Do Pisceans come back after nasty arguments? (Page 2)

Posted by Terramine

Posted by LadyNeptune
Stop giving your love away so freely to users who 'break your heart'.

There's nothing I can really do about that, I cannot choose who I love. The best I can do is to not date at all. Otherwise even if I keep my distance and wait till the other person wants to be with me, they could still just as easily turn out to be abusive or not love me.

It's not superficial to want to protect yourself and vet this potential. That's the point of dating.

It totally is though. Because true love doesn't die, nothing can kill it. It's the reason a mother still loves her son even if he becomes a murderer or whatever. She can't stop loving him just because he's become corrupt, because somewhere inside he will still always be the person she loves. Her son.

And if someone isn't ready to commit to me I'm not gonna wait around until they are. Why would I give up a potentially better connection with someone else for a vague hope? It doesn't make sense.

This just proves that you have the same "upgrade" mentality as any woman does. Which isn't a mentality that can even remotely possibly result in real love. You're missing the point, it's not about waiting around. I don't wait around for Melody, because I know she's never going to come back. But the fact that she's gone, the fact that she's never coming back, and even the fact that she's with some other guy doing all the things we used to do including all the sacred stuff. Cannot change how I feel about her.

Do I miss out on the chance of being with someone who would treat me better? Yes. But that's how it has to be because I love /her/ and /only/ her, forever. She's the only one I want to be with. It has nothing to do with selfish benefit, it has to do with what I feel for her.

This doesn't even cover the fact that, even thinking from the pragmatic perspective. Shouldn't it at least depend on WHY the person isn't committed? Or in what way that they aren't? For instance, let's say you have this friend who's been around since forever. You don't know it, but he loves you. He doesn't say it and doesn't ask you to be with him because... well maybe he doesn't want to ruin your friendship. Or maybe he's afraid to get rejected. Or maybe he's been hurt too many times in the past. That's a bit different from, someone "not being committed" simply in the sense that they are busy getting involved with less serious affairs/flings in multitude.

But in either case, if you love the person. Then that specifically means /you/ won't be getting with other people. Because they are /the/ one your mind is on. You can't romantically love multiple people, and your mind cannot be focused on anyone else.

click to expand

A few hours of someone venting does not = knowing what that person is about.

Wanting to pre-qualify a lover before you hand them your heart is not 'upgrade mentality'. Not committing to someone who won't commit to you is not 'upgrade mentality'.

Your problem is you romanticize love, thats your libra showing. Your not supposed to end up with the first person you give your heart too. You need to go through some more heart break before you realize this. Your blind 'loyalty' (and yes I use that term loosley) is entirely misplaced and makes you look the fool.

Lets talk about this 5 years from now when you have more than one short lived relationship under your belt.

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by Terramine

Posted by LadyNeptune
Stop giving your love away so freely to users who 'break your heart'.

There's nothing I can really do about that, I cannot choose who I love. The best I can do is to not date at all. Otherwise even if I keep my distance and wait till the other person wants to be with me, they could still just as easily turn out to be abusive or not love me.

It's not superficial to want to protect yourself and vet this potential. That's the point of dating.

It totally is though. Because true love doesn't die, nothing can kill it. It's the reason a mother still loves her son even if he becomes a murderer or whatever. She can't stop loving him just because he's become corrupt, because somewhere inside he will still always be the person she loves. Her son.

And if someone isn't ready to commit to me I'm not gonna wait around until they are. Why would I give up a potentially better connection with someone else for a vague hope? It doesn't make sense.

This just proves that you have the same "upgrade" mentality as any woman does. Which isn't a mentality that can even remotely possibly result in real love. You're missing the point, it's not about waiting around. I don't wait around for Melody, because I know she's never going to come back. But the fact that she's gone, the fact that she's never coming back, and even the fact that she's with some other guy doing all the things we used to do including all the sacred stuff. Cannot change how I feel about her.

Do I miss out on the chance of being with someone who would treat me better? Yes. But that's how it has to be because I love /her/ and /only/ her, forever. She's the only one I want to be with. It has nothing to do with selfish benefit, it has to do with what I feel for her.

This doesn't even cover the fact that, even thinking from the pragmatic perspective. Shouldn't it at least depend on WHY the person isn't committed? Or in what way that they aren't? For instance, let's say you have this friend who's been around since forever. You don't know it, but he loves you. He doesn't say it and doesn't ask you to be with him because... well maybe he doesn't want to ruin your friendship. Or maybe he's afraid to get rejected. Or maybe he's been hurt too many times in the past. That's a bit different from, someone "not being committed" simply in the sense that they are busy getting involved with less serious affairs/flings in multitude.

But in either case, if you love the person. Then that specifically means /you/ won't be getting with other people. Because they are /the/ one your mind is on. You can't romantically love multiple people, and your mind cannot be focused on anyone else.

A few hours of someone venting does not = knowing what that person is about.

Wanting to pre-qualify a lover before you hand them your heart is not 'upgrade mentality'. Not committing to someone who won't commit to you is not 'upgrade mentality'.

