Pisces has me confused?! Please help!!

So I've been dealing with the Pisces for about 9 months now. At the beginning, he was sweet, texting and facetiming all the time. He would talk about a future with me and wanted me to give him "his blessings" (children). He works extremely a lot and I know he's for sure working because he would FaceTime from work, he normally puts in 12-15 hour days. But as time went along, he called and texted less. Being an Aquarius this initially didn't bug me because I love my space as well, but he got to the point where it started to make me to wondering if he's was still interested. So I asked him if he was still interested and he gave me a sob story about his new home purchase was financially stressing him out and he couldn't focus on a relationship. i was very understanding of this and gave him his time but later I reminded him I am looking for a relationship so I think we should date other ppl. He said he understood and hope I run into horrible dates so I don't go too far from him. I stopped communication from him for a bit but he found he way to continue to reach out and because he was so freaking sweet I agreed to continue to communicate with him. So months went by and we communicated regularly, never going two or three days without communicating, in which my feelings started to develop more. He invited me to a work party and told all his work friends and bosses we were dating and how we meet. He even told his mother about me and I got the chance to speak with her on the phone while she visited him (this was around our 5 month mark). Time went by again and he drifted again. I didn't hear from him for about two weeks but then after I posted a video about psyc topics he seen it and started messaging me way more.. I was mad that I didn't hear from him and went off about him picking and choosing when he wants to enter my life. I was kinda rude. So he told me "okay and have a nice life." 2 Week later I invited him out to dinner to formally apologize for being rude (not for how I felt). I wanted to keep it strictly platonic, he was receptive said he missed me, he was pursuing me and that being friends first would be better for us. During the conversation he made a comment saying "I broke up with him" but I was like we never were official. So later I agreed to be friends so I didn't sleep with him that night which he wanted to. The next week I went to Vegas and apparently he lost his work phone so he called me from his second phone non-stop saying things like "use potection." (But it made me feel like he cares because he had to remember my number by heart). I was in Vegas for 5 days and he non-stopped texted me. Time went by we hung a few times but no sex until the last time. He wasn't emotionally there during sex so it made me feel horrible like I was his fwb because he was normally giving during sex from our past experiences. So I told him that I could do this with him anymore because I'm not a casual hookup type of person.

Also that when I sleep with him I'm giving him a part of me. I couldnt bare only being friends with him because I would give in because I love him and I love to please whom I'm in love with. Two days later he sent me a video link about Regrets. I don't get it? Is he regretting us? Regretting that he couldn't be in a relationship with me? Or telling me not to regret my decision? It's been a little over a week and I haven't heard from him. I love him will he come back or should I let go and move on?

Well speaking purely as a Pisces, not a man, I would say he means don't regret making snap decisions, he clearly likes you from what you have said.

The friend thing, he probably just means being with our best friend is important, who we laugh with, share secrets with, be close to on a deeper level, someone who understands us, the minute we feel we have to start explaining ourselves to someone we like its a bit of a turn off, most Pisces male and female have encountered this many times with people in their lives.

You obviously got on really well In the beginning and he got relaxed and comfortable feeling you respected his space and were ok with the fact he felt safe to show you that side of his nature

But then you made him feel something was 'off' in his mind, your an aquarius..yes? Well I think you both like each other a lot, but there's a few mixed signals here, I think you need to post your chart info so someone who knows more than me can see your planetary make up, but basically go with the flow, enjoy being with him, and try to spot the lil things he does for only you ok x

Just tell him your in love with him, poor blokes all confused I bet just as you are, he thought you were both in a relationship, but when he mentioned it you told him nothings official, ? Then you said you didn't hear from him for two weeks and was hurt about it?? What was to stop you contacting him to say hi now and again, you've known each other 9 months intimately? You know ' hi, I havnt heard from you in a couple of days, is everything ok, anything I can help you with, you know where I am' H e probably didn't even realise it had been 2 weeks with a lot of financial things he had to sort out, but didn't want to hassle you with his problems, have you looked at it that way?

