Pisces, how do you cope with the loneliness?

I'm a pisces girl, 22 years old.
Long story short, I ended my 6 years relationship. He is a capricorn and I had been in this long term relationship with him since I was 15.

I am an introverted person and for a very long time I isolated myself in our relationship, I distanced myself from my friends and i left behind old friendships, it was all about my relationship with him and every time we went out it was with his group of friends. I never learned how to balance things.
The relationship was good, he was a gentleman, there was no drama and everything was smooth. I just started feeling stagnant, I started wondering if our relationship was still based on love or was I just holding on to my confort zone, I want to experience new things, party and meet other people while I'm still young.

I broke up with him. It was a friendly break up and we ended as friends. But, the loneliness is terrible, I've been trying to reconnect with my old friendships and it hasn't been easy. I have a very shy personality and I'm feeling more lonely than ever ...

So, fellow pisces, how do you deal with breakups and loneliness? have you been in a similar situation? how did it work out? any advice? Please help

After being in a very deep relationship for 3 years that was ended oh so abruptly, I found myself not even knowing who i was anymore. She was a SCORPIO! She was the most amazing caring woman I have ever met. When she left she took my happiness.

I was depressed for a long time because i felt like if she couldn't love me anymore, no one else could. All i ever wanted was to feel loved because that itself makes me feel like i have some purpose to somebody else. I felt like i had zero worth or purpose in this life. Oh the tears i have wept.

THATS how i used to feel!! In time heals all wounds, although i cant imagine how you feel after 6 whole years! Holy shit its like you guys were married.

Music was the only thing that made me happy, it got me through a lot. Idk about you fellow Pisces but when I'm listening to music, I'm in my own world my rules my life anything goes and its just nice imagining things that go whatever you want it to go. If you can imagine it, its real!

So just try not thinking about him as much (that might sound impossible), stay busy (do you have a job?), go try socializing at public places such as a mall, bookstore, or even at the bar (meeting people is fun and easy)! Anything just to show yourself that life goes on you don't have to stay depressed its all just a mindset.

As a Pisces I've learned if you cant control your emotions they will just control you, i hope this was somewhat helpful lol.

I also always escaped with the methods described here, music and reading, but then realizing those short-term satisfaction methods don't work I forced myself to get up and at least TRY to be social. To my surprise it worked out pretty well and I felt amazing, but being so introverted I started feeling worse and needed time for myself again. I'm feeling pretty bad again now, I wish I was a little steadier.

It's my advice to you too to just stand up and try it, although it sounds hard - I also shrugged it off when people told me to do that but it seriously is worth the effort. I think it's allright to be a little down sometimes if you're putting some effort into your social skills. There's a lot of other things that make me depressed but that's offtopic, the key is just being active and to start doing more instead of thinking ; something I need to start doing too.

I am in the same exact boat currently. Ended my long term relationship with a Cap as well and I am 24, was was 23 at the time. My best advice is to get out there and be a bit more social, it will help in the long run. I also suggest short term solutions like music and allowing yourself to feel whatever you do in a safe place. Learning to enjoy yourself and relearn who you are after everything helps a in growing and healing.

Man I feel its so simple to explain but has so many complex layers underneath it.

Simply put he couldn't and wouldn't keep a job. Joblessness on the surface seems like a shallow reason, but it has more to do with the fact that this consistent inability to hold gainful employment did a descending number on his self esteem, his sense of worth and lead into a deeper depression. I was incredibly supportive, offered many job opportunities and outside pursuits to lift his spirits, and at the same time felt like my needs and things I wanted in our life together were more of a burden on him than a shared dream and goal.

I work at a job, moonlight freelance, and volunteer, my time was full and busy but also know that this made me happy and wanted to share my joy, disappointments, and dreams with him, in other words my life. He fought it in many of ways, coming up with excuses and complaints about my pursuits and feeling sorry for himself. Depression does that, I don't think he even noticed it or how it effected me. It made me feel emotionally disconnected from him, I couldn't come to him without feeling like a burden.

When we met our are goals were the same, but I think in some way instead of celebrating our differences in personalities and life pursuits we used them against each other as a reason for why we grew apart. Its still fresh, but I don't really know if we really grew apart or we just gave up on each other. Pisces, when we love someone our belief in the other person is so strong it borderlines on the delusional. We can help it, we see so much potential and just run with it, After a certain point I had to see that my belief in him wasn't enough for him to believe in himself. I know he needed to do that on his own, I felt that me and my expectations got in the way of that.

Coping with ice cream one scoop at a time

Yeah I just realised I referenced ice cream in several posts lol. *shrugs* My cravings for them seem to hit its peak right before bed time.

*shrugs* Maybe it's the sun signs but I've learnt to just turn off all of my pisces bits when I feel lonely because I mope. That could explain why I get a bit weird after it's all off.

Take a shower, listen to my favorite songs, eat my favorite food, talk to my friends, go on long drives, force myself to do things out of my comfort zone. Remind myself that being lonely is not the same as being alone, and that at any point and time i can call on someone talk to 🙂

I also listen to the police scanner in my area and Pandora radio. Im a weirdo tho :p

Posted by Magenta_Azure
I also listen to the police scanner in my area and Pandora radio. Im a weirdo tho :p

sounds like a great time to me.

Posted by daydreamer22
I realize that maybe my soul's purpose was to not find love. maybe it was to give love and to be happy with just that. so maybe seeing things spiritually can help, because everything is always beautiful in the spiritual world. and that's a great place for personal growth and to find solace from everything and anything that you are going through.

i know a few pisces sun women who are feeling like you right now, really sad and alone. I've been trying to get a couple of them over here on dxp, but they're shy. Although the one i haven't asked to come here, is happily married but going through alot. But made wonderful breakthroughs since her and her husband have finally started really "living".

so maybe it's just the saturn in sagitarius thing going on?? it's squaring off pisces, and i read somehwere in other forums the veil drops alot when saturn is going into Sagittarius. Will strongly effect mutable in the charts.

it'll be allright. there are people in your life that love you! think of that. and astrology kind of helps us see where and what's gonna be, to prepare us.

Thank you guys reading your views helped me a lot

Two year thread 😱

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva