Do Pisceans come back after nasty arguments?

I've been seeing a Pisces for about 5 months. We're not committed but we have strong feelings almost love and a very intense connection. We see each other almost every day or 2nd day.

Pisces has an ex who was a best friend before they tried dating and it didn't work out. Pisces ended it. Pisces has made it more than clear to me and everyone in her life that she has NO romantic or sexual interest in this ex but deeply misses their friendship and the connection they had (they agreed to not speak until the ex was over her feels and could have a friendship).

So the ex has come back into the picture on Wednesday (Pisces sent the ex a text as Pisces had a nightmare involving the ex and wanted to check on her). They spoke all day Wednesday, arguing, crying, making up, arguing. Anyway the ex has hurt the Pisces deeply by some actions and words that were said. I go out for a dinner and a drink with my Pisces Wed night and she vents to me about the situation. Thursday we spend all day together and book tickets to see a show later that night spontanously (however Pisces is aware I had been wanting to take her to this as I knew she'd love it). So we booked tix. The evening comes around and I am leaving her house to go home and get ready and she was to pick me up to go 1 hour after.

10 mins after leaving her house she's calling and texting me to say ask whether Id hate her if she didnt make it to the show. She said she had completely forgotten she had agreed to see the ex that night and had double booked herself. I was obviously upset and somewhat jealous asked her if that was it she was just going to flake on me and she just went on about how the ex was really upset because the ex had wanted to take my Pisces to the same show and my Pisces had said no to her but said yes to someone else (me).

Anyway I was really hurt and carrying on the phone swearing and what not being like "are you treetrunking serious" we had plans I don't understand why the treetrunk you can't see her another time. You're both acting like its life or death" Pisces said she really needed to and wanted to see her and there was no other time possible. So I kept carrying on was like "so thats it? You're just going to cancel on me, I bought these tickets to do something nice for you to take you and you just throw it in my face and don't give a treetrunk". She was going on about how she felt extremely bad at what she was doing. I told her she didn't give a treetrunk about me because if she did she would have found a way to see the ex a different time and that I'd never do that to her no matter the situation I wouldn't leave her hanging like that. Anyway I was really dramatic about it. I was clearly upset and told her she was just a dog and that she didn't give a treetrunk about me and she said she wasn't going to sit there and argue with me or explain herself to me which angered me more. Anyway I told her "treetrunk you, you're a treetrunking dog don't ever talk to me again" and hung up.

Someone else ended up being able to make it last minute so I still went to the show. Anyway, Pisces has not made ANY contact since that call. However she hasn't blocked me off anything either which she usually does if she's upset or wanting to argue with me. She did look at my snapchat story I put up whilst at the show but that has been it. She has gone off the grid (understandably so). I also have her licence and her keycard as they were both in my wallet from when we spent Thur together.

She has a Leo moon so I assume she is being stubborn and prideful right now and is feeling hurt by the way I reacted and what I said to her. However I feel my reaction was warranted. Yes maybe the swearing and carrying on was a little excessive but as a Gemini, when we get hurt we lash out.

We had plans this weekend together on Sat and Sun also which obviously won't be happening now. I don't plan on contacting her. She needs to understand that her actions hurt me deeply and there were other ways of going about it. Anyway my question to you is, is this done from her end? Did I take it too far with my reaction?

No, you did well. You should contact her once you calm down, if you haven't done so already. Apologize for your words, but not for your actions.

I don't think she took your anger/jealousy badly.....I was in her shoes and wished that my Gem (now ex) would have reacted with similar passion.

Everyone comes back if feelings are there.

Sign doesn't matter.

Appreciate the responses. What is making me a little annoyed is she didn't and hasn't made ANY attemept to contact me whatsoever.

If I were her and I had flaked out on plans as soon as she hung that phone up on me I'd be texting her to apologise and I'd be trying to make things OK and make it up to her. I'm a little upset she hasn't tried at all. What's the deal with that? It makes me feel like she doesn't give a shit about me/us even though we don't have a commitment we know what we have and it's amazing.

