Let him go or Let him be?

What do you do when you have a depressed friend who barely

or stops talking to you all together when you feel it's getting worse within him?

Do you keep trying to help or just (let them be)? Sometimes I am frustrated and want to give up...

Sometimes I see through his eyes and understand so I let him be...

Or keep trying to help?

Just keep letting him know you are there for him and check in with him from time to time, there's not much else you can do,

💙

Posted by MyStarsShine

Just keep letting him know you are there for him and check in with him from time to time, there's not much else you can do,

💙

thank you

I will do my best with this.

Posted by Aju

Posted by MyStarsShine

Just keep letting him know you are there for him and check in with him from time to time, there's not much else you can do,

💙

thank you

I will do my best with this.

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I'm sure you will

Sometimes people just need a quick text or email to say "I'm thinking of you and am here if you want to talk"

💜

Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns

Yeah, don’t force anything. Periodically say you’re available to talk. I think depressed people push others away.

thank you

this is true. that's the hardest part. when they push others away..that might even have

what they need or want to help them(?)

Posted by ClairDeLune

If he is there for you in times hes ok, I would keep him and just let him be when it starts. I have a few friends with depression and usually either chat with them, hold them when they need it, or make them something to let them know I still think of them

thank you

yeah he is here at times but I tend to worry a bit when he's gone longer

because I know that he struggles with it. you gave me a wonderful idea.

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Aju

Posted by MyStarsShine

Just keep letting him know you are there for him and check in with him from time to time, there's not much else you can do,

💙

thank you

I will do my best with this.

I'm sure you will

Sometimes people just need a quick text or email to say "I'm thinking of you and am here if you want to talk"

💜

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I agree. I've been doing it more than usual lately because I was a bit anxious.

i'll let him be for a bit

Posted by Aju

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Aju

Posted by MyStarsShine

Just keep letting him know you are there for him and check in with him from time to time, there's not much else you can do,

💙

thank you

I will do my best with this.

I'm sure you will

Sometimes people just need a quick text or email to say "I'm thinking of you and am here if you want to talk"

💜

I agree. I've been doing it more than usual lately because I was a bit anxious.

i'll let him be for a bit

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I've a friend who has just been diagnosed with cancer and I'm doing the same thing. Whatever your belief system is, you can send up a prayer, send him some healing light etc. I find lighting a candle and then saying a prayer often helps. We can often help from a distance too, I've seen the positive results that absent healing can have which shows we are all at some level connected...

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Posted by RooSagicorn

They must help themselves. But you can be there for support, checking on them, letting them know you are there.

thank you

I will. I think I over did it a bit. I'll give him a bit more room to just be

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Aju

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Aju

Posted by MyStarsShine

Just keep letting him know you are there for him and check in with him from time to time, there's not much else you can do,

💙

thank you

I will do my best with this.

I'm sure you will

Sometimes people just need a quick text or email to say "I'm thinking of you and am here if you want to talk"

💜

I agree. I've been doing it more than usual lately because I was a bit anxious.

i'll let him be for a bit

I've a friend who has just been diagnosed with cancer and I'm doing the same thing. Whatever your belief system is, you can send up a prayer, send him some healing light etc. I find lighting a candle and then saying a prayer often helps. We can often help from a distance too, I've seen the positive results that absent healing can have which shows we are all at some level connected...

🌟

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thank you for this.

In times like this I guess I just forget the power of prayer and distant healing..

because of the stress and just thinking negative which isn't healthy...

I love that.. I will send a sacred prayer to him and you and your friend.

I can't even imagine how the news must have felt for you both

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Aju

Posted by MyStarsShine

Just keep letting him know you are there for him and check in with him from time to time, there's not much else you can do,

💙

thank you

I will do my best with this.

I'm sure you will

Sometimes people just need a quick text or email to say "I'm thinking of you and am here if you want to talk"

💜

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What if they want to talk all the time non stop?

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Aju

Posted by MyStarsShine

Just keep letting him know you are there for him and check in with him from time to time, there's not much else you can do,

💙

thank you

I will do my best with this.

I'm sure you will

Sometimes people just need a quick text or email to say "I'm thinking of you and am here if you want to talk"

💜

What if they want to talk all the time non stop?

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About their issues and keep going back to the same issue all the time?

Refer them to a therapist ...the chances of whatever you say making any difference are low, so you'll end up drained..and then no use to anyone, including yourself