Get lost in another person/relationship

Do you guys sometimes find yourselves lost in another people when dealing with them on the regular bases? In terms of doing most things for them, even though you would act differently if you were on your own? If so, how do you usually bounce back?

This should've said: *lost in other people or *lost in another person

its an unknown rule not to bring something troubling you up to any pisces because theyll get invested in it and make it their problem.
to hear otherwise is a lie and may the power of christ compel you.

Posted by Geminems
its an unknown rule not to bring something troubling you up to any pisces because theyll get invested in it and make it their problem.
to hear otherwise is a lie and may the power of christ compel you.

LOL @ the last part.

I can totally tell that this is the case w/pisces often. My mother is Pisces and I have venus in pisces, which makes me act this way in relationships sometimes. I find it very hard to completely focus on what "I" want and not what WE want..

My mom always and I mean always gets into the mood of conversation depending on who the partner is at that given moment. Especially when she deals with people of higher perceived power or inferiority she speaks low and is insecure in her decisions. I would really like to help her stick to her own inside and as far as myself I found that I have to pull back in order to collect my thoughts.. Hopefully this will get better with the years.

Do you guys seek out positive people around you and people who do not have a very strong personality or how do you get happy in relationships?

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Posted by Aries04
Do you guys sometimes find yourselves lost in another people when dealing with them on the regular bases? In terms of doing most things for them, even though you would act differently if you were on your own? If so, how do you usually bounce back?

I can sometimes get consumed when I'm in a relationship. Especially if the other person is equally as intense as I am. I usually come back down to earth after the honeymoon stage.

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Hm alright, meaning after the initial infatuation stage comes down you find your balance again?

Posted by Aries04

Hm alright, meaning after the initial infatuation stage comes down you find your balance again?

balance?? some of you actually find that— must be nice, i've been searching for that state of equillibrium for almost 33 years...and 3 planets in Libra didn't help a damn bit...lol

--Jack

Depends. I once did that with a libra and nearly lost all my friends... I learned my lesson.

While I place higher importance on romantic relationships above all other kinds, I still do things for myself and retain my individuality. I also make sure to hang out with friends and the like as much as I've done before. I've had friends that if you asked them to hang out would always bring their s/o with them and basically spent all of their time with that person. Needless to say, once they broke up many felt like they had no friends anymore because they didn't bother keeping up with any.

"Do you guys seek out positive people around you and people who do not have a very strong personality or how do you get happy in relationships?"

I don't seek anything out. Who ever I happen to be interested in is who I'm interested in. I prefer positive people as those who are negative cannot help but show that and it can be pretty draining. I like people with a strong personality, but once again, I don't look for any of this stuff. I, myself, feel like I'm kind of boring, so it's easy to admire those who have some substance to them. How I become happy in relationships? I'm usually happy just being with the person. I like to be there physically. That's enough. Going out often is a plus.

I get so lost in the other person, especially if it is love! I wish I could stop doing that...gotten me too lost in hot mess situations hahaha. Even when the honeymoon stage ends...I stop existing and it becomes 'we' everything. Grrrrr Trying to work on this. Only time I stop being lost in that person is to cut contact totally (after a break-up) and I feel like I have nothing else to live for.
Then I bounce back and believe in love again, hahaha.