Was I too aggressive w/ him?

Ok so I have posted before abt him:

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/pisces/should-i-wish-him-happy-new-year-or-just-let-go-2351400/
Recap, we had a falling out & he cut me off last November.

So we've been through alot. I never thought that me & him would ever even talk again. But this week shockingly, he started to speak to me, I was surprised, but I spoke back. It was a group of abt 4 of us and it was just small talk. First face to face communication between us in several months. I noticed that he couldn't sit still, he looked uneasy, I know it would have been hard for him to talk to me being that he cut me off. I was so happy, but I was still cautious.
So yesterday again we are in the same area. We just looked at each other no speaking. He looked at me first. He was w/ the guys talking guy stuff and he left later.

I admit, I could have been more vocal, on both occasions, not that I didnt want to talk to him, but on a 1 & 1 basis is what I wanted.

So when I reached home, I'm on FB and I'm contemplating if I should lol "poke him" . I didn't want to but I said I see he's trying to reconnect. So after abt 30 mins of contemplation, I do it.

I checked this morning at the office and he did not "poke" back. lol. So lunch time just now I log on I noticed he blocked me. 😢 😢 / WTH. He had to have done it on work as well.

So I dunno why. Only if he was like f u I'm trying to talk and you're ignoring me. I'm done with trying.

or ,well my profile is open & I know he views it,a status I had that just said I was happy to that we r kinda communicating again.

if he thought I was being a bit much.

I cld cry right now. I know hes moody & impulsive.

I'm so sad right now.

What do you think.

:::: shakes head ::::

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Be blunt, tell me what you think abt out situation.

Our*

I told you in January ... when you were playing for his attention, rather than actually wanting the attention of a man you respect.

Looks like 4 months later, and you're still playing at it.

?

Ok, how was I playing for his attention yesterday & the day before?

Yesterday, what should I have done? Pulled him from the guys and be like hey, im happy we're kinda talking again, hope we get back on track??

I didn't want to get carried away. Baby steps.

I'm so hurt again & sad.

All I did was Poke the dude and it pissed him off??

It has has already been established that the two of you play games with each other .... so, by you playing for his attention was the thing you should do .. because that's what people do when they want to play games.

When you decide to have a relationship ... I'll give you help .. until then, I don't really care because I don't like players.

Ok. Well I wasn't playing games. All I wanted was for us to be back how we were.

Thanks for your contribution though.

I guess pulling him aside today may be a day late.

😢

All of this doesn't make sense to me.

You guys think huh.

and lol @thomas.

There is no logical reason he would just block me. Even when we initially fell out last November he didn't. In the midst of some serious serious drama he never blocked me.

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Should I send him a message—

I really don't want this AGAIN.

I cant do it & I want him back in my life.

I'm older than him too.

Yeah I want us to be cool again.

So I have another FB acct.

Should I msg him? Would I look like a stalker— You in the way like, he blocked u and still msg him. Shld I take the hint?

Or should I wait and hope that I see him & talk to him??

His bro is migrating so today I know he might be caught up in that, so maybe 2mrw.

AHHH

^^That's stupid advice really, unless it's really dry humour.
Although given the subject matter (Facebook), it actually looks like it's par for the course.🙂

So I should msg him—

On the ride home from work, I was just going through the reasons why he could possibly be upset/annoyed & block me.

1. He was upset that I poked him? Probably he wasnt ready for us to communicate like that yet? Was I rushing it?
2. I didnt show enough interest, put forward enough "effort" yesterday

My bff said he's Bi Polar and I need to stop blaming myself. He's responsible too.

Ok. I wouldnt then.

I dont know if he's going through something. He hasn't shaved in like a week. It's unlike him , he usually has a mohawk and looks well groomed etc.

Im so sad. Thats my baby right there.

I read up alot on Pisces and it says you guys are ultra sensitive & super aware.

If I new what I did, it wld be easier.

Nights 22 thanks for responding also.

Posted by piranhaparadiise

Posted by Aurelis27

I know hes moody & impulsive.
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The reason he is not talking to you is because he doesn't want to...

I know when I block someone it's because they are becoming a pest and bring a negative cloud my way...or pissed me off lol

If you really did care about him...you wouldn't be poking or give half attempt at communicating...you would have gone straight up to him and broken the ice or messaged him on fb telling him you'd like to become friends again or something...

