What does sex mean to you

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chocolatedreams
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I can't describe it just with words..

Here is my take on it. If I'm attracted to someone a lot, and if the sex is really good, then that usually means that I will be addicted to that person and to sex with that person for a long time to come. Since I will want to spend a lot of time with that person, we better really like each other and have stuff in common.. So it means;

addiction
loyalty
affection
bonding

wait, but I'm a scorpio 😛
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Posted by dixie
Wow then none of yall have been with the right man

Connection
Communication
Release
Can I add that one of the reasons I haven't and don't think I can have a one night stand is because of how deep the connection has to be based on how vulnerable both of us are being. To me sex is like absorbing someone. I practice tantra and I need to be in the safe space with someone to continue having sex with them. Sex is a huge deal to me. It requires open this, trust, acceptance, admiration and a lot of understanding. I have to trust this person is going to please me and I have to truster not going to physically or emotionally hurt me. There's a closeness that I need in order to have sex with someone. I believe this is why a couple of the men I've had sex with it it's so intense. I'm able to have quickies in the confines of a stable relationship but sex sex is very important
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MsTeeq1974
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Mostly release and physical fun. I have been with very passionate partners and partner who use sex to bond. That's just not my primary objective with sex. It feels kind of scary being with someone who uses sex to bond, because my bonds are based on other factors, mostly practical and emotional factors, not sex. Sex can be very emo, but at the same time it doesn't mean anything unless that bonding and emotional connection translates to practical applications. Like, what is the use of someone bonding with you through sex, but then when you're sick and need a blanket, they can't walk across the room to go get one for you.

You know? That's what I'm talking about.
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Posted by LadyOfRebirth
Sex in itself described in three words:

Physical - Pleasure - Release

But that would be purely my gem mars talking. I can separate love from sex easily if I want to, but so far I've chosen to either have both together or none. My sex drive isn't high so I'm definitely not driven by desire, which thankfully allows me to pick and choose whom I can let go with and lose myself to.
Yep, this is exactly how I feel, too. My sex drive is low, so I haven't felt the need to have sex outside of serious relationships. If my drive was higher, then I would have no issue having sex outside of love.

The idea of having to have a deep bond with your partner before having sex with them and all that stuff sounds like romanticized bs to me. I'm not a very romantic person, so to each their own. I have no issue with people choosing to live by that since it's their choice, not mine. Besides, some people can only feel physically attracted to people whom they are close to and love, so it may not even be a choice for a small few (it's called demisexual).
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Posted by Phantom
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Posted by Phantom
Fun. Intriguing. Experimental.
See...this. What are your other placements if you don't mind me asking. I realize that I'm abnormal for a woman, but hey...that's how I'm built/designed. I'm comfortable with it.
I don't mind at all. Pisces sun. Scorpio moon. Aquarius Mercury and Venus. Taurus Mars.

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lol...ok. Pisces Sun, Mars in Tuarus here too. I mean, you literally took the words to describe sex out of my conscious. lol ha ha ha Til this day I look at my partner with strange curiosity during the act. I have to concentrate on "feeling" in order to really feel something emotionally. The passion, well it's just there. I don't have to sex a person to exude passion. I once sniffed a guy (mostly neck and face) at a club and he said that it felt like we were having a sexual encounter. Meh.