Why do people wallow in it and never do anything about it sometimes? I could never stand self-pitying people. If you want to whine and bitch about your problems then at least let someone help you instead of insisting that nothing can be done about it. To me, people that won't get help and use it as an excuse to harm themselves are not worth anytime and are about as useless as spending your money on iPhones (Why buy one when they break so easily and the newest one will probably be out in a few months anyway). I never enjoyed self-pity. If I ever did self pity myself it was for the fact that I did something wrong and I knew I was wrong for it. To which I would apologize for it sooner or later. But people who have problems with the way things are around them should stop taking the problems out on themselves and find the source and get rid of it. I know too many idiotic people like this, and it's bloody annoying. Cutting themselves for attention, living in denial about everything, thinking that their the only ones with a mind, change in clothing, change in music taste, change in behavior, whining about everything, nothing can make them happy. Have you ever had to deal with people like this?
Self-Pity?
Posted by Lucciferi
I'll bitch and moan about it all if I want to.
Of course you will. π
I'm an optimist; I run from the people you described. I allow no one to kill my joy. No one to blame but me if I do... LOL!
Posted by GemStar05
I'm an optimist; I run from the people you described. I allow no one to kill my joy. No one to blame but me if I do... LOL!
Same here. Anyone kills my joy, I shall give them a recommendation of taking their pity elsewhere.
Yes... and it's quite irritating lol!
I avoid these types too if I can. Sometimes you can't... family is what I am referring to mostly. You can chose to not spend time with them, except at family functions.
I will mention though, self cutters have a mental illness, which is not the same as self pity. Yes they do it for attention but most can not help themselves. I had a friend like that. She had more issues than just cutting, I stood by her side for years trying to help and be there... but it gets draining and finally I realized I was enabling her, so had to walk away. Thankfully she got help and is very happy in her life now.
But for the every day self pity people --------------------> here is the pot, shit or get off!
I will mention though, self cutters have a mental illness, which is not the same as self pity. Yes they do it for attention but most can not help themselves. I had a friend like that. She had more issues than just cutting, I stood by her side for years trying to help and be there... but it gets draining and finally I realized I was enabling her, so had to walk away. Thankfully she got help and is very happy in her life now.
But for the every day self pity people --------------------> here is the pot, shit or get off!
Posted by justagirl
I avoid these types too if I can. Sometimes you can't... family is what I am referring to mostly. You can chose to not spend time with them, except at family functions.
I will mention though, self cutters have a mental illness, which is not the same as self pity. Yes they do it for attention but most can not help themselves. I had a friend like that. She had more issues than just cutting, I stood by her side for years trying to help and be there... but it gets draining and finally I realized I was enabling her, so had to walk away. Thankfully she got help and is very happy in her life now.
But for the every day self pity people --------------------> here is the pot, shit or get off!
You know what, I shall use that quote. π
I feel sorry for myself all the time but I don't talk about it??_..today is my birthday and yesterday I planned for my family and I to meet up and have dinner in the city and watch the chinese new year parade??_.My dad and his wife backed out and decided to stay home??_.My brother and my friend said they were going to meet me in the park across the road from the train station at 5 I got there and neither of them turned up because my brother was asleep and my friend didn't have any money and didn't bother to tell me??_.I waited in the park for 3 hours and not just that park I walked around central train station to every park and patch of grass thinking they got it wrong at that point I'm worn out and decide to watch the parade anyway just eating everything I could find along the way lol
??_.yes I felt sorry for myself because nobody ever gets it right for my birthday My first boyfriend didn't turn up to my birthday because he simply didn't believe it was my birthday. I told him on the day and asked him to come over and he said that he just got back from work and was tired??_.and the next day he claimed he thought I was joking as his excuse and gave me half a bottle of vodka as my birthday present which I put to good use.
second boyfriend was an artist and asked me what I wanted and I asked him to paint me something??_.I ended up with 2 scratchy tickets.
being the astrologer I am I remember everyones fucking birthday and give people really thoughtful presents and no one celebrates mine because I must be such a cunt in real life. I feel bad for expecting something for my birthday but I always feel that its an inconvenience to everyone, and everyone I know makes a big deal of celebrating their birthdays and throwing parties. I made my Facebook birthday private because its just embarrassing lol??_.
