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love?

i was reminded earlier with a discussion with @sierra on a subject earlier, how alot of people fall for someone but the other person doesn't want them back equally.

how does one cure this?

i've seen this over the years, on this forum also readin alot of articles and books, tv shows you name it..so it's very very common.









ever experienced this and you can't find a good connection with someone?

how does one just move on? do these videos and books help?





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this also helps



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but this is not just for women...

men TOO get unrequited.



edit

if you watch the first video.

it's seeing the person for who they really aren't....which is ALSO another form. like you dont see their flaws as much.



but what IF you know ALL their flaws, you live with them and they are still sooooo horrible??

but you still want them no matter what??

so the video doesn't really cover that.
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Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Nothing you can do apart from wait. If you recognise it’s unrequited you have to separate yourself which is painful. Then wait for time to ease the pain. You gradually stop thinking about the person.

I was there about a year ago and it sucked. May have even started a couple of self-pitying threads.
moving away to a different state, or city would help too you think?



are you in a better place now than you were a year ago?
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yes, the video explains that you dont see their flaws that they are a bitch awful spends all your money, is inconsiderate, mean and a bully and bad to your family ect ect all the awful things..

for a man, he is an abuser, a gaslighter, cruel, withholds from you everything, and never home, but you still WANT him....

the video doesn't cover that. That there are people who know all about their lover's flaws and you still want them. It's sick.

it's really about connection or something?
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it's right in the word, you quit
quit?



more information...
sometimes when you're feeling someone and aren't sure how they're feeling that's sign #1 so you try to check if everything is okay between you two that's sign #2 now you definitely want to make sure it's unrequited and not miscommunication so you try to make plans that's sign #3

by sign #3 you gotta classic red wagon that heavy L and quit while you're ahead
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eject right away so you dont fall further in love....
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Posted by lisabethur8
love?

i was reminded earlier with a discussion with @sierra on a subject earlier, how alot of people fall for someone but the other person doesn't want them back equally.

how does one cure this?

i've seen this over the years, on this forum also readin alot of articles and books, tv shows you name it..so it's very very common.









ever experienced this and you can't find a good connection with someone?

how does one just move on? do these videos and books help?








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Kill all your feelings and become happy again.

We only suffer as long as we want to.
Are you a Superman in real life?
No, but I lived 10 years with next to no emotions at all due to childhood traumata.

Thanks to that I can kill off most of my emotions if needed. 🙂
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So you realize not everyone can do what you can because they aren’t you?

If people could kill their emotions...Dxp would be 100% astrological forum!

😂
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Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Nothing you can do apart from wait. If you recognise it’s unrequited you have to separate yourself which is painful. Then wait for time to ease the pain. You gradually stop thinking about the person.

I was there about a year ago and it sucked. May have even started a couple of self-pitying threads.
moving away to a different state, or city would help too you think?



are you in a better place now than you were a year ago?
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No, moving away doesn't do anything to help that situation. In my opinion it just makes it more difficult.

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This is a subject you should probably stay quiet on because your aqua sun foot in mouth stuff isn’t helpful.

Lives are destroyed by this shit. For a lot of people it’s not jus a “fun” thread on dxp.
not everything is about "fun"

i like fun too but not all the time. I like messy stuff and getting to the "heart" of a subject.

this stuff is REAL.

it happens all the time, and it is good to address it.



but fine, everyone can just explain away since they are better at it.
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This is a subject you should probably stay quiet on because your aqua sun foot in mouth stuff isn’t helpful.

Lives are destroyed by this shit. For a lot of people it’s not jus a “fun” thread on dxp.
The more she writes the more i dislike her

Its better she sticks to dumb Hollywood crap
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lol pot meet kettle. hey i saw your topic on middle eastern subjects. lol
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love?

i was reminded earlier with a discussion with @sierra on a subject earlier, how alot of people fall for someone but the other person doesn't want them back equally.

how does one cure this?

i've seen this over the years, on this forum also readin alot of articles and books, tv shows you name it..so it's very very common.

ever experienced this and you can't find a good connection with someone?

how does one just move on? do these videos and books help?



Moved out of the country where it took place, then trown professional career away and started a physical job, met new people.
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where were you before? did you move far?
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This scene helps and is kind of a summation of the philosophy I've adopted which is to know that it is okay to love and miss someone ....it's not a bad thing.

