Can a super mutable find long term love?

Ended my 4 year relationship with my Capricorn, again...

His idea this time. I think he means it as he says "I guess I don't love you anymore". I always take his words as truth, even though I was skeptical during the whole speech as it was more emotional and tantrum like than his normal self. Thought it best to just give him the space he requested and let the unknown of our separate lives be the reality we pursue.

I still love him, and probably always will,but there were many issues.

In the end, If I have to move on, I don't really have the desire or temperament to serially date and feel my serious and goal-oriented nature is a turn off to men who are single and available. (I'm a no-fun prude)

My hope is to meet someone and build a long-term reliable connection but based on the comments I've read on here about particular placements I have like my sag moon and Aries venus, the more stable reliable people I would want to settle down with are repulsed by those natures lol.

Is their hope for a stable non-flighty relationship for someone with those kinds of placements?

The basics of my chart below for those interested.

I'd say Taurus with some fire or air in his chart.

'repulsed' is a very strong word lol! I'm an Aries Venus, don't think I've ever done that to more stable signs before..?? Let me think ?
Sorry to hear your relationship broke up hun, joking aside, do you really think he meant it, ive read on here caps often come back..?
Have you broke up before ?
I hope someone who knows more about your chart gives you some guidance on what planet placements you will best match with Š

I was going to volunteeredbut then I saw the sun sign

And, I've seen stable mutables. My mom is a mutable dominant...although she's unpredictable and unstable she is...stable lol. She's reliable.

Even Aqua would do well.

Like exstacy said, if you believe in it dont worry about what is said on websites.

That moon spoiled your sun/ascendant tastes.
Call your mom and tell her you born out of place.
You need a Cap moon to love a cap man.
On the other side...
You can try a Sag lover to fulfill your mars and venus appetite.
But your mind will keep thinking "who're you dude!" and will try to quit.

I like hearing these responses.

It weird, because I don't desire to control, and I have always thought my chart never matched up well. But I am also not chart fatalistic which means I am more than willing to compromise much of the internal conflictions for stability.

I always found I was too "freedom" oriented to want control over someone else and vice versa and in the past the main problem was dealing with partners who acted like they desired controlling women, found out I wasn't, then they would take control, and then I would disappear due to it feeling emotionally manipulative.

Maybe I fancy myself as a submissive because internally I am, but the perception of my actions might play out differently. I don't like to control, and desire I need a strong leader I can trust. Capricorn had the promise, but caved under personal responsibility, put me in control, and I freaked out.

It was an contradiction of power dynamics I just couldn't seem to grasp.

Posted by piscespoppy
'repulsed' is a very strong word lol! I'm an Aries Venus, don't think I've ever done that to more stable signs before..?? Let me think ?
Sorry to hear your relationship broke up hun, joking aside, do you really think he meant it, ive read on here caps often come back..?
Have you broke up before ?
I hope someone who knows more about your chart gives you some guidance on what planet placements you will best match with Š

We have been on and off again. So I have a hard time believing he meant it, but I don't like to be delusional so I just take him at his word and proceed as if he does. In the end, I really do as I am told with him, even if it's for me to let him go.

He would say things like he would just marry me next time around, but I think he is just looking for greener pastures after 4 years of us growing and changing so much in our relationship.

Posted by nando2002
That moon spoiled your sun/ascendant tastes.
Call your mom and tell her you born out of place.
You need a Cap moon to love a cap man.
On the other side...
You can try a Sag lover to fulfill your mars and venus appetite.
But your mind will keep thinking "who're you dude!" and will try to quit.

Maybe I need a Sag/Cap cusp lol.

I don't necessarily think your moon NEEDS to match their sun, but I do know it helps.

I think some people want their relationships to be easy, I think I have accepted that mine will have some road bumps and requiring adaptation.

Posted by Lex
I think some people want their relationships to be easy, I think I have accepted that mine will have some road bumps and requiring adaptation.

There's no such "easy" thing.
Life is not easy and you're always adapting.
Just make sure he knows that and that he remembers that also.

And don't stick to those signs.

Posted by Lex

Posted by nando2002
That moon spoiled your sun/ascendant tastes.
Call your mom and tell her you born out of place.
You need a Cap moon to love a cap man.
On the other side...
You can try a Sag lover to fulfill your mars and venus appetite.
But your mind will keep thinking "who're you dude!" and will try to quit.

