Aries Man- Pisces Man and Woman

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Posted by newtothis

Not a troll... I know it is weird. He is one year older than her, she is the a same age as me. I'm 23.

She says she was not ready to date but has kept me in her life for a long time. She's dramatic and too emotional to deal with sometimes; she does not think rationally over a situation and it is all how it affects her. Her parents are very career oriented and non-emotional people. The dad is a Capricorn principal and the mom is a Virgo German lawyer; she is a Pisces with a fashion degree and works retail currently. I'm in finance and keep trying to help her find a job that is better for a resume, but she "isn't sure if that's her passion."

He is Mexican. His mom stays home and his dad owns a construction/contracting company. He works with his dad but isn't sure what he wants to do either. He dropped out of studying engineering in college, started doing real estate classes and dropped them. I keep telling him to at least finish with something or stay and take over his dad's company, but he "isn't sure it is his passion."

While is sounds like I am pointing out their flaws, which I am, I still can't help but be enamored with both of them. Her and I would have this very nice upper middle class and probably crazy life style . Him and I would be more quiet and relaxed.

They are both wishy-washy with their careers and me, but I cannot let them both go. The truth is, they probably both don't want me and I should just go away.

Sorry, long post! I just needed to hash out my feelings.


"please help"

What kind of help are you asking for?

You're young, and so are they. No need to rush through life. Enjoy it while you have it.
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@CoffeeAndCream Thanks.

1. I am not going to answer questions about the details of my sex life.

2. Emotionally, it seems I am different with them. With her, she is definitely not a decision maker. With him, he likes to think he is a tough decision maker but really asks my opinion about everything.

However, they both always listen to me when really need to vent. But she turns my problems into her problems and how bad her life is. He tells me to grow up and go out and make money and not worry. I appreciate his encouragement more, but feel like I have more of purpose with her and I bother him. I have to be more emotionally strong with her, which she calls me cold. I tend to be more vulnerable with him, which I do not like doing.

3. I do not cheat and do not understand cheaters. If things are so bad, why not end the relationship before getting involved with another person. How selfish do you have to be to cheat.
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Posted by newtothis

Not a troll... I know it is weird. He is one year older than her, she is the a same age as me. I'm 23.

She says she was not ready to date but has kept me in her life for a long time. She's dramatic and too emotional to deal with sometimes; she does not think rationally over a situation and it is all how it affects her. Her parents are very career oriented and non-emotional people. The dad is a Capricorn principal and the mom is a Virgo German lawyer; she is a Pisces with a fashion degree and works retail currently. I'm in finance and keep trying to help her find a job that is better for a resume, but she "isn't sure if that's her passion."

He is Mexican. His mom stays home and his dad owns a construction/contracting company. He works with his dad but isn't sure what he wants to do either. He dropped out of studying engineering in college, started doing real estate classes and dropped them. I keep telling him to at least finish with something or stay and take over his dad's company, but he "isn't sure it is his passion."

While is sounds like I am pointing out their flaws, which I am, I still can't help but be enamored with both of them. Her and I would have this very nice upper middle class and probably crazy life style . Him and I would be more quiet and relaxed.

They are both wishy-washy with their careers and me, but I cannot let them both go. The truth is, they probably both don't want me and I should just go away.

Sorry, long post! I just needed to hash out my feelings.

"please help"

What kind of help are you asking for?

You're young, and so are they. No need to rush through life. Enjoy it while you have it.

Are you straight?
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What does that matter?
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Posted by TheyCallMeFalange
Posted by _Dazed
Posted by newtothis

Not a troll... I know it is weird. He is one year older than her, she is the a same age as me. I'm 23.

She says she was not ready to date but has kept me in her life for a long time. She's dramatic and too emotional to deal with sometimes; she does not think rationally over a situation and it is all how it affects her. Her parents are very career oriented and non-emotional people. The dad is a Capricorn principal and the mom is a Virgo German lawyer; she is a Pisces with a fashion degree and works retail currently. I'm in finance and keep trying to help her find a job that is better for a resume, but she "isn't sure if that's her passion."

