Help about my Pisces Man

I have been dating a pisces for 6mths now, LDR. Initial 3 months was sweet and we saw each other every 2wks. Then after new year, he got busy at work and travelled soo frequently we met only once in Feb.

I had a bad break from my previous relationship and he came into the picture at that point in time to comfort me. Given his work nature to travel extensively, the LDR factor, I was half-hearted in committing to the r/s.

Unlike most pisces I read about, he is one moody guy that I cannot fathom. He is unwilling to say things like "i miss you", "cant wait to see you" etc. As this is my first LDR, I felt insecure and picked fights with him over texts. When I asked him why wouldnt he say something simple to put me at ease, he told me its not him and he wont. He refuses to talk about his past (I didnt push after asking twice), and he refuses to tell me how he feels about me. Anyway we fought 2-3 times in jan, once in feb and once in mar.......i thought we were getting better at knowing each other.....

He was also mean to me at times in actions and words, he uses F when we quarrel over text, once we took a photo together, then asked me to take many individual shots of him, when I asked him to take more pics of us together he refused. He met my friends but I havent seen his. To be fair he is always alone and rarely meets his friends. And he hates to speak over the phone, we spoke once in Jan to date, but we text approx 30-50msgs daily. He updates me on his whereabts constantly.

There is one major thing he doesnt like, for me to drink too much. I did that once in Jan, he was very upset and angry with me, cold to me for a day before resuming normal conversations. Then last Thurs, I attended a party and had too much to drink, despite getting home safely, I did not msg him and he waited till Fri morning before msging me "This is it".

I was extremely apologetic, and kept msging sorry for the following 3 days, promised to not drink again. (Something which I am confident of doing). On Sat, when he went on about "having enough" I asked what he meant and if this was a breakup and he said " Yup I had enough of your nonsense". After he was cold with 1-2 word msgs, at a delayed response of a few hours ever since (used to be within an hr).

I asked him to reconsider, he refused to speak with me over the phone and I msged 7-8 msgs asking for a chance. Then finally the following day he msged to say "do whatever u want, I wont force u". Since then he continued to msg me short responses, but yesterday he started asking me "where m I", "what m I doing".

I admit to not putting 100% of my heart into this initially but after this incident I felt that I cant bear to leave him. Please help me understand if he is upset/disappointed / meant to break up with me. How can I salvage and rebuild this r/s?

His Sun Pisces, Moon Sag, Mercury Pisces, Venus Cap, Mars Aquarius, Asc Pisces
Mine Sun Cap, Moon Taurus, Mercury & Venus Aquarius, Mars Libra, Asc Cancer

LDR are hard for some people and I think you can do better with meeting someone little more closer and compatible..

1. Your moon signs will clash, but can work if both are willing to.
2. Your Venus is different, your love styles are different but can be fun for a while..
3. Your rising is probably more sensitive and attaching than his.

I m slowly getting used to LDR and his personality thus less frequency of quarrelling. I m quite jaded from previous r/s and dont want to meet someone else.....he was there for me when i needed someone the most and I felt that he might be a shoulder I can rely on.

Can you tell if he meant it about the break up? I read about pisces being unable to breakup and pushing it to the partner to do that, from the charts is that his personality thus i m going through this now, or is he just genuinely angry cause of my "nonsense"? Whats the best way I can seek forgiveness from him?

I read love styles can be ok if my venus and his mars is the same sign. Even with that, is it unlikely we last? If I was to make it work what should I be aware of regarding our moon signs?

Thanks soo much for replying!!

Do not use astrology too much just get a brief detail of it. If his actions are different, words are different, he is mean, or whatever.

Your mars, mercury styles are different. Sure everyone has flaws in themselves...You guys should be able to talk but his Mars, Mercury might not perceive things the same and will take a different outlook and every decision made between you guys should be respectful and honesty about what direction you are headed with each other.

We did take a few photos before (throughout the 6mths), but when its a photo of him in it alone he wants to perfect it and request for me to retake it many times. But when i want to perfect the one we took, he didnt want to. Maybe he felt that he looks fine and doesnt need to take another?

When I had too much, my gf had to send me home. He has seen that side of me once, before we started dating. I know he is worried that something might happen to me and he mentioned that its a deal breaker for him. Is he just upset with me for now or has he given up on me? How do i make my way back into his heart?

