Librascorp80
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I'm hoping somebody can. I have tried to figure it out and can't. I don't know what to do at this point none of it makes sense to me. Plus he is sleeping in the other room again tonight
You've got double topic, delete one of them.
I don't know if he started crying there might be something he feels deeply but can not communicate for some reason. Maybe you have upset him,said/done something, more like done. Are you sure you are innocent?
I don't know if he started crying there might be something he feels deeply but can not communicate for some reason. Maybe you have upset him,said/done something, more like done. Are you sure you are innocent?
He's a Pisces like me so my insight here could be needed.
From what I've read, it looks like in the arguments you've said something extremely hurtful to him and you don't realise it. We only act like that when someone has hurt us very badly. Believe me when I say this as I have done it myself.
From what I've read, it looks like in the arguments you've said something extremely hurtful to him and you don't realise it. We only act like that when someone has hurt us very badly. Believe me when I say this as I have done it myself.
No im not innocent I prob did say something hurtful when we was arguing. But I went to him and told him I'm sorry if I did or said anything to hurt him last night when I was asking him why he was doing this and if it was because he wanted to end things or didn't love me anymore. He refuses to say anything about it ..his eyes just got teary eyes while he tried to block me out by playing a game on his phone. How do I make this right ?
No stress wouldn't cause him to completely shut down with us. There is something more.
Me as a Pisces I need time to cool off. I hate confrontation especially with someone I love and maybe he does too. People just need their space to get their thoughts together and if you are going to text him I think you should start by saying something positive or telling him that you love him don’t start by texting him something negative that’s when he’ll shut down. I do the same.
I sent him this text
Im trying to understand whats going on with you & remove my feelings & how it affects me. It only incapacitates me to fully see & understand what's happening with you .. I love you more than you know & I believe in our relationship and I want to work on it ,so I would respect and appreciate everything you feel but you need to talk about it in order for both of us to be able to tackle the issues together. I can feel your deeply hurt & I want you to know I would never do anything to hurt you intentionally.
Sent from my iPhone
Im trying to understand whats going on with you & remove my feelings & how it affects me. It only incapacitates me to fully see & understand what's happening with you .. I love you more than you know & I believe in our relationship and I want to work on it ,so I would respect and appreciate everything you feel but you need to talk about it in order for both of us to be able to tackle the issues together. I can feel your deeply hurt & I want you to know I would never do anything to hurt you intentionally.
Sent from my iPhone
Posted by PisceswomIt's been 2 months of cooling off & sleeping in separate beds . & everytime I try and talk to him about it he just shuts down . Which is why I am sincerely lost and confused. I mean we have never went this long in the 4 years we have been together & he has never just shut down emotionally to me or physically. Which lead me to think is he trying to break up without saying anything just his actions ... ? I would think he would come out and tell me .. but I did send that text and no response
Me as a Pisces I need time to cool off. I hate confrontation especially with someone I love and maybe he does too. People just need their space to get their thoughts together and if you are going to text him I think you should start by saying something positive or telling him that you love him don’t start by texting him something negative that’s when he’ll shut down. I do the same.
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Are you sure he isn't having an affair?
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Am I certain ?? No im not & the thought has crossed my mind many many times , bc of his actions but he comes home after work & doesn't leave at night. So I don't know how to find out if he even was
Posted by DreamyboyI seen tears fill up in his eyes 2 nights ago when I was asking him what is going on and do you want to end this but like I said hon he won't say a word about anything pertaining to us . He will speak to me but its platonic right now. I have apologized if I did do or say something I have pleaded for him to open up and I get nothing in return
You had to have said something that cut too deep. It’s the only thing I can think of that would make me do that. I don’t think he wants to end it, but I also think he’s really really hurt by whatever was said by you.
I don't want my family to be broken up. I'm at my wits end . I came here looking for advice on how I can resolve it to get a perspective looking outside in
There is more here than just hurt (pain).
Something else is going on.
With pain, anger always come and you don't repress that kind of emotions for two months and avoid talking about it.
Not talking means he doesn't even want to try to save anything.
I would of stop pleading and confront him with the fact, that if he doesn't speak up, he'll lose his family.
Something else is going on.
With pain, anger always come and you don't repress that kind of emotions for two months and avoid talking about it.
Not talking means he doesn't even want to try to save anything.
I would of stop pleading and confront him with the fact, that if he doesn't speak up, he'll lose his family.
Posted by DreamyboyIt's been 2 months going on 3 ... how much time does it take 😳.?? .. it feels like we are making things worse the longer it goes onPosted by Librascorp80I’ve done similar things in relationships. By trying to give the cold shoulder and what not and act like I don’t care, but give it some time and space. He’ll come back around. Just give him some room to level the playing field so he can start missing you.Posted by DreamyboyI seen tears fill up in his eyes 2 nights ago when I was asking him what is going on and do you want to end this but like I said hon he won't say a word about anything pertaining to us . He will speak to me but its platonic right now. I have apologized if I did do or say something I have pleaded for him to open up and I get nothing in return
You had to have said something that cut too deep. It’s the only thing I can think of that would make me do that. I don’t think he wants to end it, but I also think he’s really really hurt by whatever was said by you.
I don't want my family to be broken up. I'm at my wits end . I came here looking for advice on how I can resolve it to get a perspective looking outside in
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Posted by shakedownPosted by Dreamyboy
You had to have said something that cut too deep. It’s the only thing I can think of that would make me do that. I don’t think he wants to end it, but I also think he’s really really hurt by whatever was said by you.
This situation had me stumped, but this makes sense to me.click to expand
Imagine how I feel lol which is why I'm here !
Posted by Argentum
There is more here than just hurt (pain).
Something else is going on.
With pain, anger always come and you don't repress that kind of emotions for two months and avoid talking about it.
