Do pisces men ever come back?

I'm not good at keeping a story short, but I will try.

So, we met at the end of june 2018, neither him or I had interest in each other. We worked together from july till the beginning of September, he was my boss, which seems unethical, but it wasn't, we kept a professional attitude throughout work hours.

Anyway, he was the one who fell in love first, I didn't liked him at all, he used to get on my nerves on a daily basis, with jokes and teasing and an arrogant attitude, damn, but in the same time he was a gentleman and made cute guestures, trying to help me and encourage me at work. I fell too, I couldn't accept that to myself, I was unsure because he was too sure of his feelings(I can't explain really).

Our "thing" (relationship) started on 20 August and it lasted only one month and 1 week , but it felt like one year.

He was so sure, so implicated, so determined to make things work, made a lot of compromises, but even though I liked the attention I wasn't sure about it, everything moved so fast, changing my whole rutine, I felt we were to different and I tried to end it a few times but he somehow made me change my mind everytime, until one day; we argued a bit in those last days about our political views and he made me very angry and I decided to end it in a brutal way. It was set to spent the weekend at his house, but I wrote to him (few hours before our date) and told him I want to meet an old friend (ex lover, pisces guy was jealous of him) and so, I don't want to spent the weekend with him... He was somehow speechless, we talked about our weekend together the whole week and I simply cut him off like that..and for whom.. for this man I used to love. He called me and with a sad and timid voice said "I think is better to stop seeing each other" and I was like "ok, I think is for the best"..and he was surprised with my answer asking me " you are sure?" , I was sure at that very moment, I was so angry.

He asked me a few minutes later on whatsapp "what do you think went wrong on this relationship?" , I responded "nothing worked, we are way to different and you must be blind to not see this" and he said "I might be blind" ..

That's all.

Even from that first night without him I felt something was wrong inside of me, some days had passed and I was 100% sure I made a big mistake and that I do love him and he inspired me to become a better person and that's something that no other man achieved.

I tried to get back with no succes, I did had some tantrums because of my frustration and that made him even more distant. He did wanted to talk from time to time and to..make love from time to time.

When I first got back I saw he's disappointed with me, then I saw he doesn't trust me.

He's still single, still the same (boring) life, still the same good man..but with his guards up.

I stopped talking with him for a month or so, and I reached out 10 days ago because I had to talk with him about a subject only he can understand, he said "it's funny 'cause one hour ago I was thinking on you and wondering what you're doing" .

We talked on the phone, we met a few times and everything was ok, he made me feel so much better about my problem, we talked about our lives, everything was nice between us, like two old friends.

But one afternoon we met and he kissed me (using a little force) and I gave in, he awakened all those buried feelings.On that afternoon I saw a bit of the "old him".

Last weekend I went at his place and we made love and everything was so romantic and natural, but that was all, he's spending the holiday with his family and we didn't talked from sunday afternoon (beside "Merry Christmas").

Seems like a long post but I didn't capture all those small but important details, also I'm not sure of my choice of words, but the main question is; Is there a possibility for a pisces guy to come back?

How can I show him that my feelings are true?

How can I make him trust me again?

Am I losing my time ?

A few more words.

When I first got back he told me that everything he felt for me was real, but after our last conversation (with me being so sure about ending our relationship) he just detached.

The thing is, I have read about pisces being able to switch off from what might hurt them, detached themselves from reality. Can this process be reversed?

Also, keep in mind that I am a capricorn, cold, calculated, rational (on exterior, of course), rigid, not too affectionate person.

He's so sensible and emotional and I am not the best at being gentle.

But he does make me feel so vulnerable and delicate (in the good ways).

The main problem here is his lack of trust. (and my lack of patience combined with a constant frustration).

Posted by ScorpioTruth

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No offense, but for his own sanity, I hope he doesn’t. I could be reading you wrong, but it sounds like you only want him when you can’t have him. You keep pushing him away then pulling him back in.

It's not case now, but I did this in the past, when I wasn't sure about what I want.

You saying this help me understand how what I did (and maybe I still give the wrong impression now) still lingers in the present.

I may give the wrong impression in general.

I know water signs are so emotional and sensible and I am like a cold b**ch in their eyes.

