lisabeth
@lisabethur8
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Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnsmoving away to a different state, or city would help too you think?
Nothing you can do apart from wait. If you recognise it’s unrequited you have to separate yourself which is painful. Then wait for time to ease the pain. You gradually stop thinking about the person.
I was there about a year ago and it sucked. May have even started a couple of self-pitying threads.
Posted by clownloyalPosted by lisabethur8sometimes when you're feeling someone and aren't sure how they're feeling that's sign #1 so you try to check if everything is okay between you two that's sign #2 now you definitely want to make sure it's unrequited and not miscommunication so you try to make plans that's sign #3Posted by clownloyalquit?
it's right in the word, you quit
more information...
by sign #3 you gotta classic red wagon that heavy L and quit while you're aheadclick to expand

Posted by lisabethur8I LOVE THE SCHOOL OF LIFE AND ALAIN DE BOTTON !
love?
i was reminded earlier with a discussion with @sierra on a subject earlier, how alot of people fall for someone but the other person doesn't want them back equally.
how does one cure this?
i've seen this over the years, on this forum also readin alot of articles and books, tv shows you name it..so it's very very common.
ever experienced this and you can't find a good connection with someone?
how does one just move on? do these videos and books help?

Posted by SeleukosAre you a Superman in real life?
Kill all your feelings and become happy again.
We only suffer as long as we want to.


Posted by GemitatiNot a good example, Superman could never move on from Louis Lane 🤓Posted by SeleukosAre you a Superman in real life?
Kill all your feelings and become happy again.
We only suffer as long as we want to.click to expand

Posted by SeleukosSo you realize not everyone can do what you can because they aren’t you?Posted by GemitatiNo, but I lived 10 years with next to no emotions at all due to childhood traumata.Posted by SeleukosAre you a Superman in real life?
Kill all your feelings and become happy again.
We only suffer as long as we want to.
Thanks to that I can kill off most of my emotions if needed. 🙂click to expand

Posted by fire_underwaterI didn’t mean real Superman. My bad - I had to write superman in lower case😂Posted by GemitatiNot a good example, Superman could never move on from Louis Lane 🤓Posted by SeleukosAre you a Superman in real life?
Kill all your feelings and become happy again.
We only suffer as long as we want to.click to expand

Posted by Senorita_LLIf you can manage to never get into it again - all power to you. ❤️
It's painful and might took you a long time before you heal.
Been there once and I will never allow myself to ever be in that situation again. I am glad I managed to get through it.
Not everyone will understand unless they've been there.