At the start of the relationship he mentioned long term with plans to settle down, he is 37 i m 34. But after getting together he stopped talking about it and I m not sure if he has changed his mind. His Venus is in Cap, should that be a reasurrance on taking this long term?

How do we resolve the miscommunication if he is unwilling to talk about emotions? If I share one-sidedly about how I feel, will that scare him off?

Most importantly his msgs to me these 2 days, he doesnt say "dear" at all and his msgs are cold in my opinion (better than the first 2 days though, tdy he just started asking my whereabts and to have dinner etc), does it mean anything? Do pisces pity their ex and still stay in touch this way?

I dunno if its my signs, I always over think things. I really need help and opinion on whether I m still in a r/s or not. Things seems to be improving, though very baby steps, I dont want to "clarify" with him and push him off the edge again.

Thanks very much!!

He seems controlling. Be careful...

I sent him this several hrs ago "I think i m too selfish, forcing u to reply me.....u dont have to k, do what u want".....and he hasnt read or reply......seems like he has left. :.(

Girl you deserve better. Pisces plus LDR not a good combo.

I know he is not perfect....but due to interesting circumstances this is the 3rd time he reappeared in my life. We knew each other 20yrs back, lost touch till the yr before. Then I was dating and he backed off. And last yr he appeared at a time i needed someone most. I think its dumb but i feel that its fated and I dont want to give up without a fight.

Can anyone please teach me what to do next?

Do pisces men ever open up if i stick round long enough to let him know I m not a fly by night partner? He has been hurt in the past and I want to be delicate about it. Will pisces men ever care more for others than themselves?

Btw....Everyone around me has been asking me to move on....

Thanks for being soo frank with me......dunno why my heart cant move on now, but will try......

@Op - You are holding on because of fear. But letting go of him opens a potential new love.

If you keep holding on to someone who is rude, needs an attitude adjustment, and reality check because you can't let anyone treat you like this. Unacceptable!. but he is a grown adult and not sure if anyone could change him. You have to communicate to him properly about how he treats you and tell him. Then disappear..

I tried communicating that to him previously, about the photos incident and that I dont know any of his friends wherelse I introduced my close friends to him. Also Vday I waited the whole day for me and we ended up going for a coffee only (for this i commented that its a once a yr event and all i expected was for him to meet me earlier, we could have walked around hand in hand, and finish the evening with a dinner)

He didnt have a response for that, instead he said then that if I were soo unhappy maybe we should break up. I told him no, I wanted us to work things out......

Well I am still on red flags.

How much are you worth?

You are worth more than life can give, you were raised by great parents and now it's up to you and only you.. You only have one life and few options and challenges to overcome, you still are fairly young so try doings things by your self and go do something to kept your mind off of him.

Ok! Thanks for talking to me about this.....am not going to pursue him.....
I have an out of topic qn, my venus is aquarius and I read that air signs are unreliable in sustaining relationships. Is that a major setback in my love life?

No you just have to find someone on the same or nearly the similar approach or outlook to love relationship.

So you are air, mine is fixed for example. I would be more dead serious about love than go with the flow attitude air is towards fixed. It will blow hot and cold. For me if it's too much hot air it may cause concern for me to see where you are coming from. Because air is great with words and fixed is great with action which is benefited but it also doesn't mean that you take love as serious as I would. So I would question motive and beliefs of sorts. I had to give you an example.

Absolutely but in this case you both sort have these conversations that seem to be unchanged or fixed to compromise. He is almost giving you a break if you want it. But attitude is for much a character trait i look at most of the time in someone.

Am I bitter yes but not long. Am I a quiet communicator yes doesn't mean I give up easily. Am I allowed to voice my opinion with someone I like and shut me down. No. You have to stand up for your self and keep expectation high in regards to what you are looking for long term. Because that is what people look for at the end. If you can over come the flaws in someone. Get past hurdles if there are some.

So for example if someone is less communicative then ill have to open up to them to see where your mind is at. If someone is more communicative than I I will have to adjust to make it work. But it has to be two sided agreements or debates on why, what, how, wherever, etc..

Thanks for explaining to me!