Not talking means he doesn't even want to try to save anything.
I would of stop pleading and confront him with the fact, that if he doesn't speak up, he'll lose his family.
At this point I am feeling the same . There HAS to be more to this something else is def going on but unsure what ..this all just doesnt make sense to me. I have thought is he cheating ? Is he trying to break up and tell me so by his actions or make me do it so he don't have to ?? I need answers and can't get any . Not knowing is worse than anything
Posted by DreamyboyPosted by Librascorp80That is definitely a long time, but what is your approach to him daily? And what do you remember what exactly happened? Not a lot of information availablePosted by DreamyboyIt's been 2 months going on 3 ... how much time does it take 😳.?? .. it feels like we are making things worse the longer it goes onPosted by Librascorp80I’ve done similar things in relationships. By trying to give the cold shoulder and what not and act like I don’t care, but give it some time and space. He’ll come back around. Just give him some room to level the playing field so he can start missing you.Posted by DreamyboyI seen tears fill up in his eyes 2 nights ago when I was asking him what is going on and do you want to end this but like I said hon he won't say a word about anything pertaining to us . He will speak to me but its platonic right now. I have apologized if I did do or say something I have pleaded for him to open up and I get nothing in return
You had to have said something that cut too deep. It’s the only thing I can think of that would make me do that. I don’t think he wants to end it, but I also think he’s really really hurt by whatever was said by you.
I don't want my family to be broken up. I'm at my wits end . I came here looking for advice on how I can resolve it to get a perspective looking outside in
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I don't remember what all was said when we were arguing it has been to long. But my approach to him daily is just small talk about the kids. When I get them to bed he stays in living room I go to our bedroom and he will go sleep in the guest room ..I will try every few days after the kids go to bed to get him to open up but nothing he will play a game on his phone to ignore me. I've put my hand on it blocking his game before & he pushes my hand away if that doesn't work he goes to bed so imagine the nightmare I'm in ... I sent him that text and still no response. I don't know whAt else to do
Posted by DreamyboyPosted by shakedownYea, 2 months is LONG. I couldn’t do that, I’d get lonely and end up blaming myself and saying it was my fault. The longest I could go with no contact from someone I love would be a few days. I need hugs and cuddles. I mean hey, he’s sticking around so there’s hope. Just someone is messing up somewhere in this picturePosted by DreamyboyLMAO. I tend to react the same way. I completely shut my feelings off and go into myself. However, its never lasted two months. The OP's mate has gone silent for two months. That stumps me. Unless someone does something MAJOR, I tend to soften and try to resolve the problem.Posted by shakedownYea, I’ve done this before. Ex gf burned me once with words and I kind of stayed away from her for almost a week. Took my pillow and blanket on the couch everyday, didn’t talk to her, etc. it wasn’t until she just came next to me and laid down and said nothing at all that I finally felt at ease with the situation. Words complicate things for me. I’m not a word guy because somethings are better left unsaid and meant to be feltPosted by Dreamyboy
You had to have said something that cut too deep. It’s the only thing I can think of that would make me do that. I
don’t think he wants to end it, but I also think he’s really really hurt by whatever was said by you.
This situation had me stumped, but this makes sense to me.click to expand
We have NEVER went this long
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You obviously hurt him real bad or else he wouldn't act this way. He is still coming home to you and him crying when you had that conversation tells me you still have a chance. Maybe actions speak louder than words? So what would happen if you would surprise him with a sweet, big gesture?
Something like tickets to his favorite concert, buying him a book he likes or dinner at his favorite restaurant?
Would he respond to that?
And what about just a simple, sincere, warm loving hug? If I were him I would really need that from you.
I tried the sweet gesture all I got was you didn't have to do that .. the hug ? Tried that to he refused to hug me
Dreamboy yes he is sticking around but part of me feels like it's bc of our twins
Posted by shakedownWe do have communication problems but not till recently . We use to be each other's best friends by that I mean confide and tell each other everything since we been a couple. I truly haven't done anything that I can think of that would cause this nightmare to happenPosted by DreamyboyThe biggest problem I have seen between Libras and Pisces is communication and stubbornness. Its like you stated previously, something MAJOR had to happen for him to shut down for two months. I truly just cannot wrap my head around this one. The fact that he almost cried during their last conversation tells me he is in turmoil. I think he wants to express himself, but can't. This of course is all speculation.Posted by shakedownYea, 2 months is LONG. I couldn’t do that, I’d get lonely and end up blaming myself and saying it was my fault. The longest I could go with no contact from someone I love would be a few days. I need hugs and cuddles. I mean hey, he’s sticking around so there’s hope. Just someone is messing up somewhere in this picturePosted by DreamyboyLMAO. I tend to react the same way. I completely shut my feelings off and go into myself. However, its never lasted two months. The OP's mate has gone silent for two months. That stumps me. Unless someone does something MAJOR, I tend to soften and try to resolve the problem.Posted by shakedownYea, I’ve done this before. Ex gf burned me once with words and I kind of stayed away from her for almost a week. Took my pillow and blanket on the couch everyday, didn’t talk to her, etc. it wasn’t until she just came next to me and laid down and said nothing at all that I finally felt at ease with the situation. Words complicate things for me. I’m not a word guy because somethings are better left unsaid and meant to be feltPosted by Dreamyboy
You had to have said something that cut too deep. It’s the only thing I can think of that would make me do that. I don’t think he wants to end it, but I also think he’s really really hurt by whatever was said by you.
This situation had me stumped, but this makes sense to me.click to expand
Posted by Librascorp80Yup, not knowing is the worst feeling. You can guess left, right, up and down, but only he knows and obviously, you cant get to him. Him avoiding for so long means he broke the bond with you and from his point of view, he doesn't want to reestablish it back again.Posted by Argentum
There is more here than just hurt (pain).
