Pisces distancing himself

I'm sure this has been a forum topic before. I was on this site a couple of years ago, but now my problem is with a Pisces male that I've been dating for 9 months. For the last month he was busy with work and on his first free days off he hung out with one of his friend twice (she's a single woman/high school friend). When I found out (being Taurus female) I was honest & told him I was heart broken and sad that he didn't want to spend time with me, but made plans to see her.

We briefly saw each other that day, I was able to visit him while he was at work. I tried to make light of the situation, but then he rarely texted me. Then after a week of silence I texted him, asking if he was alright & if he wanted to talk. (that way if he did want to break up, it would have been the perfect opportunity to do so.)

It's been 2 days after that & no response. Before this issue, it's been great. I met his family, spent the holidays with him. He was meeting my friends and family too. I'm so confused.

I also didn't realize that Mercury was in Retrograde until the last text I sent, so our communication may be off.(FYI, I don't believe he's cheating, I just think that he made a thoughtless decision)

He hasn't deleted our photos from social media or unfollowed me anywhere. Should I have hope that he'll reappear or give up? Does anyone have any advice?

turn away and run as fast as you can away from him. you have been warned.

Not sure djbuck1. The scorpio was a jerk from the beginning and he did end things after I texted him. After a year of counseling & no dating, I meet the Pisces, who was the opposite: kind, family oriented, passion for his career, included me in his life. I thought I had finally chosen a guy that it could talk to who would never be cruel to me. 9 months later this happens. Can you fault me for not being a fortune teller?

You sound doormatty.


The typical Pisces aren't interested in people who lack direction. You appear as though you sit there waiting on him to decide your fate for you.

A Pisces will usually run as far away from a person like that, as possible. Perhaps, you hide it well and he just now figured out that you won't make your life happen, rather await on another to make it happen for you.

Most likely this friend of his uses her mind for herself.

Posted by Deena002

I thought I had finally chosen a guy that it could talk to who would never be cruel to me. 9 months later this happens. Can you fault me for not being a fortune teller?

I don't see any cruelty here. So, why you would use that word to describe this situation is beyond me. Perhaps, you exaggerate and that is one of the problems.

Are you able to see yourself to realize that exaggeration is a problem? I doubt it, most people are too ignorant to see themselves.

Nobody even remotely suggested that you be a fortune teller ... yet that is your response?

You're not real enough for the Pisces ... obviously.


I would suggest a sign who is insecure.

Hi P-Angel,

I do find ignoring someone's Texts rude and cruel. I don't think that's an over exaggeration. Though I will admit that I do that at times when upset. I am not one for blaming the other person completely. However as you don't know his friend, she's a mess and she constantly goes to him for advice, I find it inappropriate at times.

As for "doormatty", I am the opposite, I have my own mind, I've been on my own since I was 13, and I never asked anyone for help. I'm a very strong person. Anyway, I just want to work on this and it makes me upset because I put my relationships first.I'm ready to work on that part of my life now, as my career, and relationships with family and friends are all fantastic.

He picked the other girl to hang out with over you. Let the guy go, hes not into.it

You missed my point entirely, so I will forgo dancing around it, and be blunt .....


Because what he is doing with this other chic is inappropriate ... your choice should be to step away from him, to find a person who is one that would be deserving of a respectful person.

Since you have decided that you want to keep a dickhead ... a dickhead is exactly what you deserve, and all the misery that comes with it.

If you aren't going to make the decision that you deserve better than what you consider to be inappropriate, then you're expendable without further ado, with any consideration from another, at all.


Since Pisces people are very intuitive, it's highly probably that he figured this out about you a long time ago, but, he was just waiting for someone better than you to come along. If a person, like you, isn't going to regard their own standards ... then the typical Pisces couldn't give a rats ass about you, and will string you along so long as it benefits us.


And our justification to that is .... you're standing there taking bullshit, as if you have no integrity. If you're going to do that, then you have no value.


And proof of this is you exaggerating, yet again .... because all know that a 13 yo can't make it in life without help. So, that was a deception.


He likely saw this in you, and decided he would play along until he got bored.


And sure as shit, here you are .... by wanting him = you actually stand by your own standards, so why the fuck should anyone else care to pamper your feelings?

Posted by Deena002

..... on his first free days off he hung out with one of his friend twice (she's a single woman/high school friend).

Posted by Deena002

I tried to make light of the situation ....

Posted by Deena002

.... his friend, she's a mess and she constantly goes to him for advice, I find it inappropriate

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Why would you make light of a situation that you find inappropriate?

That kind of bullshit will kill the Pisces relationship. If you can't be real, get fucking lost, we don't want you.


do you understand now? ... or are you still going to sit there and whine about how you are being treated?


How a person treats you, is according to you. YOU teach a person how to treat you. If you make light of a serious situation, then you can't come in here and complain about it.

It seems to be an earth issue.


Passion seems to only be in words. When it comes to actually living life, they want an arrangement instead.

"Will string you along while it benefits us". How lovely of you, stand up people you pisces are.

P-Angel,

I appreciate all of your feedback.
After nine months of good times, I didn't think that anyone would cut and run. but you think so & I'm not arguing with you. Also, I'm from Mexico and yes, I was on my own at 13. That's a weird thing to assume to be an exaggeration, you've never met me.

As for the "YOU teach a person how to treat you. If you make light of a serious situation, then you can't come in here and complain about it." - I can complain about whatever I'd like. You don't need to respond to it.

KittenLaRouge,
Yes I've let go. I deleted his number from my phone. I'm moving on.

Posted by Deena002

I can complain about whatever I'd like. You don't need to respond to it.

that translates to: I refuse to accept that I've been a fool, and I certainly won't accept being told that, so I'll defend myself with the obvious and hope nobody notices that I don't have a come-back.

What's really bizarre is that by you stating and defending that you've been on your own since 13 (in which we can all see the pudding, by I'll mention it anyway) ..... you haven't a fucking thing about human interactions if you have to be told:

If a person acts like they aren't into you, then they're not.

You'd think that an adult who's so fucking grown up and mature, and responsible (since 13 yo) would have the mental fortitude and capacity to actually grasp this simple concept.

This thread exists. So the means the below ....

Posted by KittenLaRouge
He picked the other girl to hang out with over you. Let the guy go, hes not into.it

... wasn't known to you, until you were told.


That is the real travesty here.

There are still people in this THAT dumb.

They have to be told not to be stupid.