Will he come back to me, is he still interested can anyone give me their views please?

My Pisces man I haven't met, not sure that I will now 😔 We started messaging last May, we found each other on a dating site. He opened up to me and I felt like I could tell him anything. He always said he loved my messages. Sent me loads of heart emojis and said he had romantic feelings. I am always so honest and open with my romantic feelings and we developed a big connection, I felt.

He has huge personal problems in his life which he told me about and said his messaging would have to be cut down. At the same time he told me he was still interested in me and apologised. He told me without me asking that he was still interested about 8 times all the way through. I still messaged him twice a day even though it was sometimes a couple of days or more before I heard from him. I told him I understood and I was ok with it.

He then about three months ago told me that he couldn't message any more for now as something further had developed and he had to focus on sorting out his situation. He wished me luck in my search but also said he was still interested. I said if he is interested why couldn't we still message. He said he couldn't message but would come back to me when his situation is sorted.

I sent him a couple of messages a week, full of lovely thoughts of us and supportive and caring. He read them although no reply, but I said I wasn't expecting a reply. I felt a connection was still there even though we weren't messaging. My parents and counsellor kept telling me he wasn't interested. It made me insecure and upset. My counsellor told me to ask him in a message if he was still interested and demand an answer. I knew I shouldn't do that but instead told him I trusted him when he had said he was genuinely interested. It was quite a heavy message showing my insecurity. He stopped reading my messages then. After a week I messaged a long message apologising and covering some issues that I was worried may have bothered him. He replied saying I'd done nothing wrong but he couldn't message that day but would try the next giving more detail. He messaged the next day saying he was still focusing on his issues and my words had been a bit stifling and I seemed so attached. He said he'd see how things look after Christmas. I had a lot of self blame as I get far too emotionally involved, men have hated it. Pisces guy seemed to like it before now, but I knew that people's influence had made me come on too heavily. The connection I felt seemed to disappear. I told him I'd pulled back emotionally, I actually thought I seemed very distant and not interested. He read the message. I tried to explain afterwards that I was still interested even if my message seemed distant but he didn't read the messages until I'd sent a few. Now he has so knows that I'm interested. I'm worried now that I sent too many messages and been to expressive with feelings again. I feel like I ruined it even more. I said I wanted him to have his space now, he could have all the space he needs. I'll give it three weeks and send an affectionate friendly message. See if he replies. I am missing him so much, it has really been distressing for me. I just wonder if people think I have a chance of him coming back to me or if I've been too open with my feelings and he's gone? Would he have been saying he's interested when he actually isn't?

My Pisces man I haven't met, not sure that I will now 😔 We started messaging last May, we found each other on a dating site. He opened up to me and I felt like I could tell him anything. He always said he loved my messages. Sent me loads of heart emojis and said he had romantic feelings. I am always so honest and open with my romantic feelings and we developed a big connection, I felt.

He has huge personal problems in his life which he told me about and said his messaging would have to be cut down. At the same time he told me he was still interested in me and apologised. He told me without me asking that he was still interested about 8 times all the way through. I still messaged him twice a day even though it was sometimes a couple of days or more before I heard from him. I told him I understood and I was ok with it.

He then about three months ago told me that he couldn't message any more for now as something further had developed and he had to focus on sorting out his situation. He wished me luck in my search but also said he was still interested. I said if he is interested why couldn't we still message. He said he couldn't message but would come back to me when his situation is sorted.

I sent him a couple of messages a week, full of lovely thoughts of us and supportive and caring. He read them although no reply, but I said I wasn't expecting a reply. I felt a connection was still there even though we weren't messaging. My parents and counsellor kept telling me he wasn't interested. It made me insecure and upset. My counsellor told me to ask him in a message if he was still interested and demand an answer. I knew I shouldn't do that but instead told him I trusted him when he had said he was genuinely interested. It was quite a heavy message showing my insecurity. He stopped reading my messages then. After a week I messaged a long message apologising and covering some issues that I was worried may have bothered him. He replied saying I'd done nothing wrong but he couldn't message that day but would try the next giving more detail. He messaged the next day saying he was still focusing on his issues and my words had been a bit stifling and I seemed so attached. He said he'd see how things look after Christmas. I had a lot of self blame as I get far too emotionally involved, men have hated it. Pisces guy seemed to like it before now, but I knew that people's influence had made me come on too heavily. The connection I felt seemed to disappear. I told him I'd pulled back emotionally, I actually thought I seemed very distant and not interested. He read the message. I tried to explain afterwards that I was still interested even if my message seemed distant but he didn't read the messages until I'd sent a few. Now he has so knows that I'm interested. I'm worried now that I sent too many messages and been to expressive with feelings again. I feel like I ruined it even more. I said I wanted him to have his space now, he could have all the space he needs. I'll give it three weeks and send an affectionate friendly message. See if he replies. I am missing him so much, it has really been distressing for me. I just wonder if people think I have a chance of him coming back to me or if I've been too open with my feelings and he's gone? Would he have been saying he's interested when he actually isn't?

Did he say why he couldn’t talk anymore? I’m curious to know what his personal problems are and why they affect his communication so much. I’ve been dating a Pisces who has been depressed lately and pulled away. He said it wasn’t because of me. I know his job is stressful.... I gave him space then he saw me recently and was the most affectionate I’ve ever seen him. Sooo see how space goes. Lots of people told me they do disappear.

Probably his seeing another person or his married. It seems he was looking for a casual fling. So not to say he got attached to u and it was scaring him thus he had to lay low for a while.

I believe there is still some more details to about the issue his dealing with hence I can't give a clear opinion on this.

One thing about Pisces is that we do comeback no matter what. When his going to comeback? I don't know, its up to him. Don't expect anything good when he comesback.