He is Mexican. His mom stays home and his dad owns a construction/contracting company. He works with his dad but isn't sure what he wants to do either. He dropped out of studying engineering in college, started doing real estate classes and dropped them. I keep telling him to at least finish with something or stay and take over his dad's company, but he "isn't sure it is his passion."

While is sounds like I am pointing out their flaws, which I am, I still can't help but be enamored with both of them. Her and I would have this very nice upper middle class and probably crazy life style . Him and I would be more quiet and relaxed.

They are both wishy-washy with their careers and me, but I cannot let them both go. The truth is, they probably both don't want me and I should just go away.

Sorry, long post! I just needed to hash out my feelings.

"please help"

What kind of help are you asking for?

You're young, and so are they. No need to rush through life. Enjoy it while you have it.

Are you straight?

What does that matter?

Nothing
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Posted by newtothis

It just seems I want everything right now- a stable job, a nice place, a good business reputation, and a good quality relationship. Just I can't always deal with this game they seem to both be playing sometimes.


For what it's worth..

A good quality relationship, or at least the search for one.. takes time and effort. That most certainly take away from the effort you put into a stable job, a nice place, and a good business reputation. I'm not saying you can't eventually have ALL of them, but like I said.. you're young. Prioritize what you REALLY want at this moment, and go get it. The others will follow in due time.
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Posted by LadyNeptune

Crushing on more than one person isn't screwed up. Its normal af.

Don't write off the Pisces just cause she likes to flirt with other guys, after all... isn't that what you are doing in flirting with the Pisces dude. Js

And is he bisexual or gay? Cause if not your wasting a lot of time and the wrong energy on someone who just sees you as a bro.


He is wishy-washy. We first met each other in college. We talked about how I love his jaw and facial features and he told me he was attracted to how well dressed and put together I was. We talked for months and met a few times. He was super interested and then said he wasn't and he wanted to have a wife and kids, because he lives in a small town. We didn't talk for about a year. But then he messaged me out of the blue. He told me he missed me a lot and he said we were really tight, and he knows I still like him. We talk everyday, he has tried to date women but he says none of them respect him and all the work he does and they are immature and not as sophisticated as me.

She likes greasy guys who take advantage of her, I can set my watch by it. She gets super attached to people, only to ruin their friendship when they don't met her expectations. But when it is just one on one, I can't help but ignore those flaws because she knows exactly what I am thinking and feeling at all times.

They both have this hold over me and I don't get it. It's so odd they have the same birthday, too.
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Posted by newtothis

I would appreciate the sex not be brought up. Sex has nothing to do with what my original prompt was about. For the record, I have not had sex with either of them.

They both have screwed me up ha

i want to write a book about boy love, that's why i asked, do you go both ways or are you the dominate one?


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I would appreciate the sex not be brought up. Sex has nothing to do with what my original prompt was about.
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Crushing on more than one person isn't screwed up. Its normal af.

Don't write off the Pisces just cause she likes to flirt with other guys, after all... isn't that what you are doing in flirting with the Pisces dude. Js

And is he bisexual or gay? Cause if not your wasting a lot of time and the wrong energy on someone who just sees you as a bro.

He is wishy-washy. We first met each other in college. We talked about how I love his jaw and facial features and he told me he was attracted to how well dressed and put together I was. We talked for months and met a few times. He was super interested and then said he wasn't and he wanted to have a wife and kids, because he lives in a small town. We didn't talk for about a year. But then he messaged me out of the blue. He told me he missed me a lot and he said we were really tight, and he knows I still like him. We talk everyday, he has tried to date women but he says none of them respect him and all the work he does and they are immature and not as sophisticated as me.

She likes greasy guys who take advantage of her, I can set my watch by it. She gets super attached to people, only to ruin their friendship when they don't met her expectations. But when it is just one on one, I can't help but ignore those flaws because she knows exactly what I am thinking and feeling at all times.

They both have this hold over me and I don't get it. It's so odd they have the same birthday, too.
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They both sound like dead ends to me. But good luck
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Update: I sent the guy a drunk message right before Christmas and he said "leave me alone." I didn't reply and got on with my life.

Today, however, he sends me a message asking about good companies to invest in. I just said "I'm at work, but read Bloomberg to get a feel for good investments. I thought you told me to leave you alone?" He said "Only in the love life side, this is hard investment stuff!" WTH?