Your problem is you romanticize love, thats your libra showing. Your not supposed to end up with the first person you give your heart too. You need to go through some more heart break before you realize this. Your blind 'loyalty' (and yes I use that term loosley) is entirely misplaced and makes you look the fool.

Lets talk about this 5 years from now when you have more than one short lived relationship under your belt.

click to expand

You should listen to her & a couple more advice from me it seems like you ain't happy with your life you clingy needy biiitchh, so get your ish together & find yourself biiitch haha I'm messing around dont get serious on me now lol

The ex is a Capricorn so I fully understand the connection they would have experienced together and they did help each other through pretty heavy stuff. A break up and 2 deaths for the cappy (this was all during their time of friendship).

Adding to this all, this morning I put on a pair of jeans and felt something in my back pocket. It was her fucking ring.

She has this ring which is her absolute favourite and I also really liked it and she'd let me wear it for days. Basically we "shared" it. I thought I had left it on her kitchen counter on Thursday when I was last at hers and has asked her to look for it.

Turns out it was in my pocket and now I don't know what to do? Tbh I'm sure I want to see her to return it. I'm doing OK and seeing her might throw me off balance but I feel bad if I say nothing. Maybe I should put it in an envelope and drop it in her mailbox?

I mean't to say I am NOT sure I want to see her.

Posted by Gem13
I mean't to say I am NOT sure I want to see her.

Dear diary,

Went to a Starbucks and saw straw then a napkin it reminded me of her.

PS

Damn those croissants look good lmao

Sincerely,

I miss my boo boo lol

The Pisces sent me a text yesterday afternoon



"I thought I saw you at but it wasn't you"

This is after 2 wks of no contact between us. What the hell is the point of that text?

I didn't reply.

Posted by Gem13
The Pisces sent me a text yesterday afternoon



"I thought I saw you at but it wasn't you"

This is after 2 wks of no contact between us. What the hell is the point of that text?

I didn't reply.

She clearly wants to open the lines of communication. If she's certain it wasn't even you, she wouldn't have messaged just to purely state that she momentarily thought she crossed paths with you unless she wanted to make up

Posted by LibWman

Posted by Gem13
The Pisces sent me a text yesterday afternoon



"I thought I saw you at but it wasn't you"

This is after 2 wks of no contact between us. What the hell is the point of that text?

I didn't reply.

She clearly wants to open the lines of communication. If she's certain it wasn't even you, she wouldn't have messaged just to purely state that she momentarily thought she crossed paths with you unless she wanted to make up

click to expand

Thanks. I thought the same but wanted confirmation from others. I guess she realised what she had. She had made it more than clear I "couldn't be in her life".

Posted by Gem13

Posted by LibWman

Posted by Gem13
The Pisces sent me a text yesterday afternoon



"I thought I saw you at but it wasn't you"

This is after 2 wks of no contact between us. What the hell is the point of that text?

I didn't reply.

She clearly wants to open the lines of communication. If she's certain it wasn't even you, she wouldn't have messaged just to purely state that she momentarily thought she crossed paths with you unless she wanted to make up

Thanks. I thought the same but wanted confirmation from others. I guess she realised what she had. She had made it more than clear I "couldn't be in her life".

click to expand

I wouldn't immediately assume this is her waving the white flag of reconciliation nor can you know if romantic feelings are what have drawn her back to you. She could simply miss you on a more platonic level and/or now she feels you slipping away after her effectively choosing the ex over you, is making her want to grab back on before you slip away permanently.

Hmm well as I figured she would, she emailed me this morning at work saying "Have you blocked me?".

I did block her off all social media 2wks ago when she told me we couldn't continue to speak. I did it so I could try to get over her quicker. However I didn't block her number.

I'm not sure what to reply or if I even should like wtf. She semi broke my heart and just strolls back in like its all OK.

I replied saying "no" and she replied with "okay, are you over me yet?"

😂😂 is she being for real?

I'm about to reply with "First of all what kind of a question is that? Second of all, whether I was or wasn't why does it matter?"

She came back to me. 😍😍😍😍 just thought I'd announce it 😁😁😁

it depends on their level of involvement, honestly....and, since we're dual signs, you might get one reaction one minute and a totally different reaction the next minute....

all these questions about 'do pisces do this' or 'do pisces do that' really don't have answers because we really don't know anymore than the next person does lol...it's all just a 'go with the flow type of thing'...

I'm a Pisces female and this whole thread was a little much for me.... Yall agreed yall wasn't together, she sincerely apologized for her actions and you still cursed her out. Yes, I would def need my space. The good thing about us is, after you give us our space and let us clear our mind we will be able to talk. As long as it never happens again.

Say what you really feel and be 100 honest with her. Its better for the both of you. (limit confusion and communication error)

@LadyCryssy, she never apologised and thats where my hurt came from. She still hasn't apologised for this incident.

Anyway.. this thread is old. We had our time away (2wks) and she came back to me. You can read the updated story in "I need help" lol. I sound like I'm advertising a book! I'd really appreciate your thoughts on that thread considering you're a Pisces female.