Posted by lisabethur8Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnsmoving away to a different state, or city would help too you think?
Nothing you can do apart from wait. If you recognise it’s unrequited you have to separate yourself which is painful. Then wait for time to ease the pain. You gradually stop thinking about the person.
I was there about a year ago and it sucked. May have even started a couple of self-pitying threads.
are you in a better place now than you were a year ago?click to expand
Posted by edgelordnot everything is about "fun"
@lisabethur8
This is a subject you should probably stay quiet on because your aqua sun foot in mouth stuff isn’t helpful.
Lives are destroyed by this shit. For a lot of people it’s not jus a “fun” thread on dxp.
Posted by Caramel_Princessdid that article /video really help you?
https://www.facebook.com/CoachMatthewHussey/videos/1496088253743573/
This shifted my mindset on unrequited love.
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeePosted by edgelordThe more she writes the more i dislike her
@lisabethur8
This is a subject you should probably stay quiet on because your aqua sun foot in mouth stuff isn’t helpful.
Lives are destroyed by this shit. For a lot of people it’s not jus a “fun” thread on dxp.
Its better she sticks to dumb Hollywood crapclick to expand
Posted by NelsonSacramentowhere were you before? did you move far?Posted by lisabethur8
love?
i was reminded earlier with a discussion with @sierra on a subject earlier, how alot of people fall for someone but the other person doesn't want them back equally.
how does one cure this?
i've seen this over the years, on this forum also readin alot of articles and books, tv shows you name it..so it's very very common.
ever experienced this and you can't find a good connection with someone?
how does one just move on? do these videos and books help?
Moved out of the country where it took place, then trown professional career away and started a physical job, met new people.click to expand
Posted by Adreamuponwakingdidnt she leave her husband in that film? they had a very lukewarm relationship and she wanted more...
This scene helps and is kind of a summation of the philosophy I've adopted which is to know that it is okay to love and miss someone ....it's not a bad thing.
Send them love and light every time they just happen to cross your mind...and then drop it.
Posted by fire_underwateroh my god....Posted by GemitatiNot a good example, Superman could never move on from Louis Lane 🤓Posted by SeleukosAre you a Superman in real life?
Kill all your feelings and become happy again.
We only suffer as long as we want to.click to expand
Posted by Senorita_LLi've been there. with my first husband. i knew he loved me but he couldnt reciprocate the way i wanted him to, in a normal relationshiip. It was always him and other women he wanted to play, and drugs and alcohol were his no.1 lover. that TOO is a form or unrequited.
It's painful and might took you a long time before you heal.
Been there once and I will never allow myself to ever be in that situation again. I am glad I managed to get through it.
Not everyone will understand unless they've been there.
Posted by Seleukosum what happened in your childhood? :/Posted by GemitatiNo, but I lived 10 years with next to no emotions at all due to childhood traumata.Posted by SeleukosAre you a Superman in real life?
Kill all your feelings and become happy again.
We only suffer as long as we want to.
Thanks to that I can kill off most of my emotions if needed. 🙂click to expand
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeno, that's another aquarius sun, she's french. lol and he's a double virgo.Posted by lisabethur8Is that you and your husband in the pics?Posted by CaramelizedCoffeePosted by edgelordThe more she writes the more i dislike her
@lisabethur8
This is a subject you should probably stay quiet on because your aqua sun foot in mouth stuff isn’t helpful.
Lives are destroyed by this shit. For a lot of people it’s not jus a “fun” thread on dxp.
Its better she sticks to dumb Hollywood crap
lol pot meet kettle. hey i saw your topic on middle eastern subjects. lolclick to expand
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeePosted by lisabethur8She's boring and lamePosted by fire_underwateroh my god....Posted by GemitatiNot a good example, Superman could never move on from Louis Lane 🤓Posted by SeleukosAre you a Superman in real life?
Kill all your feelings and become happy again.
We only suffer as long as we want to.
i dont think he could love anyone else. and he could have anyone. -_-
what do you think of lois lane?click to expand
Posted by Caramel_PrincessPosted by lisabethur8Posted by Caramel_Princessdid that article /video really help you?
https://www.facebook.com/CoachMatthewHussey/videos/1496088253743573/
This shifted my mindset on unrequited love.
It really did. It reminded me of the past when I’d keep pushing for something to happen with people who never even deserved me to start with!
Honestly it has to do with your self love, if you love yourself so much you wouldn’t accept someone who doesn’t love you into your life.
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Posted by Senorita_LLAs soon as receive a million from you - I’ll thank you and send you best doll ever!Posted by GemitatiThe only way to never get into it again, is by staying single. That's the best, honey.Posted by Senorita_LLIf you can manage to never get into it again - all power to you. ❤️
It's painful and might took you a long time before you heal.
Been there once and I will never allow myself to ever be in that situation again. I am glad I managed to get through it.
Not everyone will understand unless they've been there.
Send me a blow up doll will you? I want the one that looks like Enrique.
Thanks a million! ❤click to expand
Posted by NelsonSacramentodo you miss portugal?Posted by lisabethur8Posted by NelsonSacramentowhere were you before? did you move far?Posted by lisabethur8
love?
i was reminded earlier with a discussion with @sierra on a subject earlier, how alot of people fall for someone but the other person doesn't want them back equally.
how does one cure this?
i've seen this over the years, on this forum also readin alot of articles and books, tv shows you name it..so it's very very common.
ever experienced this and you can't find a good connection with someone?
how does one just move on? do these videos and books help?
Moved out of the country where it took place, then trown professional career away and started a physical job, met new people.
Was out of home country Portugal to work in africa for 1 year then moved back to home country for few months
then moved to north europe Netherlands, took almost an year to get over but i did.click to expand