Then you told him you were going to Vegas and he told you to use protection, so he clearly feels you see him as nothing but an acquaintance when he clearly feels a lot for you and was fishing to see what your reply would be to his condom statement, if he didn't have feelings for you id be sure he wouldn't care less to even ask!

Basically he thought you two were going somewhere, you implied you're not, so that is why I told you to just tell him your feelings ok, if you want him TELL HIM xx I hope it all works out hun x

My sun sign is Aquarius. Moon sign is Sag. Mercury is Cap. & Venus sign is Cap. His sun, moon, & Mercury is Pisces but Venus is Aqua. If that helps.

Yes we been talking/dating for about nine months. I didn't think to check upon him because I felt if he wanted to talk he'll text or call because he like his space and I didn't want to intrude on his time. Also he pushed the friend thing but he'll hate when I emphasize that we're friends or even mentioning that we broke up gave me mixed signals.

The last time we spoke was when I wanted to end things because I felt like a fwb I told him I loved him (for the 1st time) and that's why we couldnt be friends because I would find it hard to resist him and that's when he sent the video. I tend to act out of emotions and sent a text after basically taking the blame for falling in love with a man that wasn't emotionally available, how much I loved him, and how I don't regret falling for him but I wanted to end the pain I was inflicting on myself by not standing my ground for wanting things official. He didn't reply.. Should I reach out after some time or wait to see if he'll return?

Posted by Dressa2008
My sun sign is Aquarius. Moon sign is Sag. Mercury is Cap. & Venus sign is Cap. His sun, moon, & Mercury is Pisces but Venus is Aqua. If that helps.

Yes we been talking/dating for about nine months. I didn't think to check upon him because I felt if he wanted to talk he'll text or call because he like his space and I didn't want to intrude on his time. Also he pushed the friend thing but he'll hate when I emphasize that we're friends or even mentioning that we broke up gave me mixed signals.

The last time we spoke was when I wanted to end things because I felt like a fwb I told him I loved him (for the 1st time) and that's why we couldnt be friends because I would find it hard to resist him and that's when he sent the video. I tend to act out of emotions and sent a text after basically taking the blame for falling in love with a man that wasn't emotionally available, how much I loved him, and how I don't regret falling for him but I wanted to end the pain I was inflicting on myself by not standing my ground for wanting things official. He didn't reply.. Should I reach out after some time or wait to see if he'll return?

You've said everything you could say to let him know how you feel about him....what you're going through.

And how to resolve the situation.

You know in your heart that you should not reach out again.

If he cares for you....he will come forward and say something.

Ye, I agree, give him time to miss you and think about you 2, let us know how it works out hun x

Thank you! I will do.

He sounds confused. That's what I'm getting. My moon & Mercury is in Pisces & Aqua Venus like him. He doesn't sound like he wants to commit but wants you there because he does like you. Maybe he's not ready.

It's been almost a month since we've last seen each other and he hasnt reached out :/ I guess that's it. I'm hurt but I guess I have no choice but to move on...

Posted by Dressa2008

I didn't think to check upon him because I felt if he wanted to talk he'll text or call because he like his space and I didn't want to intrude on his time.

This passive attitude of yours seems to be the main theme throughout your testimony ..... all of your descriptions depicts you waiting on his instruction as to the fate of the relationship.

pretty much lacks passion on your part .... you're just going through motions, not presenting care one way or the other, as to what happens.

You're too much work for what little benefit comes from you ... since, according to what you said, you just sit there and wait to be told whether you will get the honor of his presence.

I mean, you actually described how you sit and wait for him to make relationship decisions for you ... so, I don't know what you really expect people to say to you ...

fucking cap venus ... cold, unfeeling and stingy with love

Posted by Dressa2008
He invited me to a work party and told all his work friends and bosses we were dating and how we meet. He even told his mother about me and I got the chance to speak with her on the phone while she visited him (this was around our 5 month mark). Time went by again and he drifted again.