I think I manage this whole r/s wrongly :.( I assumed sun pisces are romantic bfs after reading up a whole lot abt their sun signs and though I m sun cap, I love to be expressive towards my partner, in both words and actions thus I did a whole lot of that thinking he would appreciate it. Eg I would buy his fav food and stock it at home for when he comes over, I would write xmas cards/birthday cards with sweet romantic word, surprised him with a thoughtful gift and birthday cake when he wasnt expecting anything. But as he hasn't done the same for me, I panicked. I started to worry and got upset with him. Thats the reason why we quarrelled.

Not sure if this has anything to do with his signs or character over the years, I shared with him a couple of times that I was upset about him not telling me he misses me or that he wished he was there with me, he got upset and told me that if I werent impt he wouldnt have flew 9hrs to and 9hrs back to see me for 3days. I failed to realise and accept that his actions speaks louder than words 😢 He seemed soo traditional and surpresses all his feelings, wherelse I love to do display it all the time (is this aligned with what is on my signs?)

Previously I dated a sun, venus, mercury cap, moon aries who was also open and expressive about his feelings and was quite romantic as well, but I thought caps are known to be less open about their feelings.

Could you please share with me if my pisces ex gets jealous easily? As I m in a sales related function, I have to network with bankers from time to time. During which his messages would become more straightforward vs a caring one when I m out for such meetings. I always subtly tell him after the meetings that it was ok only and sometimes make it sound boring cause I suspect that he might be jealous.

Then the trigger to him wanting a breakup was with this group of people as well......am I right to say he probly broke off given his insecurity and lack of trust in me, and the pent up emotions to our arguements earlier this year?

Only you know how to be treated and you also know you have great qualities that some people don't know about hardly. So you share those things with someone you like but not really getting back with what you need in life. Sometimes people are too opposite or we have experienced it before to know what you need to see, hear, think, feel they are the right one. Some are just meant to be friends.

So try do things closer at home with someone a little more compatible with your needs.

Jealous means you have something he doesnt. Which is what? Possessive is something that is controlled by you and those that are close to you. Then there is protectiveness which he maybe.

It's just 18 hours round trip to see or accommodating for you to see him.

18 hours flight time, he spends ard 48 hours here. I have only been to his place once during the xmas season, he says its too tiring for me to fly over. I guess he is sweet in that sense.

Not sure about others with my star signs, I m highly adaptive to a certain model of relationship after 3-4mths. Like my last r/s was living together, but I was adapting ok to seeing him once every 2mths. And after realising how accurate astrology seems to be, last year after my r/s with the other Cap ended, I wanted to do better with my Pisces and studied his Sun signs carefully, I also assumed the romance part as both my exs Venus were in Cap (I thought the open display of words and actions is a norm).

He is definitely protective of me. And given his "traditional" character, he bottles all these up....

My head tells me to walk away......but my heart isnt budging.....

He said the same thing to me, I dont need you to buy my hair products, tshirts etc. But I told him I bought those not to claim credit for doing stuff for him, but to let him know I always have him on my mind and its my way of missing him.

I keep telling myself to practice more patience with him as I know that he has troubles opening up. Somehow I always pushed it into an arguement and messed up.....

Not sure if u read my first post. He broke up with me lasf week. I tried asking for a reconcilation the first couple of days but he ignores those msgs.

His replies have been short and on a friend tone with regards to him having dinner etc. I tried calling him sweet names from Thurs-Tues but was ignored. I cant tell if he is pissed or has given up on us, given the neutral msgs. I m lost on how to deal with him. Should I just be neutral as well? Does he need time? Once someone like him in his astrology sign made up his mind is it permanent?

6 years is a very long time. If you ask me, i would have waited any amount of time last week. But if he decides for us to get back, I am now hesistant about him leaving again.
From his signs can u tell more about his personality in terms of sticking it out with his partner?

Thats quite true ­

Jalent99 what are you truly holding onto? You seem him so little, your communication is primarily text, he isn't warm and loving in his words, doesn't express his emotions to you?

What exactly are you holding onto? Real relationships thrive on REAL communication, NOT text messages. How many serious long term relationships that are healthy communicate via text and don't see each other but once a month? You didn't say you Skype, or FaceTime? I try to look at things like this and figure out what the end result is? Is there going to be progression? Is someone going to move? Is there really a future with this person?

