I saw Pisces last night at a dance bar by my place. And vomited errwhere

NOT the first time we had ran in to each other. But this time I noticed her before she noticed me. I was REALLY stoned and also has a drink before I left my house so needless to say I was slightly off base and not too sharp to deal with this situation because it still feels so delicate. I instantly walked away to another room when I saw her cause I knew I would set off bad vibes if she noticed me. She would have felt like something was off. And than I straight had a anxiety attack and left. Not sure if she saw me at all but I ended up laying in my car after that with the spins. I decided to get food, my friend who came with me met me at the car and we drove to a McDonald’s where I yakked everywhere before I can even get my food. I don’t know why I felt like this, if it was the weed or it was her. But now I can’t help but wonder if she noticed me. And I feel bad for not saying hi but I felt SICK. And not sharp to have a smooth and easy conversation. So I avoided her. I’m pretty sure it was just a combination of being sick and pressure. I’m wondering if I should just text her and tell her I saw her last night and make a joke about getting sick. Or just keep that to my self??

Posted by SpaceBird
Yeah stay the fuck away from her.

What is your train of thought here?

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Seriously ...would not want to know you after that ..maybe just best move on.

Hu? She didn’t see me throw up. What are you saying—

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Seriously ...would not want to know you after that ..maybe just best move on.

I threw up AFTER I left the bar to be clear. That I know she DEFINITELY. Did not see. I just meant I wonder if she saw me there in general. I wasn’t even there 5 minutes but the second I noticed her I decided to leave and than I progressively got more and more sick..

Posted by HaziiFlo
Did she notice you being there? Plus you were sick, I’ve had my moments of being pretty messed up and I had to leave the scene. Sometimes your health comes first and you don’t want to bring anyone in the situation. Just explain to her what happened and I’m pretty sure she will be understanding. I mean I would be, and I’ve taken care of friends who felt like that.

Yeah exactly. Didn’t want to bring her in to me not feeling right. I honestly don’t know if she noticed me. The venue is extremely small but for the 5 minutes I was there after I noticed her I just focused on not looking at her because my face was getting hot. Than I sat down to see if I could calm the fuck down and realized I was sick and just left. We’ve been in contact through text recently after she reached out saying “she’s thinking about me” on Monday. It’s been really nice and I didn’t want to ruin it with a bad interaction. But it almost feels weird hiding the fact that I saw her last night. Maybe just tell her when I see her in person and make a joke about it? I just didn’t want me being sick to be our first interaction after not seeing one another really for a while

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Did she notice you being there? Plus you were sick, I’ve had my moments of being pretty messed up and I had to leave the scene. Sometimes your health comes first and you don’t want to bring anyone in the situation. Just explain to her what happened and I’m pretty sure she will be understanding. I mean I would be, and I’ve taken care of friends who felt like that.

Yeah exactly. Didn’t want to bring her in to me not feeling right. I honestly don’t know if she noticed me. The venue is extremely small but for the 5 minutes I was there after I noticed her I just focused on not looking at her because my face was getting hot. Than I sat down to see if I could calm the fuck down and realized I was sick and just left. We’ve been in contact through text recently after she reached out saying “she’s thinking about me” on Monday. It’s been really nice and I didn’t want to ruin it with a bad interaction. But it almost feels weird hiding the fact that I saw her last night. Maybe just tell her when I see her in person and make a joke about it? I just didn’t want me being sick to be our first interaction after not seeing one another really for a while

Totally understandable, just tell her that you saw her that night but you were feeling sick so you decided to leave before she could notice you, and didn’t want to make it a big deal. No need to joke, just be clear and genuine.

It seems you and the Pisces have some close intimate history so I don’t think she will hold it against you and if she cares she will believe you. I recently went on a date with a cancer man and his insecurities were showing, I just reassured him how great I thought he was and gave him a kiss. It helped 🙂

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Word thanks. But wait till I see her?? Or asap.

Posted by Caramel_Princess
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Do not text her. It’s so obvious you’re looking for crumbs of excuses to text her.

Stalk her instead.

