@Reconstructing_a_Leo
17 Years500+ Posts
One year later, still in love with the Pisces
Who would you want a life on the run, hidden and fake, that of criminals hiding from justice? Nothing beats getting out of the triangle and celebrating your love openly, without fear and remorse. I don't think you are there yet.
But you can't get around the fact your actions are hurting his wife. And, besides, we all get disappointed in the game of love. That's no excuse for being a party to a lie. Moral of this story: you don't win anything worth having when it comes at the expense of another. You're settling for crumbs and that's a sad reflection on your self-esteem and what you can bring to the table. Hope you get some help with that.
Posted by Este8
But you can't get around the fact your actions are hurting his wife. And, besides, we all get disappointed in the game of love. That's no excuse for being a party to a lie. Moral of this story: you don't win anything worth having when it comes at the expense of another. You're settling for crumbs and that's a sad reflection on your self-esteem and what you can bring to the table. Hope you get some help with that.
I cannot agree with this more!!! besides no matter what sign he is... if he did to his wife (of so long) he will do it again to whomever, is not you is him who is not happy with himself and he is damaging people on his hunt for god knows what...
Posted by Reconstructing_a_Leo
Hello dear fish and fish friends 🙂I had an some unpopular threads around here because I'm seeing a married Pisces man. I came back to share the following: things are not what they appear to be. In my life the relationships that were promising a solid, beautiful future have brought betrayal and pain. A relationship that was condemned by everyone has brought continuous joy and growth. It's been a happy year,and I felt loved.
Sometimes, especially when there's plenty of Scorpio in one's chart, life draws in plutonic triangles, and no matter how you move around thinking you're the only partner, the loss and betrayal mechanism will be put in motion. And you suffer, until you learn how to not be that possessive any more.
Thank God for Pisces 🙂
^^^^Delusional rantings from a side piece of ass with no identity or self respect.
You may not believe in god, Karma, the right to possess another human being, the ability to hurt someone who does not have a clue....
You may have hight confidence in yourself and be a caring and generous individual....
The thing is, these don't really matter. You will have to keep it secret, because most women will "judge" you out of their own insecurity and fear that someone like you will take away their husband, partner or the guy they are infatuated with .......and they will have to move their poor ass back into the dating scene, looking for a fool to take care of their insecure, pathetic and boring self.....
Good luck with that!
elle!! exoskeleton!! Scorpio friends, thanks for saying hello, good vibes to you 🙂
@the rest. thank you for the feedback. I'm not into discussing the moral aspect. My 2 cents is that his marriage is happier because of me. I actually like his wife, she's an Aries. Of course she won't know. Yes he did have affairs before. Maybe he'll have others after me who knows, we don't own each other. I know I'll always love him no matter what. My point in all this is to say that life is not black and white. It gained speed. In 500 years people will no longer live in couples for life. We are just souls looking for love, and live plenty of fear.
I don't want to offend anybody, but the idea of having one woman??man for the whole rest of one's life becomes more and more elusive in the postfb era, and it was, anyways, a concept that works for the middle class and for the poor (not that I'm rich, but just because you've always grown with these concepts doesn't mean they equate to happiness, quite the opposite, there are plenty of miserable ppl wasting their lives away in unhappy arrangements. job arrangements, marriage or family arrangements, etc
I wish you all the best, as usual
now let me go post some other stuff
There is no justification for what you are doing. You are actively and knowingly participating in the destruction of a marriage. A holy union.
You and him both will never know love. Only secrecy and lies cloaked in a false sense of happiness and desperation.
May karma reign down on you both; in the same way you two are acting: Relentlessly and without Care.
Posted by Reconstructing_a_Leo
Hello dear fish and fish friends 🙂I had an some unpopular threads around here because I'm seeing a married Pisces man. I came back to share the following: things are not what they appear to be. In my life the relationships that were promising a solid, beautiful future have brought betrayal and pain. A relationship that was condemned by everyone has brought continuous joy and growth. It's been a happy year,and I felt loved.
Sometimes, especially when there's plenty of Scorpio in one's chart, life draws in plutonic triangles, and no matter how you move around thinking you're the only partner, the loss and betrayal mechanism will be put in motion. And you suffer, until you learn how to not be that possessive any more.
Thank God for Pisces 🙂
Girl you have a heart I don't want
ps: you're gonna get burned in the end.
You know..I already touched on this in the other topic you posted a lot of months back. So the cheating part..we get it, you're not going to change or care about it at all.
However, this whole enlightment you were always about..yet..it's the same cliches you hear from side chicks. I mean, if this was truly transformative for you..you wouldn't be a broken record like the majority of mistresses.
