Terrible 2014

Pisces Sun. Cancer Moon. Pisces Rising.
The new year has been awful. I suppose bad things have been building, but they have come to a head in 2014.

Im thinking about making a big decision to leave work full time in order to get my home under control.
Money will no doubt be tight. . But I feel my children and husband (and I) need this.

Im terrible with decisions.. but good with instincts.
I am so stressed out and emotional.


Am I the only fish struggling in 2014?

Thanks Dj -

I am unsure how much stock I put in predictive astrology. I do think it has some credibility - and I wish it had some answers for me. I sure hope I am making the right decision.

Financial problems are one of the biggest causes for family problems ... so quitting your job is probably not the answer, IF your income is needed to run the household.

Since your house is out of order, and you aren't home during the day ... the logical assumption is that your children are running amuck. And that is something that is suppose to taught to them at an early age. Of course, I'm assuming it's the children.

Both parents working opposite shifts, to where one is home all the time, usually works wonders for children who need constant guidance.

P Angel - thank you for your time and thoughts... you are right. Those financial worries are my only reason for pause. We have been married 14yrs (not much fighting about money anymore) I dont want to quit completely.
labor economists warn that any substantial time away from the working world can result in lower earnings when you return. - staying part time should help.


My children are not running amuck, but my husband works six 10 hr days and I work strange 12 hr shifts at the hospital. They spend time at grandparents (down the road) and a babysitter.


I want to raise my children - clean my house, consistantly help with school work..
It is what my husband and both want - to be there for them more consistantly.

I need a financial planner.
-we are down to one car payment.. the budget works on paper.

It is a scary decision because what works in theory doesnt always pan out in reality.

I also know that no one else can make this decision -
I just appreciate the insight.. opinions.. advice.. help.

Im going to have to agree with you. The past two months have been a hugeee struggle. Gotta try and stick with some sense of optimism.

Children struggle as adults when parents are absent .... the condition of these kids who grew up that way and feel lost are a result from not enough parental interaction. So, you wanting to be more involved with your children will likely be better for the whole family.

Maybe take on a child or two, babysitting .... not a lot of money, but, every dollar helps.

Posted by AfternoonDelights22
Im going to have to agree with you. The past two months have been a hugeee struggle. Gotta try and stick with some sense of optimism.

Optimism. 🙂
That can be tough. I sure do appreciate those rare friends right now that are saying "you can do it"

P Angel.
Thanks for the wisdom-
I agree. I wish more mothers could afford to spend their time investing in their children.
I think if I want it bad enough, I will find a way.

It's so sad to me that we live in a world where it takes 2 full time incomes for a family just to make ends meet and not live in poverty. And yes, kids suffer in this equation because you don't have the time to be there for them the way your own mother likely was there for you as a child. As much I as I appreciate the freedom women's lib gave us to work, it ended up cheapening the labor force and forcing most working class (and many middle class) parents both working full-time and not have as much time for the kids. I'm sure you do the best you can to be there for your children. I'm just saying I have total compassion for your dilemma from a financial stand point. Back in my father's time, 1 man's salary supported a family of 5 (in our case). We were working class but mom stayed home those formative years and it was great to have that as a child. Deep appreciation here for the sacrifices my parents made. But it is so much harder to do even that today. Maybe if you can find a way to check out of the "middle class" assumptions about what you really need. Look into ways to live cheaper. Heart's out to you.

Este8- yes yes yes! And it isnt like husband doesnt have an education. He is a union journeyman electrician - that is respectable. Well I say it is 🙂 haha cuz he's mine!
i'm not saying we are going to go Amish.. but we CAN wear $ 20 sneakers instead of Nike. And buy grocery store brand ketchup. And keep driving a car that is .. oh wow.. it is 9 years old now.
Keeping up with the Jones's just isnt as important as being an involved mom.
..
it is just a scary transition/decision and even making changes like that doesnt guarantee we can do it. I just want what is best for my kids/family.
Too bad life doesnt come with a manual.
Thank you so much for the support.

Posted by EmoFish
Este8- yes yes yes! And it isnt like husband doesnt have an education. He is a union journeyman electrician - that is respectable. Well I say it is 🙂 haha cuz he's mine!
i'm not saying we are going to go Amish.. but we CAN wear $ 20 sneakers instead of Nike. And buy grocery store brand ketchup. And keep driving a car that is .. oh wow.. it is 9 years old now.
Keeping up with the Jones's just isnt as important as being an involved mom.
..
it is just a scary transition/decision and even making changes like that doesnt guarantee we can do it. I just want what is best for my kids/family.
Too bad life doesnt come with a manual.
Thank you so much for the support.

An electrician makes good money. I'm sure there are ways you can cut expenses and find a better work/family balance. Best of luck finding a solution that works for the family.

How old are the kiddos?

Thanks! I am glad your 2014 is going well and I hope you keep it up (! Haha wink wink)

I keep giving myself pep talks - put my big girl panties on (not granny panties) and I am going to swim upstream.
determined!




In answer to the other question. My boys are 3, 5, 10, 12. At this exact second, but someone is always having a birthday around here - we have two Pisces in the family. Me and the 10 yr old.

this has been a damn good year for me so far..got a raise & a new luxury vehicle

Excellent! Congrats. Maybe mine is right around the corner.
positive attitude

Posted by EmoFish
Excellent! Congrats. Maybe mine is right around the corner.
positive attitude

maybe,maybe not..j/k 🙂




























naa but seriously probably not 😢

But maybe