Don't just listen to your heart, that effin thing will lead you to make decisions that aren't in your best interest. Look long term, think it through, feelings change, don't waste your own time with someone that isn't giving you want you truly need.

Posted by Vixen2
he.is.an.asshole.not.worthy.of.you

you are wasting your time & youth on someone who does not deem you worthy of his...

cut that prick lose and move it...don't look back. The longer it takes you to do that, the longer it will take to get to the right one.

Listen to her!! ^^

Posted by Jalent99

1. He is unwilling to say things like "i miss you", "cant wait to see you" etc.

2. I felt insecure and picked fights with him over texts.

3. he refuses to tell me how he feels about me.

1. for him to be unwilling, it suggests that you try to force him into it. You seem very emotionally dependent upon another to approve of you. If a person isn't saying/doing something from their heart, then it doesn't have valued meaning. So, according to you, he doesn't have to mean it ... you just want him to say it. How superficial.

2. so, according to you ... you purposely pick fights with him, and it didn't appear in your testimony that you're acknowledging how fucked up this is for you to do to him. You said it and then pushed past it, without stating how much of a crazy bitch that makes you. You even go further to act like he's in the wrong for not wanting to talk on the phone, after you present yourself this horribly. You actually think a person is going to phone you, just so you can bitch at them about how weak you are and so need superficial ego stroking in order to continue living?

What utter nonsense.

3. again .... in order for him to "refuse", it means he's being a pressured. This must mean that you constantly nag him to carry your emotional baggage for you.


Here's the only reality you need to comprehend. If a Fish doesn't value you, yet, the Fish is still there .... then you are putting yourself at risk to get hurt. If a Fish is hanging around, but, doesn't actually believe in you, then the Fish is bored ... and you are expendable when something better comes along. If you're dumb enough and oblivious enough to not be capable of grasping nuances, hints or outright insults .. then you deserve to be toyed with. A Pisces won't feel guilty about you, and your little self.

The moment he expressed to you that you didn't mean much to him, and that you're done, and that you're full of nonsense ....... those words are an expression of how he feels towards you. If you choose to stay after that, then it's your own fault everytime your feelings get hurt.

You should have enough sense to want to do what is in your best interest, and to steer away from people/situations in which is not beneficial to you .... if you don't have enough sense to do that, then Pisces isn't going to feel sorry for you.

We'll just fuck with you.


So, do yourself a favor and step away.

­ ok I get all that.....its just painfully raw now and I do care a lot about him. I worry if he tells me he is sick, I check on him to make sure he eats, I m here to listen to all the unhappiness he has af work and towards society......I thought thats the key to building r/s with a pisces.

I keep magnifying the good he previously did and minimizing whatever unhappiness we had, in my mind.

Yes I was too fixated, thinking things like "I miss you" should be a common phrase especially in LDR.

The talk on the phone thing is his personal dislike. He doesnt use phone or skype right at the beginning of our relationship as he says he is exhausted from talking after his business trips. I understand......I dont have a place in his heart. ¢

Posted by Jalent99

1. I worry if he tells me he is sick, I check on him to make sure he eats, I m here to listen to all the unhappiness he has af work and towards society......I thought thats the key to building r/s with a pisces.

2. I keep magnifying the good he previously did and minimizing whatever unhappiness we had, in my mind.

3. Yes I was too fixated, thinking things like "I miss you" should be a common phrase especially in LDR.

4. I dont have a place in his heart.

1. Nope, Pisces people do not like to babied. So, your thinking is wrong, when it tells you that's the way to build a relationship with a Fish. In fact, doing that will turn a Fish away from you. We want a powerhouse, not rug to wipe our feet on. So, let's see if you can grasp that your way of thinking is wrong, so that you can better yourself .. or, if you'll continue to moan about it.

2. in other words ..... your exaggerating meanings, rather than taking them for their truths.

3. Pisces won't do well in any kind of relationship, even platonic ones ... if there are expectations based on being common. A Pisces is going to be treated as an individual with individual preferences ... or they'll jump stream and swim.

4. probably not, except for when his feet are dirty and need wiping.