Pisces men tend to like a woman that has a strong vibe and knows what she wants...isn't a push over and shows that she cares...

Maybe he had enough of the half assed attempts like he is some side show news for the day...

Incidentally I get annoyed when people use that *poke* feature on fb...I mean wtf am I some pet to poke LOL...

Message me you lazy ass person ahahaha 😄

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lol. But how am I a pest or annoying, when we haven't spoke in 5 months or so. I mean we havent spoken at all and were rarely in the same area, if he came, I left and vice versa. We were avoiding each other. No hello, hi or nothing.
So that doesn't make sense to me.

And I messaged him at the start of the month, but it was about WORK, nothing personal, and of course, HE DIDN'T RESPOND.

3 weeks after I asked him in person and he was kinda short.

Probably I got carried away with the small talk? and it was just that, small talk.

The fact that he blocked me NOW...is serious.

Or I did something? But what. From the time Wednesday he left & reached home—

What you should do is leave this all alone .. and attempt to gain some composure

Alls I can sense is desperation from you ..... I'm sure he can sense it too.

Desperation?

Um not really. But thats so opi.

More like confusion. I'm racking my brain trying to figure him out.

Anyway, I agree with you. Just leave it alone.

And I really need stop blaming myself too.

He does what he want, cuts me off, talks to ME when HE chooses.

He's 22, he has alot of growing to do.

Me as well.

Posted by Aurelis27

I'm racking my brain trying to figure him out.

Get a grip

Oh, no, don't stop blaming yourself .... because you are to blame for your constant harping on something that only needed some rational thought

Posted by P-Angel
Oh, no, don't stop blaming yourself .... because you are to blame for your constant harping on something that only needed some rational thought

Ok.

I'm 25.

Well I saw him this evening looking cuteeee.

Anyway, it was cool, we didn't speak or anything.

When I say cool, it wasn't tense, like before. He didn't seem upset I was in the same area as opposed to before.

So....

Yah. I'll just continue to go abt my business.

So I got the courage and this evening and pulled him aside. We were looking at each other. sigh...
I motion him to come over. He came ,didn't hesitate or anything.

The convo went like this:

Me: hey, whats up, did you get my msg? ( i sent him a mag on saturday)
Him: What msg?
Me: I sent u on Fb?
Him: Is that what you called me over to ask me?
Me: What? NO.
Him: I haven't been on FB in the longest while.
Me: *confused look* but you blocked me?
Him: Some lame lie abt how fb blocks itself. [LOL]
Me: Uh yeah ok. So you're not mad at me?
Him: I was never mad at you
Me: Cmon on you look at me hard sometimes
Him Thats just how I roll, I dont hold grudges and I'm a grown man.
Me: well i saw you were talking to me last week and their not moving me again, and I'm staying , and really don't
want things awkward between us
Him: You feel awkward, not me
Me Well ok, I just want things to be cool. Like me & Jim get along, I want me & you to be back like that.
Him: Ok.
Me: Ok:

Convo done.
He was very nervous, pacing back & forth. I had to tell him like twice, I'm speaking to you , can just stay still. smh. He wasn't defensive or anything. I waited after 5 days to approach him. He usually is more hmm, forceful, he had this weird look on face. 😢 I don't know why he was acting so nervous.

So I told what I had to, if things don't change, I'll always care abt him.

Also, he lied abt not being on FB cause he changed his fb profile & HE blocked me. Also if you're not mad at me, why you block me?

SIGHHHH

Think I pressured him? after a week??

and I didn't force him.

True, but after all the drama over several months, ---> HE

It makes me sad. But I will always care about him, deeply.

Dunno what will transpire as long we work here together.

But I'll will always be there for him.

🙂

Is this a joke?

You get him to talk to you, which he doesn't do by his own accord, so you can whine to him about not talking to you?

Leave the man the fuck alone .. christ woman !!!

lol, um I wasn't whining. How is telling him I don't want things to be awkward whining? And when I motioned him to come, he could have said nah or something.

P Angel, um your posts are so predictable. lol But I appreciate them.

Anyway, he just left to go kick it w/ his boys.

I said what I had to to him. IT's UP TO HIM.

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