Posted by Reconstructing_a_Leo
My 2 cents is that his marriage is happier because of me.
My mother is a Leo. She had pretty much the same mindset in drifting from one man to the next. It felt deep until it turned pathethic. Either way, if you have or will have a daughter and she comes to you one night about her husband cheating on her, don't forget to add how much you understand him and condemn her grief. Make sure to add that you're convinced the woman her husband's cheating on her with is actually helping her marriage. Then you really won't have to worry if your daughter turns your back on you and never gives a shit about you again.
You should up the charade though. Befriend the Aries, go out shopping with her. Do they have kids? Buy them presents and spend time with them as daddy's friend. I mean why just stop at sleeping with him when you can have the full experience?
Posted by Damnata
You know..I already touched on this in the other topic you posted a lot of months back. So the cheating part..we get it, you're not going to change or care about it at all.However, this whole enlightment you were always about..yet..it's the same cliches you hear from side chicks. I mean, if this was truly transformative for you..you wouldn't be a broken record like the majority of mistresses.
Posted by Reconstructing_a_Leo
My 2 cents is that his marriage is happier because of me.
My mother is a Leo. She had pretty much the same mindset in drifting from one man to the next. It felt deep until it turned pathethic. Either way, if you have or will have a daughter and she comes to you one night about her husband cheating on her, don't forget to add how much you understand him and condemn her grief. Make sure to add that you're convinced the woman her husband's cheating on her with is actually helping her marriage. Then you really won't have to worry if your daughter turns your back on you and never gives a shit about you again.
You should up the charade though. Befriend the Aries, go out shopping with her. Do they have kids? Buy them presents and spend time with them as daddy's friend. I mean why just stop at sleeping with him when you can have the full experience?
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This is a damn good response to help her look at things from a different angle but I agree why not go all out and befriend the wife and take her to lunch even.Ask her about her marriage and has she noticed different about her husband lately.Like does he seem happier like he's brimming with joy or something. since she wanna be best supporting side hoe
*Anything different
It's just..
If you'll have a daughter and she's young and men make passes at her on the street because they know her mother gets around like that..
Or some lady stopping her on the street one day and crying because her mother broke her marriage and the daughter has no reply for it..
Then maybe you will get it. My mother never did and likely never will.
I haven't read any of your past posts Reconstructing, so I'm sorry if I'm missing a ton of detail...but from what I've read, I totally agree with some of your free-spirited view on love and relationships in general. However, that doesn't take away the value in honesty and trust in a MARRIAGE that is being completely betrayed between THEM. You said, "In my life the relationships that were promising a solid, beautiful future have brought betrayal and pain." And now ironically the relationship that you is bringing you joy will bring another woman to feel betrayal and pain--and you're participating in that for YOUR happiness. That's fine that you like her, great...but how you feel isn't actually everything. You seem to feel enlightened about the whole thing and very nonchalant about it because you're getting a piece of a man who probably makes you feel amazing, but there's a reason she doesn't know...and there's a reason why he's still married and keeping it a secret. Again, I don't know the details, just going off what I got from this thread.
Usually in situations like yours, the person getting what they want (which seems to be him) has a way of making the third person believe that they are on the same emotional page...and Pisces men in particular are SO good at making you see relationships in a new free, very spiritual way. I fell for a Pisces this past year, and I realize how much he's changed the way I view relationships and how much I changed since meeting him. BUT....unfortunately this is very often a result of incredible mind and emotional manipulation. He's MARRIED. The day he leaves you completely, it won't feel so transcendental. Even if you feel like you're not capable of becoming jealous, once he pulls his affections away--it'll hurt. Then again, he might not ever fully leave you because you're so easy for him to have on the side. Pisces rarely leave for good if they know they can just keep coming back with no strings attached.
Maybe you like the arrangement because it's safe for you? Being the side woman sometimes feels like less of an emotional risk because it puts you in a position of desire at all times, but it's also kind of a cop out from real intimacy and vulnerability that two people can share with just each other. You know he isn't technically yours, and that somehow comforts you. But are you actually cheating yourself,and are you actually in love with a man in part just because you feel like you're winning a part of him that his wif
Haha apparently I wrote way too much because it got cut off:
But are you actually cheating yourself, and are you actually in love with a man in part just because you feel like you're winning a part of him that his wife isn't getting? It sounds to me like you're doing a good job of convincing yourself that what you're doing is ok, or he's done a good job at convincing you. But if you both really view love this way, why is he still married?
