Gemini Woman and Pisces Man ....can it ever work?

Unfortunately I cant make this short! I am a Gemini woman Virgo Moon. Until recently never believed in astrology. About 11 months ago I met a Pisces casually talking at a bar on a dead night. we discussed me being laid off and he offered to help me with my employment search. I didnt feel as if he were hitting on me just being nice. He later offered to meet up with me another week night to drink then offered to take care of the cost for a mani and pedi so I could attend his bday party, since he knew I wasnt working. Which was nice but I wasnt interested in him. Later that week I attended his party, suddenly he was attached to me at the hip and telling his friends we were together. I went along with it and by the end of the party we were infactuated with one another. I must admit both of us being intoxicated, that I ended up at his home. No sex after I informed him that it was too soon. He respected me however he massaged and kissed me from head to toe. The next morning he made me breakfast, ran my bath water, and started working on my resume. From that day I spent most of my days or evenings with him, we went out to eat, to the museum, to the bar, laughed and talked, he even watched chick flicks with me. He pampered me. He had a foot fetish which was weird to me. But since Im a Gemini I can adjust to new ideas for the most part. He would buy me strappy heels because they turned him on. He knew I loved Coke so before I would come over he would run to the store to get me a coke. He massaged my feet when I would get off of my retail job. The sex was the best I ever had and I am 30. All these things made him irrisistable to me and my wall came down and the sexy Gemini came out of me. He would tell me that I was the best woman he had ever been with. Couldnt get enough of me. Throughout all of this I started to notice him becoming more arrogant and sometimes really moody about month 6. He would say like I hope you dont turn gay if we dont work out. When I asked were out relationship was going he would say well I thought we agreed that we both werent looking for a relationship in the beginning, however I am still not ready. A woman had an argument with him one day with him and he took me out the mall the next day and bought me shoes and reassured me that he had a casual relationship with her prior to meeting me. I never believed him. I told him I loved him at some point and he said I care about you deeply gazing into my eyes. Never said he loved me.

contin Just awkardly stared at me innocently most of the time. If I called and needed something he would do it. He would say rude things to me from time to time when he was moody. I would usually hold it together then he would hug me to apologize. He found a new job in which he traveled, he checked in with me everytime his plane would land. Called me every night. He was still into me until about Month 9. He started to retreat or disappear. Wouldnt return my calls unless I harassed him with back to back calls. We saw each other less, about once a week. And just when I would back off he would call like nothing happened. He had a great idea to invest in my personal jewelry making business. When I followed up with him about it he seemed unintersted. He asked me what did I think about being friends with benefits my Gemini mouth said "fuck that". I ran to him out a couple of times when he was supposed to call me back. he stared at me the whole night. I didnt flirt with any one, several men tried to talk to me. I finally came over to me ashamed about his behavior apoligizing to me I chewed him out, but he happend to crack a joke telling me he would bite my finger off if I didnt stop showing out. I stopped and left the bar. He really knew how to make me really upset then he would invite me over, take me out, cook for me, then make passionate love to me. He told me he hated my attitude but loved having sex with me. The last time we were together sexually it was very intimate. Finally around this Christmas after several weeks of damn near complete silence he text me Merry Christmas but did not buy me a gift or call me. I sent a mean text the next day and went completely left as most Gems do from time to time. He immediately called back explaining he was busy spending time with his parents and daughter and that he was treating me different and calling less because we both agreed to slow down things because he didnt want a relationship at the time. New years day my best friend saw him at a local mall with a woman. I really needed to know who she was. I went to the mall and caught him getting in his car. I literally confronted him and forced him to tell me who the woman was, no more lies. He told me to go home and he would call me. I didnt budge, so the woman walked up to inquire whom I was. He then said this is my girlfriend of 1 month! My reaction was horrible. He didnt deny me in front of her.

Contin: He just stood there shocked at my reaction. I talked to him in a way I have never spoken to him before and threw all the high heels that he bought me at his car. I completely lost it. Its been a week and we will probably never speak again. I emailed him my last thoughts. I loved him so much. Its weird because he was what you would consider the nerdy, quiet guy. I know its more fish in the sea but I have never been this into anyone in my life. He confused me so much, I really thought he was into me. I let down my wall for him and he moved on. It killed me because the woman was not attractive either. I will never know what it was that made him lose interest in me. I dont think I can try to date another Pisces their hot and suddenly go cold. And geminis like to communicate. I dont know if I was dealing with a player, manipulater, lier, con artist or what. He was probably lying about me being the only one the whole time and I fell forr it. Thats why I flipped out on him, he was so embarrased. But secretly he might have liked that in some weird pisces way. SMH! Part of me wishes he would come back one day and tell me what happened. I will really miss him. A pisces man can left me feeling like I was in the wrong, they play a innocent role. if I had the ability to sit back and say absolutely nothing and let him do as he pleased he would have continued to give me the hot and cold treatment. Im so becoming abstinent after this guy. 😢

Now I did forget to mention somewhere in my long post that when he started retreating initially I got so upset with him that I did tell him in the heat of the moment while he was giving me sex talk that I loved him but felt I should be open to dating other men. he said why, I informed him once again that he was treating me different and not spending time with me. I later told him I went on a date and he asked me did I like the dude, I said it was just a date. His smart reply was "better luck next time". I may have hurt him, From that moment he may have felt insecure and snatched up a girlfriend within two months. The lady said she only knew him 2 months when I confronted him. By the way he is 37years old and divorced. Any feedback is welcome....