If you want to have a real relationship with this Fish, then you are going to have to shed all of your silly images you have developed in your head about how a person is suppose to be .... so that you can take him for who he is.

A Pisces simply will not be in a loving and respectful relationship with someone so pretentious.

You're fucking catering to him, like he's helpless ... what the hell kind of psychosis do you have going on in your head, that is making you think you have to be so subservient to him?

All is not lost, if he's still there. He's not attached to you, but, he's there ... so he's still reachable.

But, besides all of everything I've said here ... there's one major factor at play that is paramount to Pisces ..... we are feelers. We can walk into a room of people and literally pick up on their vibes, we live by the "senses" of feelings in our environment.

Without having you physically near us, we cannot sense your presence. We can think in an ldr, we wish and hope and dream upon a star with you in an ldr ... but, we cannot sense or feel your presence. You have to be in close proximity of us, in order for us to wrap around you.

For a period of time, you two were physically together .... and he did NOT make you his world, and that is writing on the wall. A Pisces in the thralls of love have melded themselves to you ... and this man does NOT present himself as being a part of your soul.

Again .... do yourself a favor, wake up from your fantasy so that your eyes are able to clear, so the truth here will be able to register in your mind.

OMG girl! This guy is as Piscean as they come! I haven't read the other posts, but I'm sure they will also give you good advice. Here is mine:

Pisceans (even though you've read) are NOT alcoholics. He must have had a bad experience in his "past" (of which he will not disclaim) and he hates to see you DRUNK AS A SKUNK. If you want to change, then so be it! If you want a man to accept you as you as (casual drinker, etc) then don't change for him! Second, Pisceans are "secretive". We've learned from past relationships not to tell each and every one of them about our past so we just zip it up because we get tired of repeating the same story/scenario to others (how they "hurt us") so we just don't say anything!

Now, as far as I'm concerned (being Piscean) we don't have to use words to tell you, 'I miss you, I love you, I adore you, etc, etc, etc!). Again, it depends on his past relationship with his parents. My mother and father NEVER told me as a child, "I love you, you did a good job! Here is a hug and a kiss for you, etc, etc, etc!). That doesn't mean my mother and father DIDN'T love me. Their actions spoke stronger than words! I grew up the same way! Now that I am older I am the one now that craves the attention and I give it, too!

Check out my sun/moon/mercury/and venus. Your Piscean is just sulking right now; Pisceans "swim away" and don't come back. Learn from experience that you should NOT change for any man! If he does not like a woman that drinks...so be it! If you want to change for "him" then that's YOUR choice! What if he gets mad at you because you don't like suiche!? Are you going to FORCE yourself to eat a food he adores and you don't————??

Good luck. 😏

Love,

Eva

Posted by Jalent99
My head tells me to walk away......but my heart isnt budging.....

He said the same thing to me, I dont need you to buy my hair products, tshirts etc. But I told him I bought those not to claim credit for doing stuff for him, but to let him know I always have him on my mind and its my way of missing him.

I keep telling myself to practice more patience with him as I know that he has troubles opening up. Somehow I always pushed it into an arguement and messed up.....

He tells you this because he has been TOLD in the past that he was either "cheap or broke". We HATE it when someone belittles us. That's why he tells you not to buy his products for him. 🍹

Love,

Eva

PS: Everything you keep posting to me sounds like he has had a bad past relationship.

Posted by WateryGem
Jalent99 what are you truly holding onto? You seem him so little, your communication is primarily text, he isn't warm and loving in his words, doesn't express his emotions to you?

What exactly are you holding onto? Real relationships thrive on REAL communication, NOT text messages. How many serious long term relationships that are healthy communicate via text and don't see each other but once a month? You didn't say you Skype, or FaceTime? I try to look at things like this and figure out what the end result is? Is there going to be progression? Is someone going to move? Is there really a future with this person?

Don't just listen to your heart, that effin thing will lead you to make decisions that aren't in your best interest. Look long term, think it through, feelings change, don't waste your own time with someone that isn't giving you want you truly need.

She's holding on to the, "He came back to my life after 20 years and it's meant to be!!" She's living in her own fantasy island. 😄

Love,

Eva

Hello, thanks for the Great advice above!!