If it is any help to you, I haven't made any attempts to contact my Gem ex for one year, after he got very angry with me, a few days after our breakup. I felt the relationship was over and there was nothing I could have done about it. He didn't contact me either; instead, he jumped straight onto a dating site, lol.

Didn't she say she was sorry during your last conversation? She hung up because you were angry and calling her names. She thinks you are still angry, which is putting her off from asking her licence and card back. She will eventually contact you to get them back.

I think you need to learn how to be a healthier advocate in the relationships you are in. And choose healthier people.

Yes I think she will come back. When she does I would advise you to be calm and fair and also if you decide to stay together work out healthier strategies for communicating.

This stuff can get out of hand and you cannot have a healthy successful life with that kind of drama in your personal life.

Love should be sweeter 🙂

Posted by Gem13
We're not committed but we have strong feelings almost love and a very intense connection.

10 mins after leaving her house she's calling and texting me to say ask whether Id hate her if she didnt make it to the show. She said she had completely forgotten she had agreed to see the ex that night and had double booked herself.

Anyway I was really hurt and carrying on the phone swearing and what not being like "are you treetrunking serious" we had plans I don't understand why the treetrunk you can't see her another time. Anyway I told her "treetrunk you, you're a treetrunking dog don't ever talk to me again" and hung up.

Sorry but if your not willing to lock her down in a committed monogamous relationship then you can't get upset with whom she decides to spend her time with. Step up or step aside.

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Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by Gem13
We're not committed but we have strong feelings almost love and a very intense connection.

10 mins after leaving her house she's calling and texting me to say ask whether Id hate her if she didnt make it to the show. She said she had completely forgotten she had agreed to see the ex that night and had double booked herself.

Anyway I was really hurt and carrying on the phone swearing and what not being like "are you treetrunking serious" we had plans I don't understand why the treetrunk you can't see her another time. Anyway I told her "treetrunk you, you're a treetrunking dog don't ever talk to me again" and hung up.

Sorry but if your not willing to lock her down in a committed monogamous relationship then you can't get upset with whom she decides to spend her time with. Step up or step aside.

Pretty sure OP is a woman.

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I know

I hung up on her after I called her a dog etc. Yes I probably shouldn't have acted that way but I lashed out. I was hurt and jealous. She and I both do not want a relatioship. We've discussed it many times over. We're both aware that we're able to sleep with and see other people but we're each others main. We've both gotten out of long terms relos in the past yr and neither of us a ready for another serious one. We have that understanding.

The reason I lashed out was because we had planned and booked tickets to this show. We were both excited and then last minute she cancels because the ex wanted to see her and speak. I just felt like she had no decency and her actions to just cancel on our plan showed she just had no respect and couldn't care less. That's why I got upset.

I definitely think she thinks I'm mad at her. I'm over it and I want to speak to her to make her understand things like that won't fly with me but I wanted to wait a few days maybe a week so she understands how upset/annoyed at her I am...

I'm also annoyed that she hasn't apologised AT ALL. Like wtf? Who doesn't apologise for flaking on someone? We're also not just "someone" to each other. Its much deeper than that

I'm all about swallowing my pride and making first contact. I have no problem with it. However in this case considering SHE flaked on ME for someone else I think she should be apologising and making an effort to contact me. But I guess my anger via the phone and telling her to fuck oft and never speak to me again might be what's making her keep a distance?

Ugh maybe I'll just hit her up tonight and if she's free I'll go over and talk

Text her tonight!

Thanks guys. You're all amazing and your responses are appreciated! I'll text her tonight and go from there. Will report back with updates lol

Don't text, call her. If not tonight, then later next week. Don't let yourself taken for granted.

Ugh now your comment has made me confused. When should I contact her? This is why I haven't made contact because I don't want her to think its ok (her behaviour).

And yeah was going to call.

I wonder if she'll even answer though. I have a feeling she won't

OK just rang her twice. No answer. Left her a voicemail. Let's see!

Thanks for your response.

She sent me a text telling me she doesn't want to talk to me we went back and forth a little and I told her to give me the respect I deserve by having a conversation with me and her response was that her even responding to me was giving me respect. I didn't reply.

