Gem moons and emotional expression...

It seems that on the hate moon thread a lot of people have an issue with Gem mooners. We're seen as cold, unemotional and that we lack depth. (Couple that perception with my Cap sun and well, pfft, people probably view me as a fricken corpse!).

ANYWAY, I have been accused of "not caring"... it's not that I don't care about a something of importance or am dismissing the matter. I simply do not outwardly overreact or really express myself either way, not typically anyway, and based on what was being said on the other thread this clearly could be Gem moon inspired (if you will).

I don't get upset about things others do and I wonder why they make such a big deal of things (especially Scorp moons, in my experience, everything is blown out of proportion or at least strongly expressed outwardly which I find highly frustrating - please, just take a deep breath, in through the nose, out through the mouth... rinse with a strong shot of whiskey and repeat). I have an issue with 'feelings' as it is and usually feel pretty numb to things around me (to the point that my therapist gave up on me LOL it's because I think, not feel *shrugs*). As I see it, you can't do anything about the past, why get upset about it!

So, what about other Gem mooners, do you find that for the most part you do not feel especially anxious about things that seem to overly anger, frustrate or enrage others?

From experience...what annoys me about Gem mooners has nothing to do with emotional expression...it's the know-it-all attitude they often have as well as their superficiality...The ones I have known and been annoying by are pretentious fucks who love hearing themselves talk. The way they react when someone calls them on their bullshit is just ridiculous too...they're like rabid animals it's embarrassing. lol

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it takes a lot to make me offended or angry lol i use humor to get over difficult circumstances and i mentally process my emotions instead of feeling them with my heart lol i feel kinda unproductive when i'm just being emotional lol nothing really gets accomplished while you're in that emotional/dramatic state and i feel like i'm just wasting my time. so instead of going around in circles, staying stuck in your emotions, i believe it's more productive and quicker to analyze the situation/emotion in my mind and whip up a good solution and just get it over with lol

i don't think i've ever been accused of being cold though haha

I guess I should have clarified that most the Gem mooners on DXP DO NOT give me that vibe at all...
a few have, but they're all gone.

It's mostly people in RL. Maybe the internet acts as a filter for this...?or I've just met really obnoxious people.

I have never been called cold or non caring...I think Im more emo than anything. But I have noticed that what sometimes people find as a big deal I dont. Its funny because the person that has called me "over emo" has been a Gemini Mooner also....thats crazy!!! And you know who you are....😉

I have no problem showing my feelings and talking about them, but I have to feel comfortable with that person.🙂 I will pour my heart out if i think I can trust you.

Based on the few who have posted, it does seem that we have come to somewhat of a consensus that we are less likely to over react to things than some other mooners (e.g., Pisces or Scorp moons). And, we are more likely to "think" (be rational) than "feel" (be emotional).

I was asked today what I "felt" about something and I answered with "Well, I think..." and spoke in terms of the pros regarding both options which were being presented - the question was asked again, how I "felt", what was my "gut feeling" given the two options? "IDK, I think 'this'..." and again talked about how each option could play out. Then that person (Scorp mooner) got all pissy with me because I was being all logical about the whole thing 😛

The other funny thing, well, kinda sorta, in a manipulative way, this person said that he would go with my decision, that way if it didn't work out then he could blame me. Because I would not lean one way or the other, he made a decision on the matter and still told me that if it didn't work out it was my fault because I "refused" to tell him how I "felt". ASS!

Gemini moon here. I've been told these things to my face before...

"everyone! she actually has a soul!!"

"do you have a heart in there?"

"wait you actually bothered by that?"

So yeah, my Gem moon definetely tells my emotional Pisces sun to Shut the fuck up 🙂

im a sag with a gem moon..i feel that i can only b extremely cold or overly emotional..so i strive for the first one..few have seen the latter emotional side of me..i dont think i kno an in between

Cancer with gemini moon here...um i am far from cold...maybe its cus i am a cancer but i tend 2 not be able 2 shut up about my emotions 2 be honest lol...its a real issue!! i really dont act like a typical moon in gemini i am very compasionate 2 all people and never ever cold...i always care when someone needs me...sometimes i might act like i know things but i dont aurgue unless i know...maybe thats my libra ascendant coming thru...superfical...so not me...i am a open book...dont believe me...ask me anything youll see 🙂

I'm living with this on a day-to-day basis too.

Having a "split personality" Moon sign grants you with lots of struggling and overwhelming states. From my personal perspective, my natal Moon is something like an "artificially rebuilt" cosmic body - you can make a comparison with the Deathstar from Star Wars all you want, but it has nothing to do with destruction. No at all. It's more about a system with lots of connections and the powering core are the emotions, which I "put" in something like a glass-like plasmic isolator, in order to analyze and to think over the process. The emotional energy there is the primary resource, which I think over about way too much sometimes like "Why did I react like this?", "What caused me to go on the other side of the river?", "Am I so unstable to let this and that to happen?" and other such examples. I FEEL (since we're talking about the Moon) that my placement is something like an unstable research facility with lots of complex systems and processes flowing into it, because you don't know from where this subjective energy comes from - you have a need for communication, craftiness and independency all the time. In my case, I have to invite some group of unconventional friends too, since my Moon is also in the 11th house: originality, individualism, equality and freedom are the four basic rules at my home. It adds a great focus to a thought, but also a fixed one, which isn't so good for the others sometimes. There is another fact - I'm an absolute humanitarian and I can say that I'm not that cold and superficial at all as some people might think. Give us some time and you'll see the facts as they are. Believe it or not.
You cannot expect something sentimental from a double abstract and rational lunar position here, especially when it's not interested in everything traditional, but just the opposite of that. However, I pointed the fact that my position can nurture human beings in a more philosophical, but also very deep and helpful way. And, please, Water Moons out there, don't think of us badly. Without understanding, you cannot achieve anything.