I came home early and dad asked why and I smiled and told him and he said "Poor thing" coming from my dad the jehova's witness it was the best present I have ever got from him because he never shows me pity and if anything I was expecting him to say "good"!! lol
??_.yes I felt sorry for myself because nobody ever gets it right for my birthday My first boyfriend didn't turn up to my birthday because he simply didn't believe it was my birthday. I told him on the day and asked him to come over and he said that he just got back from work and was tired??_.and the next day he claimed he thought I was joking as his excuse and gave me half a bottle of vodka as my birthday present which I put to good use.
second boyfriend was an artist and asked me what I wanted and I asked him to paint me something??_.I ended up with 2 scratchy tickets.
being the astrologer I am I remember everyones fucking birthday and give people really thoughtful presents and no one celebrates mine because I must be such a cunt in real life. I feel bad for expecting something for my birthday but I always feel that its an inconvenience to everyone, and everyone I know makes a big deal of celebrating their birthdays and throwing parties. I made my Facebook birthday private because its just embarrassing lol??_.
I came home early and dad asked why and I smiled and told him and he said "Poor thing" coming from my dad the jehova's witness it was the best present I have ever got from him because he never shows me pity and if anything I was expecting him to say "good"!! lol
Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
I feel sorry for myself all the time but I don't talk about it??_..today is my birthday and yesterday I planned for my family and I to meet up and have dinner in the city and watch the chinese new year parade??_.My dad and his wife backed out and decided to stay home??_.My brother and my friend said they were going to meet me in the park across the road from the train station at 5 I got there and neither of them turned up because my brother was asleep and my friend didn't have any money and didn't bother to tell me??_.I waited in the park for 3 hours and not just that park I walked around central train station to every park and patch of grass thinking they got it wrong at that point I'm worn out and decide to watch the parade anyway just eating everything I could find along the way lol
??_.yes I felt sorry for myself because nobody ever gets it right for my birthday My first boyfriend didn't turn up to my birthday because he simply didn't believe it was my birthday. I told him on the day and asked him to come over and he said that he just got back from work and was tired??_.and the next day he claimed he thought I was joking as his excuse and gave me half a bottle of vodka as my birthday present which I put to good use.
second boyfriend was an artist and asked me what I wanted and I asked him to paint me something??_.I ended up with 2 scratchy tickets.
being the astrologer I am I remember everyones fucking birthday and give people really thoughtful presents and no one celebrates mine because I must be such a cunt in real life. I feel bad for expecting something for my birthday but I always feel that its an inconvenience to everyone, and everyone I know makes a big deal of celebrating their birthdays and throwing parties. I made my Facebook birthday private because its just embarrassing lol??_.
I came home early and dad asked why and I smiled and told him and he said "Poor thing" coming from my dad the jehova's witness it was the best present I have ever got from him because he never shows me pity and if anything I was expecting him to say "good"!! lol
Yea that blows :/
Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
I feel sorry for myself all the time but I don't talk about it??_..today is my birthday and yesterday I planned for my family and I to meet up and have dinner in the city and watch the chinese new year parade??_.My dad and his wife backed out and decided to stay home??_.My brother and my friend said they were going to meet me in the park across the road from the train station at 5 I got there and neither of them turned up because my brother was asleep and my friend didn't have any money and didn't bother to tell me??_.I waited in the park for 3 hours and not just that park I walked around central train station to every park and patch of grass thinking they got it wrong at that point I'm worn out and decide to watch the parade anyway just eating everything I could find along the way lol
??_.yes I felt sorry for myself because nobody ever gets it right for my birthday My first boyfriend didn't turn up to my birthday because he simply didn't believe it was my birthday. I told him on the day and asked him to come over and he said that he just got back from work and was tired??_.and the next day he claimed he thought I was joking as his excuse and gave me half a bottle of vodka as my birthday present which I put to good use.
second boyfriend was an artist and asked me what I wanted and I asked him to paint me something??_.I ended up with 2 scratchy tickets.
being the astrologer I am I remember everyones fucking birthday and give people really thoughtful presents and no one celebrates mine because I must be such a cunt in real life. I feel bad for expecting something for my birthday but I always feel that its an inconvenience to everyone, and everyone I know makes a big deal of celebrating their birthdays and throwing parties. I made my Facebook birthday private because its just embarrassing lol??_.