So I guess that's that and this is a wrap. She always does this whenever an issue arises, she tries to run rather than sit and talk. But anyway, whatever it's done.

Correct but she's being stubborn and rude. Considering what we have, what we shared, the times we spent and everything I've done for her to date, you'd think the smallest amount of respect she'd give me was to allow me the chance to speak to her face to face and after that if she still wanted to end things then fine.

Instead she acts like a child, running away and ending things via a text message acting all high and mighty. Clearly the leo moon is kicking in.

OP, regardless of whether you want to continue on with her, you should call her and apologize anyway. It’s simply the right thing to do and that leads me to this:

An absence of a formal commitment doesn’t give anybody the right to waste another person’s time. You asked her, she accepted, and you took time out of your day to go to the show with her. While this is often a shared sacrifice, if I read your first post correctly, it appears she had already planned to go to the show with her ex before you asked and may have been caught off guard by you asking. Hence, the result.

My advice is to simply apologize for your actions but not why you got upset. Keep your distance. She needs to decide who she wants to be with because it appears she’s going between the both of you.

Posted by beautifulsoul74
OP, regardless of whether you want to continue on with her, you should call her and apologize anyway. It’s simply the right thing to do and that leads me to this:

An absence of a formal commitment doesn’t give anybody the right to waste another person’s time. You asked her, she accepted, and you took time out of your day to go to the show with her. While this is often a shared sacrifice, if I read your first post correctly, it appears she had already planned to go to the show with her ex before you asked and may have been caught off guard by you asking. Hence, the result.

My advice is to simply apologize for your actions but not why you got upset. Keep your distance. She needs to decide who she wants to be with because it appears she’s going between the both of you.

I would also return her license and keycard asap. Good luck

Thanks for your response. It wasn't actually like that. The ex had asked her and she had said no because she thought it would have been crappy and I asked her weeks later and she agreed. She even looked for the tickets.

Anyway it's done. I went to hers to give her back her cards and she came down and we spoke. She made it clear she had made it clear to the ex that they were never getting back and told me this time apart we've had made her realise things between us were getting too intense and we weren't being single properly. She said we are both intense and when we're together its too intense and she was scared of things progressing (she had planned for us to go away for the wknd) and she said she didn't know what she was thinking when she planned that and we were acting like we were in a relo when we both were clear we didnn't want that. She admitted she had a role to play in how intense things became between us. She needed to be alone without anyone *there* so it was best we cut contact because if we didn't then our whole saga would just continue again. We hugged for a long time and kissed on the lips and went our separate ways.

I've just gotten home and have just blocked her on all social media. Its best this way as I need to move on.

Appreciate everyone's responses.

As a pisces I'd never consider continue dating someone let alone being their friend if they talked to me they way you talked to this pisces.

It's a deal breaker.

Posted by Adreamuponwaking
As a pisces I'd never consider continue dating someone let alone being their friend if they talked to me they way you talked to this pisces.

It's a deal breaker.

C'mon, most people like dogs. Surely it's not the worst thing to be called one when you truly messed up.

Posted by Gem13
Thanks for your response. It wasn't actually like that. The ex had asked her and she had said no because she thought it would have been crappy and I asked her weeks later and she agreed. She even looked for the tickets.

Anyway it's done. I went to hers to give her back her cards and she came down and we spoke. She made it clear she had made it clear to the ex that they were never getting back and told me this time apart we've had made her realise things between us were getting too intense and we weren't being single properly. She said we are both intense and when we're together its too intense and she was scared of things progressing (she had planned for us to go away for the wknd) and she said she didn't know what she was thinking when she planned that and we were acting like we were in a relo when we both were clear we didnn't want that. She admitted she had a role to play in how intense things became between us. She needed to be alone without anyone *there* so it was best we cut contact because if we didn't then our whole saga would just continue again. We hugged for a long time and kissed on the lips and went our separate ways.

I've just gotten home and have just blocked her on all social media. Its best this way as I need to move on.

Appreciate everyone's responses.

You did well, blocking and all. She probably sees herself in high demand right now, which may be flattering, but also stressful if all she wants -relationshipswise- is to wail a bit longer in the misery of having failed with the sag.