Maybe I need a Sag/Cap cusp lol.

I don't necessarily think your moon NEEDS to match their sun, but I do know it helps.

I think some people want their relationships to be easy, I think I have accepted that mine will have some road bumps and requiring adaptation.

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cap and pieces

Posted by AnarchoScorpio

Posted by Lex

Posted by nando2002
That moon spoiled your sun/ascendant tastes.
Call your mom and tell her you born out of place.
You need a Cap moon to love a cap man.
On the other side...
You can try a Sag lover to fulfill your mars and venus appetite.
But your mind will keep thinking "who're you dude!" and will try to quit.

Maybe I need a Sag/Cap cusp lol.

I don't necessarily think your moon NEEDS to match their sun, but I do know it helps.

I think some people want their relationships to be easy, I think I have accepted that mine will have some road bumps and requiring adaptation.

cap and pieces

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lol right, their phone calls haunts me.

Posted by nando2002

Posted by Lex
I think some people want their relationships to be easy, I think I have accepted that mine will have some road bumps and requiring adaptation.

There's no such "easy" thing.
Life is not easy and you're always adapting.
Just make sure he knows that and that he remembers that also.

And don't stick to those signs.

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Good Advice, I'll keep it close to my heart.

If there is one mistake I did make, is closing up when I felt taken for granted, which I think he might have read as uncaring. I have a hard time exposing vulnerabilities when injured, because "pisces over sensitive" so I always take my time before voicing grievances to make sure of their legitimacy. I tend to keep negative feelings in due to what I perceived as politeness but I think he read it as insincere.

Posted by Lex

Posted by nando2002

Posted by Lex
I think some people want their relationships to be easy, I think I have accepted that mine will have some road bumps and requiring adaptation.

There's no such "easy" thing.
Life is not easy and you're always adapting.
Just make sure he knows that and that he remembers that also.

And don't stick to those signs.

Good Advice, I'll keep it close to my heart.

If there is one mistake I did make, is closing up when I felt taken for granted, which I think he might have read as uncaring. I have a hard time exposing vulnerabilities when injured, because "pisces over sensitive" so I always take my time before voicing grievances to make sure of their legitimacy. I tend to keep negative feelings in due to what I perceived as politeness but I think he read it as insincere.

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hum..... You need more work. Even more than you think.
What you see on him is you mirror.
Read what you write again and change you for him and vice-versa and you have found yourself a solution to work on it.

e.g.: He try to be polite with you, but IS you who read it unconsciousness as insincere and he goes away because he cannot take you for granted.

Posted by nando2002

Posted by Lex

Posted by nando2002

Posted by Lex
I think some people want their relationships to be easy, I think I have accepted that mine will have some road bumps and requiring adaptation.

There's no such "easy" thing.
Life is not easy and you're always adapting.
Just make sure he knows that and that he remembers that also.

And don't stick to those signs.

Good Advice, I'll keep it close to my heart.

If there is one mistake I did make, is closing up when I felt taken for granted, which I think he might have read as uncaring. I have a hard time exposing vulnerabilities when injured, because "pisces over sensitive" so I always take my time before voicing grievances to make sure of their legitimacy. I tend to keep negative feelings in due to what I perceived as politeness but I think he read it as insincere.

hum..... You need more work. Even more than you think.
What you see on him is you mirror.
Read what you write again and change you for him and vice-versa and you have found yourself a solution to work on it.

e.g.: He try to be polite with you, but IS you who read it unconsciousness as insincere and he goes away because he cannot take you for granted.

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I can see what you mean by taking that approach.

Thanks, I will go think on that.

Posted by tiziani
Lol you have one of the most uncompromising charts I've seen

Mutable could be a misnomer here, at least in some areas of your life. Especially because your post suggests you're looking for control. Could you respect someone who gave you all the reigns to the relationship?

Is it all the fire and air that makes it look uncompromising? I am not the best at chart reading, but I guessed since I had a mutable sun, moon, mercury, and mars placement that my chart would seem more changeable.

I agree my post makes me seem uncompromising. To answer your question, no I don't want the reigns in a relationship and typically date more dominant types. In the past, I generally just went with the flow of my partners, only for it not to work out usually due to me feeling like a doormat. So I guess this post is just the temporary pendulum swing in the other direction, and I try to figure out the healthy middle ground.