Posted by Caramel_PrincessFor a million I think I can manage to get her real one! LolPosted by GemitatiAre we talking about those sex dolls?Posted by Senorita_LLAs soon as receive a million from you - I’ll thank you and send you best doll ever!Posted by GemitatiThe only way to never get into it again, is by staying single. That's the best, honey.Posted by Senorita_LLIf you can manage to never get into it again - all power to you. ❤️
It's painful and might took you a long time before you heal.
Been there once and I will never allow myself to ever be in that situation again. I am glad I managed to get through it.
Not everyone will understand unless they've been there.
Send me a blow up doll will you? I want the one that looks like Enrique.
Thanks a million! ❤
😱...waiting...lolclick to expand

Posted by lisabethur8
love?
i was reminded earlier with a discussion with @sierra on a subject earlier, how alot of people fall for someone but the other person doesn't want them back equally.
how does one cure this?
i've seen this over the years, on this forum also readin alot of articles and books, tv shows you name it..so it's very very common.
ever experienced this and you can't find a good connection with someone?
how does one just move on? do these videos and books help?
Posted by Caramel_PrincessPosted by lisabethur8YES LISA! Forgive yourself... it starts there, understand that it’s not your fault and don’t regret feelings you felt, this is just how YOU love and it’s beautiful and it’s loyal. Forgive them for being too weak to see it.Posted by Caramel_PrincessPosted by lisabethur8Posted by Caramel_Princessdid that article /video really help you?
https://www.facebook.com/CoachMatthewHussey/videos/1496088253743573/
This shifted my mindset on unrequited love.
It really did. It reminded me of the past when I’d keep pushing for something to happen with people who never even deserved me to start with!
Honestly it has to do with your self love, if you love yourself so much you wouldn’t accept someone who doesn’t love you into your life.
'
that is perfect. yes.
forgiving yourself and loving yourself.
We accept the love we think we deserve. He doesn’t think he deserves you.click to expand
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeePosted by lisabethur8Hee looks like a LeoPosted by CaramelizedCoffeeno, that's another aquarius sun, she's french. lol and he's a double virgo.Posted by lisabethur8Is that you and your husband in the pics?Posted by CaramelizedCoffeePosted by edgelordThe more she writes the more i dislike her
@lisabethur8
This is a subject you should probably stay quiet on because your aqua sun foot in mouth stuff isn’t helpful.
Lives are destroyed by this shit. For a lot of people it’s not jus a “fun” thread on dxp.
Its better she sticks to dumb Hollywood crap
lol pot meet kettle. hey i saw your topic on middle eastern subjects. lol
if you thought he was kind of cute, it's probably cause he is a virgo lol (since you used to like virgo men)
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Posted by lisabethur8Anyone and everyone! Hmm Louis Lane.... she would move on by becoming a badass maybe?Posted by fire_underwateroh my god....Posted by GemitatiNot a good example, Superman could never move on from Louis Lane 🤓Posted by SeleukosAre you a Superman in real life?
Kill all your feelings and become happy again.
We only suffer as long as we want to.
i dont think he could love anyone else. and he could have anyone. -_-
what do you think of lois lane?click to expand

