are on the abnormal+unhealthy side of the spectrum as far as the general human experience goes, it becomes by definition UNREASONABLE in nature.
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by Enfant-Terrible-IIPosted by MyStarsShine
There are many forms of grief other than death ~ when a relationship breaks up, when a child leaves home, loss of a home or job, friendships ending and each one can bring immense feelings of sadness
I think the real question to this thread is if the grief is REASONABLE in proportion the the background story. Of course, all people have different triggers and react differently but there is such a thing as reasonable and normal vs. morbid and sickly.
Surely there's more to this than just a flame ghosting her and her friend muting her? And why did the friend mute her, i mean it doesn't just happen overnight between two friends? What happened? She must have an idea. Were they even real friends? etc.
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All nine members of my family passed over … mum, dad, sister, grandparents, aunt and uncle. When I have endings in my life now, they can act as a trigger to memories of all the loss I’ve experienced. As soon as I became aware of this, I was able to work on it and notice why I felt the way I did when something came to an end. I think it’s about self awareness and dealing with the feelings that come up…click to expand
I for one could never grasp how some people can be neck-deep into mourning parents and grandparents (who died of natural causes) for longer stretches of time, years.. I mean they are suppose to go before you go! Didn't you have enough time to process that fact of life?! It's not a tragedy or a personal trauma, it's life.
I can understand physically missing a parent or grandparent if you hung out a lot, but nothing lasts forever, stop grieving and start remembering.
Same thing for pets. They live between 3 and the lower spectrum of 20 years depending of which pet. You buy them knowing they will pass within this time period. Why are you traumatized when that happens?
*** Not "you" you, the rhetorical you. Clarification needed cuz ppl in here always take everything by the letter.
I zone out. I cut ppl off and dive into my pain. I let it out. Feel every emotion. Let that shit heal itself. Can't control em at that point anyway. After the emotional waves have settled, I analyze and accept reality for what it is. Working out didn't help me like chasing actual happiness did.
Just dive into your heart. Don't ignore your pain shit become it and let it mold you. Let that tell you what to do. My biggest goal was changing as a person. So I slowly shed what I hated away and accepted that some things I hated for no reason. I also learned that personal freedom is extremely important to me as well as independence. Independence as a person. And my boundaries became more firm. Extremely firm. So let your heart guide you. You'll know how to heal but first walk thru this pain. There is no right answer from others for perspective on your own heart. You got this tho💪
Just dive into your heart. Don't ignore your pain shit become it and let it mold you. Let that tell you what to do. My biggest goal was changing as a person. So I slowly shed what I hated away and accepted that some things I hated for no reason. I also learned that personal freedom is extremely important to me as well as independence. Independence as a person. And my boundaries became more firm. Extremely firm. So let your heart guide you. You'll know how to heal but first walk thru this pain. There is no right answer from others for perspective on your own heart. You got this tho💪
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