Send them love and light every time they just happen to cross your mind...and then drop it.




didnt she leave her husband in that film? they had a very lukewarm relationship and she wanted more...
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Kill all your feelings and become happy again.

We only suffer as long as we want to.
Are you a Superman in real life?
Not a good example, Superman could never move on from Louis Lane 🤓
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oh my god....

i dont think he could love anyone else. and he could have anyone. -_-

what do you think of lois lane?
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It's painful and might took you a long time before you heal.

Been there once and I will never allow myself to ever be in that situation again. I am glad I managed to get through it.

Not everyone will understand unless they've been there.
i've been there. with my first husband. i knew he loved me but he couldnt reciprocate the way i wanted him to, in a normal relationshiip. It was always him and other women he wanted to play, and drugs and alcohol were his no.1 lover. that TOO is a form or unrequited.
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Posted by Gemitati
Posted by Seleukos
Kill all your feelings and become happy again.

We only suffer as long as we want to.
Are you a Superman in real life?
No, but I lived 10 years with next to no emotions at all due to childhood traumata.

Thanks to that I can kill off most of my emotions if needed. 🙂
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um what happened in your childhood? :/

if you dont wanna say...that's fine.
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@lisabethur8

This is a subject you should probably stay quiet on because your aqua sun foot in mouth stuff isn’t helpful.

Lives are destroyed by this shit. For a lot of people it’s not jus a “fun” thread on dxp.
The more she writes the more i dislike her

Its better she sticks to dumb Hollywood crap


lol pot meet kettle. hey i saw your topic on middle eastern subjects. lol
Is that you and your husband in the pics?
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no, that's another aquarius sun, she's french. lol and he's a double virgo.

if you thought he was kind of cute, it's probably cause he is a virgo lol (since you used to like virgo men)
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Posted by Gemitati
Posted by Seleukos
Kill all your feelings and become happy again.

We only suffer as long as we want to.
Are you a Superman in real life?
Not a good example, Superman could never move on from Louis Lane 🤓
oh my god....

i dont think he could love anyone else. and he could have anyone. -_-

what do you think of lois lane?
She's boring and lame
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lol i find superman boring too.

but they is good together 😄
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https://www.facebook.com/CoachMatthewHussey/videos/1496088253743573/

This shifted my mindset on unrequited love.
did that article /video really help you?

It really did. It reminded me of the past when I’d keep pushing for something to happen with people who never even deserved me to start with!

Honestly it has to do with your self love, if you love yourself so much you wouldn’t accept someone who doesn’t love you into your life.

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'

that is perfect. yes.



forgiving yourself and loving yourself.
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It's painful and might took you a long time before you heal.

Been there once and I will never allow myself to ever be in that situation again. I am glad I managed to get through it.

Not everyone will understand unless they've been there.
If you can manage to never get into it again - all power to you. ❤️
The only way to never get into it again, is by staying single. That's the best, honey.

Send me a blow up doll will you? I want the one that looks like Enrique.

Thanks a million! ❤
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As soon as receive a million from you - I’ll thank you and send you best doll ever!

😱...waiting...lol
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love?

i was reminded earlier with a discussion with @sierra on a subject earlier, how alot of people fall for someone but the other person doesn't want them back equally.

how does one cure this?

i've seen this over the years, on this forum also readin alot of articles and books, tv shows you name it..so it's very very common.

ever experienced this and you can't find a good connection with someone?

how does one just move on? do these videos and books help?



Moved out of the country where it took place, then trown professional career away and started a physical job, met new people.
where were you before? did you move far?

Was out of home country Portugal to work in africa for 1 year then moved back to home country for few months

then moved to north europe Netherlands, took almost an year to get over but i did.
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do you miss portugal?

you worked in africa for a year? what type of work do you do?
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Posted by Senorita_LL
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by Senorita_LL
It's painful and might took you a long time before you heal.

Been there once and I will never allow myself to ever be in that situation again. I am glad I managed to get through it.

Not everyone will understand unless they've been there.
If you can manage to never get into it again - all power to you. ❤️
The only way to never get into it again, is by staying single. That's the best, honey.

Send me a blow up doll will you? I want the one that looks like Enrique.

Thanks a million! ❤
As soon as receive a million from you - I’ll thank you and send you best doll ever!

