Hello new here

Hi

New here.

Thought I would join up.

I'm from London.

I thought I would share this with you: my favourite website, very insightful.

http://www.cainer.com/today/piscest.html

lol off to a good start... as it was just an intro and not some convoluted story about adultery.

welcome!

oh sorry... not a convoluted story about adultery, looking for support

Oh ok I won't ask then I just had a pisces vanish on me. But my guess is replies won't be friendly.

lol.... is he married?

if not ask away

what is your sign?

and don't worry. some are friendly. some are not. some are just speaking truth. it isn't necessarily a personal thing. you will be fine!

I'm a Taurus with a few water placements. I read that pisces need grounded taurus earthy people to look after them.

We dated for a little while and he was all over me, very sweet and gentle. He just went poof one day and said he wasn't up for dating.

Not married.

what is his back story? is he rebounding? caught up on an ex? stable in his personal life?

how did you meet?

Welcome Rose from London, always nice to see another Brit on here. 🙂

Jonathan Cainer is one of my favourite astrologers too.

And don't worry like Deezie said you'll be fine.

Posted by Aleese76

Posted by RoseAngel81
I'm a Taurus with a few water placements. I read that pisces need grounded taurus earthy people to look after them.

We dated for a little while and he was all over me, very sweet and gentle. He just went poof one day and said he wasn't up for dating.

Not married.

We Pisceans have a knack for pulling a disappearing act....Although, Gems do it too!!!

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We met on a dating site.

He didn't say too much about his ex. I'm not sure if he was still hurt over it but I assume he can't have been over it.

He did seem a little down with what was going on in life.

Logically I should tell myself I was a rebound and that he just didn't feel it. Illogically I hope he's just absorbed in issues and remembers me some day.
My cancer placements mean I struggle to let go.

Man, that sucks, but it does sound like he just wasn't in the right place/not looking for anything serious. He spent time with you, and likely enjoyed it... but once it came down to it being more serious... he cut loose, trying not to get too involved and therefore not hurting you...

How long were you seeing each other?

And I'm not sure you were "just" a rebound... but you were probably the "toe dip back in the pool" or his eyes were bigger than his belly - looking to fill an area of his life, when other areas were still causing him some issues.

Posted by RoseAngel81

I read that pisces need grounded taurus earthy people to look after them.

:::: shakes head ::::

It was a little under 3 months.

He was such a sweetie and what a lover!!! He seemed almost scared to make a go of it.

He would say all this stuff we could do and then seemed scared to do it. He did seems quite down.

Should I just let him be or contact every now and again?

eh.... I would just let it be.
3 months is a pretty decent indication that he gave it a go, and wasn't feeling it.

Whether that had anything to do with you, or it was all personal to him... who knows.
If it is the latter, he may come back. If it's the former... he won't.

Keeping in contact to make sure you "stay in his thoughts" is a move out of desperation. If a guy wants to find you, he will. I bet you won't find too many men that will be like... "oh yeah! Sandy.... I forgot about her... I did really like her."

P-Angel has a point... viewing any man as if they need you to take care of them is probably a death sentence for any relationship you try to have. Secondarily, (and more to her point I would bet) Fish don't need to be "looked after". Understood. Left to our own devices. Free to be. But not taken care of. It implies weak and feeble, naive. As if we are children, or senile.

Perhaps that was just poor choice of wording on your part, but in the case that it isn't... I'd be careful with that sort of mindset.

Ok. He said it wasn't me and I didn't do anything wrong.

The looking after bit was just something I read. Its not something I believe. he seemed to need some cheering up but not looking after.

He was quite moody. It was closer to two months now that I check my date.

lol Aleese, well you know... the grass is mighty green all over the globe 😄

I would still let it be RoseAngel. He was upfront and direct with you about not being ready to date. So unless you are capable of being/acting as a friend (and he wants a friend in you)... you'd just be prolonging your suffering by holding on to anything at this point. Jump back in the pool yourself. There is no reason to hang on to someone that passed by for the short time of 2 months. Find someone that matches your current desires to date.

He is still on the site looking though as am I. Maybe he can do casual dates not commitment. that is a common theme with net dating....grass is always greener.

So what is it with all these random stories about pisces guys coming back. they're all over this sire.

lol I see that! you have your horizon expansion outfit on 😄
hahahaha - you're one hot bitch!! Your other picture was so sweet and innocent. This must be the scorp ascendant taking a tour of dxp now ?

Posted by RoseAngel81
So what is it with all these random stories about pisces guys coming back. they're all over this sire.

it's not pisces specific

men coming back... means they left in the first place

I would say that generally means, they're looking to see what you'll put up with.
Of course there are exceptions... and I'm not meaning to sound cynical here
But if they disappeared at some point, and were "unsure" - why on earth as a self respecting woman would you want them back. Not directed at you RoseAngel. Just a general thought.

So what is it with all these random stories about pisces guys coming back. they're all over this sire.

I don't really care as long as I get what I want. Self respect is over rated.

Oh.

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Posted by MissPirate

Posted by Aleese76

Posted by RoseAngel81
I'm a Taurus with a few water placements. I read that pisces need grounded taurus earthy people to look after them.

We dated for a little while and he was all over me, very sweet and gentle. He just went poof one day and said he wasn't up for dating.

Not married.

We Pisceans have a knack for pulling a disappearing act....Although, Gems do it too!!!

To the 2nd Power.....Damn!!! LOL

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I'm a drifter what can I say. 😛

Posted by RoseAngel81
I don't really care as long as I get what I want. Self respect is over rated.

Girl you did not just say that!

Posted by MissPirate

Posted by RoseAngel81
I don't really care as long as I get what I want. Self respect is over rated.

Girl you did not just say that!

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Well what I really meant is that people have a one strike and you're out mentality these days. Under the banner of self respect .
But people are often very confused, stressed have problems etc.

As long as they were not abusive, selfish unkind, etc if someone wants another go...why not is all I really meant.

OK that makes more sense then.

"To err is human, to forgive is divine"

I'm all for that personally. There's a line though. And once you cross it you're dead to me.

I agree with the addendum to your initial statement.

Although... I have said it before on these boards, and I will say it again, dealing in generalities: the ones who deserve more than one strike - never ask it of you.

I was standing up on the train as I typed. Didn't express it very well.

I have so many friends who discard people for so little under the guise of I have more self respect than that. One strike and you're out no matter what. If someone has been cruel, abusive, etc to me then that is it.

But heaven forbid someone remembers you, had difficulties in their life that needed resolving. Situations where maybe the timing was off the first time and th second time would be better.

I get it. But you realize that what you are using as your moral stance, is in direct conflict with what this guy did to you?

Apparently you had zero strikes, and were discarded. I'm not saying he's done anything wrong either. I think he spoke the moment it became necessary to end it.

If I were you... and he came back around eventually... I would be highly suspect of his reasons for returning. That's all I'm trying to say.

Anyway, I'm going to cut myself off from this discussion here. However the wind blows, I hope things go well for you.

He has issues though. Don't wanna reveal too much. He shouldn't have been dating probably.

If he were to come back with his Shit together that's a different story.