Mothers Day

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Is it bullshit? Does it give too, little too late?

Does my card say, thank you so much for taking on all of society’s pressure to be responsible for meeting all the needs of the living beings in your household?

And in that card is there a solo reservation to a 4+ star hotel in San Francisco, tickets an art museum and a concert, gift certificates to restaurants listed on a cities best guides with reservations? And a personalized itinerary with all my favorite interest considered?

Because if its anything less than that, I'm just not in the mood to want it.
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My kids make it a what I want day & have also made it a special day. They are still doing that in their 20’s. So for me it warms my heart ❤️

When they had no money my youngest used a ton of yellow paper and posted it all over the apartment saying I love you mommy on every one .. lol she was 10 and I had left her dad a few months before so she wanted to make sure she did something to make me feel special.



Not bullshit in my view.
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I’ve never received a card for Mothers Day… other than a friend who knew no one would do anything.

So not BS, it’s for the kiddos to give back and doesn’t have to be fancy.



No card? That’s mean 🥹



No my ex didn’t do it, kids don’t do it unless they make something specifically at school.

It’s always been kinda sucky tbh.
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And you’ve a few kids?

Are they all really young?
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I’ve never received a card for Mothers Day… other than a friend who knew no one would do anything.

So not BS, it’s for the kiddos to give back and doesn’t have to be fancy.







No card? That’s mean 🥹





No my ex didn’t do it, kids don’t do it unless they make something specifically at school.





It’s always been kinda sucky tbh.






And you’ve a few kids?

Are they all really young?



Many kids and ages vary from 7-16 now. It is what it is…
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Very selfish of them

When our lad was at school they’d make cards. Don’t they do that there?
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I’ve never received a card for Mothers Day… other than a friend who knew no one would do anything.

So not BS, it’s for the kiddos to give back and doesn’t have to be fancy.











No card? That’s mean 🥹









No my ex didn’t do it, kids don’t do it unless they make something specifically at school.









It’s always been kinda sucky tbh.












And you’ve a few kids?



Are they all really young?





Many kids and ages vary from 7-16 now. It is what it is…






Very selfish of them

When our lad was at school they’d make cards. Don’t they do that there?



Not really… maybe younger grades do something.

Just not something I’ve had received much of. It’s just not our norm.
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Idk. On a corporate level probably. Though the flower baskets every year make my mom extremely happy, so that's all that really matters to me. I don't think mothers day should be people slitting their wrists to make up for all the things women go though. It's to celebrate your mother. I mean if you have a terrible relationship with yours I apologize, and don't mean to offend anyone.
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Idk. On a corporate level probably. Though the flower baskets every year make my mom extremely happy, so that's all that really matters to me. I don't think mothers day should be people slitting their wrists to make up for all the things women go though. It's to celebrate your mother. I mean if you have a terrible relationship with yours I apologize, and don't mean to offend anyone.


You sound like a caring son ❤️
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i agree that if you’re gonna give someone a gift, it may as well be something practical/usable.

but i think some moms prefer sentimental gifts like handwritten, handmade stuff. depends on the woman.

i’m from a single father home. parents are divorced.

my biological mom was hardly in the picture due to being in and out of rehab (alcoholism) so i was raised by my dad and my nanny (a very sweet, kind japanese woman who was like a real mom to me). i remember baking chocolate cupcakes for her and decorating them with pink icing and heart shaped sprinkles and whatnot on a few occasions as a little kid 😂 in my teen years, i gave her gift cards to places i knew she shopped at. her earphones broke one time and i gave her a new one in a color she liked. practical stuff.



for father’s day, i did similar stuff minus the sappy cupcakes lol. i got him coffee mugs, neckties, socks, pajamas etc as a kid/teen. practical stuff he could use everyday. when i became an adult and could afford more expensive things, i got him luggage/suitcase cuz he travels a lot for business, a steel fire pit for his yard, his favorite scotch etc.

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Arise, all women who have hearts, whether your baptism be that of water or of tears! Say firmly: “We will not have great questions decided by irrelevant agencies, our husbands shall not come to us, reeking with carnage, for caresses and applause.

“Our sons shall not be taken from us to unlearn all that we have been able to teach them of charity, mercy and patience. We women of one country will be too tender of those of another country to allow our sons to be trained to injure theirs.”