😱...waiting...lol
Are we talking about those sex dolls?
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For a million I think I can manage to get her real one! Lol
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Posted by lisabethur8
love?

i was reminded earlier with a discussion with @sierra on a subject earlier, how alot of people fall for someone but the other person doesn't want them back equally.

how does one cure this?

i've seen this over the years, on this forum also readin alot of articles and books, tv shows you name it..so it's very very common.









ever experienced this and you can't find a good connection with someone?

how does one just move on? do these videos and books help?









I have never experienced that.

I can have a crush but if the other person doesn’t care as much as I do I am just unable to fall completely for them.

The same if they would stop loving me. I just move on very easily.

I think I am very weird 😄
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https://www.facebook.com/CoachMatthewHussey/videos/1496088253743573/

This shifted my mindset on unrequited love.
did that article /video really help you?

It really did. It reminded me of the past when I’d keep pushing for something to happen with people who never even deserved me to start with!

Honestly it has to do with your self love, if you love yourself so much you wouldn’t accept someone who doesn’t love you into your life.



'

that is perfect. yes.



forgiving yourself and loving yourself.


YES LISA! Forgive yourself... it starts there, understand that it’s not your fault and don’t regret feelings you felt, this is just how YOU love and it’s beautiful and it’s loyal. Forgive them for being too weak to see it.

We accept the love we think we deserve. He doesn’t think he deserves you.
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i have this recommendation for you....it's on Netflix. it's beautiful and it's about forgiving yourself....



Rita's season 4. It's best if you saw the first 3 seasons years ago. but season 4 came out...and wow..

it brought tears to my eyes.

here she's shown as a teenager,at 15-16...and she did some really really bad things..

you have to watch it. it's about her and forgiving herself. there's something we do in ourselves that we dont see. and how we lose people we love.



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This is a subject you should probably stay quiet on because your aqua sun foot in mouth stuff isn’t helpful.

Lives are destroyed by this shit. For a lot of people it’s not jus a “fun” thread on dxp.
The more she writes the more i dislike her

Its better she sticks to dumb Hollywood crap


lol pot meet kettle. hey i saw your topic on middle eastern subjects. lol
Is that you and your husband in the pics?
no, that's another aquarius sun, she's french. lol and he's a double virgo.

if you thought he was kind of cute, it's probably cause he is a virgo lol (since you used to like virgo men)


Hee looks like a Leo

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leo rising most likely.
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Posted by lisabethur8
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Posted by Gemitati
Posted by Seleukos
Kill all your feelings and become happy again.

We only suffer as long as we want to.
Are you a Superman in real life?
Not a good example, Superman could never move on from Louis Lane 🤓
oh my god....

i dont think he could love anyone else. and he could have anyone. -_-

what do you think of lois lane?
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Anyone and everyone! Hmm Louis Lane.... she would move on by becoming a badass maybe?

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This scene helps and is kind of a summation of the philosophy I've adopted which is to know that it is okay to love and miss someone ....it's not a bad thing.

Send them love and light every time they just happen to cross your mind...and then drop it.




didnt she leave her husband in that film? they had a very lukewarm relationship and she wanted more...
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yeah the movie is based on the book but again the book and the movie take place after she had been married for awhile.

fun fact

she also divorced the guy she met in in bali after they had been married for 10 years.

turns out she had been in love with one of her best friends for a long time who happens to be a woman who now has terminal cancer.

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Posted by lisabethur8
love?

i was reminded earlier with a discussion with @sierra on a subject earlier, how alot of people fall for someone but the other person doesn't want them back equally.

how does one cure this?

i've seen this over the years, on this forum also readin alot of articles and books, tv shows you name it..so it's very very common.









ever experienced this and you can't find a good connection with someone?

how does one just move on? do these videos and books help?








As someone who has had my love be unwanted by another fairly recently, I believe I can offer a decent opinion.

In my case, the best thing for it is to move on. I realised my choice would likely never look at me in that light so I moved on, with the help of very bad treatment from her. I would always recommend to move on as you could be waiting there for years when there is like hundreds of other out there who would be better for you. No point squandering the time you could me meeting more people and better people by focussing on just one who doesn't feel the same way.
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Posted by lisabethur8
Posted by Caramel_Princess
https://www.facebook.com/CoachMatthewHussey/videos/1496088253743573/

This shifted my mindset on unrequited love.
did that article /video really help you?