Lol she’s been texting me. I actually stopped replying yesterday, she showed up on “my terf” in my neighborhood. She knew very well I go to often. To a party MY FRIEND was throwing. To an event I rsvp’d to on facebook. She knew I may show up. I don’t need an excuse to text her. Last text she asked me a question Iv yet to answer because I’m pulling back since I don’t think I’m ready to have so much contact again. THAN last nights events happened and I don’t want her to feel bad I didn’t say hi if she saw me. That’s the point.

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ALSO!!!



Do not text her. It’s so obvious you’re looking for crumbs of excuses to text her.

Stalk her instead.

Lol she’s been texting me. I actually stopped replying yesterday, she showed up on “my terf” in my neighborhood. She knew very well I go to often. To a party MY FRIEND was throwing. To an event I rsvp’d to on facebook. She knew I may show up. I don’t need an excuse to text her. Last text she asked me a question Iv yet to answer because I’m pulling back since I don’t think I’m ready to have so much contact again. THAN last nights events happened and I don’t want her to feel bad I didn’t say hi if she saw me. That’s the point.

Oh wow then she’s the one stalking you!? Is she a Scorpio by any chance? 😛 who broke up with whom? Sorry if you’ve shared before I’m new to that party.

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We were never really together. She’s a Pisces I’m a cancer. I’m the one with more feelings. But right after Christmas I told her I can’t come around as often anymore because I’m in love and she’s not so I need to learn to love her in a different way. She said she loves me but isn’t in love with me blah blah blah. She said she will respect whatever boundary and doesn’t want to lose me. Than she tip toed over a boundary 3 days after that. I yelled at her. She got hurt and “felt used”. I apologized. She reached out two weeks later through text to “check up on me”. We ran in to each other at a show we were supposed to go to together and had a cold interaction. I sent her favorite flowers just because about 2 weeks after that. Just to make her smile. She loved them. Thanked me. I said “you got it”. And that was that. Than on Monday she reached out “Iv been thinking of you”. And we’ve been talking. And she showed interest in seeing me but neither of us really came out and said “let’s meet up”. She’s been to this specific monthly event before. Without me. I knew she may be there too but it was my terf and last time she went she said she didn’t love the music so I figured she may not go again. I REALLY didn’t expect to see her. And was not mentally prepared. At all. And HELLA turned the fuck up to deal with it. But it’s weird you think she may be trying to “run in to me”. I’m not too sure. But yesterday she posted her first ever insta story on months after I didn’t answer her text yesterday. I didn’t look at her story until this morning. First picture was her and in quotes “the name of the party”. She is VERY private so I was extremely thrown off that she would announce to social media where she was going that night. Also it was on her “finsta” or friend’s only instagram. That only my self and maybe 50 other people are friends of hers on. And only a handful of her friends are are from our city because she isn’t origionally from here. And her close friends here typically know where she is. Or she tells them if she wants them to know. I found it VERY odd and coincidental. And now with you saying the possibility she may have been looking to bump in to me... hmmm you got me thinking for sure.

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ALSO!!!



Do not text her. It’s so obvious you’re looking for crumbs of excuses to text her.

Stalk her instead.

Lol she’s been texting me. I actually stopped replying yesterday, she showed up on “my terf” in my neighborhood. She knew very well I go to often. To a party MY FRIEND was throwing. To an event I rsvp’d to on facebook. She knew I may show up. I don’t need an excuse to text her. Last text she asked me a question Iv yet to answer because I’m pulling back since I don’t think I’m ready to have so much contact again. THAN last nights events happened and I don’t want her to feel bad I didn’t say hi if she saw me. That’s the point.

Do cancers pull back if y’all are hurt? Usually how long before coming back into the scene with that person?

Although it was a good night, Cancer and I had too much to drink. My emotions all over the place. He opened up and so did I, wants me to be his girl and a relationship. I told him I wasn’t ready now he’s distant. 😢

