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I know not many DXPers are parents but I need support from strangers



I am putting my babies in preschool for the first time in their lives next week and I am so stressed 😩

Any tips ?

I know they’re going to get sick a few times at first, but not sure if there’s really anything I can do about it ?

My oldest is turning 4 in November and the youngest is 2 -1/2 (3 in March)

They’ve had a nanny who stays with them Mon-Thurs and I’ve been off with them on Fridays/ weekends.

They are in for the rudest awakening.

I just learned they can’t bring any loveys or blankets with them. My Scorp has her “Fu-Fu” she takes EVERYWHERE. She not going to make it

1. Start to form comfort attachments with things they CAN bring to school.

2. Pack their comfort snacks

3, read the reviews of the school

4. Invest in a school with a camera in the classroom

5. Watch it as much as you like

6. Being tissues and expect the unexpected. They may leave you without a care in the world while you may expect them to cling

I don’t have kids but I have a niece

Posted by DMV

1. Start to form comfort attachments with things they CAN bring to school.

2. Pack their comfort snacks

3, read the reviews of the school

4. Invest in a school with a camera in the classroom

5. Watch it as much as you like

6. Being tissues and expect the unexpected. They may leave you without a care in the world while you may expect them to cling

Thank you! Yes the school we chose is 2 minutes from my work and they do have cams you can log in and check on them anytime. Idk if that will make it easier or harder for me though tbh

I am excited for them because I think they will thrive and I know they want to be with other kids…I’m just nervous because I don’t want them to struggle. I know they have to, that’s life, but it’s hard to take

I know they’re really going to miss their “booboo” (their nanny) she cries everyday having to leave them

Posted by AverageWhiteGuy

Just leave them in a McDonalds Playland with a pit bull.

Just kidding. Don't do that. Those ball pits are nasty.

😆 you’re bad

This place has soooo many rules - even I’m getting annoyed and they aren’t there yet.

No toys, no blankets, no sippy cups or straws, no backpacks, only reusable water bottles and a lunchbox…

Must wear closed toe shoes (in Florida, really, come on)

Posted by ATGR

Posted by brianafay

I know not many DXPers are parents but

Some of us (me) shouldn’t breed 😂

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😆 and it’s really ok. The Earth cannot handle all this reproducing

Posted by brianafay

I know not many DXPers are parents but I need support from strangers



I am putting my babies in preschool for the first time in their lives next week and I am so stressed 😩

Any tips ?

I know they’re going to get sick a few times at first, but not sure if there’s really anything I can do about it ?

Talk to them about all the things they get to do at preschool. Get them excited.

Dropping them off do a tour and tell them you have to go in a bit but will be back to pick them up etc.

When they come home ask them about their day. What they did. About there teacher. Other kids. Engage them. Be thier emotional support. This will help you as well.

Believe it or not at that age your emotional state will have as much of a impact as their own. They are still young enough to easily attune to yours and pick up cues on how to act and be.

Posted by Lostthoughts

Posted by brianafay

I know not many DXPers are parents but I need support from strangers



I am putting my babies in preschool for the first time in their lives next week and I am so stressed 😩

Any tips ?

I know they’re going to get sick a few times at first, but not sure if there’s really anything I can do about it ?

Talk to them about all the things they get to do at preschool. Get them excited.

Dropping them off do a tour and tell them you have to go in a bit but will be back to pick them up etc.

When they come home ask them about their day. What they did. About there teacher. Other kids. Engage them. Be thier emotional support. This will help you as well.

Believe it or not at that age your emotional state will have as much of a impact as their own. They are still young enough to easily attune to yours and pick up cues on how to act and be.

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😬 no pressure 😅

They will probably love it, you know new things to do, friends, etc. Act like it’s going to be fun and exciting before you go. Reassure them you will be pick them up at the end of the day or if it’s 1/2 day etc. Usually a teacher will come introduce themselves and introduce to the other kids. I swear I was prepared for my son to be all clingy and nope it was bye mom! Lol He was 2 1/2. My daughter I had in the same preschool but in babies section, so didn’t have to do that. She just went into preschool section when she was old enough. They were completely great.

Kids will get sick, it’s now or Kindergarten. Some of those rules are safety related and to spread less germs. Probably more so these days than before Covid.

Posted by FUCKTHISACCOUNTTOO

dont be mean to the people who watch the childrens

Thank you

Don't be afraid to withdraw them and look for the next place if its not a good fit.

Trust your instincts. Communicate with your kids so that they can tell you about any potential abuse or red flags.