Something else is going on.
With pain, anger always come and you don't repress that kind of emotions for two months and avoid talking about it.
Not talking means he doesn't even want to try to save anything.
I would of stop pleading and confront him with the fact, that if he doesn't speak up, he'll lose his family.
At this point I am feeling the same . There HAS to be more to this something else is def going on but unsure what ..this all just doesnt make sense to me. I have thought is he cheating ? Is he trying to break up and tell me so by his actions or make me do it so he don't have to ?? I need answers and can't get any . Not knowing is worse than anything
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But in the end, it doesn't even matter why at this moment. What matters are the facts:
You two have problems in the relationship. Both.
It's not only about you two, you have children.
Indifference, avoiding and escapism won't solve your family. He must be confronted with this.
Get counseling.
Guys!!!!!
He JUST replied to my text I sent .
He texted : Don't ever think that I've stopped loving you ... SO how should I respond to this — This is HUGE progress
He JUST replied to my text I sent .
He texted : Don't ever think that I've stopped loving you ... SO how should I respond to this — This is HUGE progress
Posted by Librascorp80As you feel.
Guys!!!!!
He JUST replied to my text I sent .
He texted : Don't ever think that I've stopped loving you ... SO how should I respond to this — This is HUGE progress
Posted by Librascorp80Listen to the Pisces males here. They have explained it perfectly.Posted by Argentum
There is more here than just hurt (pain).
Something else is going on.
With pain, anger always come and you don't repress that kind of emotions for two months and avoid talking about it.
Not talking means he doesn't even want to try to save anything.
I would of stop pleading and confront him with the fact, that if he doesn't speak up, he'll lose his family.
At this point I am feeling the same . There HAS to be more to this something else is def going on but unsure what ..this all just doesnt make sense to me. I have thought is he cheating ? Is he trying to break up and tell me so by his actions or make me do it so he don't have to ?? I need answers and can't get any . Not knowing is worse than anything
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As a Pisces I relate to it a lot.
He it’s feeling so hurt that he cannot express it with words. He is seeing you with different eyes and I think he it’s just trying to make sense of everything.
He it’s feeling unloved and misunderstood to put it mildly.
Posted by Librascorp80I am thinking another woman. Sorry. Hope it’s not the case but watch out.
I'm hoping somebody can. I have tried to figure it out and can't. I don't know what to do at this point none of it makes sense to me. Plus he is sleeping in the other room again tonight
not talking about things isn't moving things forward in any direction - as you know ... if he can get things out in the open, ya'll could move on
Posted by ArgentumI'm hesitant to just start pouring how I feel out ..at this point it feels like I need to be cautious to what I sayPosted by Librascorp80As you feel.
Guys!!!!!
He JUST replied to my text I sent .
He texted : Don't ever think that I've stopped loving you ... SO how should I respond to this — This is HUGE progressclick to expand
Posted by shakedownYes it is !!! But apart me is waiting for the BUT or the ball to drop as much pain I've endured over the walls created between us. I truly do love himPosted by Librascorp80This is great.
Guys!!!!!
He JUST replied to my text I sent .
He texted : Don't ever think that I've stopped loving you ... SO how should I respond to this — This is HUGE progressclick to expand
I want to say that I agree mostly with Dreamyboy here.
OP I genuinely do understand the frustration this must cause you but in a way I can also understand why your Pisces hasn’t opened up to you yet.
He is clearly VERY hurt over something you did or said, hurt to the core. So hurt that he needs to stay away from you. The way you’re approaching this to me as a Piscean comes across as wanting to end the silence for the sake of it.
As an outsider reading this I don’t sense real concern from your end for the hurt he’s experiencing. Like you don’t really care that you hurt him. Maybe this is why he hasn’t opened up to you.
OP I genuinely do understand the frustration this must cause you but in a way I can also understand why your Pisces hasn’t opened up to you yet.
He is clearly VERY hurt over something you did or said, hurt to the core. So hurt that he needs to stay away from you. The way you’re approaching this to me as a Piscean comes across as wanting to end the silence for the sake of it.
As an outsider reading this I don’t sense real concern from your end for the hurt he’s experiencing. Like you don’t really care that you hurt him. Maybe this is why he hasn’t opened up to you.
Posted by GemitatiI've thought about that too and bawled many nights at that very thought. I'm praying it isn't.Posted by Librascorp80I am thinking another woman. Sorry. Hope it’s not the case but watch out.
I'm hoping somebody can. I have tried to figure it out and can't. I don't know what to do at this point none of it makes sense to me. Plus he is sleeping in the other room again tonightclick to expand
Posted by MhmmmI do care very deeply about his feelings . It's me trying to make things right more than break the silence
I want to say that I agree mostly with Dreamyboy here.
OP I genuinely do understand the frustration this must cause you but in a way I can also understand why your Pisces hasn’t opened up to you yet.
He is clearly VERY hurt over something you did or said, hurt to the core. So hurt that he needs to stay away from you. The way you’re approaching this to me as a Piscean comes across as wanting to end the silence for the sake of it.
As an outsider reading this I don’t sense real concern from your end for the hurt he’s experiencing. Like you don’t really care that you hurt him. Maybe this is why he hasn’t opened up to you.
Posted by Librascorp80I am praying with you! 🙏🏻Posted by GemitatiI've thought about that too and bawled many nights at that very thought. I'm praying it isn't.Posted by Librascorp80I am thinking another woman. Sorry. Hope it’s not the case but watch out.
I'm hoping somebody can. I have tried to figure it out and can't. I don't know what to do at this point none of it makes sense to me. Plus he is sleeping in the other room again tonight
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Can you hire investigator?