It really did. It reminded me of the past when I’d keep pushing for something to happen with people who never even deserved me to start with!

Honestly it has to do with your self love, if you love yourself so much you wouldn’t accept someone who doesn’t love you into your life.



'

that is perfect. yes.



forgiving yourself and loving yourself.


YES LISA! Forgive yourself... it starts there, understand that it’s not your fault and don’t regret feelings you felt, this is just how YOU love and it’s beautiful and it’s loyal. Forgive them for being too weak to see it.

We accept the love we think we deserve. He doesn’t think he deserves you.


i have this recommendation for you....it's on Netflix. it's beautiful and it's about forgiving yourself....



Rita's season 4. It's best if you saw the first 3 seasons years ago. but season 4 came out...and wow..

it brought tears to my eyes.

here she's shown as a teenager,at 15-16...and she did some really really bad things..

you have to watch it. it's about her and forgiving herself. there's something we do in ourselves that we dont see. and how we lose people we love.




Sounds amazing, I need that. I haven’t dealt with my demons and my mistakes and I beat myself so badly over them. I’ll watch it!
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many times, many of us have done something horribly bad, like taking revenge doing something we know deep down is bad...

other times, someone did something bad to US, and we blame ourselves, and think we're the bad ones, and sometimes the mind and heart /soul can't handle it, then there's that cycle of not forgiving yourself, and people drown themselves in alcohol or drugs, thinking that numbing it is best.

yeah i hope you watch it!! 8 episodes.

it'd be cool if you saw the first few seasons but if you dont have time, you can still watch this 4th season and go back.
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This scene helps and is kind of a summation of the philosophy I've adopted which is to know that it is okay to love and miss someone ....it's not a bad thing.

Send them love and light every time they just happen to cross your mind...and then drop it.




didnt she leave her husband in that film? they had a very lukewarm relationship and she wanted more...
yeah the movie is based on the book but again the book and the movie take place after she had been married for awhile.

fun fact

she also divorced the guy she met in in bali after they had been married for 10 years.

turns out she had been in love with one of her best friends for a long time who happens to be a woman who now has terminal cancer.

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plot twist. her heart was always with that one woman, and she probably was keeping it closet.

probably why her relationships with men were not enough.
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I love the feeling of being in love, so I don't mind unrequited love. I fall in love fast and fall out just as fast, It's the middle that lingers a while.

It's like a constant, low buzz love feeling that never really goes away, If I ever really loved you. It gets ignored and I move on and fall in love again.

Right now I'm in the in between stage. The awful longing until something new and shiny pulls my interest again. Then it will all be background noise and a relief!
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I love the feeling of being in love, so I don't mind unrequited love. I fall in love fast and fall out just as fast, It's the middle that lingers a while.

It's like a constant, low buzz love feeling that never really goes away, If I ever really loved you. It gets ignored and I move on and fall in love again.

Right now I'm in the in between stage. The awful longing until something new and shiny pulls my interest again. Then it will all be background noise and a relief!
whaa?? really?

you dont want someone to love you back? 😕

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I love the feeling of being in love, so I don't mind unrequited love. I fall in love fast and fall out just as fast, It's the middle that lingers a while.

It's like a constant, low buzz love feeling that never really goes away, If I ever really loved you. It gets ignored and I move on and fall in love again.

Right now I'm in the in between stage. The awful longing until something new and shiny pulls my interest again. Then it will all be background noise and a relief!
whaa?? really?

you dont want someone to love you back? 😕



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You ask how to cure unrequited love,so I answered.

One question has nothing o do with the other lol

Of course I want love back, but there is always someone for everyone. If you don't choose me, then I will move on.
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I love the feeling of being in love, so I don't mind unrequited love. I fall in love fast and fall out just as fast, It's the middle that lingers a while.

It's like a constant, low buzz love feeling that never really goes away, If I ever really loved you. It gets ignored and I move on and fall in love again.

Right now I'm in the in between stage. The awful longing until something new and shiny pulls my interest again. Then it will all be background noise and a relief!
whaa?? really?

you dont want someone to love you back? 😕




You ask how to cure unrequited love,so I answered.

One question has nothing o do with the other lol

Of course I want love back, but there is always someone for everyone. If you don't choose me, then I will move on.

