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Should I set a boundary? Or say nothing? This is harder than I thought :( (update)
Posted by MissGemmiShes only a dominatrix as a profession. She actually enjoys being a submissive. I know this from fact and personal experience. Im more the domminant type as well. Have you been with your girl before? Or have you always been friends? My and this girl JUST started this being friends thing..
Welcome to my club! I'm my own club member🙂 Im in the same situation for a few years now. Only Im a gemini❤cancer. She's all about telling me about her sex life and I really don't want to hear about it. I backed off a few times now only for her to come and search for me even when Im hiding in a cave. Im looking for courage to tell her that I cant deal with it being her 'friend' and she should forget about me, but we both can't stand not talking to each other more than two weeks. Longest we havent talked is 15 days in the past 3,5 years. I want her in my life because I truly love her, but I just cant handle it. She's under my skin and drives me crazy. Especially when she tells me about her sexual escepades.
You have to be completely honest to her or else it's gonna be torture. Her being a dominatrix, maybe she likes seeing you submit😉
Maybe you should just come clean about how you feel but don't set any boundaries? If you want to be her friend you can't really say, hey im in love with you but pls don't talk to me about your sex life.
Friends naturally discuss those things. At least me and mine do.
I think just come clean about your feelings. It will be weight off your shoulders and it may help you move on. When I came clean to my Pisces I was nervous af even stuttered a bit haha but felt so much better. She agreed she felt the same and we agreed we didn't want a relo. She was also really thankful I was honest with her and she opened up emotionally to me more. Leaned on me for emotional support more. I guess she felt more comfortable?
Friends naturally discuss those things. At least me and mine do.
I think just come clean about your feelings. It will be weight off your shoulders and it may help you move on. When I came clean to my Pisces I was nervous af even stuttered a bit haha but felt so much better. She agreed she felt the same and we agreed we didn't want a relo. She was also really thankful I was honest with her and she opened up emotionally to me more. Leaned on me for emotional support more. I guess she felt more comfortable?
Posted by MissGemmiMe and her have talked about sex with others before.. It doesnt bother me to talk to her about it. Iv done it before.... HOWEVER..
Mine is a bit complex. We've initiated sex a few times but we never went through with it, because I knew her heart was somewhere else, so I stopped things. I don't drink, so that helps🙂
We never established a romantic relationship.
Don't go with this whole friends thing. It hurts. Unless you can live with it of course. It will be draining though and it will change you as a person and your whole view on relationships and people.
You havent responded yet. You might answer her with a Ok, sooo ... where was I? 😉 Next time don't forget to invite me to these guilty pleasures!
It will give you some time to recover...
What is bothering me this time is Im in love and I know we will never be together intimately again...
Before we decided to be friends. I gave her an ultimatum of some sort. Because we were casually hooking up again after months of not seeing each other.. Only this time around I wasnt sleeping with her just hooking up... because I didn't want to leave my self vulnerable. So I told her basically my intentions.. that I want to date her. That I CAN be casual. However I CANNOT be casual with her specifically. And if she wants to stay friends thats fine. But I told her that if so she CANNOT kiss me anymore.
So we agreed on a platonic friendship.
She was talking about hookups with FRIENDS. Usually I would have been all about it when we were dating. But we are not. SO it bothered me a lot. I felt intense jealousy.
I did answer though 30 minutes ago. I just answered like I normally would. "SUSS B gettin that real type of stress reliever. You are reminding me of the times I had when I lived in--- city. What was the theme? I love hearing about how other people play"... Sounds weird that Id continue to torture my self. But honestly. Thats how Id normally answer to a friend. She probably would find it weird if I didn't respond like that. SHE DOESNT KNOW I LOVE HER UGHHHH. lol. Im the most masochistic dominant iv ever met.
Also Im going to baltimore tomorrow with a friend spontaneously. And she just moved to the east coast last year so im going to invite her to come with us because shes never been and she likes to see new places. I never invite her on road trips but its for her not for me. So I guess I just wanted to get passed that conversation so that I can move on from it and ask her if she wants to come.
Posted by natsThank you. That was helpful 🙂
Maybe you should just come clean about how you feel but don't set any boundaries? If you want to be her friend you can't really say, hey im in love with you but pls don't talk to me about your sex life.
Friends naturally discuss those things. At least me and mine do.
I think just come clean about your feelings. It will be weight off your shoulders and it may help you move on. When I came clean to my Pisces I was nervous af even stuttered a bit haha but felt so much better. She agreed she felt the same and we agreed we didn't want a relo. She was also really thankful I was honest with her and she opened up emotionally to me more. Leaned on me for emotional support more. I guess she felt more comfortable?
You've sucked me into this drama. 😐
How do you know she doesn't love you, if she doesn't know
that you love her... I don't get it.
How do you know she doesn't love you, if she doesn't know
that you love her... I don't get it.
Posted by MontgomeryShe told me flat out for a second time in a year. "I don't want to take this any further"... Id be delusional to think otherwise. Would I not? Honestly. And this sounds weird. But I think she just thought I was hot and wanted to have a fling. Im not about that. Im all or nothing. And Im not being narcissistic either. "HOT" is all relative. And Im talking relatively regarding her and what her intentions were. Honestly she touched my soul. But I don't think I touched hers. I look at both actions and words here... She likes me. sure. Does she love me? I doubt it. Could she love me as a friend some day. Sure. But I can't be a fool in love. I refuse.
You've sucked me into this drama. 😐
How do you know she doesn't love you, if she doesn't know
that you love her... I don't get it.
Posted by WaterDevil
Also Im going to baltimore tomorrow with a friend spontaneously. And she just moved to the east coast last year so im going to invite her to come with us because shes never been and she likes to see new places. I never invite her on road trips but its for her not for me. So I guess I just wanted to get passed that conversation so that I can move on from it and ask her if she wants to come.
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