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Yeah we pull back when we like someone and they have hurt us or “rejected” us. It’s not because we can’t handle rejection. It’s just our way of being considerate of you and your space if it sounds like that’s what you want from us we bounce to not seem too clingy. But we usually miss you dearly just wait for you to come to us. In my case with the Pisces. I was open to communication until I hurt her and had a chance to step back and reavaluate. I don’t like pretending like nothing is wrong. So I pull back until everything feels right again. But even so. I’m here longing waiting for her to reach out to me. Because I’d rather give space than be an annoying weirdo that acts like nothing is wrong. Like I don’t love and miss her. And it’s not fair to put that on her so I need to process my emotions. That’s why I’m distant. I need to do me and process until I don’t feel “too emotional” to interact anymore. It’s fucked up. I just only like to give the good side of my emotions. I want to make her feel good not back. Now. If I don’t like someone. I straight up ghost if it was one date. If it was a few and no chemistry but I like you I’ll suggest we stay friends. We only disappear completely if there was never anything there. Or if we were SO hurt we will never look at you the same. That only happened to me once. With my first love. 6 years after she said some hurtful things she couldn’t take back, we are now really good friends. But I can NEVER look at her romantically or even sexually ever again. It just shattered that for me. And I literally removed her from my life for 6 solid years. Only reason I got back in contact is because ya cancers live in our memories and I was curious what she had been up to when she reached out. But she has tried to have casual sex with me last year, and I rejected her. Because her ugly true behavior towards me grossed me out. I love her as a friend. But I can never look at her the same again. Hope all this answered your questions.

Posted by SpaceBird
If you bumb in to her again ..randomly ..just be cool ..see how she be kind and gentle..

'If you want to say sorry i was so fucked up when i saw you last ...totally my fault if you felt awkward promise not usually like that ..'

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Smh you only read the title didn’t you? We didn’t even talk last night. I noticed her. We didn’t run in to each other. I just left. And she was on MY TERF at a dance bar on the other side of the city I frequent at. At a party MY FRIEND throws monthly. She knew I might be there. And I left BEFORE I throw up. So how tf do you think I scared her here—

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ALSO!!!



Do not text her. It’s so obvious you’re looking for crumbs of excuses to text her.

Stalk her instead.

Lol she’s been texting me. I actually stopped replying yesterday, she showed up on “my terf” in my neighborhood. She knew very well I go to often. To a party MY FRIEND was throwing. To an event I rsvp’d to on facebook. She knew I may show up. I don’t need an excuse to text her. Last text she asked me a question Iv yet to answer because I’m pulling back since I don’t think I’m ready to have so much contact again. THAN last nights events happened and I don’t want her to feel bad I didn’t say hi if she saw me. That’s the point.

Oh wow then she’s the one stalking you!? Is she a Scorpio by any chance? 😛 who broke up with whom? Sorry if you’ve shared before I’m new to that party.

We were never really together. She’s a Pisces I’m a cancer. I’m the one with more feelings. But right after Christmas I told her I can’t come around as often anymore because I’m in love and she’s not so I need to learn to love her in a different way. She said she loves me but isn’t in love with me blah blah blah. She said she will respect whatever boundary and doesn’t want to lose me. Than she tip toed over a boundary 3 days after that. I yelled at her. She got hurt and “felt used”. I apologized. She reached out two weeks later through text to “check up on me”. We ran in to each other at a show we were supposed to go to together and had a cold interaction. I sent her favorite flowers just because about 2 weeks after that. Just to make her smile. She loved them. Thanked me. I said “you got it”. And that was that. Than on Monday she reached out “Iv been thinking of you”. And we’ve been talking. And she showed interest in seeing me but neither of us really came out and said “let’s meet up”. She’s been to this specific monthly event before. Without me. I knew she may be there too but it was my terf and last time she went she said she didn’t love the music so I figured she may not go again. I REALLY didn’t expect to see her. And was not mentally prepared. At all. And HELLA turned the fuck up to deal with it. But it’s weird you think she may be trying to “run in to me”. I’m not too sure. But yesterday she posted her first ever insta story on months after I didn’t answer her text yesterday. I didn’t look at her story until this morning. First picture was her and in quotes “the name of the party”. She is VERY private so I was extremely thrown off that she would announce to social media where she was going that night. Also it was on her “finsta” or friend’s only instagram. That only my self and maybe 50 other people are friends of hers on. And only a handful of her friends are are from our city because she isn’t origionally from here. And her close friends here typically know where she is. Or she tells them if she wants them to know. I found it VERY odd and coincidental. And now with you saying the possibility she may have been looking to bump in to me... hmmm you got me thinking for sure.