I would suggest u meet him in person, when ever possible. That way u can see wether his lieing or not.

As Pisces we can be a little manipulative, lies , doubtful and matrys when it comes to online dating. Thats just the dowmside, there is also good side.

Wow. You have a battle going on inside of you. Your self esteem is non-existent.

This dude is married or has a partner who he's looking to work out his issues with. He's deceitful, untrustworthy, sneaky and a liar. He was probably having issues and started creeping online. Found you to entertain him and his wicked thoughts. Now he's making amends w his real life relationship and you're no longer needed.

You need to figure out why you're so easily fooled; why you're so easily attached and why you'll settle so quickly.

That's the real issue here.

He said he's going through a huge divorce with huge financial problems. He also has to move as well. His ex apparently is stopping him seeing his son so he has to focus on sorting all that out for now

He said he's going through a huge divorce with huge financial problems. He also has to move as well. His ex apparently is stopping him seeing his son so he has to focus on sorting all that out for now

My last boyfriend has gone to prison for a horrific crime. He was abusive to me for years too.

I don't have much luck with men.

Posted by Distraught

He said he's going through a huge divorce with huge financial problems. He also has to move as well. His ex apparently is stopping him seeing his son so he has to focus on sorting all that out for now

So he’s emotionally unavailable right now. He can’t live up to boyfriend expectations because he’s too stressed and struggling internally. I have a friend that is going through personal and family problems with his child being a big stresser. He doesn’t want to date anyone either right now until he gets his life back on track even tho he has a woman that’s interested in him and is very beautiful. I’m telling him to go for it!! But he won’t.

I'll go on the dating sites and keep my options open. Maybe he will return, I hope so

Basically you are continuously messaging him and continuously apologizing for these messages. He probably has someone he wants things to work out with. Pisces don't do vague unless there's somebody else involved. Back off and find a man who's available.

Posted by Distraught

He said he's going through a huge divorce with huge financial problems. He also has to move as well. His ex apparently is stopping him seeing his son so he has to focus on sorting all that out for now

All that, and he went on a dating site....?!

Let him sort his life out. You did the best you could to cheer him up. Don’t be afraid to lose the connection for now and pursue other interests, including other men. He doesn’t seem afraid of losing you, since you made yourself so over-the-top emotionally available to him. Why can’t you refrain from texting him so often, after he stopped replying? Learn to control yourself better.

If you two are a very good match, I believe you will find each other again when the time is right. If not....it wasn’t meant to be!

It was the fact he seemed to break me down, he wanted to know everything about me. He refered to us being in a relationship before we met at one point. That shocked me a little but he said he felt protective of the children and I. He said he couldn't stop thinking about me etc.

I'm not used to men being so nice to me, think that's why I became attached so quickly.

Plus people around me were making me feel insecure after he said about us stopping messaging.

It was the fact he seemed to break me down, he wanted to know everything about me. He refered to us being in a relationship before we met at one point. That shocked me a little but he said he felt protective of the children and I. He said he couldn't stop thinking about me etc.

I'm not used to men being so nice to me, think that's why I became attached so quickly.

Plus people around me were making me feel insecure after he said about us stopping messaging.

It was the fact he seemed to break me down, he wanted to know everything about me. He refered to us being in a relationship before we met at one point. That shocked me a little but he said he felt protective of the children and I. He said he couldn't stop thinking about me etc.

I'm not used to men being so nice to me, think that's why I became attached so quickly.

Plus people around me were making me feel insecure after he said about us stopping messaging.

It was the fact he seemed to break me down, he wanted to know everything about me. He refered to us being in a relationship before we met at one point. That shocked me a little but he said he felt protective of the children and I. He said he couldn't stop thinking about me etc.

I'm not used to men being so nice to me, think that's why I became attached so quickly.

Plus people around me were making me feel insecure after he said about us stopping messaging.

It was the fact he seemed to break me down, he wanted to know everything about me. He refered to us being in a relationship before we met at one point. That shocked me a little but he said he felt protective of the children and I. He said he couldn't stop thinking about me etc.

I'm not used to men being so nice to me, think that's why I became attached so quickly.

Plus people around me were making me feel insecure after he said about us stopping messaging.

It was the fact he seemed to break me down, he wanted to know everything about me. He refered to us being in a relationship before we met at one point. That shocked me a little but he said he felt protective of the children and I. He said he couldn't stop thinking about me etc.

I'm not used to men being so nice to me, think that's why I became attached so quickly.

Plus people around me were making me feel insecure after he said about us stopping messaging.

All this angst for someone who hasn’t even made the effort to meet you in person.

Posted by Distraught

My last boyfriend has gone to prison for a horrific crime. He was abusive to me for years too.

I don't have much luck with men.

There are plenty of nice people out there, not just that Pisces man! Learn how to distinguish the good from the abusive, and don't give your heart until you get to know the person well in real life. Maybe read some online advice about dating mistakes, red flags and other things that may help.

Chris19 what reason do you think he'd come back for if it's not good?

I can't seem to reply to individual messages by the way.

I've not messaged him for a week and a half now anyway. I'll see if he messages, if he sorted out his problems as he said it may be after Christmas.

Posted by Distraught

Chris19 what reason do you think he'd come back for if it's not good?

I can't seem to reply to individual messages by the way.

I've not messaged him for a week and a half now anyway. I'll see if he messages, if he sorted out his problems as he said it may be after Christmas.

He didn't even bother to wish you a merry Christmas?! This speaks volumes, especially for a Pisces. Let him go, girl. He's not even thinking about you, whereas you are obsessed....unrequited love is going to drain you mentally and emotionally, without offering you anything in return.

Since you two never met, it should be easier to let him go. What's going on on that dating site? Have you checked the new guys signing in recently? C'mon, go and make someone happy!

You are being catfished...

Move on.