From the bosom of the devastated earth a voice goes up with our own. It says, “Disarm, disarm! The sword is not the balance of justice.” Blood does not wipe out dishonor nor violence indicate possession.

As men have often forsaken the plow and the anvil at the summons of war, let women now leave all that may be left of home for a great and earnest day of counsel. Let them meet first, as women, to bewail and commemorate the dead. Let them then solemnly take counsel with each other as to the means whereby the great human family can live in peace, each learning after his own time, the sacred impress, not of Caesar, but of God.

In the name of womanhood and of humanity, I earnestly ask that a general congress of women without limit of nationality may be appointed and held at some place deemed most convenient and at the earliest period consistent with its objects, to promote the alliance of the different nationalities, the amicable settlement of international questions, the great and general interests of peace.
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Is it bullshit? Does it give too, little too late?
Does my card say, thank you so much for taking on all of society’s pressure to be responsible for meeting all the needs of the living beings in your household?
And in that card is there a solo reservation to a 4+ star hotel in San Francisco, tickets an art museum and a concert, gift certificates to restaurants listed on a cities best guides with reservations? And a personalized itinerary with all my favorite interest considered?
Because if its anything less than that, I'm just not in the mood to want it.

I can’t afford all that. 😭 So I get her flowers. 😊
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That’s very thoughtful 🤗

A card is enough for me ~ it often says more than any gift 🩷
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My kids make it a what I want day & have also made it a special day. They are still doing that in their 20’s. So for me it warms my heart ❤️

When they had no money my youngest used a ton of yellow paper and posted it all over the apartment saying I love you mommy on every one .. lol she was 10 and I had left her dad a few months before so she wanted to make sure she did something to make me feel special.


Not bullshit in my view.


Very sweet 🥰❤️
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Better send your kids to private school if you want all that.


I don't think that trip is that expensive actually, I'd pay for it myself, if I didn't have to priorities planning and prepping for our beach trip next weekend.

Not only did I have to stalk the state park sites for weeks to get us a camp ground. I have to do all the extra house work and task, this weekend because we aren't here next weekend. I have to plan all the meals and buy all the food, then prep all the food before hand.

because our camper van is in the shop and if we get it back it will be at the last min. so i have to prep and pack all of our camping gear for two different types of trips. this is annoying we really should had it back already, but I let someone else run point on that. this pisses me off because I think we are going to lose a day because of this.

Research and planning all of the activities and excursions, taking into account everyone's preferences.

and after all of that, I will likely be the one to load the vehicle, definitely the van, but even if its the truck I'll end up taking that over before he has a mental breakdown figuring out how to make everything fit.

But my family just has to show the fuck up!

which is the whole point of the thread, all of our time, energy and attention goes into our families. and so little is poured back into us, I'm literally just asking for that same time, energy and attention back, and its controversial.

This is why I'm so often criticizing our culture and capitalism. I'm pretty sure I tried to start a cult on here at least once, before I ever acquired my family. But what definitely don't need some former fuckboy who ate too many red pills to tell me how i should feel about anything.
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Better send your kids to private school if you want all that.



I don't think that trip is that expensive actually, I'd pay for it myself, if I didn't have to priorities planning and prepping for our beach trip next weekend.

Not only did I have to stalk the state park sites for weeks to get us a camp ground. I have to do all the extra house work and task, this weekend because we aren't here next weekend. I have to plan all the meals and buy all the food, then prep all the food before hand.

because our camper van is in the shop and if we get it back it will be at the last min. so i have to prep and pack all of our camping gear for two different types of trips. this is annoying we really should had it back already, but I let someone else run point on that. this pisses me off because I think we are going to lose a day because of this.

Research and planning all of the activities and excursions, taking into account everyone's preferences.

and after all of that, I will likely be the one to load the vehicle, definitely the van, but even if its the truck I'll end up taking that over before he has a mental breakdown figuring out how to make everything fit.

But my family just has to show the fuck up!

which is the whole point of the thread, all of our time, energy and attention goes into our families. and so little is poured back into us, I'm literally just asking for that same time, energy and attention back, and its controversial.

This is why I'm so often criticizing our culture and capitalism. I'm pretty sure I tried to start a cult on here at least once, before I ever acquired my family. But what definitely don't need some former fuckboy who ate too many red pills to tell me how i should feel about anything.
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You definitely deserve a pair of socks on father's day too with all that work