Pisces male with Venus in Aquarius

I am a Capricon female with Venus in Scorpio and in an awkward relationship with a Pisces male with Venus in Aquarius.

We met almost 3 years ago (online). We decided to meet after 2 and half years and we met. We enjoyed our first face-to-face meeting and hung out for couple of days. We didn't have any physical activities nor any emotional talks, but we held hands and a kiss on the cheek.

Afterward, he said he felt pushed to take on the next step which he really don't want to. I tried to confront him with talks about what went wrong, but nothing works. We're still pretty much talking to each other everyday, but I'm having a big question mark in my head.

Please advise. 🙂

pisces with aqua in venus...hmm. we can be detached and logical romantically, but have very passionate and loving intentions...which can lead to confusion.

if he felt pushed, your best bet is to become his friend. trust him with the hidden parts of yourself, that's pretty irresitible. building a strong bond is key.

you're a cap with scorp venus, right? so i'm guessing you find it hard to be open/trustful. or you value alot of reassurance from your guy. try it that way and see how it goes 🙂

Thanks nimbue for advice. You are right about I "value alot of reassurance from your guy", and he mentioned several times about his loyalty, and I am not sure about loyalty of a close friend or in general.

I know Pisces in general, they like beautiful things and they will for sure talk about it as well. For example, he will say he saw a pretty girl the other day, then he immediately said it won't work and won't go anywhere. What is that suppose to tell me? Can we call that "reassurance"? Or he just want to see how jealous I could be?

Maybe online relationship is not for Pisces at all?

If he would asked me to move closer to him, I probably will do it. Just that I have no idea what he wants. 😢

you're welcome 🙂 yeah, loyalty is a biggie with us...must be the aqua venus. really, we're a bit awkward too. so i wouldn't read too much into his telling you about girls-esp if the friend factor is there, he wants to feel he can say anything to you. as for your question, it goes either way. i might say something like that to a guy either without thinking, or as a subtle test of their reaction. it's usually not thought out, kind of an implusive thing. i mean, really. for other signs that is a faux pas, but usually we aren't thinking too much.

and if you think he is trying to make you jealous, then be honest and open. no hysterics, no 'oh is that so? nice 🙂' if you don't feel that way. you don't like it, put it out there. just casually.

plus, he's a guy...they check out the scenery

I also want to add these...
- when he is really happy, he comes to me
- when something good happened, he text me right away
- when he wants to chat with me, he won't let me do anything else

He used to ask me things about me, my opinions about things, my opinions on how he should decide on things... sounded like I was his girlfriend. These days, he stopped telling me what he was thinking, only told me about it if I asked him.

Have he lost all the interests in me? Why he acts distant one minute and then acts really concern another minute? Maybe it's Pisces trait, but what can I do to let him know that I feel so confused and want something solid but won't scare him away?

I do want to find out why he likes me but not commit to me, though. I am a stubborn capricorn and like to know why.

Thank you for your detailed explanation, piranhaparadiise! It gave me some insight, I will find a time to have a long talk with him 🙂

Posted by browneyesgoat

We enjoyed our first face-to-face meeting ....

You meant to say ..... you enjoyed the meeting. You can't speak for him.

He spoke for himself, though, didn't he ......

Posted by browneyesgoat

Afterward, he said he felt pushed to take on the next step which he really don't want to.

After meeting you, he decided not to take it to the next level .. which is his choice. We all have the option of deciding who we want to have a serious relationship with, don't we?

so, why would you then question him and attempt to put him on the spot, such as the below ......

Posted by browneyesgoat

I tried to confront him with talks about what went wrong, but nothing works.

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Why the fuck would you confront him? Why would you say nothing works? Are you trying to push him into wanting you?

There was no chemistry .... he didn't feel you.


Why the hell would you or anyone else in here who is trying to help you ... tell you anything other than ...


He's not into you.


He may like you as a friend, and he may be using you to bounce emotional stuff off of when in a rut .... but, physically there was no chemistry when he met you .... because if he was then he would WANT MORE.


What part of that equation is confusing to you?



On the Misc board they have a thread talking about how you are percieved by others, and I have insisted that people don't know this, in which people have no clue why I would say that, of course people know how they are percieved.

But they aren't, they don't know.

Because you have feelings ... you've actually no clue how this man percieved you when you met him .. so much of not a clue that you would even confront him to find out why his actions aren't matching up to what you want to believe he feels about you.


People really are clueless ... once they get feelings, they lose all sensibilities

You do have good points. If he wanted to talk about it and he will talk about it, that's all? Why does he still want me around if he knew how I feel? If I kept hanging on to him and he might blow up the friendship once for all?