Posted by Gem13
I hung up on her after I called her a dog etc. Yes I probably shouldn't have acted that way but I lashed out. I was hurt and jealous. She and I both do not want a relatioship. We've discussed it many times over. We're both aware that we're able to sleep with and see other people but we're each others main. We've both gotten out of long terms relos in the past yr and neither of us a ready for another serious one. We have that understanding.

The reason I lashed out was because we had planned and booked tickets to this show. We were both excited and then last minute she cancels because the ex wanted to see her and speak. I just felt like she had no decency and her actions to just cancel on our plan showed she just had no respect and couldn't care less. That's why I got upset.

I definitely think she thinks I'm mad at her. I'm over it and I want to speak to her to make her understand things like that won't fly with me but I wanted to wait a few days maybe a week so she understands how upset/annoyed at her I am...

I'm also annoyed that she hasn't apologised AT ALL. Like wtf? Who doesn't apologise for flaking on someone? We're also not just "someone" to each other. Its much deeper than that

saying you don't want a relationship isn't matching your actions. Mutually deciding you are each other's "mains" and talking about boundaries and who you can and cannot see sounds like a VERY committed Poly or OPEN relationship. Sounds to me you guys need to clarify what it is you are to one another a little more. Im going through that with my pisces rn. We spoke weeks ago on how we are a "pseudo romantic relationship/friendship" however since we are both women and poly and all that it's very transparent and my feelings yet again have changed. I LOVE HER. And I dont wan't to "tie her down". I just want mutual respect and love. And some commitment as a FRIEND. However with romance of a lover. But if she doesn't know this she will never act accordingly. Neither will I. And we will both forever be confused. I need to buckle up and tell her. Sounds to me like you said to your self you "don't want a relationship" but it also sounds like that's changed. As hurt as you are. No relationship means no commitment and she wasn't obligated to go with you to the show even if she said she would. Shit happens and maybe she wasn't emotionally prepared with all the feelings brought upon by her ex. You need to tell her you want more if thats what you want from her. Otherwise let her be. And you can't get mad about that. Well not to her face. Not if you set predetermined boundaries and expectations.

Posted by Gem13
the times we spent and everything I've done for her to date,

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So what I learned, is that for pisces, a SELFLESS act of service means the world to them. And no matter what they did to you, bringing up things you have "DONE FOR HER" may have only made it worse. As if everything you did was attached with an expectation. feel me?

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Posted by Adreamuponwaking
As a pisces I'd never consider continue dating someone let alone being their friend if they talked to me they way you talked to this pisces.

It's a deal breaker.

C'mon, most people like dogs. Surely it's not the worst thing to be called one when you truly messed up.

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dog is just another word for b*tch.

name calling can be a form of abuse.

Guys, neither of us wanted a relationship. We both were more than open with each othee about this. She told me multiple times she was happy if I slept with and dated others but she wanted to be my main chick in the sense of she wanted to be like my wifey and every other girl was just a side girl. I guess we had an OPEN relationship without ever agreeing to it based on our actions throughout this period. We acted like we were together, we slept over at each others houses often during the wk and wknd, we cooked together, went to places together, introduced each other to friends and some family. She let me in and she made it clear she doesnt just let anyone in and see the ins and outs of her personal world. She's extremely private and very few people see the REAL her but she allowed me that and I was grateful. In saying all that we had always still reminded each other and had been aware that we did not and were not ready for a relo for at least another year. However we did speak about when and if we got together often and plans for the future. We dreamt a lot and it was nice.

I didn't get upset at her flaking on the show because I expected or wanted more from her. I got upset the way I would have if ANYONE flaked whether a friend, family member or lover. Of course my reaction was much more intense because of my romantic feelings toward her. Her and I had no loyalties to one another and we knew and were open about this. The way she flaked was just innapropriate and she admitted that yesterday she said she fully deserved it and had it happened to her, she would have reacted and lost it worse than what I had so she didn't want me to apologise for what I had said.