We started in a LDR, mid sep I was in a terrible break then and he happ to be in town. We caught up for drinks with 2 other friends, I had 3 drinks, but as I m those who dont eat or slp when I go through a break up, I didnt take fhe liquor well. And as that was genuinely my first terrible break, I was crying everywhere that 2 mths and I did the same that night on the shoulder of a gf. He sent me home afterwards and said "look u should hv considered me before and not this guy". *I made a choice to date a cap vs him a year back.

For the following week, we met 3 other nights for dinner and slpt together once. Subsequent week went back to my hometown for a holiday and he happ to have plans to do the same. We were spent most of our time together for 5 days. Since then we met for 3 days mid oct, beginning nov, mid dec and i was there at his plc xmas to ny. Then feb when we were back in our hometown for a wk, during which we had lunch/dinner/coffee only as he was staying with a cousins. The following week he spent 3 days at my plc and we celebrated his bday. The last time we slpt together was in dec.

U said Pisces are feelers, then I have to say that in sep and oct I was still getting out of a previous rut and i was generally sad. I always put up a brave front and smile infront of him but i cant help the heartbreak within me then.

Things like the tshirts were what he asked me to help him get, but when i see things he need, I will msg to check if he wants it before i get it for him. Its not something that I did for my pisces only, i do this in all my r/s. Ie i wake up really early during wkends and if my partner is still alsp i go for a walk/yoga then come back with his fav breakfast or lunch. Not only for him, i did it for everyone. (My gfs all shook their heads on this, they felt the partner should be the one doing this).

I come from a family who celebrates all occasions, we love to give presents, sometimes surprises. Its all in action though we dont express verbally, i naturally just become expressive in all my r/s. For him, his parents do not do any of these and he did subtly tell me a little here and there about their bad r/s. His parents are separated, his dad kicked his mum out and she lives with his aunt now. His sis got married 10yrs back and she shows up during celebrations but rarely does anything otherwise. Despite that, he buys gifts for his nieces and visits his mum whenever he can. Instead of flying back to our hometown to visit his mum, which he did everytime he can, he started using that time to come to see me instead.

I give him a lot of space, never ask him his work schedule, never check where he is. He always volunteers this info. I observe he doesnt have very close friends thus he doesnt share details of his friends with me, just the occassional I m meeting ___ my collegemate etc. i on the other hand would always tell him details about my family, friends, my work, my life.

The initial month when I open up about every detail about my past I asked him to share his with me and he was all ðŸ¤. Then the subsequent time he told me that his gf in college cheated and he caught a her handinhand with someone else on the streets. Mid 20s he had a gf of a few yrs who cheated on him with several others. He told me that afterwards he became a cheater as well, serial dating several at a time till approx 3-4yrs back. He had 1 serious r/s then but I dunno the details. They split about 2yrs back.

I m loyal in my relationships and i shared that with him as well.

Drinking is something that isnt nec for me. I started drinking only 5yrs back as the city i m in is more vibrant than my hometown and friends here likes to drink a lot. I m definitely not an addict, i never drink alone, i can forgo drinking for weeks if i didnt attend any networking events or parties.

I shared that he has been giving me short responses in the last couple of days. I am quite drain from not slping well and eating the entire week and thurs I msged him
"i think i m too selfish, forcing u to reply me, u dont have to....do what u want"

Yesterday I didnt proactively msg him. He asked me if I were attending parties this weekend. I told him "i dont have plans". Then he msg me in the evening to ask what i m doing, told him i was having pizza at a bar, he said "have fun getting drunk then, haha", i replied "no, i didnt drink and not planning to". After i got back last night ard 10ish, i msg him "nightz". He had a night flt to catch and he msged me "good night, catching my flt".

I dunno where he is going with this. My gfs read the msgs and said that he is just being casual and friendly. I told them I cant take it, i m not like him, with this ability to just switch off our feelings and be friends. My other guy friend who read the msgs says he is still upset and testing me about the party and whether i was out for drinks last night. I dunno, but if u ask how i feel i think he is just being friendly.

Doesnt the pisces swim away after a relationship. I dunno if this is hurting him at all, but i am overwhelm. Happy when i receive his msgs and sad after reading how platonic/cold they sound. Can anyone tell me whats probably on his mind?

I m not thinking of getting back together.