Posted by Librascorp80Well if that is the case I would say focus the conversation on asking him what it is that you did/said that pushed him away, and convey that you are sorry and want to put things right with him.Posted by MhmmmI do care very deeply about his feelings . It's me trying to make things right more than break the silence
I want to say that I agree mostly with Dreamyboy here.
OP I genuinely do understand the frustration this must cause you but in a way I can also understand why your Pisces hasn’t opened up to you yet.
He is clearly VERY hurt over something you did or said, hurt to the core. So hurt that he needs to stay away from you. The way you’re approaching this to me as a Piscean comes across as wanting to end the silence for the sake of it.
As an outsider reading this I don’t sense real concern from your end for the hurt he’s experiencing. Like you don’t really care that you hurt him. Maybe this is why he hasn’t opened up to you.
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Put your frustrations aside for the moment.
Y'all I'm shaking like a leaf waiting on his response
I decided to text him a reply it was this
When there has been a wall between this for this long , everything you could imagine goes through my mind . We have always been able to feel what the other is feeling without words spoken. It's that connection I have felt your pain very deeply
"Then what is the cause of this obvious distance between us? It's causing us both pain."
I even had to pour a glass of wine at this hour 😳😳
I decided to text him a reply it was this
When there has been a wall between this for this long , everything you could imagine goes through my mind . We have always been able to feel what the other is feeling without words spoken. It's that connection I have felt your pain very deeply
"Then what is the cause of this obvious distance between us? It's causing us both pain."
I even had to pour a glass of wine at this hour 😳😳
Posted by shakedownThank you ! 🤗 ... & thanks for trying to help.Posted by DreamyboyPosted by shakedownYea I see that happening also. I was honking maybe there is infidelity going on on his part and he’s having a major guilt trip, but I do t really feel that’s the case here...Posted by DreamyboyYes. I think him crying speaks volumes. If he is crying because he cheated, then he feels super guilty and like shit. He cannot face her, so instead, he has become selfish and "blocked" her while trying to deal with his guilt.Posted by shakedownI can see that really happening though. With Libras and me, there’s a lot of missed points. I’ve dated one before also. It was a confusing ass relationship. I really really liked the girl and she dumped me lolPosted by DreamyboyThe biggest problem I have seen between Libras and Pisces is communication and stubbornness. Its like you stated previously, something MAJOR had to happen for him to shut down for two months. I truly just cannot wrap my head around this one. The fact that he almost cried during their last conversation tells me he is in turmoil. I think he wants to express himself, but can't. This of course is all speculation.Posted by shakedownYea, 2 months is LONG. I couldn’t do that, I’d get lonely and end up blaming myself and saying it was my fault. The longest I could go with no contact from someone I love would be a few days. I need hugs and cuddles. I mean hey, he’s sticking around so there’s hope. Just someone is messing up somewhere in this picturePosted by DreamyboyLMAO. I tend to react the same way. I completely shut my feelings off and go into myself. However, its never lasted two months. The OP's mate has gone silent for two months. That stumps me. Unless someone does something MAJOR, I tend to soften and try to resolve the problem.Posted by shakedownYea, I’ve done this before. Ex gf burned me once with words and I kind of stayed away from her for almost a week. Took my pillow and blanket on the couch everyday, didn’t talk to her, etc. it wasn’t until she just came next to me and laid down and said nothing at all that I finally felt at ease with the situation. Words complicate things for me. I’m not a word guy because somethings are better left unsaid and meant to be feltPosted by Dreamyboy
You had to have said something that cut too deep. It’s the only thing I can think of that would make me do that. I don’t think he wants to end it, but I also think he’s really really hurt by whatever was said by you.
This situation had me stumped, but this makes sense to me.
But the crying. He wouldn’t cry if he was cheating. Cheating people in general, I don’t think they react like this. Expression though is where I struggle. Unless it’s happy expressions, I’m very bubbly
I also struggle with expression. Sometimes when I shut my emotions off, it is VERY difficult to turn them back on. Within the time they are shut off, I find that life without them is easier and it feels good. Its freeing. Its like the emotions have been off for so long that when they attempt to break through, something inside tries like hell to keep them off. Then the tears come, because there is a major internal conflict. I get completely fucked up, because I love the person, but emotions have become foreign. We are all different and this may only be true for me. This may not apply to you or the OP's mate.
As for as the emotional expression, I’m similar except that I struggle to explain how amazing someone is. Like, I’ll be smitten and happy, but get stuck on stupid trying to explain how I feel. So I don’t explain and just show. It’s easier for me to communicate that way. The million dollar question a serious gf I’m with asks me, Her: “Why do you love me?”
Me: “Uhmmmnmm... uhhhh.. ehhh... ::kisses her::”
Her: “Wait, you didn’t answer my question”Awww. I actually think the way you "show" love is cute.
@Op, I truly wish you luck and hope things work out.click to expand
Posted by MhmmmThis is such a victimizing bs.
I want to say that I agree mostly with Dreamyboy here.
OP I genuinely do understand the frustration this must cause you but in a way I can also understand why your Pisces hasn’t opened up to you yet.
He is clearly VERY hurt over something you did or said, hurt to the core. So hurt that he needs to stay away from you. The way you’re approaching this to me as a Piscean comes across as wanting to end the silence for the sake of it.
As an outsider reading this I don’t sense real concern from your end for the hurt he’s experiencing. Like you don’t really care that you hurt him. Maybe this is why he hasn’t opened up to you.
Maybe she hurt him, but those are his feelings and he should deal with them.
You don't torture your partner and the mother of your children with silence treatment for two months. WTF?
What are his booo hooo hooo and get away from me reactions gonna solve? Hurt to the core or not, he's gotta move in some direction.
Mature, responsible people act on their feelings, not shut down with them and repress them.
I would understand a few days, all of us sometimes need the time to cool down and refocus. But two months?