Posted by Dressa2008
During the conversation he made a comment saying "I broke up with him" but I was like we never were official.

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If the two of you were never official, you should have refused the work party invitation and the phone conversation with the mother.

Consistency removes all confusion.

and we're such simple creatures when it comes down to it...

-Jack

I must admit reading through your post more in-depth, I feel he just wanted you to understand his problems at the time, not give judgement, even after 9 moths you didn't check on him, your words..9 months! And you are slating him on here hun, come on, if someone treated me like that when I thought I was in a relationship, then acted/ told me straight I wasn't, then moaned about me to other people, I mean geez! Sorry, no disrespect, but come on ! Poor bloke didn't know which way to turn did he?

Explain?

P-Angel, I have been through a pretty traumatic experience from my last relationship which has left me more emotional than I was ever in my past. I'll admit I was cold and unfeeling before meeting Pisces man but with him I felt an emotional connection and safe with him early on. I opened up to him early and when I did fall for him, I told him I "feel for you." I would text him often, even when he didn't always reply. When I was around him I would constantly touch him and grab him and passionately kiss him. I wanted to send him the message I was into him verbally and emotionally. We acted as if we were already in a relationship. But it appeared the more I thought I expressed myself he started to expressed himself less. He went from sharing him dreams and courting me to being less expressive and closed off. So if someone isn't communicating with me, even if I care about them, I'm going to gradually stop responding as well thinking that they need their time. So when we got into an argument about him not communicating for two weeks during the argument he stated he was emotionally unavailable, if he wanted a relationship it wouldn't be within the next year or two and for now he just wanted a friend. So when we met up for dinner (me inviting him out to formally apologized for being rude) I wanted to keep it plantonic because of what he stated during the argument. But while talking during our meet up and saying "I broke up with him" and him pursuing me left me completely confused because he stated he was emotionally unavailable and many times I stated I wanted to be more with him so me responding "we were never official" was due to him often shutting me down verbally but behaving in a way like he wanted more. I chose to remain his friend because I loved him and wanted to be in his life. Then after taking the Vegas trip with him constantly texting me, saying "I meant a lot to him," him being irritated when I called him my friend and checking upon me made me feel like he actually cared but the next moment he'll state he didn't want a relationship. It seemed as if his feelings changed daily. One minute he wanted me and a bit jealous about others men in my life and the next moment he was cold and non expressive. I tried my best to go with the flow of things no matter how often he changed until I couldn't take it anymore! Once I started to feel like his fwb that's when I had to stop being emotionally abused but him sending the video about regrets ( left me even more confused about the whole nine months of dealing with him.

It was clear on my part of what I wanted from him. A relationship (I wasn't concerned about the label but more about the exclusiveness of knowing he was the only one I we dealing with and I was the only one he was dealing with). I'm sorry but it was nothing simple about him.. Posting this wasn't to slat him it was to gain understanding of what he meant by sending the video. I was hurt (and still hurt)

Good advice from Piscespoppy and P-Angel, I agree completely - I think if anything, I feel bad for the Pisces guy for being neglected for long periods of time. Granted, Pisces can be misunderstood but they usually have good intentions. Its almost like he was locked in a basement to be neglected for long periods of time only to be randomly coaxed with increasingly meaningless visits of affection only to be left in the basement again like a solitary confinement. Granted, Pisceans do need their space, but they need to be consistently reassured that you're there for them and care for them, otherwise, when alone with their thoughts they may start thinking, "That person hasn't been conversing like they used to, maybe they found someone else, meh!" (A favorite expression of my Pisces ex.) If someone told me to use condoms in Vegas, I would be reassuring them I'm not interested in anyone but them and REALLY mean it cause Pisceans have one of the best BS meters in determining sincerity. But it seems the love dried up in all honesty in this situation. Water signs are like that small Japanese tree, they need to be consistently reassured of affection towards them or like the tree, the love connection will dry up and die. This is an obstacle for air signs esp. as to water signs they can come off as passive, uncaring, introverted even narcissistic. Air passes along water, but doesn't absorb like Earth does which makes Air more complementary to fire. But each sign is unique and their natal chart should be researched to see if they truly complement another.