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lol ah ok.

so like, admiring a celebrity guy like Ryan gosling or Jay-z or something like that?



anyway good attitude at the end.



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This shifted my mindset on unrequited love.
Just saw it. I feel I agree on it to an extent, but not completely. I feel alot of times someone who we want, they also might feel attracted to us but can deny us for various reasons which are GENUINE, and need to be talked through together.
Exactly. There's is the issue of mutual self-sabotage. In other words, the love isn't necessarily unrequited - the other person is just too scared and overwhelmed with the speed of things and out of fear of losing control, does or says something rash and insensitive that they later regret. I suspect this is the case between the Virgo chick at work. Without going into details, I did everything I fucking could to sabotage the motherfucker. Looking back, I needed my ass kicked ... and she couldn't kick that high. There is something in me that believes unrequited love is all I'm fit for, all I deserve, and goes about making sure it fucking happens.

On the flip side of the coin, her self-sabotage could very well be the premature blocking and unfriending because the speed and intensity was overwhelming and she was afraid of dealing with her own feelings let alone mine. She's got her Scorpio Venus and Pluto in the 12th house, indicating self-sabotage in the repression of feelings and the routine sweeping of things under the rug.

Have you ever got the vibe that somebody wants to clear the air, have the fight, and make up but just doesn't know how to go about it and/or dreads it from happening because they're scared of confrontation or scared or eating unrequited love from how poorly they treated you?!? That's the vibe I'm getting. That's my gut feeling and I gotta trust it BUT I also have to leave that ball in her court ...
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that doesn't sound unrequited imo, it sounds like those gals liked you. i mean they chased you and you blocked them. -_-

soooo you weren't interested.

aquarius venus problems with men....

MOON or VENUS in AQUARIUS

The type of woman who attracts you is intelligent, independent, free-spirited, and a good conversationalist. Should she keep you guessing, or be a bit off-beat or unconventional, she'll fascinate you - but if she's too emotional, you'll pass.

Especially while young, you may be drawn to women who are not really available for a lasting relationship (because of distance or inability to make commitments, or a prior commitment to someone else).

This is usually because you may not yet be ready to make lasting commitments, and value your "space" and freedom more than emotional bonds or truly intimate relationships.

When you are ready to commit, you will. Meanwhile, you may be attracted to "free spirits", "space cadets", or even somewhat "strange" women.

Idealists or rebels also have a particular appeal to you. Politics may play a part in the attraction. Political foes might make strange bedfellows. (continued)

©2000-2017 by Michael Star




words from michael star, professional astrologer.



eeeekkk..



my pisces aunt has an aquarius venus and she's with an aquarius man with aquarius venus.

our pisces uncle has this venus too and he's with a libra woman with libra venus.



you are a cappy with aqua venus...eeeek...



you need a woman with air venus.



any other libra venus or gemini venus women around—

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I love the feeling of being in love, so I don't mind unrequited love. I fall in love fast and fall out just as fast, It's the middle that lingers a while.

It's like a constant, low buzz love feeling that never really goes away, If I ever really loved you. It gets ignored and I move on and fall in love again.

Right now I'm in the in between stage. The awful longing until something new and shiny pulls my interest again. Then it will all be background noise and a relief!
whaa?? really?

you dont want someone to love you back? 😕




You ask how to cure unrequited love,so I answered.

One question has nothing o do with the other lol

Of course I want love back, but there is always someone for everyone. If you don't choose me, then I will move on.




lol ah ok.

so like, admiring a celebrity guy like Ryan gosling or Jay-z or something like that?



anyway good attitude at the end.



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Thanks. I could never hate someone that I care or cared about. So if I love you, you'll always have a piece of my heart and I will always treat you with respect and wish you the best.

I don't admire celebrities. They are out of reach and unrealistic.

I'm very logical, I don't fantasize much.
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Posted by saggurl88
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Posted by saggurl88
Posted by lisabethur8
Posted by saggurl88
I love the feeling of being in love, so I don't mind unrequited love. I fall in love fast and fall out just as fast, It's the middle that lingers a while.

It's like a constant, low buzz love feeling that never really goes away, If I ever really loved you. It gets ignored and I move on and fall in love again.

Right now I'm in the in between stage. The awful longing until something new and shiny pulls my interest again. Then it will all be background noise and a relief!
whaa?? really?

you dont want someone to love you back? 😕




You ask how to cure unrequited love,so I answered.