Definitely sounds like she went there just to see you, so don’t text her! You’d be making it too easy for her and would you want to make it too easy for someone who hurt you? Time to guard your heart.

Do you want her back?

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I hurt her. And I felt like she hurt me but in reality she didn’t. And I want our friendship back. Terribly.

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If you bumb in to her again ..randomly ..just be cool ..see how she be kind and gentle..

'If you want to say sorry i was so fucked up when i saw you last ...totally my fault if you felt awkward promise not usually like that ..'

do

Smh you only read the title didn’t you? We didn’t even talk last night. I noticed her. We didn’t run in to each other. I just left. And she was on MY TERF at a dance bar on the other side of the city I frequent at. At a party MY FRIEND throws monthly. She knew I might be there. And I left BEFORE I throw up. So how tf do you think I scared her here—

No I read the whole thing. If it had happened to be i would be uncomfortable.

And if it is a chill encounter ..then why be worried about it? If you have nothing to worry about ...forget about it and her.

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You should re read. You obviously didn’t understand. There was no interaction. I noticed her. I was feeling sick. Didn’t want to deal with more things. So I left. She has been contacting me. So I don’t know why you think she’s uncomfortable. You are missing what actually happened.

It’s the weed with the alcohol that made you puke. Don’t be so dramatic 😄

Posted by pisceswoman123
It’s the weed with the alcohol that made you puke. Don’t be so dramatic 😄

I know it wassss! Lol. I’m just concerned she may have noticed me before I left and thought I was avoiding her. Which I was. But because I was about to puke my guts up. I was only there for 5 minutes. She probably didn’t even see me. But I saw her and she’s been texting me so I feel weird not telling her I was there last night. Idk.

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It’s the weed with the alcohol that made you puke. Don’t be so dramatic 😄

I know it wassss! Lol. I’m just concerned she may have noticed me before I left and thought I was avoiding her. Which I was. But because I was about to puke my guts up. I was only there for 5 minutes. She probably didn’t even see me. But I saw her and she’s been texting me so I feel weird not telling her I was there last night. Idk.

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Don’t lie.

Just tell her that you saw her but that you had to go because you were not feeling well.

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It’s the weed with the alcohol that made you puke. Don’t be so dramatic 😄

I know it wassss! Lol. I’m just concerned she may have noticed me before I left and thought I was avoiding her. Which I was. But because I was about to puke my guts up. I was only there for 5 minutes. She probably didn’t even see me. But I saw her and she’s been texting me so I feel weird not telling her I was there last night. Idk.

Don’t lie.

Just tell her that you saw her but that you had to go because you were not feeling well.

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Planned to when I see her next. But you are saying text her?

Posted by DeleterNerd
How old are you? Did you just turn 21? You sound very childish. Stop treating her poorly if you want to date her again. Start off by apologizing for playing immature mind games. And stop expecting someone to fall in love with you immediately. Thats not real love.

What the fuck are you talking about? I’ve known her for 2 years. I don’t expect anything from her. Nor am I playing games. Have you even ready my 1.5 years of posts. She considers me one of her best friends. I don’t “want her back”. We are both distancing until my feels chill out so that we can remain FRIENDS. Which we both agreed Is more important to the both of us in the big picture. And I didn’t hurt her because I played games. I hurt her because she broke a boundary and I YELLED at her like an ass hole instead of just telling her it felt inappropriate. First time in 1.5 years of knowing one another I ever did that. You sound like the child. Also never seen you on dxp so gtfo.

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How old are you? Did you just turn 21? You sound very childish. Stop treating her poorly if you want to date her again. Start off by apologizing for playing immature mind games. And stop expecting someone to fall in love with you immediately. Thats not real love.

And I already apologized to her for hurting her right after it happened. Doesn’t change the fact that the boundaries still stand. She has been reaching out and talking to me all week. WHAT DONT YOU GET HERE?? And I’m not gonna satisfy you by telling you how old I am. Maybe read properly instead of just coming on here to put people down.