Posted by Argentum1) You’re a cancer, one that has previously stated to dislike pisceans so why are you even here?Posted by MhmmmThis is such a victimizing bs.
I want to say that I agree mostly with Dreamyboy here.
OP I genuinely do understand the frustration this must cause you but in a way I can also understand why your Pisces hasn’t opened up to you yet.
He is clearly VERY hurt over something you did or said, hurt to the core. So hurt that he needs to stay away from you. The way you’re approaching this to me as a Piscean comes across as wanting to end the silence for the sake of it.
As an outsider reading this I don’t sense real concern from your end for the hurt he’s experiencing. Like you don’t really care that you hurt him. Maybe this is why he hasn’t opened up to you.
Maybe she hurt him, but those are his feelings and he should deal with them.
You don't torture your partner and the mother of your children with silence treatment for two months. WTF?
What are his booo hooo hooo and get away from me reactions gonna solve? Hurt to the core or not, he's gotta move in some direction.
Mature, responsible people act on their feelings, not shut down with them and repress them.
I would understand a few days, all of us sometimes need the time to cool down and refocus. But two months?
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2) I’m focusing on how OP can get the Pisces to open up and resolve the issue at hand, not who is right or wrong. Her frustrations are 100% valid and I’m definitely not saying she’s unjustified in her frustrations, but a Pisces wouldn’t shut down like that unless there was serious hurt behind it. This needs to be addressed honestly and ego’s should be put away right now.
Posted by ArgentumPosted by MhmmmThis is such a victimizing bs.
I want to say that I agree mostly with Dreamyboy here.
OP I genuinely do understand the frustration this must cause you but in a way I can also understand why your Pisces hasn’t opened up to you yet.
He is clearly VERY hurt over something you did or said, hurt to the core. So hurt that he needs to stay away from you. The way you’re approaching this to me as a Piscean comes across as wanting to end the silence for the sake of it.
As an outsider reading this I don’t sense real concern from your end for the hurt he’s experiencing. Like you don’t really care that you hurt him. Maybe this is why he hasn’t opened up to you.
Maybe she hurt him, but those are his feelings and he should deal with them.
You don't torture your partner and the mother of your children with silence treatment for two months. WTF?
What are his booo hooo hooo and get away from me reactions gonna solve? Hurt to the core or not, he's gotta move in some direction.
Mature, responsible people act on their feelings, not shut down with them and repress them.
I would understand a few days, all of us sometimes need the time to cool down and refocus. But two months?
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I get your point. Of view but regardless of everything this is my children's father that I do love even when he is acting like the age of our 3 yr old children pisces have a deep emotional personality I can't deny I do too. My Venus is in Scorp as mars and 5 other placements maybe that's why I get him
What are his placements? Moon, Venus, Mars, Mercury....
I would stop putting pressure on him by interrogating him. What if he doesn't know the answer himself? Maybe he is depressed and not aware of it?
You said you were going to bed as soon as you get your boys to sleep. Why? Were you expecting him to follow suit? Maybe his testosterone level is low (as it happens to fathers of young children) as so is his libido. You could have sat there with him to read a book or watch TV.
You need to stop the interrogation and pressure, really. Your methods would not work with me (I would retreat even more) and I was married to a Libra (Scorpio Mars) for a long time. Your Scorpio bits got the best of you! When we fought, he used to leave the house and come back late, staring at me and laughing. I tried to be serious and ignore him... his laughing was so contagious, that I needed a lot of effort to stop mine's. I could not even remember why I was fighting with him. Maybe you need to star at him and laugh, so simple it is.
Ask normal things from him, like house chores, walks in the park and playing with the kids. He said he loves you, this should be ENOUGH for now. Let him say it when he feels it, not when you pressurize him to. Eventually he will come out of the dark hole he dug himself into.
I would stop putting pressure on him by interrogating him. What if he doesn't know the answer himself? Maybe he is depressed and not aware of it?
You said you were going to bed as soon as you get your boys to sleep. Why? Were you expecting him to follow suit? Maybe his testosterone level is low (as it happens to fathers of young children) as so is his libido. You could have sat there with him to read a book or watch TV.
You need to stop the interrogation and pressure, really. Your methods would not work with me (I would retreat even more) and I was married to a Libra (Scorpio Mars) for a long time. Your Scorpio bits got the best of you! When we fought, he used to leave the house and come back late, staring at me and laughing. I tried to be serious and ignore him... his laughing was so contagious, that I needed a lot of effort to stop mine's. I could not even remember why I was fighting with him. Maybe you need to star at him and laugh, so simple it is.
Ask normal things from him, like house chores, walks in the park and playing with the kids. He said he loves you, this should be ENOUGH for now. Let him say it when he feels it, not when you pressurize him to. Eventually he will come out of the dark hole he dug himself into.
He finally opened up and it crushed me 10 fold dsbasicasically said us fighting all the time sent him into a cluster puck of emotions he would continue to be a good father and keep up his responsibilities but he can't offer any emotional support. I just asked him if he needs time by his self bc this has affected my emotional well being with eating and sleeping and performing daily tasks and told him if the walls remain knowing I've tried my hardest I'm gonna have to remove myself from the situation
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What are his placements? Moon, Venus, Mars, Mercury....
I would stop putting pressure on him by interrogating him. What if he doesn't know the answer himself? Maybe he is depressed and not aware of it?
You said you were going to bed as soon as you get your boys to sleep. Why? Were you expecting him to follow suit? Maybe his testosterone level is low (as it happens to fathers of young children) as so is his libido. You could have sat there with him to read a book or watch TV.