One question has nothing o do with the other lol

Of course I want love back, but there is always someone for everyone. If you don't choose me, then I will move on.




lol ah ok.

so like, admiring a celebrity guy like Ryan gosling or Jay-z or something like that?



anyway good attitude at the end.




Thanks. I could never hate someone that I care or cared about. So if I love you, you'll always have a piece of my heart and I will always treat you with respect and wish you the best.

I don't admire celebrities. They are out of reach and unrealistic.

I'm very logical, I don't fantasize much.
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didnt you participate in a celebrity hot man looks topic in the past? 😛



well yeah i get you. it's unrealistic.
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Posted by lisabethur8
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Posted by lisabethur8
Posted by saggurl88
Posted by lisabethur8
Posted by saggurl88
I love the feeling of being in love, so I don't mind unrequited love. I fall in love fast and fall out just as fast, It's the middle that lingers a while.

It's like a constant, low buzz love feeling that never really goes away, If I ever really loved you. It gets ignored and I move on and fall in love again.

Right now I'm in the in between stage. The awful longing until something new and shiny pulls my interest again. Then it will all be background noise and a relief!
whaa?? really?

you dont want someone to love you back? 😕




You ask how to cure unrequited love,so I answered.

One question has nothing o do with the other lol

Of course I want love back, but there is always someone for everyone. If you don't choose me, then I will move on.




lol ah ok.

so like, admiring a celebrity guy like Ryan gosling or Jay-z or something like that?



anyway good attitude at the end.




Thanks. I could never hate someone that I care or cared about. So if I love you, you'll always have a piece of my heart and I will always treat you with respect and wish you the best.

I don't admire celebrities. They are out of reach and unrealistic.

I'm very logical, I don't fantasize much.
didnt you participate in a celebrity hot man looks topic in the past? 😛



well yeah i get you. it's unrealistic.
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It's not unrequited love if they don't know you exist!! 😂😂😂😂
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Posted by saggurl88
Posted by lisabethur8
Posted by saggurl88
Posted by lisabethur8
Posted by saggurl88
Posted by lisabethur8
Posted by saggurl88
I love the feeling of being in love, so I don't mind unrequited love. I fall in love fast and fall out just as fast, It's the middle that lingers a while.

It's like a constant, low buzz love feeling that never really goes away, If I ever really loved you. It gets ignored and I move on and fall in love again.

Right now I'm in the in between stage. The awful longing until something new and shiny pulls my interest again. Then it will all be background noise and a relief!
whaa?? really?

you dont want someone to love you back? 😕




You ask how to cure unrequited love,so I answered.

One question has nothing o do with the other lol

Of course I want love back, but there is always someone for everyone. If you don't choose me, then I will move on.




lol ah ok.

so like, admiring a celebrity guy like Ryan gosling or Jay-z or something like that?



anyway good attitude at the end.




Thanks. I could never hate someone that I care or cared about. So if I love you, you'll always have a piece of my heart and I will always treat you with respect and wish you the best.

I don't admire celebrities. They are out of reach and unrealistic.

I'm very logical, I don't fantasize much.
didnt you participate in a celebrity hot man looks topic in the past? 😛



well yeah i get you. it's unrealistic.
It's not unrequited love if they don't know you exist!! 😂😂😂😂
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i beg to differ!! 😄

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I could never do unrequited love, since receiving love, attention and sex are essential for me to fall in love in the first place.

However, I've been left in the cold a few times, when the one I loved checked out, after several months or years.

The solution is to move on by loving someone else. Obviously, time is required. The reason why I'm still thinking about my last ex, is because I can't be bothered to date someone else.
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I don't believe you can force someone to feel something they don't. Chasing someone with no interest in me is a waste of energy and I don't think I could handle that type of rejection. It would destroy my ego and pride.

I'm not comfortable with someone i am not interested in having unrequited love for me either. I feel bad rejecting people and don't like leading someone on. They would creep me out.

To cure it, i think you need to realise that you deserve someone who loves you back. And you should not settle for anything less than that.
i agree with you. i just '" get you" ... my ego and pride, i feel disgusted otherwise. and i dont like being disgusted by myself. i want to be happy. we only have short time in this world...i have a very selfish attitude in love.

@undine, yeah i understand you too, it's just not my cup of tea either.
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