Posted by lisabethur8yeah the movie is based on the book but again the book and the movie take place after she had been married for awhile.Posted by Adreamuponwakingdidnt she leave her husband in that film? they had a very lukewarm relationship and she wanted more...
This scene helps and is kind of a summation of the philosophy I've adopted which is to know that it is okay to love and miss someone ....it's not a bad thing.
Send them love and light every time they just happen to cross your mind...and then drop it.
click to expand
Posted by lisabethur8As someone who has had my love be unwanted by another fairly recently, I believe I can offer a decent opinion.
love?
i was reminded earlier with a discussion with @sierra on a subject earlier, how alot of people fall for someone but the other person doesn't want them back equally.
how does one cure this?
i've seen this over the years, on this forum also readin alot of articles and books, tv shows you name it..so it's very very common.
ever experienced this and you can't find a good connection with someone?
how does one just move on? do these videos and books help?
Posted by Caramel_PrincessPosted by lisabethur8Sounds amazing, I need that. I haven’t dealt with my demons and my mistakes and I beat myself so badly over them. I’ll watch it!Posted by Caramel_PrincessPosted by lisabethur8YES LISA! Forgive yourself... it starts there, understand that it’s not your fault and don’t regret feelings you felt, this is just how YOU love and it’s beautiful and it’s loyal. Forgive them for being too weak to see it.Posted by Caramel_PrincessPosted by lisabethur8Posted by Caramel_Princessdid that article /video really help you?
https://www.facebook.com/CoachMatthewHussey/videos/1496088253743573/
This shifted my mindset on unrequited love.
It really did. It reminded me of the past when I’d keep pushing for something to happen with people who never even deserved me to start with!
Honestly it has to do with your self love, if you love yourself so much you wouldn’t accept someone who doesn’t love you into your life.
'
that is perfect. yes.
forgiving yourself and loving yourself.
We accept the love we think we deserve. He doesn’t think he deserves you.
i have this recommendation for you....it's on Netflix. it's beautiful and it's about forgiving yourself....
Rita's season 4. It's best if you saw the first 3 seasons years ago. but season 4 came out...and wow..
it brought tears to my eyes.
here she's shown as a teenager,at 15-16...and she did some really really bad things..
you have to watch it. it's about her and forgiving herself. there's something we do in ourselves that we dont see. and how we lose people we love.
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Posted by Adreamuponwakingplot twist. her heart was always with that one woman, and she probably was keeping it closet.Posted by lisabethur8yeah the movie is based on the book but again the book and the movie take place after she had been married for awhile.Posted by Adreamuponwakingdidnt she leave her husband in that film? they had a very lukewarm relationship and she wanted more...
This scene helps and is kind of a summation of the philosophy I've adopted which is to know that it is okay to love and miss someone ....it's not a bad thing.
Send them love and light every time they just happen to cross your mind...and then drop it.
fun fact
she also divorced the guy she met in in bali after they had been married for 10 years.
turns out she had been in love with one of her best friends for a long time who happens to be a woman who now has terminal cancer.
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Posted by saggurl88whaa?? really?
I love the feeling of being in love, so I don't mind unrequited love. I fall in love fast and fall out just as fast, It's the middle that lingers a while.
It's like a constant, low buzz love feeling that never really goes away, If I ever really loved you. It gets ignored and I move on and fall in love again.
Right now I'm in the in between stage. The awful longing until something new and shiny pulls my interest again. Then it will all be background noise and a relief!