You need to stop the interrogation and pressure, really. Your methods would not work with me (I would retreat even more) and I was married to a Libra (Scorpio Mars) for a long time. Your Scorpio bits got the best of you! When we fought, he used to leave the house and come back late, staring at me and laughing. I tried to be serious and ignore him... his laughing was so contagious, that I needed a lot of effort to stop mine's. I could not even remember why I was fighting with him. Maybe you need to star at him and laugh, so simple it is.
Ask normal things from him, like house chores, walks in the park and playing with the kids. He said he loves you, this should be ENOUGH for now. Let him say it when he feels it, not when you pressurize him to. Eventually he will come out of the dark hole he dug himself into.
I agree with you I have so much Scorpio in my chart it's crazy it did get the best of me no doubt. His placements. Are libra rising lpisces D.C. Pisces sun Gemini moon Scorpio mars and Aries Venus
Posted by MhmmmPosted by Argentum1) You’re a cancer, one that has previously stated to dislike pisceans so why are you even here?Posted by MhmmmThis is such a victimizing bs.
I want to say that I agree mostly with Dreamyboy here.
OP I genuinely do understand the frustration this must cause you but in a way I can also understand why your Pisces hasn’t opened up to you yet.
He is clearly VERY hurt over something you did or said, hurt to the core. So hurt that he needs to stay away from you. The way you’re approaching this to me as a Piscean comes across as wanting to end the silence for the sake of it.
As an outsider reading this I don’t sense real concern from your end for the hurt he’s experiencing. Like you don’t really care that you hurt him. Maybe this is why he hasn’t opened up to you.
Maybe she hurt him, but those are his feelings and he should deal with them.
You don't torture your partner and the mother of your children with silence treatment for two months. WTF?
What are his booo hooo hooo and get away from me reactions gonna solve? Hurt to the core or not, he's gotta move in some direction.
Mature, responsible people act on their feelings, not shut down with them and repress them.
I would understand a few days, all of us sometimes need the time to cool down and refocus. But two months?
2) I’m focusing on how OP can get the Pisces to open up and resolve the issue at hand, not who is right or wrong. Her frustrations are 100% valid and I’m definitely not saying she’s unjustified in her frustrations, but a Pisces wouldn’t shut down like that unless there was serious hurt behind it. This needs to be addressed honestly and ego’s should be put away right now.click to expand
1) I do not dislike Pisceans, but I do get irritated by some of their traits. This is a public forum, I don't need to like anybody to post here and I don't need a boarding pass because I'm a Cancer.
2) I missed your point helping her, I agree with you on this.
Posted by Librascorp80Posted by PisceswomIt's been 2 months of cooling off & sleeping in separate beds . & everytime I try and talk to him about it he just shuts down . Which is why I am sincerely lost and confused. I mean we have never went this long in the 4 years we have been together & he has never just shut down emotionally to me or physically. Which lead me to think is he trying to break up without saying anything just his actions ... ? I would think he would come out and tell me .. but I did send that text and no response
Me as a Pisces I need time to cool off. I hate confrontation especially with someone I love and maybe he does too. People just need their space to get their thoughts together and if you are going to text him I think you should start by saying something positive or telling him that you love him don’t start by texting him something negative that’s when he’ll shut down. I do the same.click to expand
Oh wow. That’s horrible that he isn’t communicating with you and two months is quite some time. Clearly from his actions he’s not trying to work it out. They never know what they’re missing out on until it’s gone... wish you best of luck girl !
Posted by PisceswomPosted by Librascorp80Posted by PisceswomIt's been 2 months of cooling off & sleeping in separate beds . & everytime I try and talk to him about it he just shuts down . Which is why I am sincerely lost and confused. I mean we have never went this long in the 4 years we have been together & he has never just shut down emotionally to me or physically. Which lead me to think is he trying to break up without saying anything just his actions ... ? I would think he would come out and tell me .. but I did send that text and no response
Me as a Pisces I need time to cool off. I hate confrontation especially with someone I love and maybe he does too. People just need their space to get their thoughts together and if you are going to text him I think you should start by saying something positive or telling him that you love him don’t start by texting him something negative that’s when he’ll shut down. I do the same.
Oh wow. That’s horrible that he isn’t communicating with you and two months is quite some time. Clearly from his actions he’s not trying to work it out. They never know what they’re missing out on until it’s gone... wish you best of luck girl !click to expand
I honestly don't know what else to do at this point
Would it be a good idea to pack up and drive 6 hours to my moms and leave him to his emotions since he can't offer any comfort to me ? His answer has rattled me with he will try and be a good father and keep up his responsabilitrs but can't offer any emotional comfort and again slept in the other room last night
Posted by Librascorp80Doll first of all I AM Piscean. Second of all, I work for the Army; Joint Base San Antonio Fort Sam Houston. He is a DRILL SERGEANT! He's the one waking up at 4:30 in the morning running and singing caton w/the troops! A Military wife has respect, understanding, takes on the responsibilities at home while the Military Husband/man/Drill Sergeant takes care of business for the Army. By now you would have understood what those duties are at home for you; while he takes care of his. He FELT as if you were strong like he is as he has to concentrate and have an "Army day" 365 + 1 day for leap year. Your Military MAN bleeds GREEN! Your Military man wears his uniform EVEN on the weekends! I hate to shout at you, but yeah, you did wrong in fighting w/your Military man. I WISH you could take off your shoes/flip flops/tennis shoes/stilettos and walk in his COMBAT boots for one day! You'll come back home with your arms ready to hug him and tell him you totally understand what his day entails. He has his CO to report to, he has suspenses, rosters to submit, he has Soldiers he has to mentor when the come to him for advice, he has sexual harassment cases he has to take care of, he has to pass his PT test twice a week, he has A-Z to take care of, etc, etc, etc, etc! Hire a mowing company to mow your lawn, hire a plumber if the faucet is leaking, hire someone if the garage door is not working properly, at the end of the year you can claim all this when filing your 2018 taxes. I am a single mother of an 11 yr old (going on 21). I TAKE care of all my shit at home by MYSELF!!! I paid $ 213.43 to Will Fix it for my toilet that I couldn't flush! I am going w/my contractor to C&W Flooring to fix my living room floor ( $ 485 for supplies + $ 400.00 for labor). I do NOT have a man. You do! Tighten those thongs of yours and take care of business!! 😡 😡
I have been losing my mind the past 2 months !