One more thing:

Ironically, I know people with Water Moon signs and I saw many times that they just cannot stand me. For them, I appear too "weird", talkative, rationalizing, unconventional and unpredictable. Yes, I guess I have to agree with this, especially for the last quality. I'm too unpredictable even for myself, but the true purpose here is to learn from one another, right? That's how it has to be.

I like my gem moon but man sometimes its a pain in the donkey! i embrace the emotions and accept that it exists. I will internally speculate upon them analyze them , see endless possibilities (which i hate arg) been working on being less like a radical empiricist... or a Deathstar bahhaa! which i also put into a glass "plasmic" isolater


When it comes to romance (o_o) quite childish, i get weird..i think its just me! (maybe i'm nuts) finding a exit as soon as the conversation becomes more "intimate" disclosing one's personal feelings to one another. Telling another person what i "think" about certain things and sharing stories to express why i believe in an idea isn't intimate..Intimacy is expressing "i like you..i feel we have a deep connection"

when i can see that the conversation is leading to a wanted "confession" i start..changing topics so that it doesnt go there, i would prefer the interaction to be playful and light hearted till i am used to the idea of the other person.

when the guy just stares at me...i usually look to the right then left-awkwardly smiling-remain calm-exit-change topics.

As if the more i feel for someone, the more i feel scared and overwhelmed by the emotions, that i need TIME to reflect on them. The nerves man the NERVES! i'm telling ya that is why i just cant get intimate with someone on their cue, i dont know how to handle those nerves on the spot.

Posted by Metoo
Cap with Gem moon. I feel very deeply, am keen and percetive of other emotions. it does take me alot to express emotions but that is due to the lack of reception or empathy I have noticed of others when I have worn my heart on my sleeve.
What my gem moon does for me is makes my mind stray quite a bit, and it makes me a bit too faced, not a liar per se, just more of a chameleon, I guess I feel the need to be different things to different people and I feel compromised as a result.
I cry though, I feel, I over analyze, I am a true girl...with a gem moon! LOL

ZOMG yes!!! i get so depressed thinking about how i have to keep adapting to different folks. "What am i?" its annoying.

Posted by Metoo
Cap with Gem moon. I feel very deeply, am keen and percetive of other emotions. it does take me alot to express emotions but that is due to the lack of reception or empathy I have noticed of others when I have worn my heart on my sleeve.
What my gem moon does for me is makes my mind stray quite a bit, and it makes me a bit too faced, not a liar per se, just more of a chameleon, I guess I feel the need to be different things to different people and I feel compromised as a result.
I cry though, I feel, I over analyze, I am a true girl...with a gem moon! LOL

aw, be thankful everyday for your mutable moon. It is a chameleon yeah but like any placement, energy,
embrace it. No matter how sad or hard you face life, you can always adapt. Since you have a cardinal sun, it really really helps. imagine if you had all cardinal or all fixed, how you would always want to have it "your way" or else! gggrrrr ker-pow! Lol.
hugs!

Posted by lildol


So, what about other Gem mooners, do you find that for the most part you do not feel especially anxious about things that seem to overly anger, frustrate or enrage others?

Well it's not so much that I don't feel anxious about things or any of the other emotions that you've listed. I actually feel these emotions quite often and intensely, but I am just very good at masking what I am feeling from others. I can also detach very quickly, especially when I am hurt. It a protective thing. Paired with my sun sign it is also a way for me to throw people off when they think they have something over me or they're trying to pull a fast one. I've been known to smile and nod at people I know are trying to manipulate a situation just to see how far they will take it until I am ready (if I plan to) put them in their place. I would say it's a positive thing (for me anyway) to be able to throw people off with my "lack of emotion".

I will also say that there are a lot of issues that I just don't get worked up about like other people, not because I don't care the issues. My response reflects the fact that I don't see the point of getting heated and worked up about issues that require a calm discussion. As well, losing your sh*t doesn't "change" anything. A clear, concrete plan or strategy does. Anything else is just wasted energy.