Posted by lisabethur8You ask how to cure unrequited love,so I answered.Posted by saggurl88whaa?? really?
I love the feeling of being in love, so I don't mind unrequited love. I fall in love fast and fall out just as fast, It's the middle that lingers a while.
It's like a constant, low buzz love feeling that never really goes away, If I ever really loved you. It gets ignored and I move on and fall in love again.
Right now I'm in the in between stage. The awful longing until something new and shiny pulls my interest again. Then it will all be background noise and a relief!
you dont want someone to love you back? 😕
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Posted by saggurl88Posted by lisabethur8You ask how to cure unrequited love,so I answered.Posted by saggurl88whaa?? really?
I love the feeling of being in love, so I don't mind unrequited love. I fall in love fast and fall out just as fast, It's the middle that lingers a while.
It's like a constant, low buzz love feeling that never really goes away, If I ever really loved you. It gets ignored and I move on and fall in love again.
Right now I'm in the in between stage. The awful longing until something new and shiny pulls my interest again. Then it will all be background noise and a relief!
you dont want someone to love you back? 😕
One question has nothing o do with the other lol
Of course I want love back, but there is always someone for everyone. If you don't choose me, then I will move on.
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Posted by crazysiouxthat doesn't sound unrequited imo, it sounds like those gals liked you. i mean they chased you and you blocked them. -_-Posted by rmactavishExactly. There's is the issue of mutual self-sabotage. In other words, the love isn't necessarily unrequited - the other person is just too scared and overwhelmed with the speed of things and out of fear of losing control, does or says something rash and insensitive that they later regret. I suspect this is the case between the Virgo chick at work. Without going into details, I did everything I fucking could to sabotage the motherfucker. Looking back, I needed my ass kicked ... and she couldn't kick that high. There is something in me that believes unrequited love is all I'm fit for, all I deserve, and goes about making sure it fucking happens.Posted by Caramel_PrincessJust saw it. I feel I agree on it to an extent, but not completely. I feel alot of times someone who we want, they also might feel attracted to us but can deny us for various reasons which are GENUINE, and need to be talked through together.
https://www.facebook.com/CoachMatthewHussey/videos/1496088253743573/
This shifted my mindset on unrequited love.
On the flip side of the coin, her self-sabotage could very well be the premature blocking and unfriending because the speed and intensity was overwhelming and she was afraid of dealing with her own feelings let alone mine. She's got her Scorpio Venus and Pluto in the 12th house, indicating self-sabotage in the repression of feelings and the routine sweeping of things under the rug.
Have you ever got the vibe that somebody wants to clear the air, have the fight, and make up but just doesn't know how to go about it and/or dreads it from happening because they're scared of confrontation or scared or eating unrequited love from how poorly they treated you?!? That's the vibe I'm getting. That's my gut feeling and I gotta trust it BUT I also have to leave that ball in her court ...click to expand


Posted by lisabethur8Thanks. I could never hate someone that I care or cared about. So if I love you, you'll always have a piece of my heart and I will always treat you with respect and wish you the best.Posted by saggurl88Posted by lisabethur8You ask how to cure unrequited love,so I answered.Posted by saggurl88whaa?? really?
I love the feeling of being in love, so I don't mind unrequited love. I fall in love fast and fall out just as fast, It's the middle that lingers a while.
It's like a constant, low buzz love feeling that never really goes away, If I ever really loved you. It gets ignored and I move on and fall in love again.
Right now I'm in the in between stage. The awful longing until something new and shiny pulls my interest again. Then it will all be background noise and a relief!
you dont want someone to love you back? 😕
One question has nothing o do with the other lol
Of course I want love back, but there is always someone for everyone. If you don't choose me, then I will move on.
lol ah ok.
so like, admiring a celebrity guy like Ryan gosling or Jay-z or something like that?
anyway good attitude at the end.
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Posted by saggurl88didnt you participate in a celebrity hot man looks topic in the past? 😛Posted by lisabethur8Thanks. I could never hate someone that I care or cared about. So if I love you, you'll always have a piece of my heart and I will always treat you with respect and wish you the best.Posted by saggurl88Posted by lisabethur8You ask how to cure unrequited love,so I answered.Posted by saggurl88whaa?? really?
I love the feeling of being in love, so I don't mind unrequited love. I fall in love fast and fall out just as fast, It's the middle that lingers a while.
It's like a constant, low buzz love feeling that never really goes away, If I ever really loved you. It gets ignored and I move on and fall in love again.
Right now I'm in the in between stage. The awful longing until something new and shiny pulls my interest again. Then it will all be background noise and a relief!
you dont want someone to love you back? 😕
One question has nothing o do with the other lol
Of course I want love back, but there is always someone for everyone. If you don't choose me, then I will move on.
lol ah ok.
so like, admiring a celebrity guy like Ryan gosling or Jay-z or something like that?
anyway good attitude at the end.
I don't admire celebrities. They are out of reach and unrealistic.
I'm very logical, I don't fantasize much.click to expand