But he is the person who was there for me at the lowest point in my entire life and if he ever comes back to say he is willing to change. I will definitely open my arms. **I know i m a hopeless fool to think he will ever come back or even want to change.

To be honest, someone who wants to do everything for me makes me feel a bit uncomfortable BUT if someone takes the time to ask me "are you ok" and I feel they really mean it, its so special to me, you have to connect with a Pisces on an emotional level, were quite capable of looking after ourselves, we don't need another parent as such, but to know you care about us is paramount, because that's how we love..ok? You obviously adore this man and are just not sure how to get him to love you back..yes? Your a Capricorn, so your obviously caring nurturing and loving, just care for him, ok x were quite capable of looking after ourselves, be his best friend. Hope this helps, take care, oh and just chill!! X
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I am in a LDR as well and my Pisces guy is very caring and he always says he misses me and wants to be with me and we never argue, sometimes he lives in his own world but I never told him anything I just wait until he comes like nothing to me. It's very strange how u guy acts with u

I have have had a 9yr on and off with a Pisces (somewhat unevolved most of that time) - old threads r here

The only time ever he finally chased me back and made any from effort after 8 years or said anything close to what I needed to hear from him - was when i grew a backbone told him to go jump over some poor treatment and that we would never be together & not contact me again due to his shoddy treatment. I didnt just say it either i actually meant it and was done.

I caved in after 3 months after he found a social media he wasn't blocked on after numerous contacts as he popped into my head and I reached out- he booked a flight to be with me within a week

This is the only time EVER in our history he made any effort and showed anything that I really meant something to him (supposedly) and made out like there was a view to a relationship which I had been wanting to hear ...forever.

Our saga is now on another level and I have returned to the chaser and him the runner but still - this really is something based on my experience of a slippery fish that needs to be done with a Pisces to see whats there and if they actually care. I think you should give it a try.

from there it went that he really made it all about him and I felt it was for his personal satisfaction only and not about me also, I pulled back and became a bit disinterested (which I actually was before he came) I just wasnt feeling it for some strange reason because he proceeded to not give me what I vocalized I needed in return giving him what he missed and needed from me . He then pulled back himself just before he came as I wasn't feeding his ego in the way he expected me to based on prior history. Its interesting to read the long distance thing as it makes a lot of sense - I guess I was feeling wrapped in his world in text prior. I grew tired of the texting and wanted to see something a bit more real world which I didn't, and P Angel's comments about "normal" I guess fall in here too - but he turned off because I wasnt feeding him with the recent history of (unhealthy)attention.

Sadly the pull back really made me feel how sad i would be to lose him and I guess i became the chaser and he the runner again and we are back where we started to a degree a year ago. he still is there makes time to respond to me always, but I feel the colder distance now and he has made clear we are just friends for now.

I have a question for p Angel or anyone - we got into a tiff as he went out drinking with his mates until 3am and I got mad as he was supposed to be there for me on the trip and had a fight - in this fight (which we amicably talked through a week after) he blurted out "there is love there". What does a Pisces mean when he says that (especially angry/fighting) is that a big deal or more Pisces Fantasy to not pay attention to. I definitely feel or actually love him (based on everything). Can a relationship be revisted again in the future or is it done?

sorry just to add hes moving to my city next week so its not long distance from this point ...he moved to my city when i told him to go jump and he went back and came back again to the country - he is about to stayi with me with me as a friend until he gets a place which will be quick hence making clear it isnt under the guise of relationship which suits me fine as I don't want an instant relationship either under my roof - but also maybe why hes there to a degree but I doubt it solely hes not like that

I feel like i lost a bit of myself with him. After my failed previous r/s, i wanted soo much to make this right. I threaded soo carefully and am soo bothered by everything he does, over analysing and driving myself off the edge.

This is the 8th day that I controlled myself from contacting him, he msged me 2 days back about how am I but I didnt reply or "read" his msg. I m not playing games, just that i feel waves of sadness when i see just the text in my notification window and replying might just add another wound to my heart. Will he be upset with me and go away for good?

I know what u mean to connect with him on an emotional level....but he is blocking that, he hides most of his emotions from me and i feel like he never wants me to understand him maybe for fear of me hurting him....