Definitely make sure the place has camera surveillance. Also read the reviews online of peoples experiences.

My sister has had horrible luck with preschool so far. Most recent experience he was there for 2 days, 12 hrs total. 2 workers with 20+ kids so do the math on the time spent per kid. Anyways the lady hands her a form and tells her she needs to look into special ed because, get this reasoning, he doesn't comply with commands. Little dude is 3! And yes not following what strangers say is a something she's instilled in him. Strength of will is always a plus.

We looked into it and SHOCKER (not really) they get a finders fee for each child they place in this program.

Posted by FUCKTHISACCOUNTTOO

but its ok my nephew a lame he is a leo moon like u

This explains the soft spot you have for us both

Posted by brianafay

Posted by DMV

1. Start to form comfort attachments with things they CAN bring to school.

2. Pack their comfort snacks

3, read the reviews of the school

4. Invest in a school with a camera in the classroom

5. Watch it as much as you like

6. Being tissues and expect the unexpected. They may leave you without a care in the world while you may expect them to cling

Thank you! Yes the school we chose is 2 minutes from my work and they do have cams you can log in and check on them anytime. Idk if that will make it easier or harder for me though tbh

I am excited for them because I think they will thrive and I know they want to be with other kids…I’m just nervous because I don’t want them to struggle. I know they have to, that’s life, but it’s hard to take

I know they’re really going to miss their “booboo” (their nanny) she cries everyday having to leave them

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Well, you can’t stop the struggle. It’s apart of growing up.

You can wipe the tears away and kiss the boo-boo to heal.

Volunteer so you can be there for a few hours

Posted by Truemara

Volunteer so you can be there for a few hours

Their nanny was actually considering getting a job there because she’s going to miss them so much

It’s so sad !! I hate it

But it is time

My kiddo goes to a private school, the teachers are very communicative with me because the classes are small.

I recommend keeping in communication with the pre school teacher and asking if there’s anything they need (extra tissues, zip lock bags, treasure box items), that usually goes a long way with them.

Good luck 👍

Posted by ImperfectStorm

They actually might surprise you.. they might love it since they’re preschool age. Have they been around other kids otherwise? Like at birthday parties or kids room at church or something similar where they are in groups with kids?

My son was 9 months old when I had to go back to work and put him in daycare. It was tough back then since he was a baby and would cry sometimes at first, but like others mentioned, kids actually typically THRIVE in these environments because of the socializing. Hopefully since they are a little older they will be excited to make new friends.

I remember I was so nervous to transition my son from preschool to kindergarten because it was a new school.. I thought he would be afraid because of the new environment, new teachers, new friends.. he actually loved it. Lol I was the only basket case 🤣

Their nanny takes them all over to playgrounds and play groups at the library but this will be there first actual preschool experience.

I am most definitely freaking out more than they are. My Scorp is really excited …she keeps telling “I be brave mommy” 🥲

I don’t think my 2 year old has literally any idea. But I think she’s going to struggle separating from her boo-boo. She’s very attached. She’s truly a second mom to her

I always choose places with a really good community vibe, and just became best friends with anyone that had anything to do with my kid.

I would linger at drop off and pick ups, and make a real effort to get to know these people. Not only do I get all the info on my kid, but we are kind of invested in each others lives. I want to be invested in somebody that spends that much time with my kids. This isn't strictly transactional.

I will say another benefit, the 30 to 40 yo teachers, are a great resource and have great advice.... how to get into the best schools, where the best places for dance class are.

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Posted by brianafay

I know not many DXPers are parents but I need support from strangers



I am putting my babies in preschool for the first time in their lives next week and I am so stressed 😩

Any tips ?

I know they’re going to get sick a few times at first, but not sure if there’s really anything I can do about it ?

Talk to them about all the things they get to do at preschool. Get them excited.

Dropping them off do a tour and tell them you have to go in a bit but will be back to pick them up etc.

When they come home ask them about their day. What they did. About there teacher. Other kids. Engage them. Be thier emotional support. This will help you as well.

Believe it or not at that age your emotional state will have as much of a impact as their own. They are still young enough to easily attune to yours and pick up cues on how to act and be.

😬 no pressure 😅

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Lol it was nerve wrecking but it's a wonderful milestone to watch happen for your child.

Anxiety and excitement are different sides of the same coin.

You'll be fine bri. It's something you'll ease into within the first couple of weeks.

Don't make friends with school teacher parents of daycare babies. They'll create an anxiety you don't need lol.