Posted by lisabethur8It's not unrequited love if they don't know you exist!! 😂😂😂😂Posted by saggurl88didnt you participate in a celebrity hot man looks topic in the past? 😛Posted by lisabethur8Thanks. I could never hate someone that I care or cared about. So if I love you, you'll always have a piece of my heart and I will always treat you with respect and wish you the best.Posted by saggurl88Posted by lisabethur8You ask how to cure unrequited love,so I answered.Posted by saggurl88whaa?? really?
I love the feeling of being in love, so I don't mind unrequited love. I fall in love fast and fall out just as fast, It's the middle that lingers a while.
It's like a constant, low buzz love feeling that never really goes away, If I ever really loved you. It gets ignored and I move on and fall in love again.
Right now I'm in the in between stage. The awful longing until something new and shiny pulls my interest again. Then it will all be background noise and a relief!
you dont want someone to love you back? 😕
One question has nothing o do with the other lol
Of course I want love back, but there is always someone for everyone. If you don't choose me, then I will move on.
lol ah ok.
so like, admiring a celebrity guy like Ryan gosling or Jay-z or something like that?
anyway good attitude at the end.
I don't admire celebrities. They are out of reach and unrealistic.
I'm very logical, I don't fantasize much.
well yeah i get you. it's unrealistic.click to expand
Posted by saggurl88i beg to differ!! 😄Posted by lisabethur8It's not unrequited love if they don't know you exist!! 😂😂😂😂Posted by saggurl88didnt you participate in a celebrity hot man looks topic in the past? 😛Posted by lisabethur8Thanks. I could never hate someone that I care or cared about. So if I love you, you'll always have a piece of my heart and I will always treat you with respect and wish you the best.Posted by saggurl88Posted by lisabethur8You ask how to cure unrequited love,so I answered.Posted by saggurl88whaa?? really?
I love the feeling of being in love, so I don't mind unrequited love. I fall in love fast and fall out just as fast, It's the middle that lingers a while.
It's like a constant, low buzz love feeling that never really goes away, If I ever really loved you. It gets ignored and I move on and fall in love again.
Right now I'm in the in between stage. The awful longing until something new and shiny pulls my interest again. Then it will all be background noise and a relief!
you dont want someone to love you back? 😕
One question has nothing o do with the other lol
Of course I want love back, but there is always someone for everyone. If you don't choose me, then I will move on.
lol ah ok.
so like, admiring a celebrity guy like Ryan gosling or Jay-z or something like that?
anyway good attitude at the end.
I don't admire celebrities. They are out of reach and unrealistic.
I'm very logical, I don't fantasize much.
well yeah i get you. it's unrealistic.click to expand

Posted by Leo188881i agree with you. i just '" get you" ... my ego and pride, i feel disgusted otherwise. and i dont like being disgusted by myself. i want to be happy. we only have short time in this world...i have a very selfish attitude in love.
I don't believe you can force someone to feel something they don't. Chasing someone with no interest in me is a waste of energy and I don't think I could handle that type of rejection. It would destroy my ego and pride.
I'm not comfortable with someone i am not interested in having unrequited love for me either. I feel bad rejecting people and don't like leading someone on. They would creep me out.
To cure it, i think you need to realise that you deserve someone who loves you back. And you should not settle for anything less than that.
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i was reminded earlier with a discussion with @sierra on a subject earlier, how alot of people fall for someone but the other person doesn't want them back equally.
how does one cure this?
i've seen this over the years, on this forum also readin alot of articles and books, tv shows you name it..so it's very very common.
ever experienced this and you can't find a good connection with someone?
how does one just move on? do these videos and books help?