I came home early and dad asked why and I smiled and told him and he said "Poor thing" coming from my dad the jehova's witness it was the best present I have ever got from him because he never shows me pity and if anything I was expecting him to say "good"!! lol
Happy birthday man. Eventually your problems will sort themselves out. π
Thanks guyzz I can always rely on DXP to get me tuppence.
Posted by LilyTree
@The_eleventh_sign_11
Happy belated birthday!!!
May you be blessed with many more years to come! May you be showered with success, happiness, peace, and contentment. May you be gifted to someone who will be lucky to have you in their life and will appreciate you because they realize how special you are, and they recognize your worth and all you have to offer by just being you. Keep on smiling because the world can use as much brightness and warmth as it can get!
_??_ ??_
Lilly treee!!! thats just the sweetest thing anyone has ever said to me, I'm very opportunistic now..thanks xox
Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
Thanks guyzz I can always rely on DXP to get me tuppence.
Happy birthday to you! π
Lol yeh i'll get them when they least expect it
@The_eleventh_sign_11
Belated Happy Birthday! May the Sun always shine on you even when the going gets tough!! π
Belated Happy Birthday! May the Sun always shine on you even when the going gets tough!! π
Back on topic to the OP:
My opinion is that one can not apply one's own philosophy onto others. Everyone is different.
You're an optimist and that's great!! But don't blame others who have a different outlook. It can annoy you, sure it can! However, if they are pessimists by nature, you can't really change them. It's how they are. If it really gets on your nerves, then simply avoid them. That's all you can do.
My opinion is that one can not apply one's own philosophy onto others. Everyone is different.
You're an optimist and that's great!! But don't blame others who have a different outlook. It can annoy you, sure it can! However, if they are pessimists by nature, you can't really change them. It's how they are. If it really gets on your nerves, then simply avoid them. That's all you can do.
Posted by Sn1p3r187
Why do people wallow in it and never do anything about it sometimes? I could never stand self-pitying people. If you want to whine and bitch about your problems then at least let someone help you instead of insisting that nothing can be done about it. To me, people that won't get help and use it as an excuse to harm themselves are not worth anytime and are about as useless as spending your money on iPhones (Why buy one when they break so easily and the newest one will probably be out in a few months anyway). I never enjoyed self-pity. If I ever did self pity myself it was for the fact that I did something wrong and I knew I was wrong for it. To which I would apologize for it sooner or later. But people who have problems with the way things are around them should stop taking the problems out on themselves and find the source and get rid of it. I know too many idiotic people like this, and it's bloody annoying. Cutting themselves for attention, living in denial about everything, thinking that their the only ones with a mind, change in clothing, change in music taste, change in behavior, whining about everything, nothing can make them happy. Have you ever had to deal with people like this?
I pick up on these people immediately and walk away. 9 times out of 10 they are addicted to pain meds or alcohol. Don't get me wrong..I'll help those out the first time and offer who are making an effort, but if they haven't done anything for themselves to make it better...too bad.
@ eleventh sign..Happy Birthday.
..and remember, you can't depend on others to make you happy. Only you can do that.
Example..waiting at the train station 3 hoursβ ..no effin way! I would have went out on my own and had a blast. Never depend on anyone but yourself.
..and remember, you can't depend on others to make you happy. Only you can do that.
Example..waiting at the train station 3 hoursβ ..no effin way! I would have went out on my own and had a blast. Never depend on anyone but yourself.
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