Cancer Guy wanting his Pisces woman back! Help

Hi, Im was in a failing Marriage,and Last year I met this beautiful Pisces woman 14 years younger than me.. Age didn't mean anything to us.. We hit it off seamlessly ... I didn't know what was about to hit me.. One day I opened up to her... she was so receptive and caring, it was amazing... she worked her magic on me and I was spell bounded! she was fully aware of my marriage and my situation but didn't care and told me she would wait it out.. I wanted to be with this woman and i had a lot of red tape to work through and work happening over last year.. It was my first time with a pisces and I was learning as I was going along with our relationship.. She told me one day she was deeply in love with me and I surely felt the same.. she was finishing up work in the city we were in and was trying to find a job.. her parents want her to move back to south america and she told me she wanted to know if something was going to happen between us. I told her i was going to leave my wife but it was gonna take some time ..we had business together houses and stuff to work through.. I never did this before and it was scary to fathom... This pisces girl made me feel like myself again, which I felt i lost in my marriage.. I love this girl deeper than the oceans she swims in... I didn't realize pisces are about action and I wasn't moving fast enough until it was getting to late.. 9 to 10 month from the time i met her til I was separated... it wasn't fast enough for my pisces girl.. I was already stress to the hilt cuz I had to much going on and she need my reassuring, my support, my understanding, my attentiveness, and most of all 100% of my love and devotion.. I was in a whirlwind of emotion and life change events .. when she was down I would pry to much only to try to help but it wasn't the support she wanted.... I didn't understand she need time to find her way..I always worked through thing with talking and emotional support.. me trying to talk to her was not a good thing for me to do.. that was my way to working through things with her.. she would allow that.. I didn't understand at the time I was making things worst... ( there is so much info in between this will explain later) she keep distancing herself from me. I was about to change my life to be with this woman.. She decide to leave to go back home, because she though I didn't love her enough , my words meant nothing, its be 2 1/2 months since she has been gone, she says she is done but she is still in love with me

Posted by giacomo007
my words meant nothing

I'm not a Pisces, but I am a woman, and I can tell you this is true for women of all signs.
Anyone can spout words, but actions are the only real indicator of a person's intentions.
It sounds like you were full of excuses as to why you didn't leave your wife right away. Sorry, but co-owning things with a spouse doesn't prevent the other from leaving. You pack a suitcase, you move out, you divide your co-owned assets during the divorce process. It's that simple.
You needed to shit or get off the pot and you just sat there. "He who hesitates is lost," well you hesitated and you lost. Dunno if she'll come back, but let this be a lesson for the next woman. Saying "I'm gonna do this" or "im gonna do that" and then failing to follow through is a great indicator that you can't be trusted.

I can understand her impatience. All women want to be the only one for the man they love. They don't want to share, not even a little. So when it was taking for ever for you to leave your wife behind you, she lost hope and it killed some feelings. If you intend on working on getting her back it's going to take a lot on your part. So, if you are unable to go full force, then just let her go. When pisces are hurt we remain hurt for a very long time. If you were in her shoes you would understand.

I totally messed up, I have never done this before, and I regret everyday i hurt this girl, I want to win her back, I have so much to give to her and so much love for her. I didn't want to hurt my ex by being mean to her, It was painful for me as well... truthfully I was scared. I do talk, and I do mean what i say though, it just takes me longer to reach the conclusion and do it.. I analyze to much thats my problem.. I wanted everyone to be cool... I fuck up, and I'm paying for it.. my pisces girl is working on a work project with me and she doesn't walk to talk about any personal stuff with me, I have tried everything but she won't let me in.. she told me awhile back that when I was completely free we could talk.. but I don't think that option available.. Im free now and I want to go to her home there.. she is staying with her mother, her mother doesn't know anything about us, it was a secret.. she knew of me... she won't give me her address or cell number to talk to her.. I can only text to her.. I haven't spoke to her in over 2 months.. I can get her address from a friend and go there to talk to her, sweep her of her feet and make a grand gesture of my love for her. Would she go for that... ? I was the closest guy she was in love with besides one other... she told later, when she met me she wanted to have my babies, she wanted to be my wife.. I want that more than anything with her.. I will do anything for this girl I will move there, I will give her the world!!! anything to give me another chance, a real chance, because what we had wasn't a real relationship just her and I.. I want that.. as a pisces, your prospective, will she forgive me and give me another chance..? I got a ticket to go see her,when I got to miami and told her I was coming, she said I won't meet with you.. we spent all night arguing(just us being protective). I told her I would respect her wishes.. its more painful to face our fears and deal with them, than walking away... I have the ticket to reschedule, Everyone is telling me to just go, go to her mothers house and show her my sincerity and true self and propose a idea of how to be together.. I will go live there if I have to.. I want her forgiveness I will do what ever it takes to make it work.. at this point my words are useless and i need to take some action.. what do you think about my idea to just go there make a huge gesture of love! and undying commitment to her.. would it freak her out if I just showed up?

Leave her alone, dude !!!


You are talking about is bordering stalking.


She wants you to leave her alone, so instead you show up where ever she is, and now want to show up on her doorstep?


It's finished, get a grip and move on with your life.

Giacomo, I'm flattered that you reached out to me personally, thinking I might be able to help you with your little problem.

Alas, I cannot give you the answer you wish for. I feel she is done. When a Mermaid is done, that's it. When the bonds are severed, they're simply GONE, as if the never were. You are barely a ripple in her Pond now.

We discussed this "swimming away" recently in this thread: https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/pisces/the-pisces-swim-do-you-guys-make-amends-2994084/
There are even more threads, if you read back a bit. Apparently people are BAFFLED when a Fish swims away, when they "flip the switch".. probably because it's seemingly SO sudden, and SO different from the way they were previously. All the warmth and love you once experienced with a Pisces might blind you to the fact that you'll never have that again, not once the Fish has moved on. Plenty of people who still harbor intense feelings for a Pisces (who has detached from them) endlessly over-analyze every word/action, and mistakenly think that means there's still a chance.. likely because a Pisces is still nice, not vicious or cruel.. RARELY moved to completely cut one off like they were dead. But make no mistake, please for your sake - the feelings are dead, the connection is DEAD. But unless you are absolutely vile and repulsive to us (or if you push us too hard/long because you can't move on) a Fish will generally remain pleasant if aloof. Until you back her into a corner. Have you heard of "Shark Mode"? Do you ever wonder what it would feel like to be attacked by a shark, to be chewed up and spat out? Back a Pisces into a corner.. even the sweetest and gentlest of us have a steel backbone and a fearsome temper. It's just hidden under layers of gentle patience and sweetness. But oh, it's there, coiled up and hissing. You're well on your way to getting to witness it firsthand.

This Pisces girl is doing her best to remain civil but detached, and not encourage you. No, she doesn't want you to chase her. She doesn't want you to show up and "sweep her off her feet." She wants you to move on, to live your life without her. She no longer wants to be part of it - because when a Mermaid wants something.. she will stop at NOTHING to get it, she will sacrifice EVERYTHING to have her heart's desire. A Fish will transform her entire life.. for love. Happily.

I'm sorry.. she does not love you anymore. You'd be better off trying to reconcile with your wife. :c

Posted by P-Angel
Leave her alone, dude !!!


You are talking about is bordering stalking.


She wants you to leave her alone, so instead you show up where ever she is, and now want to show up on her doorstep?


It's finished, get a grip and move on with your life.

Yeah!!!!!!!!!!