Why do hot women date less attractive men?

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so I was involved in a relationship where my gf was hotter than me and it was difficult for me .Why? because usually when you are the "ugly" one the hot person finds you just "CUTE" , and it produces many problems like no sex , no PDA (PUBLIC DISPLAY OF AFFECTION), no commitment , no time for you etc etc she was so hot so i wanted sex lol , so tell me:
how a man should feel about it ?
Should i have felt lucky?

One curious thing is she always dated less attractive men, so I started feeling bad about breaking with her because i thoguht "maybe she really loved me in her way" but I had to break up because i could not handle the situation ,please tell me

Do women want less attractive men in order to feel superior??
Why doesn't she just date hot men ?
is it because hot women don't like to fall crazy in love with someone??

thank to answers from all the women out there
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Sometimes that's what ego does.

Some have an ego so strong they rather be with someone less attractive, which will usually make them look better.

Also just because someone looks good doesn't mean they are not oddly insecure. Me for instance I'm always attracting women better looking then me, but to say they are better looking then me is a sign of insecurity. Even I know many women and men who are extremely attractive, but settle for less attractive lovers because they know the cards will be in their favor. Another sign of being insecure/ trust issues.
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Posted by 88aka
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so I was involved in a relationship where my gf was hotter than me and it was difficult for me .Why? because usually when you are the "ugly" one the hot person finds you just "CUTE" , and it produces many problems like no sex , no PDA (PUBLIC DISPLAY OF AFFECTION), no commitment , no time for you etc etc she was so hot so i wanted sex lol , so tell me:
how a man should feel about it ?
Should i have felt lucky?

One curious thing is she always dated less attractive men, so I started feeling bad about breaking with her because i thoguht "maybe she really loved me in her way" but I had to break up because i could not handle the situation ,please tell me

Do women want less attractive men in order to feel superior??
Why doesn't she just date hot men ?
is it because hot women don't like to fall crazy in love with someone??

thank to answers from all the women out there




lol, I have dated less attractive men and very attractive men.

I can tell you that I prefer to be the pretty in the relationship, and not him. It kind of grosses me out when the man takes the role of the pretty woman in the relationship and be in the car plucking his eye brows or in diets all the time. so lame and boring.

I love me-self a man who likes to eat good and at the same time works out, is a manly man and he seems like the protector, masculine guy not the pretty girl in the relationship.

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but why doesn't this type of women date hot men ? not to say kinda gay as you mention but masculine you know
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Posted by kissmygrits
You could look like Adonis. If there is no connection. If you are dull with the personality of rope burn. Nope. Not happening.

Maybe you fooled her into thinking you were a great guy. From your post you seem like an a'hole pretending "nice guy". Don't be that please.

I wasn't an a'hole , wht do you mean with great guy? do you think I should'nt have break up with her?
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Your definition of 'attractive' may be different than hers. In her mind those guys may be smokin' hot. Everybody isn't super high maintenance with looks & even then, what 1 considers ugly or just simply average, another considers beautiful.

And God-forbid a woman actually pick a man based on who he is on the inside!! lol

She must be dating those men for what they offer on the insides & if so, good for her! Simply being smokin' hot doesn't mean that you have an ounce of substance within you.

I don't think that loads of women intentionally pick guys they don't consider as attractive. The only people who think they do are outsiders who are looking at those guys from their OWN perception of what beauty or attraction is, with complete disregard that the woman in question may have different standards for what constitutes as 'attractive.'

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Posted by 88aka
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so I was involved in a relationship where my gf was hotter than me and it was difficult for me .Why? because usually when you are the "ugly" one the hot person finds you just "CUTE" , and it produces many problems like no sex , no PDA (PUBLIC DISPLAY OF AFFECTION), no commitment , no time for you etc etc she was so hot so i wanted sex lol , so tell me:
how a man should feel about it ?
Should i have felt lucky?

One curious thing is she always dated less attractive men, so I started feeling bad about breaking with her because i thoguht "maybe she really loved me in her way" but I had to break up because i could not handle the situation ,please tell me




It should not produce less sex, or public displays of affection. No human being should feel more or less than the other partner.

If you felt like that in this relationship, it was best to walk away. Look for someone who loves you back the same way you love her.
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I think people should date in their own league because as my father once said to me: "if you go for a guy above you, you will suffer from an inferiority complex no matter how secure of a person you are and vice versa".

Best advice ever!!! I never date out of my league. Peace of mind comes from that. The only time you become focused on your partner's better looks vs. yours is when you are dating them solely for their good looks. Otherwise, there are aspects that level out 2 people in a relationship. For example, if you gf is hot and you're not, then perhaps you have a better financial standing or better personality (more liked than her). It levels out.

If you feel inferior to her, then chances are that you are dating her solely for her looks or that you have nothing else going for yourself other than having a hot girlfriend.

Nevertheless, there are hot women who suffer from a crappy self esteem and so they prefer to date men who are less attractive than themselves so they can be the better one and receive constant reassurance from others on that. Also, they fear that if their guy is equally as hot as them, he'd cheat on them for another hotter girl.
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Posted by beautifuldiaster
I don't give a crap my attractiveness, I look the way I do and I take pride in my body. I live hoe I look but I date beautiful men.

When I say out of my league I mean they are higher status wise. I have a degree and work in the medical field but I don't make a dent in their salary.. that bugs me because I'm still working to gain more, to be more and to solidify my independence fiscally for a fun comfortable life.