Let me try & explain ~ Me & my pisces guy has been together for 4 years & have 3 yr old twin boys together . He was my dream come true . We both fell hard for each other . Things was good for awhile , but he began his drill Sargent duties ( we are a military family ) which made him stay away from home a lot with the brutal hours he worked & I am left to raise my twins . Stress kicked in .. on both our parts & we began to fight a lot but always made up, but in Jan we began to fight more & he started sleeping in the other bedroom we haven't had inimacy since Jan ..I have tried to make up with him but he shut it down . Last night I tried I come out and ask him do you want to end this do you not love me anymore tears starting swelling in his eyes and he shut Down and will not tell me anything .. I need advice here desperately ... why is he so withdrawn and why does he refuse to talk about what he wants or anything to do with our relationship. I am about to go nuts !!what can I do ?? How do I make it better ?
Okay, so I said my peace. Now, about making up with him. Write little notes for him to read (you're a grown up woman; I don't have to do the play by play w/you). Go to the PX/Commissary and buy a pail w/Miller Lite (Bud) whatever the fuck he drinks, has candies, etc., and leave it in his vehicle before he drives of to the BASE. Dress up on a sexy black teddy w/perfume on and go over to him on the couch and SEDUCE him!
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
DAMN I miss my Judge Judy gif!! 😡
Posted by AquarellePosted by Librascorp80Let me just get this straight.
Would it be a good idea to pack up and drive 6 hours to my moms and leave him to his emotions since he can't offer any comfort to me ? His answer has rattled me with he will try and be a good father and keep up his responsabilitrs but can't offer any emotional comfort and again slept in the other room last night
1. You had a fight
2. Your Pisces man was deeply hurt by something you said or did
3. He is withdrawing himself from the situation to process his feelings
4. He said he still loves you, wants to be a father to the kids
But he can't offer you emotional support RIGHT NOW, and you want it NOW. And now you want to leave him all by himself and are even taking the kids with you?
So you basically want to leave him alone with his grief and hurt? Let him come home in an empty house with no family? wow......
I understand your emotions are running high but I also think you are being very dramatic and a little manipulative too. Are you sure your ego has nothing to do with this?
I think you should at least talk to him about your plans, you can't just take the kids from him, they may be his only joy at this point.
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I wouldn't just up and take the kids with out him knowing . I talked to him about it earlier. If he wants space to deal with his emotions and in 2 months time still can't work through it , I think maybe you not having us around would help him a lot faster because it ain't with us here . Sometimes people need a wake up call and brought to reality
Posted by EvatheDiva52Posted by Librascorp80Doll first of all I AM Piscean. Second of all, I work for the Army; Joint Base San Antonio Fort Sam Houston. He is a DRILL SERGEANT! He's the one waking up at 4:30 in the morning running and singing caton w/the troops! A Military wife has respect, understanding, takes on the responsibilities at home while the Military Husband/man/Drill Sergeant takes care of business for the Army. By now you would have understood what those duties are at home for you; while he takes care of his. He FELT as if you were strong like he is as he has to concentrate and have an "Army day" 365 + 1 day for leap year. Your Military MAN bleeds GREEN! Your Military man wears his uniform EVEN on the weekends! I hate to shout at you, but yeah, you did wrong in fighting w/your Military man. I WISH you could take off your shoes/flip flops/tennis shoes/stilettos and walk in his COMBAT boots for one day! You'll come back home with your arms ready to hug him and tell him you totally understand what his day entails. He has his CO to report to, he has suspenses, rosters to submit, he has Soldiers he has to mentor when they come to him for advice, he has Soldiers who tried to commit suicide, he has to go to mandatory training, he has Soldiers who were arrested over the weekend, he has Soldiers who went AWOL, he has Soldiers who have substance abuse issues, he has sexual harassment cases he has to take care of, he has to pass his PT test twice a week, he has A-Z to take care of, etc, etc, etc, etc!
I have been losing my mind the past 2 months !
Let me try & explain ~ Me & my pisces guy has been together for 4 years & have 3 yr old twin boys together . He was my dream come true . We both fell hard for each other . Things was good for awhile , but he began his drill Sargent duties ( we are a military family ) which made him stay away from home a lot with the brutal hours he worked & I am left to raise my twins . Stress kicked in .. on both our parts & we began to fight a lot but always made up, but in Jan we began to fight more & he started sleeping in the other bedroom we haven't had inimacy since Jan ..I have tried to make up with him but he shut it down . Last night I tried I come out and ask him do you want to end this do you not love me anymore tears starting swelling in his eyes and he shut Down and will not tell me anything .. I need advice here desperately ... why is he so withdrawn and why does he refuse to talk about what he wants or anything to do with our relationship. I am about to go nuts !!what can I do ?? How do I make it better ?
Okay, so I said my peace. Now, about making up with him. Write little notes for him to read (you're a grown up woman; I don't have to do the play by play w/you). Go to the PX/Commissary and buy a pail w/Miller Lite (Bud) whatever the fuck he drinks, has candies, etc., and leave it in his vehicle before he drives off to the BASE. Dress up on a sexy black teddy w/perfume on and go over to him on the couch and SEDUCE him!