I really dunno if i have the guts to plunge in again only to have him leave me after.....

Posted by Jalent99

...... if he ever comes back to say he is willing to change. I will definitely open my arms. **I know i m a hopeless fool to think he will ever come back or even want to change.

You think it's funny and cute, in saying you think you're a hopeless fool .. because you're meaning in your romantic fantasy in where your Prince desires your happiness, so therefore he desires to morph into your perfection of man.

It's not funny, nor cute ... this crazy image you have in your mind where you stand still and the people around you are changing themselves to suit you. In fact, it's rather horrendous.

You even go further in your utter inconsiderations and total disregard for him by saying you will only open your arms if he sings to your tune.


He's not you. He's actually a different person from you, and he's NOT this bizarre man-image you have in where he's a puppet to all the strings in your heart, that you've allowed to blend your realities into thinking that people are suppose to change for you.


What? were you just born?


I would imagine that every person starts learning the moment they start to interact with other people ..... all people are supposed to be allowed to be who they are. if you cannot handle it, or you cannot live with their lifestyle and their views, then you move on to other people, and let them pass.

You have failed to learn that ..... you're sitting there like a prize sitting up on a shelf, proclaiming that you will only be a part of the living if your ideals are met ... and the irony here that you are apparently so smeared with this fantasy that you are incapable of rationalizing is = for the fact that you are this ignorant to the truth that you render yourself the opposite of a prize to be won.

Oh, it's this thread ... I just went to the beginning and now realize that this is the dumbass who is clueless that the Pisces realized she was a dumbass, so dropped her ...


The horse died a long fucking time ago ... and here you are today, still jabbing it with sticks.


And the fact that you are this out of touch with reality is the reason he bailed on you ...... and how bad is that?


That you're more out of touch with reality than a Pisces.


maybe you should poke yourself with sticks to see if you're still worth anything ..... don't you think it's about time you started using brain cells to sort this out?

Posted by P-Angel

Oh, it's this thread ... I just went to the beginning and now realize that this is the dumbass who is clueless that the Pisces realized she was a dumbass, so dropped her ...


The horse died a long fucking time ago ... and here you are today, still jabbing it with sticks.


And the fact that you are this out of touch with reality is the reason he bailed on you ...... and how bad is that?


That you're more out of touch with reality than a Pisces.


maybe you should poke yourself with sticks to see if you're still worth anything ..... don't you think it's about time you started using brain cells to sort this out?

Sorry i didnt mean that he should change his personality.....all i meant was him opening up to me a little and be like the him in the initial month of our r/s.

Maybe i m really out of touch with reality.....LDR with this pisces is unlike what i imagined. If i had hear his voice once in a while, mayb i can sense how he feels, if he had shared a little more about how he feels with me over our text mayb I can understand.....when he doesnt do both and we hardly meet, I felt really helpless.

Like u say, i dont think i meant much to him. Shouldnt a r/s be both coming midway to meet each other's expectations? Not asking for the stars in the sky. Just an occasional "i miss u" would be more than enough for me. Him saying that once or twice in 6+mths ldr is really tough for me. To me at least, its just a very basic need in a r/s to feel wanted....

Trust me when I say not a single person is on my side on how i feel about him and me being irrational. And i dont expect sympathy here. Just wanted to know where i went wrong thus my detailed posts. Just wanted to be a better me when I do walk out of this.

Posted by Jalent99

I felt really helpless

Obviously, you are quite enjoying the wallowing in your beloved helplessness .... you even make threads in honor ot it, so you can hold the suffering of if dear to your heart.

there's no other reason for a rational minded person to realize the error, and then continue to choose it.


So, if you're not retarded and actually capable cognitive and critical thought .... then that only leaves the reason why you cling to the honor of rendering yourself worthless because you enjoy it.

dude, I don't feel sorry for you. You must want it. What other reason is there to inform your viewing audience that even your own people have turned away from you on this. So, not only are you delighting in your suffering .. you want your audience to egg you on in it, so you can be fully submerged is your own bullshit.


As I told you before, which you choose to suffer with it, rather than use it for your own emotional benefit ....... he doesn't want you, he has no intention of giving you anything of value, he couldn't care a less.


And here you sit, begging for fucking crumbs from him.