KNOWN CRUMBS: YUM OR EWW?

Would you ever date a friend's ex? Have they dated yours and how did that impact the friendship?

I once "dated" a guy who used to date my cousin, but i didnt know that when we 1st got together (i visited that area only during school holidays) and I didnt stop either when i found out the truth. It didnt last long thou, but the rift between me and my cousin still remains. We talk still but its... i d/k

All is fair in love and war. I am not possessive and couldnt care less if a friend dated an ex. That being said if the friend sabotaged the relationship he would be an ex friend. Same can be said for me. If enough time has passed and the circumstances are correct ex's are fair game.

Hell no! I had a ex bestfriend who dated my crush.I add this I no me and this dude was just crushing on each other. Ok so I told her about the dude that I had a crush on, I also told her about having a crush on him since I was in my early teens. Now being at that time in early 20s this shit have been going on for yrs were me and the dude would see eachother and flirt. I stayed away from him cause he was a friend of my brothers and that shit wouldnt sit right with him. Ok so I show the ex bestfriend him one day when I seen him walking pass my mother house he didn't see us. I was aww giggly because i havent seen him in a few years so I told this bi*ch all about him. Fast forward about amonth later she brought up this new guy she was dating, and how he dont live far from my mom house , she talk about sex with him and more. Months went by we are in my house and she was teling me that this new dude she was dating suppose to drop her some money off , im like ok. We out on the front , he pull up , now at this time im fucking with my phone not watching him get out the car.he get to the steps and he hand her some money , as my eyes move away from the phone I can see her grab the money and he look up at me and said my name with this big smile. I smile back , as soon when I seen his face I new wat the fu*k was going on. He was soo happy he hugging me and asking me about my family.he had no idea that me and this chick was friends. After he left she says (dam this world is small) smh. I said to myself bit*h please. I waited about a week later when she ask me about how long I new him. I told her about that day when I pointed him out, she swear me down that she didn't remember that day. Come find out the guy live about 3 blocks from her homegirl and thats how they met up. Bullshit.. the guy family live in my mom neighborhood which her homegirl dont live far from my mom house . I didn't make it a big deal cause we never dated and it was a teenage crush thing , now this is were the problem came act they dated on he would come around our circle crack jokes and always flirting with me and doing out of line shit. She kept telling me that he would ask about me and bring up how he had a big crush on me. There was a time when he brought up my name doing sex with her. He some how got my number and would call my phone.I was over that crush shit the day I found out they was togather, but he wasnt they broke up because of that

I set a friend up with a guy I dated. He wasn't really an ex, he and I had been on several dates, but I just didn't like him that way. He and I had more of a friendship, but technically yes, I dated him, and yes, I kissed him also.

It was the first match I ever attempted to make.

I got to know the girl at work, and she was single, he was single, just looking at her, she just "looked" like his girlfriend. I don't know how to explain it any better than that, just I thought she was cute enough that he would like her but not so gorgeous he couldn't get her.

She's 8 years younger than he is but he doesn't have kids, which is what she wanted to find- a guy with no kids. She's a Cappy moon and she is very mature for her age and either the ones she dated were immature or they had kids.

She's a math teacher, she is really smart, so I knew he would like that as he is very intellectual and smart himself.

Anyway, she is a Libra, Capricorn moon, Mercury and Venus in Scorpio, and Mars in Capricorn. Sag Ascendant.
He is a Virgo, Libra moon, Mercury in Leo, and Mars/Venus in Libra. Scorpio Ascendant.

A year later and they are still together and in love, though not as "committed" yet as she would like, I think.

Posted by ninjafish
Yes, I've eaten a friend's crumbs. She actually shared the crumb with me at one point, and it was yum enough at the time. Doubt I'd be into that now though. Her and I no longer communicate, but said crumb had nothing to do with.

was your situations was just a sex thing or was it a relationship thing

Posted by EvilTurtle
All is fair in love and war. I am not possessive and couldnt care less if a friend dated an ex. That being said if the friend sabotaged the relationship he would be an ex friend. Same can be said for me. If enough time has passed and the circumstances are correct ex's are fair game.

I'm inclined to agree with this! All's fair 🙂 As long as it's mutual and there's no form of manipulation I guess.

Funny enough my first was actually going out with my friend at the time when we got together. Didn't really strike me til she came out and said it. I was super happy and super upset at the time, spoke to my friend and he was okay with it. We're still pretty good mates now.

Depends how you view it I guess, I've never had beef with my ex's when it's over it really is over for me. One of my friends are actually getting married to my ex later this year and I'm happy for them! Whatever differences was between me and her you know. If anything I think they feel more awkward about it than I do!

^ *waves wildly* HEY PRETTY LADY

Posted by Bohemianrhapsody74
aquasnoz...I can't recall the thread but YOU helped me out!!! I needed to see it through an aquas perspective..You are so wise..hope you are doing well?

You are too kind but I must insist I'm not wise at all! Can't even grow a beard to make myself look wiser! 😛 and I'm a bit rough around the edges as usual!

You know you been on DXP too long when you read this and went "what about Yumm and Ewe?"

Lol

And as for the question at hand....never. & I just don't see myself doing that. It would have to be extremely extraordinary circumstance.

