Should I Reach Out?

I’ve been in NC (No Contact) with a friend for 2 months and been friends for 2 years. He’s a dismissive avoidant and gets sensitive when given feedback. Mostly due to what he says bothers me. His birthday is coming up and conflicted for me to reach out or wait for him to?

If you want to wish him a happy birthday, do it.

Just have no expectations

If you want to end your NC, do it now. Don't wait for a day when several others are contacting him. That's the worst day to reach out, unless being (almost) ignored is what you are after.

I wouldn’t

Posted by VenusDoom
I’ve been in NC (No Contact) with a friend for 2 months and been friends for 2 years. He’s a dismissive avoidant and gets sensitive when given feedback. Mostly due to what he says bothers me. His birthday is coming up and conflicted for me to reach out or wait for him to?

Isn't it just easier to write "no contact" than NC (No Contact)...? Iz like, you shorten it but then still add the full word in parantheses so what's the point of writing the short term when you actually end up writing more than if you had just said "no contact" to begin with?

Posted by Undine
If you want to end your NC, do it now. Don't wait for a day when several others are contacting him. That's the worst day to reach out, unless being (almost) ignored is what you are after.

Good point, just tired of playing games 😩

Just why? He’s not going to be any different. DA’s just drain your own power. Don’t give him that.

Posted by geminiflyby
Just why? He’s not going to be any different. DA’s just drain your own power. Don’t give him that.

Logically I know. Emotionally, I’ve bonded with him over the past two years so its hard to just throw it away :/ unfortunately this happened again. Last time I deleted him from my socials when he decided to disappear, he was shocked and stated he just wanted space(without letting me know). Least I can say I tried to make it work without doing things impulsively

He threw it away fine

Posted by Truemara
He threw it away fine

Threw what?

How the hell are we supposed to know

Posted by Enfant-Terrible-II

Posted by VenusDoom
I’ve been in NC (No Contact) with a friend for 2 months and been friends for 2 years. He’s a dismissive avoidant and gets sensitive when given feedback. Mostly due to what he says bothers me. His birthday is coming up and conflicted for me to reach out or wait for him to?

Isn't it just easier to write "no contact" than NC (No Contact)...? Iz like, you shorten it but then still add the full word in parantheses so what's the point of writing the short term when you actually end up writing more than if you had just said "no contact" to begin with?

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How she did it allowed people to respond using NC