She does have a lot going on in her world right now and she is definitely the type of person to get easily overwhelmed and stressed and when that happens she struggles with life. Well she struggles with everyday tasks more than most but still perserveres. I was always there for her and she always reached out no matter what.

I suppose my reaction made her feel like I expected an obligation from her and perhaps felt trapped or pressued but she didn't realise that it wasn an obligation it was just common courtesey. SHE made those plans with me. All day before it SHE was bringing it up and mentioning her excitement over it and then she flakes last min for nothing other than to have a conversation with someone which could have occured after the show or the following day or on the weekend etc.

Anyway theres a lot I didn't get to say to her yesterday and I hate leaving things unsaid. I am going to write her an email without expecting a response. I just want to lay it out there. As a Gemini, writing and talking helps me to find clarity and to process situations and move on. Plus I also want her to understand there was never any pressures and we were always on the same page about NOT wanting a relo. Well - not anytime soon.

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Posted by LadyNeptune
Sorry but if your not willing to lock her down in a committed monogamous relationship then you can't get upset with whom she decides to spend her time with. Step up or step aside.

This seems self-defeating to me. Why would you even want to "lock her down" in this sense then? She's only committed because you asked, not because she actually feels like you're the only one she wants. If I'm actually pre-occupied with someone, I am busy thinking about /them/, not anyone else. I don't even LOOK, because it doesn't cross my mind. The only thing on my mind the specific person I'm interested in.

I used to initiate relationships with people, and every single time the other person didn't love me. All because I had been the one to ask, so I was the one who was at all actually interested in the other person. So now I've learned to just stop trying. What's the point? I'd be better off finding the woman who isn't gonna hop on some other dick as soon as I turn my back for 2 seconds, that actually is interested in /me/ and thus has their own independent motive to be with me rather than someone else.

TL;DR: If you don't want to be locked down by me, I'm not going to lock you down. Yet if you want to be locked down by me, you'll hand yourself to me.

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You can be interested and also keep your options open. Those two aren't mutually exclusive.

That was her thing in her wanting me to keep her as my "main". Because she wasn't going to be an option. She was OK with me sleeping witj others but made it clear if I ever did she would need some space and time to process it and she would be hurt and jealous but couldn't restrain me as we weren't comitted.

However, neither of us actually slept with others because of how we felt toward each other. It was a messy situation from the start and we both knew eventually it would come down to either breaking it off or getting into a relo but would most likely end in us breaking it off as neither of us were ready for something serious anytime soon.

We both definitely loved each other to a degree. "I love you" slipped out of both of our mouths more than once. Its just sad that its ended.

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Posted by LadyNeptune
You can be interested and also keep your options open. Those two aren't mutually exclusive.

Eh, can. Doesn't mean it's not pathetic.

For me, if I'm "interested" in you. I know I will love you if we get involved. I'm not a teenage high school girl, I'm not "confused" or "uncertain" of what my feelings actually are. Whatever level of "interest" you just described, aint nothing to me. Definitely not something worth dating over, if I could just date someone else.at the snap of a finger.

That's only possible if my feelings are unfathomably weak. Like just lust or whatever, You're playing little kid games basically. If I can't differentiate between 2 people and eliminate the options down to 1 only. I'm not going to get involved with any of 1 of you.

I'm not an "option", and I don't treat other people like they are.

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"I know I will love you if we get involved".

That's a very naive way of looking at it. Just cause your interested in someone from a superficial level doesn't mean they are right for you. Only way you know if they are is to put in the time, i.e. 'date' them.

Posted by Terramine
@LadyNeptune

It's funny how much you're the Pisces Sun, but I seem more Pisces than you. It's your Aries Moon. That's why you feel as "superficially" as you do. I have Pisces Moon, my feelings are never superficial. I have never dated someone and then turned around and turned out to not feel the way I thought I did. Every single time, I loved them. Every single time /they/ broke /my/ heart.

Stop giving your love away so freely to users who 'break your heart'.

It's not superficial to want to protect yourself and vet this potential. That's the point of dating.

And if someone isn't ready to commit to me I'm not gonna wait around until they are. Why would I give up a potentially better connection with someone else for a vague hope? It doesn't make sense.