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NOT the first time we had ran in to each other. But this time I noticed her before she noticed me. I was REALLY stoned and also has a drink before I left my house so needless to say I was slightly off base and not too sharp to deal with this situation because it still feels so delicate. I instantly walked away to another room when I saw her cause I knew I would set off bad vibes if she noticed me. She would have felt like something was off. And than I straight had a anxiety attack and left. Not sure if she saw me at all but I ended up laying in my car after that with the spins. I decided to get food, my friend who came with me met me at the car and we drove to a McDonald’s where I yakked everywhere before I can even get my food. I don’t know why I felt like this, if it was the weed or it was her. But now I can’t help but wonder if she noticed me. And I feel bad for not saying hi but I felt SICK. And not sharp to have a smooth and easy conversation. So I avoided her. I’m pretty sure it was just a combination of being sick and pressure. I’m wondering if I should just text her and tell her I saw her last night and make a joke about getting sick. Or just keep that to my self??

LMAO hahaha ah man, thanks for this thread man. Im not laughing at your pain BTW, I dont believe half the things I read here, but your post was "real" to me.

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NOT the first time we had ran in to each other. But this time I noticed her before she noticed me. I was REALLY stoned and also has a drink before I left my house so needless to say I was slightly off base and not too sharp to deal with this situation because it still feels so delicate. I instantly walked away to another room when I saw her cause I knew I would set off bad vibes if she noticed me. She would have felt like something was off. And than I straight had a anxiety attack and left. Not sure if she saw me at all but I ended up laying in my car after that with the spins. I decided to get food, my friend who came with me met me at the car and we drove to a McDonald’s where I yakked everywhere before I can even get my food. I don’t know why I felt like this, if it was the weed or it was her. But now I can’t help but wonder if she noticed me. And I feel bad for not saying hi but I felt SICK. And not sharp to have a smooth and easy conversation. So I avoided her. I’m pretty sure it was just a combination of being sick and pressure. I’m wondering if I should just text her and tell her I saw her last night and make a joke about getting sick. Or just keep that to my self??

LMAO hahaha ah man, thanks for this thread man. Im not laughing at your pain BTW, I dont believe half the things I read here, but your post was "real" to me.

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Ha! Doesn’t get more real than puking outside of McDonald’s

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It’s the weed with the alcohol that made you puke. Don’t be so dramatic 😄

I know it wassss! Lol. I’m just concerned she may have noticed me before I left and thought I was avoiding her. Which I was. But because I was about to puke my guts up. I was only there for 5 minutes. She probably didn’t even see me. But I saw her and she’s been texting me so I feel weird not telling her I was there last night. Idk.

Don’t lie.

Just tell her that you saw her but that you had to go because you were not feeling well.

Planned to when I see her next. But you are saying text her?

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I am not sure.

If you think that somebody else that knows you may have seen you there, I will tell her straight away.

If you think non of her friends saw you. Then I will wait for the right moment.

In the end of the day, you didn’t do anything bad, so it’s shouldn’t be a big deal 😄

You are making a big deal out of nothing....as usual.

Like bro, you got sick you left...shoot her a text “hey I saw you the other night @ ____ , wish we could have talked. I wasn’t feeling well so had to leave. We should hang out soon.”

Then when she is ready to hang out, pretend to be super busy! Muahahaha!!

I’ve gotten vomitty before when I smoked before I drank. Rule of thumb is do your shots, drink your beer, and wait till your end of the night to have your smoke.

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I’ve gotten vomitty before when I smoked before I drank. Rule of thumb is do your shots, drink your beer, and wait till your end of the night to have your smoke.

Sound advice. You’d think as a vet I would have learned by now lol

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I’ve gotten vomitty before when I smoked before I drank. Rule of thumb is do your shots, drink your beer, and wait till your end of the night to have your smoke.

It's the other way around.

Beer before grass you're on your ass. Grass before beer you're in the clear.

You should always smoke before you drink. Smoking after you're drunk is always a mistake.

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I’ve gotten vomitty before when I smoked before I drank. Rule of thumb is do your shots, drink your beer, and wait till your end of the night to have your smoke.

It's the other way around.

Beer before grass you're on your ass. Grass before beer you're in the clear.

You should always smoke before you drink. Smoking after you're drunk is always a mistake.

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Wellll it depends how many hours pass. She’s talking end of the night. Which depending on how drunk I am I agree with. HOWEVER. You are also right. That night I drank at home. And than hot boxed my car with my homie right before we entered the bar. BIG MISTAKE.