@imnotvirgo
8 Years500+ PostsVirgo
Dear dxp people,I need pro tips on how to tame my jealousy
Posted by Supes
What makes you insecure when you look in the mirror?
The other person in the mirror, running away. 😆
Posted by Supes
What makes you insecure when you look in the mirror?The other person in the mirror, running away. 😆
Lol, right. Never blame yourself.
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My nose is huge tho 🙏
Posted by DeleterNerd
Don't date assholes. That cures Virgo jealousy.
The scorp im dating is a good guy by any means, however if he shares a story involving a girl in it I'm ready to kill. Just awful. Discussed it with him, told me we gotta work on me, meanwhile I ask for advices from yall cuz why not
Posted by Squishy_Marshmallow
Make them jealous insteadBe the first to walk away
Used to do that, no problem when it comes to hm short relationships or ones you're not investing into, but now when its serious ,long term and everything i kinda feel too weak to do that, just while thinking about it 😄
Posted by DeleterNerd
Don't date assholes. That cures Virgo jealousy.The scorp im dating is a good guy by any means, however if he shares a story involving a girl in it I'm ready to kill. Just awful. Discussed it with him, told me we gotta work on me, meanwhile I ask for advices from yall cuz why not
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I think it’s his fault too for making you jealous. He makes you insecure by his behavior. It’s a two way thing. You get jealous because you don’t feel secure because he is making you jealous.
Posted by John_bass
Be the one people get jealous about focus on your craft, people are not worth being jealous about.
True. Now I feel fab
Posted by TheRabbit
Jealousy stems from low self esteem.Work on yourself first.
Then when the Scorpio your with does something stupid like talk about other women to you, you can tell him to go fuck himself and walk away for someone better.
Of course,of course, first thing first im gonna build up the confidence, about the other thing tho, he just randomly tells a story about work colleagues, that's why I think I'm the problematic persona here
These feelings are normal and will likely not go away. It’s how you respond to them that reflects your self worth, self esteem and the strength of your relationship. You just need to learn how to cope when they arise. google emotional intelligence
Also, he’s a Scorpio so he knows how to get under your skin. I bet he intentionally did this just to get an emotional reaction from you. If it was me, I would give him a dose of his own medicine and see how he feels about that.
Posted by John_bass
Be the one people get jealous about focus on your craft, people are not worth being jealous about.True. Now I feel fab
Lol do you have Leo Venus too? With Leo Venus I think its less of a self esteem thing and more of an ego thing. Like how dare you not be focused on how much you like me right now when I let you hang around me. That might be somewhat of an issue I have...
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Eh, sadly I got cancer venus 😄 Whats your chart tho, you sound pretty cool
Posted by clownloyal
cut the spiritual cord
I would love to know what do you mean :d
Posted by MiZLeo
Virgo's get jealous? Wow.I get jealous too. Leo. It's mostly a don't like sharing and don't like competition thing. I don't have complete control over it but I try and think about all the flaws in the guy I'm getting jealous over and laugh at the other girl having no idea what she is getting into. Like if he has a small dick then I laugh cause she doesn't know he has a small dick. If it's an old girlfriend and she probably knows he has a small dick then I try to think that she is the one laughing at me cause she is free of his small dick.
Funny 😆
Posted by MiZLeo
Virgo's get jealous? Wow.I get jealous too. Leo. It's mostly a don't like sharing and don't like competition thing. I don't have complete control over it but I try and think about all the flaws in the guy I'm getting jealous over and laugh at the other girl having no idea what she is getting into. Like if he has a small dick then I laugh cause she doesn't know he has a small dick. If it's an old girlfriend and she probably knows he has a small dick then I try to think that she is the one laughing at me cause she is free of his small dick.
Ahahaha, beautiful example, now I'm also laughing with all of yall at your dude's small chucky . Anyhow, it's a pretty nice way to calm yourself. The only thing that kinda helps me now is to tell myself that if its supposed to happen it will happen. Thats just how it is, the good thing is that i'll be able to flirt and fuck freely with whoever the fck i want < 3
Are you a Virgo? lol!
Posted by LibraLovesHim
Are you a Virgo? lol!
I am indeed. Virgo with a lot of earth in her, one boring mofoka
Posted by CreativeCap
These feelings are normal and will likely not go away. It’s how you respond to them that reflects your self worth, self esteem and the strength of your relationship. You just need to learn how to cope when they arise. google emotional intelligenceAlso, he’s a Scorpio so he knows how to get under your skin. I bet he intentionally did this just to get an emotional reaction from you. If it was me, I would give him a dose of his own medicine and see how he feels about that.
I'm looking up the emotional intelligence. Thank you! For now I'm going to ignore Scorpios famous manipulation skills and work on myself, if there are still problems afterwards..
