Pisces women do you like this?

Pisces women especially venus in aquarius pisces women please respond with your personal experiences and thoughts.

So I just finished watching that God awful 50 shades of grey movie based on that God awful trilogy .

After reading a bit about the author who is a pisces woman with a venus in aquarius I found out that essentially the book is an account of all of her personal fantasies.

Now I've known a lot of pisces women in my lifetime and there seems to be some unifying themes such as "falling" for the troubled guy who ultimately neglects and treats the pisces woman like crap.


What's with the pisces thing / need to feel like at least one point in their life they need to have someone to rescue ( there has to be some obstacle or challenge) for them to have deep feelings? Also pisces women I've noticed seem to love the promise of eventual and complete emotional surrender of this "troubled man" / romantic interest and that ultimately one day he will change and be the man you always wanted him to be? If you could just get close to him? and show him that you understand him and that it is okay? That's why you stay with him even though he often hurts you.

Also pisces women seem to be attracted to somewhat controlling and or obsessive types? ( especially those with scorpio in their chart)
Pisces women might just see the controlling aspect and dominance as just a form of "masculinity"
and maybe the obsessiveness as just being "passionate" ? Things pisces women look for and tend to most commonly want in a partner?

Pisces women tend to make excuses or see things from what many would find a skewed perspective I think. It's what allows them to stay in that bubble / dream world / fantasy land even if they are really in the midst of some form of hell.

Thoughts? Do you know anyone like this? Have you been in a relationship like this at some point?
Any help in understanding this phenomena would be greatly appreciated.

Posted by Adreamuponwaking
Also pisces women seem to be attracted to somewhat controlling and or obsessive types? ( especially those with scorpio in their chart)
Pisces women might just see the controlling aspect and dominance as just a form of "masculinity"
and maybe the obsessiveness as just being "passionate" ? Things pisces women look for and tend to most commonly want in a partner?

Pisces women tend to make excuses or see things from what many would find a skewed perspective I think. It's what allows them to stay in that bubble / dream world / fantasy land even if they are really in the midst of some form of hell.

Thoughts? Do you know anyone like this? Have you been in a relationship like this at some point?
Any help in understanding this phenomena would be greatly appreciated.

Maybe. My boyfriend has the type of personality (ENTJ) described as controlling, dominant and obsessive. He's not a Scorpio, but Gemini. Funnily enough, his birthday is a couple of days before Mr Grey's. His personality goes well with mines, not because I'm innocent and submissive like Anastasia, but independent and intelligent enough to get the best of him, while making him keep his shortcomings under control.

The appearances are deceptive. He's a sensitive bully, I'm a wolf in a sheep's skin.

Posted by Undine

Posted by Adreamuponwaking
Also pisces women seem to be attracted to somewhat controlling and or obsessive types? ( especially those with scorpio in their chart)
Pisces women might just see the controlling aspect and dominance as just a form of "masculinity"
and maybe the obsessiveness as just being "passionate" ? Things pisces women look for and tend to most commonly want in a partner?

Pisces women tend to make excuses or see things from what many would find a skewed perspective I think. It's what allows them to stay in that bubble / dream world / fantasy land even if they are really in the midst of some form of hell.

Thoughts? Do you know anyone like this? Have you been in a relationship like this at some point?
Any help in understanding this phenomena would be greatly appreciated.

Maybe. My boyfriend has the type of personality (ENTJ) described as controlling, dominant and obsessive. He's not a Scorpio, but Gemini. Funnily enough, his birthday is a couple of days before Mr Grey's. His personality goes well with mines, not because I'm innocent and submissive like Anastasia, but independent and intelligent enough to get the best of him, while making him keep his shortcomings under control.

The appearances are deceptive. He's a sensitive bully, I'm a wolf in a sheep's skin.

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Yeah funny you say that this post is inspired by a pisces I know ( venus in aquarius) who is married to a Gemini born June 15th...a few days before like your Gemini. He has a moon in scorpio though also.

Not judging you at all undine but your relationship doesn't sound healthy. Why does he have to be a bully? Why do you have to be a wolf? Violence begets violence. And when I say violence ..it doesn't have to necessarily be physical it could be emotional or psychological too. Often those things are what lead up to physical violence from what I've observed and actually learned concretely. I'm currently taking courses to be a domestic violence intervention advocate.

I keep meeting pisces women have venus in aquarius who are married or have been married to an abusive / controlling partner. ( i've met a couple in my course) It's crazy.

I'm just trying to understand the psychology of it AS a pisce

Posted by Vixen2
Hi Adreamuponawakening:

I am a Pisces with venus in aqua...in fact my whole chart is air basically and do not identify at all with the typical description of venus aquas. Yes...I do like variation, exploring new things, kinkiness what have you but it's best when sprinkled with closeness , love etc...I probably could never do all that good stuff with a complete stranger one night stand kinda way...

As for the bad boy type...I have been guilty of it, maybe it's some fantasy, lure of the Darkside danger thrill thing...it's almost like a magnet.

The absolute love of my life is a....Scorpio. Some has said he is controlling but I don't look at him that way at all and if he is...then I love it. I look at it as him being very opinionated, strong willed, knows exactly what he wants, self confident and self assured, and that he loves to take care of me by doing...everything for me! To me, he is very protective and loving. He had told me from the very beginning he has spent large amounts of time thinking about ways to make me happy.

So I guess it's all in the interpretation of what "controlling" is.

what's your moon mercury and mars vixen??

"When we are accountable we eschew the role of victim and are able to claim the space of our individual and collective agencies. For many folks, especially those who are suffering exploitation and or oppression, that agency may seem inadequate. However asserting agency is always the first step in self-determination. It is also the place of hope. As we move away from dominator culture towards a libratory culture where partnership and mutuality are valued. We create the culture wherein we can all learn to love . there can be no love where there is domination . And anytime we do the work of ending domination, we are doing the work of love."

- bell Hooks

LOL, there is no physical violence. Imagine what would be when two Aries Mars fight 😛!

Men I date won't hurt a fly. Probably because violent men are looking for a victim, and I'm not their type. I repel them.

We don't even fight verbally, but debate. We bring out the best in each other.

How is the Pisces-Gem relationship you were talking about?

Also, I see no point in thinking I can change a man. If he's not what I want to begin with, why bother for a second date?

Aqua Venus thoughts.

Posted by Undine
LOL, there is no physical violence. Imagine what would be when two Aries Mars fight 😛!

Men I date won't hurt a fly. Probably because violent men are looking for a victim, and I'm not their type. I repel them.

We don't even fight verbally, but debate. We bring out the best in each other.

How is the Pisces-Gem relationship you were talking about?

Started off great according to her. Similar to what you said she felt that they brought out the best in each other and we're soul mates . About a year into their relationship after marriage and a baby things took a turn . They fight all the time . He blows hot and hold on his commitment etc They Often still have" intellectual debates of their own . "The last break up , one in which he ended up strangling her ,started off with some " intellectual disagreement " that was about porn . he apparently didn't appreciate her thinking it was degrading towards women .

Also he didn't seem like a bad boy or abusive at first .abuseres never do . They are often kind gentle and charming . They often even have sob stories about past heart break and or a abuse of their own . He is into new ageism and often smudges and talks about Angels for Christ sake .

The thing is I don't think she knows or understands that she is being abused . Even after being strangled . I tried talking to her about it and her reply was something to extent that she didn't understand what I was taking about and that her husband wants her the most everyday .

It's her life, her reality. You can't see with her eyes, she can't see with yours.

If she said she doesn't feel abused, what is the point to convince her otherwise? Is her life in danger, according to you?