So there are two sides to this.


physical

And financial/status/etc



Exactly! There are two sides to it, just like the advice my dad gave me. Physical attributes isn't the sole factor in measuring a person. It's also other things like personality (confident, brave, self-assured), financial status, character. A person can be hot shit, but the other person can level the field with their charisma and better personality traits. Get my drift? So how is that terrible advice?
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If you think regular guys are assholes..
Imagine really hot guys lol




na, if you observe well. most cute looking guys are very insecure.
they are markers to clingy women who just follow them around. Once they find a woman who sees them for a regular human you would see them act they way they are supposed to act.



I find this to be true too.
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"Once they find a woman who sees them for a regular human " but that woman 88aka is talking about has to be hotter than him
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If you think regular guys are assholes..
Imagine really hot guys lol




na, if you observe well. most cute looking guys are very insecure.
they are markers to clingy women who just follow them around. Once they find a woman who sees them for a regular human you would see them act they way they are supposed to act.
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INTERESTING ,THOUGH!!!!!!!

Probably if I had seen her as a regular human lol even If I'm not as hot as her, it would have worked better ,who knows , and as other post mentioned a person looks for in the partner, what he is lacking of , and I don't know how but sometimes I felt she liked something special from me
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@88aka but the problem is that ,many times when hot people are not treated like gods and idelized ,they are the ones who leave you lol !! humans are so complicated



It's all about having confidence. Don't treat a hot girl any better then you would a 'normal" woman. They nothing have hearts and deserve time be treated the same way. That's what your missing.
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I think you are right!!
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@88aka but the problem is that ,many times when hot people are not treated like gods and idelized ,they are the ones who leave you lol !! humans are so complicated



It's all about having confidence. Don't treat a hot girl any better then you would a 'normal" woman. They nothing have hearts and deserve time be treated the same way. That's what your missing.



And who cares about being dumped. If you care about her I steady of thinking about when you can put your dick in her then Maybe you wouldn't worry about being left because she would show you she cares because she senses your genuine. Bit you aren't.
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please explain again this but with more simple words , english not good as yours lol
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@88aka but the problem is that ,many times when hot people are not treated like gods and idelized ,they are the ones who leave you lol !! humans are so complicated



It's all about having confidence. Don't treat a hot girl any better then you would a 'normal" woman. They nothing have hearts and deserve time be treated the same way. That's what your missing.



And who cares about being dumped. If you care about her I steady of thinking about when you can put your dick in her then Maybe you wouldn't worry about being left because she would show you she cares because she senses your genuine. Bit you aren't.
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yes I guess you are right , I mean I didn't dump her like a'holes do , we talked about it before and we are friends now , I'm not the player guy or womanizer and she knows it . I think I should have treated her as you say not better not worst but it is so difficult for example not to be clingy with a hot person , because the simple neeed of being with her all the time was a pleasure for me
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so I was involved in a relationship where my gf was hotter than me and it was difficult for me .Why? because usually when you are the "ugly" one the hot person finds you just "CUTE" , and it produces many problems like no sex , no PDA (PUBLIC DISPLAY OF AFFECTION), no commitment , no time for you etc etc she was so hot so i wanted sex lol , so tell me:
how a man should feel about it ?
Should i have felt lucky?

One curious thing is she always dated less attractive men, so I started feeling bad about breaking with her because i thoguht "maybe she really loved me in her way" but I had to break up because i could not handle the situation ,please tell me

Do women want less attractive men in order to feel superior??
Why doesn't she just date hot men ?
is it because hot women don't like to fall crazy in love with someone??


thank to answers from all the women out there



Beautiful women don't see themselves as beautiful.

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I really think they do
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I don't give a crap my attractiveness, I look the way I do and I take pride in my body. I live hoe I look but I date beautiful men.

When I say out of my league I mean they are higher status wise. I have a degree and work in the medical field but I don't make a dent in their salary.. that bugs me because I'm still working to gain more, to be more and to solidify my independence fiscally for a fun comfortable life.

So there are two sides to this.


physical

And financial/status/etc



Exactly! There are two sides to it, just like the advice my dad gave me. Physical attributes isn't the sole factor in measuring a person. It's also other things like personality (confident, brave, self-assured), financial status, character. A person can be hot shit, but the other person can level the field with their charisma and better personality traits. Get my drift? So how is that terrible advice?



Because you said one person will suffer from an inferiority complex And That's untrue. I socially date up and I am good enough, no complex. Only that it encourages me to work harder so the weight is more evenly distributed.
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I know you didn't mean offense by that. As for our discussion, you wouldn't suffer from an inferiority complex because you work harder to balance it out. And that's what the advice was that as long as things are being balanced out because people have different attributes that give them a competitive advantage: some are drop dead gorgeous, some are gifted (intelligent), some are insanely rich. We all unite with others based on what we are lacking to complement each other, hence it gets balanced out.

Anyway, from a pure physical attraction basis, a wise man once said that the beauty of a woman is physical and the beauty of man is in his mind. So therefore, the standards of beauty differ in men and women.
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I wish more women also answer to my question about whether leaving my ex gf was a good decision or not



No commitment and no time for you ... why would you have stayed?



Probably because he idolized her looks and expected to get laid.

I doubt we will know because he needs to answer my questions first. Doesn't seem like It's fair to make an assumption on whether it was right or wrong without more details. He makes.it seem like it all has to do either her looks.
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He wasn't getting his basic needs met within the relationship. That part isn't assumption, it is what he stated. The OP wants to know if he made the right decision and in my experience, if a woman is into a guy, she will make sure his basic needs are met. Even if you remove the "commitment" aspect, he said she Didn't have Time for him.

(Then the lack of PDA ... maybe that's just me but if I am with a guy and we are out in public, I will be holding hands, the odd little kiss if appropriate environment etc ...)