It's ok to love him. Normal even. Love happens all the time, even with people who happen to be married. But ok to be physically be with him as he betrays his wife? That doesn't seem very positive.
Good luck. 🙂 Positive vibes.
Posted by Reconstructing_a_Leo
... the idea of having one woman??man for the whole rest of one's life becomes... a concept that works for the middle class and for the poor??_
Troll or schizophrenic is my guess.
Can just Leos admit the fact that cats are sketchy and they like to play with their food.... As far as i know they like fish... In other words is nature i will never work...
Posted by LetltB
Posted by Reconstructing_a_Leo
Hello dear fish and fish friends 🙂I had an some unpopular threads around here because I'm seeing a married Pisces man. I came back to share the following: things are not what they appear to be. In my life the relationships that were promising a solid, beautiful future have brought betrayal and pain. A relationship that was condemned by everyone has brought continuous joy and growth. It's been a happy year,and I felt loved.
Sometimes, especially when there's plenty of Scorpio in one's chart, life draws in plutonic triangles, and no matter how you move around thinking you're the only partner, the loss and betrayal mechanism will be put in motion. And you suffer, until you learn how to not be that possessive any more.
Thank God for Pisces 🙂
^^^^Delusional rantings from a side piece of ass with no identity or self respect.
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LOL you do make me laugh LIB
Posted by fullwaterpisces
Can just Leos admit the fact that cats are sketchy and they like to play with their food.... As far as i know they like fish... In other words is nature i will never work...
You're using a crazy person to judge us all?
That's not very nice.
Worry if i did, but most pisces and leo romantically hardly works, leos needs and demands too much, and it end up hurting us... recipe for disaster
Posted by fullwaterpisces
Worry if i did, but most pisces and leo romantically hardly works, leos needs and demands too much, and it end up hurting us... recipe for disaster
If fidelity and paying your half of the
bills is "too much" then yeah-- I'm guilty.
😄
We hardly get out unscathed.
But that was a long time ago-- and I happen
to like Pisces.
Still. 🙂
"My 2 cents is that his marriage is happier because of me." Amazing the shit people will believe just to justify a morally bankrupt position. If and when the wife finds out, it will crush her and she'll despise you. Just remember you said all this shit when he pitches your sorry ass to the curb.
Posted by missmagicmoon
Haha apparently I wrote way too much because it got cut off:But are you actually cheating yourself, and are you actually in love with a man in part just because you feel like you're winning a part of him that his wife isn't getting? It sounds to me like you're doing a good job of convincing yourself that what you're doing is ok, or he's done a good job at convincing you. But if you both really view love this way, why is he still married?
It's ok to love him. Normal even. Love happens all the time, even with people who happen to be married. But ok to be physically be with him as he betrays his wife? That doesn't seem very positive.
Good luck. 🙂 Positive vibes.
thank you kindly 🙂
yes the arrangement is good for me, too, I like being free and will accept the consequences that come with that later on, at an older age. It's a life style .
He's still married because he loves her. He does love me, too.
This thread has lived its life. I thank you all for putting the time to reply but I can't address insults
wish you all the best 🙂
sorry Infinite8 I had not noticed you post, that may well be, in the same way that we are all deluding ourselves 🙂
Of course you're happy, because you're getting what you want with nobody betraying you or lying to you. I'm sure she would prefer to live a life of dignity by knowing the truth and not having her husband loving another woman, and another woman getting her husband on the side.
Love is not difficult to find. There's millions of people to love who aren't married. 🙂 Plenty of men who aren't liars as well. Bad karma to be involved with that.
Btw, marriage isn't just above love. Marriage is a commitment and you take vows. Marriage is for two people. If he wants to just love women, he shouldn't be married.
I haven't a fucking clue why people have come in here to attempt to reason with a cunt. It should be obvious that she was looking for a reaction.
Furthermore, it should also be obvious to everyone that if she feels compelled to seek reactions from us, then it means her position with him is contrary to what she states. because a confident person doesn't have a need to be validated.
psychology101
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Hello dear fish and fish friends 🙂
I had an some unpopular threads around here because I'm seeing a married Pisces man. I came back to share the following: things are not what they appear to be. In my life the relationships that were promising a solid, beautiful future have brought betrayal and pain. A relationship that was condemned by everyone has brought continuous joy and growth. It's been a happy year,and I felt loved.
Sometimes, especially when there's plenty of Scorpio in one's chart, life draws in plutonic triangles, and no matter how you move around thinking you're the only partner, the loss and betrayal mechanism will be put in motion. And you suffer, until you learn how to not be that possessive any more.
Thank God for Pisces 🙂