Posted by John_bass
Be the one people get jealous about focus on your craft, people are not worth being jealous about.True. Now I feel fab
Lol do you have Leo Venus too? With Leo Venus I think its less of a self esteem thing and more of an ego thing. Like how dare you not be focused on how much you like me right now when I let you hang around me. That might be somewhat of an issue I have...
Eh, sadly I got cancer venus 😄 Whats your chart tho, you sound pretty cool
Hmm cancer Venus. Poor cancer Venus. Similar to Leo Venus but a lot nicer and just wants pure love. Sweethearts. Hurts easily. Hard venus to have. All you can do is give him a chance and trust him. Believe that if he's good to you then nothing else is going on, and realize that cancer placements have the tendency to make you paranoid. I have the cancer moon. I have to think about how I may just be paranoid about some situations too, and luckily youre a Virgo so you can analyze and rationalize it after sudden feelings of jealousy. Just have to practice not exploding with your feelings. Always communicate your feelings to your significant other in a calm way after youve thought about it.
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Yes, it appears that the awful virgo analyzing and overthinking is actually going to help here, with coping with this particular emotion. Why is that cancer venus a so poor placement tho? My mars is also in cancer. This guy once told me that these two are awful to deal with 😄
Thank you for the advices also!
Posted by TheRabbit
Jealousy stems from low self esteem.Work on yourself first.
Then when the Scorpio your with does something stupid like talk about other women to you, you can tell him to go fuck himself and walk away for someone better.
Of course,of course, first thing first im gonna build up the confidence, about the other thing tho, he just randomly tells a story about work colleagues, that's why I think I'm the problematic persona here
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im exactly the same as you, have virgo in alot of my placements and used to hate it whenever my ex would tell me he was seeing his female friends. i dont know, i really need to work on my self confidence tbh, i would only get jealous due to the fact i rarely talk to other males once im in a committed relationship - i infact barely have any male friends at all so i wouldnt understand why my ex would want to go to the cinema/go out with another female, you know that sort of thing. but our scenario was different since it was long distance but ya
Posted by TheRabbit
Jealousy stems from low self esteem.Work on yourself first.
Then when the Scorpio your with does something stupid like talk about other women to you, you can tell him to go fuck himself and walk away for someone better.
Of course,of course, first thing first im gonna build up the confidence, about the other thing tho, he just randomly tells a story about work colleagues, that's why I think I'm the problematic persona here
im exactly the same as you, have virgo in alot of my placements and used to hate it whenever my ex would tell me he was seeing his female friends. i dont know, i really need to work on my self confidence tbh, i would only get jealous due to the fact i rarely talk to other males once im in a committed relationship - i infact barely have any male friends at all so i wouldnt understand why my ex would want to go to the cinema/go out with another female, you know that sort of thing. but our scenario was different since it was long distance but ya
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If that on your profile pic is actually you, I'm gonna be the first thing today that's going to help you with your confidence, cuz you're stunning 😄 And if you're a leo you basically have no excuse to not be confident,gurl, it's in your blood 😄 About the friends thing, here we're kinda different, because I have a crazy lot of dude friends, and an amazingly small group of girlfriends 😢 Why do you think you're not befriending guys?
Posted by clownloyal
cut the spiritual cordI would love to know what do you mean :d
http://foreverconscious.com/how-to-cut-etheric-cords-a-ritual-you-need-to-know
research more if you're still confused
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have you tried doing something like that?
Posted by imnotvirgo
Personal stories and examples would be very much appreciated,indeed. Jealousy is a freakin sicknessdepends are there reasons for it, or you just always assume the worst?
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I assume the worst automatically, there were reasons in the past with other people, now there are no reasons, just assuming
Posted by GC03
Whatever you do DON’T try to make him jelly back as a revenge. It’s the worst thing you can do.1.Emotional war is evil and manipulative and your Scorpio or any water sign will see right through it and find you repulsive for trying to play with their emotions.
2.You will make yourself look bad by degrading yourself and flirting up other guys who would normally not have a chance. You will be hurting your self and your pride to spite someone else and so once again they are winning and you are losing.
3.Its really fucked up to play with another guys emotions and just use them to try and make your guy jelly and hurt.
4.So in the end you’ll be hurting him, yourself, and everyone else involved by using that tactic.
The best thing to do would be to focus on self love/integrity as stated above. Don’t try to get even. Be yourself. Trust me that alone will have you feeling decent about yourself.
Make good choices 😘
A lot of good advice, thank you ! I believe that all of those stated above (about making someone jealous back) would bring bad carma also..
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Personal stories and examples would be very much appreciated,indeed. Jealousy is a freakin sickness