Okay, so this is what I gathered from this:
He seems to be controlling/dominant from the beginning. Likes to have things in his playing field, which could mean other women as options.
He came on to you really quickly. If he could do that with you, I have little doubt he could do that with other women, too, and even at the same time...which you kind of found out at the end.
All throughout what you were saying, he didn't seem that into you...talking about 'if we break up', or what was it...can he see other people, or something like that. He was either with you because he was bored, or because he wanted the sex. Unless there's more feelings involved from his side that you haven't mentioned. But, unfortunately, that's what it seems like to me. There were hints this guy was trouble from the beginning. I'm sure you realized this, too, somewhere along the line, because you mention how he would often disappear, got cold, etc. Btw, moodiness is sometimes a reaction when you take someone for granted. He probably thought of you less as a person, and more of an object. At least, that's what it seems like to me. He was playing you up until he got the chance to find someone new. And, that was probably his plan from the beginning. And when he didn't get the 'umph' from you, or felt like you were the one, even more so...he has probably been thinking of being with other girls the whole time. In the end, he wasn't in to you.

I'd say, better off without him! While you might not find many men who are willing to buy you as many things as him, there are plenty out there who will fill you with emotions, rather than material goods. : )

Sorry, girl.

88NNPISCES Ya I figured I messed up on that one. I was so upset that I was in the friends with benefits zone after being pampered consistently. the hot and cold personality was hard for me to handle. I was not honest about my true feelings because I was afraid he would reject me. Its like he was psychic and could read my thoughts. He kept saying that I wanted to be in a relationship and thats why I was upset with him when he wouldn't call back or wasnt availible to me. Maybe he wanted me to open up and tell him that I wanted a relationship from him before he would consider. Having sex as early as we did might have made him question if I slept with the guy that I went on the date with. Its crazy but maybe I am dillusional for thinking that even after my behavior he will be able to care about me again. I have a good guy friend whom is also a pisces and he advised me that after I let him know how I felt to back totally off of him. If he truly accepts my apology maybe we can be friends one day and rebuild our trust once he sees how his new relationship works out. I know I care about him because I am not even mad anymore, lol. Seems like he will always have options due to his generosity however he is so easily hurt by women. And throws in the towel easily. He is not perfect with dealing with emotions so how does he respect the same from me. I know for sure he wanted to be my friend despite the girlfriend, I told me to look me in my eyes and tell me he never wanted to see me again and he couldnt right in front of her. He didnt even want to tell me about her until she walked up. One thing I hate about being a Gemini woman is my twin can get me in trouble, being too blunt and controlling at times. But I honestly didnt mean to hurt him. He has always been good to me. I need to work on making a man feel like a man. Lesson learned

Scenic
I respect your opinion too. I like to hear different perspectives. Men totally confuse me. "But that not into me" comment sounds about right too. He constantly told me that I wanted a relationship and he wasnt ready yet I never brought it up because I did not want to rush this man into anything. Ive heard about pisces living in a fantasy world. I didnt go into detail but he definately became very dominating and somewhat insecure introducing new things to me in the bedroom and trying to maipulate me with comments about I know you might never find a man as good as me in the bedroom. I did eventually get a job with his help, he then he said I hope your not going to start acting different because you have a new career. The more I talk about this situation it sounds worse. Your comment is so true about moving on! I have to be more cautious about who I give my heart to no matter what a mans zodiac is. Because once I do its hard to break away especially emotionally. I have never dated someone who was so back and forth I don't really know if this dude really cared for me. I would like to think he did as much as he went out of his way to contact all of his networks to find me a job. To this day I am still being contacted by recruiters due to him making connects for me.When I applied for grad school he proofread my paper for me and made a recommendation as well. I cant wait for true love to find me, soon I will be 31.

Yeah, I honestly think I missed the big picture on this one, since my opinion sounds really out of place. It's good that he helped you, but those comments about how he was demanding like that would have scared me off! Haha. I feel as those...he sort of views relationships differently? Like...he put all this effort in to buying you things and doing things for you...and expected you to go along with him...but did little on the end of committment or feelings? Like he thinks he can buy a relationship or something...I don't know, it just seems weird to me. Either way, I think it takes a certain kind of woman to really get along with a man like that, and personally, I think you should be glad that you're not that type! It's always hard to move on, but at least you have one more experience under your belt and have learned a little bit from it.

Scenic
Thanks so much, you give good advice.
I need to start reading more of these message boards. Especially since I love writing.