I want me Scorpio ex back... I won't rest (figuratively) until I get him back

So I am a Pisces Sun, Libra Moon, Aries Venus. Most people will mistake me for a Scorpio but I am far too empathetic and sensitive to others pain. I'm a real softie but a badass at the same time. At first I was resisting his advances. He asked me out thre
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  • So I am a Pisces Sun, Libra Moon, Aries Venus. Most people will mistake me for a Scorpio but I am far too empathetic and sensitive to others pain. I'm a real softie but a badass at the same time. At first I was resisting his advances. He asked me out three times before one day I decided to go out with him. After one week he said he loved me. I was in pain about something that happened last year he kept telling me to let it go. But I couldn't. And it would bother him and he got bored of it.

    Sometimes I felt trapped by him because if I wasn't exactly what he wanted and if we got in any little fight he would threaten that our relationship wasn't sustainable and then I would go fight or flight and convince him to come back and he liked this but every fight he would threaten and I ended up taking it out subconsciously by being standoffish to his friends. He is a very impatient man when it comes to dealing with other people's feelings. None of my friends like him which is what I think heavily influenced me, but I do understand him. He likes to retreat and one time he said he couldn't really sleep after hurting me.

    I broke up with him a week ago and he retaliated by saying hurtful things during the breakup. I was dumb and I kept flip-flopping a few days after first saying I was upset then saying I loved him telling him I couldn't sleep. I apologized to his friends for being standoffish they were really understanding. My feelings weren't stable. I told him "I think now I like you more than you like me now" He says he wants to be friends but doesn't think he wants a relationship and would rather see how things go. He says he doesn't want someone to need him. I took offense to this because I said I think you know I am very independent. He said I know. I said regardless of what you think I believe in myself. He said I believe in you more than you believe in yourself. While he was saying this he was calling me babe kitten and claiming he wanted to kiss me but it would be a bad idea. He then invited me out for an event I said it's best to talk to him after break. (Note this is finals time) Next semester we have no classes. He was flip-flopping as well and sent me a picture of him with a bear I gave him at 3AM.

    I don't love him but I do like him and I understand he doesn't want to be hurt again. He really tried hard to pursue me but actually it was me who did push him away to an extent because I was hurt and didn't know what I wanted. However, I do want him. Not now but maybe in a few months when I truly am ready. And maybe I will only want him as a friend I have a crush on....who knows....

    I need a plan. I know he was attracted to me because he thought I was kind, confident and an alpha female. I am kind and an alpha female but I am not as confident as I once was (in certain things).

    We had really great times that were marred by petty arguments. I hope in time he will see the great times.

  • *my not me

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  • peachy06
    ♏️ sun ♐️ moon
    female
    Another day, another whiny Pisces
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  • Ellygant
    Ascendant in Clumsy, Sun/Mercury/Venus in Scary, Moon in Comfort, Mars in Giddy
    ‘I want my ex back no matter what t takes. But I don’t love him. But I do want him around in case I get my butter together in a few months. Maybe. Even tho we were both super dramatic and kinda toxic to each other. I’m such badass, but with a gentle heart, so I get what I want.’

    OP, just go write a romance novel. Save yourself the inevitable drama you’re chasing by dragging this out.
  • peachy06
    ♏️ sun ♐️ moon
    female
    Posted by Reincarnation
    Posted by piscesarieslibra
    So I am a Pisces Sun, Libra Moon, Aries Venus. Most people will mistake me for a Scorpio but I am far too empathetic and sensitive to others pain. I'm a real softie but a badass at the same time. At first I was resisting his advances. He asked me out three times before one day I decided to go out with him. After one week he said he loved me. I was in pain about something that happened last year he kept telling me to let it go. But I couldn't. And it would bother him and he got bored of it.

    Sometimes I felt trapped by him because if I wasn't exactly what he wanted and if we got in any little fight he would threaten that our relationship wasn't sustainable and then I would go fight or flight and convince him to come back and he liked this but every fight he would threaten and I ended up taking it out subconsciously by being standoffish to his friends. He is a very impatient man when it comes to dealing with other people's feelings. None of my friends like him which is what I think heavily influenced me, but I do understand him. He likes to retreat and one time he said he couldn't really sleep after hurting me.