I mean seriously guys, there are so many fish in the sea, do you really need to go there? I personally don't feel it's worth it.

My old Virgo friend tried to date my Libra one time after our first break up.
We were not close anymore because we had previously had falling out over her dating an abusive guy and I tried to intervene and she chose him. However, we were very close when I first started dating the Libra, so it really pissed me off when I heard she swooped in like that.

My Libra is the one who told me, she never even had the courtesy. :/

I really don't see what the big deal would be if you were truly over the person.

I've never personally dated the ex of a friend, but if the ex and I got along well, and I felt they were my ideal match, why not? I wouldn't move right in a week later or anything, but down the road, if it were to happen, I don't think it would be a big deal. Maybe I would ask first.

Likewise, if any of my friends wanted to be with my ex, they can have him, I'm done with him. If they were cheating with him and he left me for them, then yeah, I'd be pissed, but as long as I had moved on, I don't see it being a problem.

Really the only thing that would suck about it is that then I would have to hang out with my ex sometimes when I saw my friend. That's something I absolutely would not want to do.

I think sometimes we feel weird about stuff when there is no need to be. Someone in my ex's family suggested once that I should get together with his cousin. I thought that was a little weird, but then, I really had no interest in the cousin anyway. I mean, he's a nice guy and everything, but I never thought of him as dating material. But what if the cousin were smoking hot and we had a lot in common? Maybe I'd go for it if it were ok with my ex, but again, that might mean hanging out with my ex, so it wouldn't be worth it to me.

not knowingly

Posted by capgirl69
I really don't see what the big deal would be if you were truly over the person.

I've never personally dated the ex of a friend, but if the ex and I got along well, and I felt they were my ideal match, why not? I wouldn't move right in a week later or anything, but down the road, if it were to happen, I don't think it would be a big deal. Maybe I would ask first.

Likewise, if any of my friends wanted to be with my ex, they can have him, I'm done with him. If they were cheating with him and he left me for them, then yeah, I'd be pissed, but as long as I had moved on, I don't see it being a problem.

Really the only thing that would suck about it is that then I would have to hang out with my ex sometimes when I saw my friend. That's something I absolutely would not want to do.

I think sometimes we feel weird about stuff when there is no need to be. Someone in my ex's family suggested once that I should get together with his cousin. I thought that was a little weird, but then, I really had no interest in the cousin anyway. I mean, he's a nice guy and everything, but I never thought of him as dating material. But what if the cousin were smoking hot and we had a lot in common? Maybe I'd go for it if it were ok with my ex, but again, that might mean hanging out with my ex, so it wouldn't be worth it to me.

would u let one of your friends date your scorp?

at the end of the day I cant help that I love...that being said If i do u like you u better watch the fuck out cos ill be coming for ya!

Posted by WaterCup
Would you ever date a friend's ex? Have they dated yours and how did that impact the friendship?

I once "dated" a guy who used to date my cousin, but i didnt know that when we 1st got together (i visited that area only during school holidays) and I didnt stop either when i found out the truth. It didnt last long thou, but the rift between me and my cousin still remains. We talk still but its... i d/k

No & no. Ex's are OFF LIMITS!!!!

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Posted by capgirl69
I really don't see what the big deal would be if you were truly over the person.

I've never personally dated the ex of a friend, but if the ex and I got along well, and I felt they were my ideal match, why not? I wouldn't move right in a week later or anything, but down the road, if it were to happen, I don't think it would be a big deal. Maybe I would ask first.

Likewise, if any of my friends wanted to be with my ex, they can have him, I'm done with him. If they were cheating with him and he left me for them, then yeah, I'd be pissed, but as long as I had moved on, I don't see it being a problem.

Really the only thing that would suck about it is that then I would have to hang out with my ex sometimes when I saw my friend. That's something I absolutely would not want to do.

I think sometimes we feel weird about stuff when there is no need to be. Someone in my ex's family suggested once that I should get together with his cousin. I thought that was a little weird, but then, I really had no interest in the cousin anyway. I mean, he's a nice guy and everything, but I never thought of him as dating material. But what if the cousin were smoking hot and we had a lot in common? Maybe I'd go for it if it were ok with my ex, but again, that might mean hanging out with my ex, so it wouldn't be worth it to me.

would u let one of your friends date your scorp?

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I'm never gonna be done with him. Lol.

But hypothetically, I wouldn't want them to move right in on him, but after I was over him I don't think it would be a problem other than I might not want to see him.

I've never had this happen where one if my exes went after one of my friends, btw.
And I've never gone for a friends ex either. But I've never met a friends boyfriend I would be interested in.

Pretty sure when the Scorp is done with me he won't be going for any of my friends, probably someone more his own age.

I tried to set up my one Leo ex with my ex- sister-in-law, I thought they would be perfect for each other. He loves blondes and shes a natural barbie blond. she's a flight attendant, and he likes space, they both like to drink, and they have kids the same age.

I told him about her, I asked her, I gave him her number, but he never called her. He was too shy.

Just because we didn't work out, didn't bother me, he's a nice guy and he might have made her happy.

oh ya i'd dive right in there