I think our signs just aren't aligned.. And I'm fine with that. As an air sign I like to verbally communicate and he didn't.. I don't like guessing games and Pisces are wayy too complicated for me. Every single time we interacted it was back and forth of emotions. I've come to terms with that. But he did end up recently texting me and apologizing for basically leading me on and then friend zoning me. I wanted more his didn't.. It's that simple. All wounds heal with time. Sucks it was for such a long period of time but I'm understanding that he may very well have been confused about his ex wife and he doesn't want to get hurt again and if I couldn't make him feel secure after telling him how much I cared then I just simply wasn't the one for him. But I received my apology and that's going to help me move on....

oh, i have been on this board for nearly 10 years and i can't even tell you how many times i've seen 'pisces has me confused' in some form or another...

if people only could know that when it all comes down to it, pisces are so NOT complicated beings at all and probably 90% of the 'worry' or 'confusion' that everyone posts about, really isn't going to matter in the grand scheme of things...

it would truly and genuinely save a lot of heartache...

-Jack

Sorry Jack, you may not feel that Pisces are complicated because of self bias and you understand ppl that behave similar to you but to someone that's an outsider Pisces are complicated. Myself and others that post about the confusion are just trying to understand Pisces. You're right posting isn't going to change a person and what they intrinsically want but for me I do want to try to understand their standpoint. I am not good at reading minds and how do Pisces expect ppl to? Also playing with someone's emotions by saying and behaving one way then completely changing it and then going back to the original way is confusing. If it acts like a duck, walks like a duck and quack like a duck then it's an effin duck!

(Summary of my experience)This Pisces man acted like he wanted a relationship and named our future kids. Then completely switch saying he didn't want a relationship. Then said he's pursing me. Now that I called it off he finally apologize for leading me on and friend zoning me. Then a few days later he texts I meant so much to him, I'm an amazing woman and I'm the only person he's enjoyed in a really really long time. I still let him know I can't just be friends with him because I love him. So he replies he understands and then send a photo of me with the caption "you never believed me." Wtf was that about?? Idk?? If that doesn't prove how effin confused he is then idk...

i never said pisceans weren't confused, i said they weren't complicated...

-Jack

First off, if you actually read what I wrote i stated I would tell him and demonstrate to him I wanted him... He was complicated. He apologized for it so I don't know why you guys appear to place blame on me..

pisces dont 'read what you wrote' lol it's all the same shit, just in a different post. noone asked you to explain your situation to us because in honestly, like i said in my post above, it doesnt really matter...so if you're offended, maybe seek out another sign....? because, im still pretty sure..WERE NOT THAT COMPLICATED...

the poster above me is my wife, who seems to agree on the non-complicated part...

what else do you need to know ?? this defensive standpoint, pisces love it

Wow... I see—

You guys... I could say more but it would be a waste of my time..

Hey anyone who promises you the moon and stars immediately isnt being honest. Men do that to hook you...but its bullshit. Im a pisces and i dont say that shit unless i mean it..and it would take FOREVER to know that for sure. I date people ..sometimes just to see how it goes and if i lose interest i stop commmunicating as much. Are you in the same town? Long distance always makes ppl stray. Anyway if he fed you bs dont believe him. Hed act on it if it were true. Tell him how you feel and if he doesnt reciprocate you know hes just sorta dragging you along but not serious

I was referring to the comment "Pisces don't read" and stating that I didn't express I cared when I clearly stated I do is placing blame for his action which he clearly admitted to. Someone being confused is complicated and that's what I stated...

Thank you boxcarmirta that's what happened. We live a hour away from each other and after I can finally think straight I realized he was stringing me along

We Pisceans are by no means perfect.

Yes, we are very sexy, intelligent and intuitive.

But perfect?

I hardly think so.