Posted by Gem13
That was her thing in her wanting me to keep her as my "main". Because she wasn't going to be an option. She was OK with me sleeping witj others but made it clear if I ever did she would need some space and time to process it and she would be hurt and jealous but couldn't restrain me as we weren't comitted.

However, neither of us actually slept with others because of how we felt toward each other. It was a messy situation from the start and we both knew eventually it would come down to either breaking it off or getting into a relo but would most likely end in us breaking it off as neither of us were ready for something serious anytime soon.

We both definitely loved each other to a degree. "I love you" slipped out of both of our mouths more than once. Its just sad that its ended.

You are both talking a big game of no strings but the reality is your wifed up. Someone needs to be brave enough to acknowledge it.

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Posted by LadyNeptune
That's a very naive way of looking at it. Just cause your interested in someone from a superficial level...

That's what I'm trying to tell you, there's no such thing. Either I'm /INTERESTED/, or I'm not. Strong emphasis on interested here. Never superficial, anything superficial is way too weak for us to be anything more than friends.

Doesn't mean they are right for you.

That has nothing to do with my feelings for them.

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If your instantly interested in someone then that is the definition of superficial. Seeing as how you don't know anything about them but the exterior. Your dick getting hard doesn't mean they are compatible.

You don't make sense.

For what I've read you caught feelings & sounds like you need anger management, if that happened to me so what , I got other ish to do, but it ain't the end of the world , she was doing her & you should do you.

I've dated a few Pisces before & im dating another one now , you're lucky all she did was dip out on you it could be worse like fuuuuck all your shiiit up.

Posted by AntiSocial
For what I've read you caught feelings & sounds like you need anger management, if that happened to me so what , I got other ish to do, but it ain't the end of the world , she was doing her & you should do you.

I've dated a few Pisces before & im dating another one now , you're lucky all she did was dip out on you it could be worse like fuuuuck all your shiiit up.

We both caught feelings. Deep feelings and we both became attached to each other. Something we both feared and tried to avoid but it happened. No it wasn't the end of the world but I was obviously hurt. Anyone would have been. I also have been doing me and I've been seeing other people which she is aware about.

She had no reason to fuck my shit up. She admitted she was in the wrong and she committed "dog" actions. She used that word herself.

Posted by nightowl
ye but if you don't have expectations you will never end up disappointed. plus she isn't yours, and since she is still talking to her ex..then maybe back off with your feelings

I never had expectations neither did she. We knew where we were at and we were always on the same page. That of we had feelings, we did see a future together but not right now and we were happy with what we had which was a friendship where we slept together, had an emotional connection and attachment but wanted to remain single.

I never claimed she was mine and I wasn't hers either.

She was very expressive with her feelings toward me. Last week she told me she was feeling vulnerable and silly because she was having the feeling that whenever she was out without me she wanted to come home to me and run into my arms and that's how she knew her feelings for me were growing more intensely.

I am backing off. I have done that already. I told her I won't contact her and will let her be. I got home after seeing her last night and blocked her off all social.media as that will help me to move on. I will check in with her in a few weeks just to see she is ok but that's as far as it will go. I have decided to not send her an email. Theres nothing more I need to say to her other than I care and she is more than aware of that so no need to beat a dead horse.

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Posted by AntiSocial
For what I've read you caught feelings & sounds like you need anger management, if that happened to me so what , I got other ish to do, but it ain't the end of the world , she was doing her & you should do you.

I've dated a few Pisces before & im dating another one now , you're lucky all she did was dip out on you it could be worse like fuuuuck all your shiiit up.

We both caught feelings. Deep feelings and we both became attached to each other. Something we both feared and tried to avoid but it happened. No it wasn't the end of the world but I was obviously hurt. Anyone would have been. I also have been doing me and I've been seeing other people which she is aware about.

She had no reason to fuck my shit up. She admitted she was in the wrong and she committed "dog" actions. She used that word herself.