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
DAMN I miss my Judge Judy gif!! 😡click to expand
Posted by EvatheDiva52I know military life. I was a 68 whiskey for 8years & served over seas hon. I get it. As for womaning up I did just now with blunt straight to the point conversations. He said he does want to work on the relationship & doesn't want to alonePosted by Librascorp80Doll first of all I AM Piscean. Second of all, I work for the Army; Joint Base San Antonio Fort Sam Houston. He is a DRILL SERGEANT! He's the one waking up at 4:30 in the morning running and singing caton w/the troops! A Military wife has respect, understanding, takes on the responsibilities at home while the Military Husband/man/Drill Sergeant takes care of business for the Army. By now you would have understood what those duties are at home for you; while he takes care of his. He FELT as if you were strong like he is as he has to concentrate and have an "Army day" 365 + 1 day for leap year. Your Military MAN bleeds GREEN! Your Military man wears his uniform EVEN on the weekends! I hate to shout at you, but yeah, you did wrong in fighting w/your Military man. I WISH you could take off your shoes/flip flops/tennis shoes/stilettos and walk in his COMBAT boots for one day! You'll come back home with your arms ready to hug him and tell him you totally understand what his day entails. He has his CO to report to, he has suspenses, rosters to submit, he has Soldiers he has to mentor when the come to him for advice, he has sexual harassment cases he has to take care of, he has to pass his PT test twice a week, he has A-Z to take care of, etc, etc, etc, etc!
I have been losing my mind the past 2 months !
Let me try & explain ~ Me & my pisces guy has been together for 4 years & have 3 yr old twin boys together . He was my dream come true . We both fell hard for each other . Things was good for awhile , but he began his drill Sargent duties ( we are a military family ) which made him stay away from home a lot with the brutal hours he worked & I am left to raise my twins . Stress kicked in .. on both our parts & we began to fight a lot but always made up, but in Jan we began to fight more & he started sleeping in the other bedroom we haven't had inimacy since Jan ..I have tried to make up with him but he shut it down . Last night I tried I come out and ask him do you want to end this do you not love me anymore tears starting swelling in his eyes and he shut Down and will not tell me anything .. I need advice here desperately ... why is he so withdrawn and why does he refuse to talk about what he wants or anything to do with our relationship. I am about to go nuts !!what can I do ?? How do I make it better ?
Okay, so I said my peace. Now, about making up with him. Write little notes for him to read (you're a grown up woman; I don't have to do the play by play w/you). Go to the PX/Commissary and buy a pail w/Miller Lite (Bud) whatever the fuck he drinks, has candies, etc., and leave it in his vehicle before he drives of to the BASE. Dress up on a sexy black teddy w/perfume on and go over to him on the couch and SEDUCE him!
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
DAMN I miss my Judge Judy gif!! 😡click to expand
Posted by EvatheDiva52Posted by Librascorp80Doll first of all I AM Piscean. Second, I work for the Army; Joint Base San Antonio Fort Sam Houston. He is a DRILL SERGEANT! He's the one waking up at 4:30 in the morning running and singing caton w/the troops! A Military wife has respect, understanding, takes on the responsibilities at home while the Military Husband/man/Drill Sergeant takes care of business for the Army. By now you would have understood what those duties are at home for you; while he takes care of his. He FELT as if you were strong like he is as he has to concentrate and have an "Army day" 365 + 1 day for leap year. Your Military MAN bleeds GREEN! Your Military man wears his uniform EVEN on the weekends! I hate to shout at you, but yeah, you did wrong in fighting w/your Military man. I WISH you could take off your shoes/flip flops/tennis shoes/stilettos and walk in his COMBAT boots for one day! You'll come back home with your arms ready to hug him and tell him you totally understand what his day entails. He has his CO to report to, he has suspenses, rosters to submit, he has Soldiers he has to mentor when the come to him for advice, he has sexual harassment cases he has to take care of, he has to pass his PT test twice a week, he has A-Z to take care of, etc, etc, etc, etc! Hire a mowing company to mow your lawn, hire a plumber if the faucet is leaking, hire someone if the garage door is not working properly, at the end of the year you can claim all this when filing your 2018 taxes. I am a single mother of an 11 yr old (going on 21). I TAKE care of all my shit at home by MYSELF!!! I paid $ 213.43 to Will Fix it for my toilet that I couldn't flush! I am going w/my contractor to C&W Flooring after work today to hire him to remodel my living room floor ( $ 485 for supplies + $ 400.00 for labor). I do NOT have a man. You do! Tighten those thongs of yours and take care of business!! 😡 😡
I have been losing my mind the past 2 months !
Let me try & explain ~ Me & my pisces guy has been together for 4 years & have 3 yr old twin boys together . He was my dream come true . We both fell hard for each other . Things was good for awhile , but he began his drill Sargent duties ( we are a military family ) which made him stay away from home a lot with the brutal hours he worked & I am left to raise my twins . Stress kicked in .. on both our parts & we began to fight a lot but always made up, but in Jan we began to fight more & he started sleeping in the other bedroom we haven't had inimacy since Jan ..I have tried to make up with him but he shut it down . Last night I tried I come out and ask him do you want to end this do you not love me anymore tears starting swelling in his eyes and he shut Down and will not tell me anything .. I need advice here desperately ... why is he so withdrawn and why does he refuse to talk about what he wants or anything to do with our relationship. I am about to go nuts !!what can I do ?? How do I make it better ?
Okay, so I said my peace. Now, about making up with him. Write little notes for him to read (you're a grown up woman; I don't have to do the play by play w/you). Go to the PX/Commissary and buy a pail w/Miller Lite (Bud) whatever the fuck he drinks, has candies, etc., and leave it in his vehicle before he drives off drive to the base. Dress up on a sexy black teddy w/perfume on and go over to him on the couch and SEDUCE him!
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
DAMN I miss my Judge Judy gif!! 😡click to expand
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