Posted by ValleysofNeptune

Idk, anything can happen but it might take a while for him to fully be invested again, because it is kind of true that Pisces can put up walls and sort of emotionally shut off to protect themselves so they don’t get hurt again. Best thing you can do is to just genuinely apologize and show a real willingness in trying to make things work. But only you know the situation best and the best way to go about it. I’m sure he’ll eventually warm up to you again if he sees you’re genuine though. Pisces are pretty forgiving and if he’s still in your life that means there’s still a chance. If he was completely done I doubt he’d stick around at all. I know you said you’re not good at opening up and showing affection and stuff like that, but if you want to improve your chances and reassure him that’s the best way to go imo

I think it’s funny that you guys didn’t really like each other first too. I had something similar to that with a Capricorn lol. But later there was an attraction between us and we eventually became good friends. It was weird lol. We never hooked up or had a relationship because of life stuff getting in the way though 😐

The part with him still being present in my life and listening to my problems, being helpful I get it, I know that if he would be completely over he wouldn't talk with me.

But, the sex? I know I am the only one with whom he does this, but I don't get it, he's so affectionate, so vulnerable in bed, but all for what? I still can get him to be as he was.

Sometimes he's mean with me, joking, but I sense some kind of punishment for me being heartless and insensitive at that end.

I wouldn't expect him to kiss me (aprox) a week ago.He seemed exactly like he was in the beginning for a few hours, with sparkling eyes, with a warm voice and a caring attitude.

My greatest fear is that all those feelings he felt in the beginning weren't real, he created them, it was only in his imagination so I can't awake something that didn't existed for real. From my perspective no one can just fall in love so quickly without knowing the other person (like he did), or he did felt something for an ideal image he created of me and then he just woke up and realised I am a human being with a lot of flaws and not too much in common with him.

Posted by Mariposa_

Yes they swim off, than come back again.

In my experience, I did the same. We swam around each other until we got married than I left him permanently. One of the most painful moments in my life, I literally felt like I was cutting off a piece of myself.

Why did you leave him?

It hurt so much so couldn't you have stayed? x

Posted by ScorpioTruth

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No offense, but for his own sanity, I hope he doesn’t. I could be reading you wrong, but it sounds like you only want him when you can’t have him. You keep pushing him away then pulling him back in.

Weirdly..I did the same thing with a pieces man.

I'm a Cap too.

I didn't realise I was doing it though. I just don't think it was the right time for Me, hence why I was pushing him away.

Posted by ScorpioTruth

Posted by justlikeheaven

Posted by ScorpioTruth

🤦🏼‍♀️

No offense, but for his own sanity, I hope he doesn’t. I could be reading you wrong, but it sounds like you only want him when you can’t have him. You keep pushing him away then pulling him back in.

It's not case now, but I did this in the past, when I wasn't sure about what I want.

You saying this help me understand how what I did (and maybe I still give the wrong impression now) still lingers in the present.

I may give the wrong impression in general.

I know water signs are so emotional and sensible and I am like a cold b**ch in their eyes.

Nah I don’t think you’re a bitch, I just hope that you really genuinely love him and not just the way that he makes you feel. We’ve all got our own issues, I’m not saying what I said to judge you, but I can definitely understand the Pisces need to protect himself from you because of your inconsistencies. If you really love him, then you probably do have a chance with him. I’m just saying it wouldn’t hurt to evaluate your feelings and really do some digging to make sure that it’s actually him that you love and miss, and not just the way that he made you feel.

I was with a Capricorn for 10 years and sometimes that’s kind of how I felt.. like I was just a “fill-in” for him until he found what/who he really wanted. Because even as much as he said he loved me, he had a way of making me feel that I still wasn’t enough and so I’ve wondered if he only loves the way that I make him feel because of how hard I love him.

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You did strike me a bit here.

I would say I do love him truly, but..it is also true that I loved the way he made me feel and how he inspired me to be more carefree, more relaxed, to takes things easier, to be more open emotionally, to be more human.. if it's a bad thing I do not know.

I guess we do love others for the way they made us feel and how they inspire us to be the best we can be.

He did changed me forand better and even if things will not work out between us I will forever be grateful for the changes he has brought in me.

I thank you sincerely for giving me insight. It did helped me! 😊

Thanks and hugs to everyone for listening(reading) my post and for the help you give! ❤

The word "redemption" is the most powerful (and my favorite) word in the entire English language.

It has absolute power over all things/experiences/people/incidents from the past, because it shows that true initiative is being taken to make amends and provide new applications of goodwill toward all.

If this word is truly part of an ex-lover's life, then I am willing to consider a potential rekindling of our passion and romantic lives together.

Emphasis on the word, "If."