My ex of four years was a Capricorn with a Gemini moon. He definitely didn't enjoy talking about 'deeper' subjects, which is what I thrive on! He could throw ideas back and forth, but as long as they hadn't to do with emotional appeal. Any time emotions were brought up, and I brought them up A LOT, he would either not say anything (which really pushed my buttons) or would be sarcastic or make a joke or change the subject. He always needed time to get away and think, which meant more like 'hanging out with friends till I forgot about it'. He was rational, yes. He had emotions, yes. But he had no idea how to express them and didn't feel comfortable in the least doing it. I did get to see the soft side of him a couple times. I always trusted him and thought him as someone that would never lie to me while in our relationship, but when it ended, it was 'anything goes'. He had a short affair with my best friend and they both lied to me about it (she's a Scorpio too, like me. though a very vile one!). It shocked me how easily he could lie to my face before and even AFTER I knew the truth concretely. It scares me, as a Scorpio, to have someone seem so genuine and appeal to your 'history' together just for leeway in having you believe their lies. *shudders* To this day I know he is guilty for how bad he hurt me and I forgave him, but I still have this little piece of me that is scared to fully trust a Gemini moon. Too changeable. It may just be because I have all three fixed signs in my immediate planets, though. 🙂

My ex has a gem moon and was allll that.... Cold, kept her thoughts too herself, unemotional and had NO depth but she liked to think that she did. What she thought was depth was just her past childish hate and jealousy.
She was a gem sun too.
Not fun.
Not fun at all.

Posted by Mercurysharmoniums
My ex of four years was a Capricorn with a Gemini moon. He definitely didn't enjoy talking about 'deeper' subjects, which is what I thrive on! He could throw ideas back and forth, but as long as they hadn't to do with emotional appeal. Any time emotions were brought up, and I brought them up A LOT, he would either not say anything (which really pushed my buttons) or would be sarcastic or make a joke or change the subject. He always needed time to get away and think, which meant more like 'hanging out with friends till I forgot about it'. He was rational, yes. He had emotions, yes. But he had no idea how to express them and didn't feel comfortable in the least doing it. I did get to see the soft side of him a couple times. I always trusted him and thought him as someone that would never lie to me while in our relationship, but when it ended, it was 'anything goes'. He had a short affair with my best friend and they both lied to me about it (she's a Scorpio too, like me. though a very vile one!). It shocked me how easily he could lie to my face before and even AFTER I knew the truth concretely. It scares me, as a Scorpio, to have someone seem so genuine and appeal to your 'history' together just for leeway in having you believe their lies. *shudders* To this day I know he is guilty for how bad he hurt me and I forgave him, but I still have this little piece of me that is scared to fully trust a Gemini moon. Too changeable. It may just be because I have all three fixed signs in my immediate planets, though. 🙂

I am a Cancer Sun with a Sagg moon. However, I do have a close friend who is a Scorp with a Gem moon. When we are together, we are like magnets and can fall into each other. We are always very aroused and we have a very nice ebb and flow to us. We dated back in highschool and have known one another for about 16 years. There has always been a love between us. However, he is very changeable. Meaning one minute he will be in my presence not being able to control himself and over-flowing with emotion and being open and passionate (maybe thats the scorpion) BUT when he leaves me at times, he is another person—not mean but just distant and detached. Sometimes he is like an out-of-sight, out-of-mind type of man. If he is angry at me or when we have fights (because the lines of friendship and lovers or whatever it is are VERY blurred with us) he d

cont.... he doesn't show any signs of emotion. He is always very calm and collected. There have been rare occasions where we have yelled at one another but we have a hard time keeping our distance and staying angry at one another. These men, from what I know of him, can be extremely difficult and complex. I would have to agree that when approaching anything having to do with emotions, at times, he does make jokes or laughs out of maybe being uncomfortable. This post has given me so much clarity and taught me not to take things so personally. Also, I think Scorps can be rather harsh at times.

My mother is a Aries Sun w/ a Gemini Moon.....I think she has Borderline Personality Disorder Or Bipolar II ( I say this because Im A Therapist and I know the signs) And I think her zodiac combination makes her that way.

Very quick to anger....verbal and the threat of physical abuse

Hate to be told no

Lack of self discipline

Very Very Impulsive

Hold others to a standard that she cant

And on top of all of the Anger.....

She is Extremely emotional and sensitive


Oh and her Mars is in Leo......lol

NovemberSun, thank you very much for your Gemini Moon description.

Reading about the sun sign "personalities" when I was young,
I had never thought that I was the typical Pisces.
Then since learning about my Gemini Moon, it all made sense to me,
and I love having that placement in the mix.
I like being the observer in most things, picking up anything I can learn,
and keeping the emotions at bay (for the most part).

The older I get, the more true this becomes.

Posted by bkarcher
im a sag with a gem moon..i feel that i can only b extremely cold or overly emotional..so i strive for the first one..few have seen the latter emotional side of me..i dont think i kno an in between

Bingo!

Another cancer sun with Gemini moon here, I feel soo much, too the point where I get told not to take things personally by my cap girl cousin esp when she doesn't reply to my messages. However I have been told I don't have empathy for others as in I can't just listen i end up providing a suggestion or solution to their problem. That must be the gem moon?
Also if there's been a tradegy I get on with the recovery plan while others are upset n wallowing in the aftermath. Well somebody has to have a plan right

But I do get emotional when it comes to my SO. ESP if he's occupied I need to know he's gonna provide me with some TLC

What would make you gemini mooners say one day that you love someone but then take it back the next day? And do that several times, not just once.