    I broke up with him a week ago and he retaliated by saying hurtful things during the breakup. I was dumb and I kept flip-flopping a few days after first saying I was upset then saying I loved him telling him I couldn't sleep. I apologized to his friends for being standoffish they were really understanding. My feelings weren't stable. I told him "I think now I like you more than you like me now" He says he wants to be friends but doesn't think he wants a relationship and would rather see how things go. He says he doesn't want someone to need him. I took offense to this because I said I think you know I am very independent. He said I know. I said regardless of what you think I believe in myself. He said I believe in you more than you believe in yourself. While he was saying this he was calling me babe kitten and claiming he wanted to kiss me but it would be a bad idea. He then invited me out for an event I said it's best to talk to him after break. (Note this is finals time) Next semester we have no classes. He was flip-flopping as well and sent me a picture of him with a bear I gave him at 3AM.

    I don't love him but I do like him and I understand he doesn't want to be hurt again. He really tried hard to pursue me but actually it was me who did push him away to an extent because I was hurt and didn't know what I wanted. However, I do want him. Not now but maybe in a few months when I truly am ready. And maybe I will only want him as a friend I have a crush on....who knows....

    I need a plan. I know he was attracted to me because he thought I was kind, confident and an alpha female. I am kind and an alpha female but I am not as confident as I once was (in certain things).

    We had really great times that were marred by petty arguments. I hope in time he will see the great times.


    You're not stable.

    Scorpio needs a stable woman.
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    Basically. Also she treats him like an option. That guy deserves better than her.
  • I wish someone else who understood that I do care about him to respond. We only were in a relationship for a month. So if you are giving him credibility for saying "I love you" after one week than I obviously am in a scorpion nest.

    I didn't know what I wanted at first because he pursued me and came on extremely strong. I was preoccupied with school work. As was he. I am very goal-oriented. He may have goals but although a fixed sign he isn't as fixed as me in terms of long-term goals.

    I know I am stable but I needed things to slow down. They moved too fast for me.

  • I came here for help. Not to be derided. I care for him. But no I do not love him after one month neither does he love me. I apologize. It was one month during finals season.

    I don't want anyone else but him. But we both need time to think.

    Judge me but if you are on a mission and someone inserts themselves very abruptly and consumingly in your life it would take you for a ride too.
  • tctao
    Taurus Sun/Rising Cap moon Aries Venus/Mercury Pisces Mars
    your Aries Venus is showing and well, frankly, it's embarrasing
  • Posted by piscesarieslibra
    I came here for help. Not to be derided. I care for him. But no I do not love him after one month neither does he love me. I apologize. It was one month during finals season.

    I don't want anyone else but him. But we both need time to think.

    Judge me but if you are on a mission and someone inserts themselves very abruptly and consumingly in your life it would take you for a ride too.


    Just maintain the friendship and see how it goes, like he said...Now it seems he is where you were, and wants to take it slow...why is that an issue?

  • You're not stable.

    Scorpio needs a stable woman.

    I mentioned I have not been stable because of what happened last year. He knows this. It's not like what happened to me were easy things to deal with. Parent dying, being outcasted, having a professor sexually assault me. He entered my life at the wrong time. The fact that I am able to put on a happy face, was able to secure a job, do well in my coursework, which is more challenging (physics and engineering) than his proves myself to myself.

    I need to become what I once was or who I can be before I win him back. I am not unaware of that The problem is if he thinks anything like any of you I need to run quick because my kindness is why he fell for me and I like being empathetic to others. He knows I am in pain. If people on here are immediately ready to attack me and not give me the benefit of the doubt, maybe my best match isn't a Scorpion.

  • Posted by Metatron
    Posted by piscesarieslibra
    I came here for help. Not to be derided. I care for him. But no I do not love him after one month neither does he love me. I apologize. It was one month during finals season.

    I don't want anyone else but him. But we both need time to think.

    Judge me but if you are on a mission and someone inserts themselves very abruptly and consumingly in your life it would take you for a ride too.


    Just maintain the friendship and see how it goes, like he said...Now it seems he is where you were, and wants to take it slow...why is that an issue?
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    It's not an issue. I came on here to get advice on how to romantically attract him again. But instead I am accused of being a troll and whatever else. I think I already knew the answer--and that's just to be myself.
  • And for the Scorpios on here who despise me...why is he insistent on being friends then? Why send me a picture of him with a teddy bear at 3AM?
  • Lol
  • peachy06
    ♏️ sun ♐️ moon
    female
    He may have goals but although a fixed sign he isn't as fixed as me in terms of long-term goals.

    Lies. You're not fixed at all, you don't know what you want. And like every pisces on this forum, you play the victim card.
  • tctao
    Taurus Sun/Rising Cap moon Aries Venus/Mercury Pisces Mars
    lol - good luck with all that . stuff

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