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lmao how are you so sure she caught feelings, Cause she said so? Look think of yourself, she says she's wrong ? And you hang on to that who cares if what she did was wrong or right, face it u r whipped by this girl like the lil biatch that you are. Yes you do need to move on & grow 10 balls or 2 for that matter. Peacee

PS please don't fuuuckin tell me u r a Taurus omg lol

Not because she said so dickhead but because of her actions toward me for the past 5 months. She contacts me and seeks me out everyday. She calls me often to chat. She cooks me food. She takes care of me when I've been sick. She is there for me when I've needed someone and she in return reaches out for my support and advice when she has been going through things.

She lets me into her personal space which I know is rare for her to do with people. She has introduced me to various circles of friends and has asked me to attend family events with her. She asks me to sleep next to her multiple nights a week or asks if she can stay with me. She has gone out of her way to do things for me without me asking. She buys things for the both of us to share. She helps me with my health. She has spent a huge amount of her time with me. She wants to be around me and see me if not everyday then every 2nd day. She talks to me about her fears, desires and dreams. She sings to me when we've been alone and in private. She has been caring and nurting. When I'm with her she wants to be as physically close to me as possible. She has let me see sides of her sexually which she says she hasn't allowed anyone else. She has let me see her in her rawest lowest emotional points during this period and has trusted me enough to open up to me.

Her words and actions have matched in terms of her feelings toward me.

Posted by Gem13
Not because she said so dickhead but because of her actions toward me for the past 5 months. She contacts me and seeks me out everyday. She calls me often to chat. She cooks me food. She takes care of me when I've been sick. She is there for me when I've needed someone and she in return reaches out for my support and advice when she has been going through things.

She lets me into her personal space which I know is rare for her to do with people. She has introduced me to various circles of friends and has asked me to attend family events with her. She asks me to sleep next to her multiple nights a week or asks if she can stay with me. She has gone out of her way to do things for me without me asking. She buys things for the both of us to share. She helps me with my health. She has spent a huge amount of her time with me. She wants to be around me and see me if not everyday then every 2nd day. She talks to me about her fears, desires and dreams. She sings to me when we've been alone and in private. She has been caring and nurting. When I'm with her she wants to be as physically close to me as possible. She has let me see sides of her sexually which she says she hasn't allowed anyone else. She has let me see her in her rawest lowest emotional points during this period and has trusted me enough to open up to me.

Her words and actions have matched in terms of her feelings toward me.

omg stop fuuucking yourself over & over lol you think she does all that to please you? Get over yourself , she does that cause she wants to you stupid fuuckin idiot.

what have you done that you really wanted to because you want nothing in return you selfish prick

You're an actual fucking idiot.

Posted by Terramine
@Gem13

OP it's obvious this person is lying about being over the friend. I'm just telling you the blunt truth of the matter. She wouldn't act this way if she wasn't basically hoping to get romantically involved with this person. So you're the 3rd wheel at this point to their bullshit relationship drama.

What you do knowing this fact, is up to you. I'm just sending the message along. Personally I wouldn't get involved with someone this immature, if simply to retain your sanity.

I know they had a deep connection and a very tight friendship. Best friends and were super close which led to confusion and trying their hand at dating. The Pisces ended their relo after 2 wks realising its not what she wanted and she didn't have sexual/romantic feelings for the friend. The friend on the other hand was falling in love. I've been aware of their whole dynamic much before the Pisces and I got involved and have been aware of it throughout. I honestly do not believe the ending of things with me is due to her getting back with the ex.

Pisces has always spoken to me about her and their sitch. Has been open about it both with myself and friends and has had conversations with the ex where I have been present and listening. I don't feel its related to the ex but I do know she did miss the ex very much.

But again, we're done so theres no further involvement between us.

@Terramine, you've lost me buddy.

What do you mean who is acting offended by putting a lover over them? And who is being dissapointed?

What sign is the Pisces ex?

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Posted by AntiSocial
what have you done that you really wanted to because you want nothing in return you selfish prick

Yeahyeahyeah stop this bullshit. We all know the other person in OP's situation is basically still romantically invested in this "friend" and are choosing the friend over her. Basically dumping her, to date the friend.

You're naive if you really think this is just about friendship. It's obvious cheater bullshit.

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haha this is really bout confidence u two busters dont have.