Bored in my long term relationship

Hi, I'm a 21 years old pisces girl. I've been in a relationship with my capricorn boyfriend for 6 years! so yeah, I've been with him since I was 15. From the tittle of this thread you most know by now were this is going...
I'm starting to feel bored in my relationship, I still love him but I think that somewhere along the way that love changed, it is not a passionate kind of love anymore.
He haves been an excellent boyfriend, he respects me, takes care of me and overall is a good partner, we are very compatible and we understand each other. He also is very patient with me and tolerates my terrible temper, sex is great too! So I can't help to feel guilty, because he is a good person.
But sometimes I start questioning myself, is it really love I feel or is it just me being used to him? am I with him because I want to, or maybe I am just to afraid to be alone after all this years being used to have him by my side?
I've always been a 'good girl', I have never cheated on him, even though I've had plenty of opportunities to do it. But lately I've been wanting to get crazy, go out with my friends, date other guys, meet new people and experience new things, I feel like I am still young to be in such a serious committed relationship.
I feel like I am very dependent on my boyfriend, for a long time my life has revolved around him and his circle of friendships, and somehow I have abandoned my friends and independence with him. I'm feeling very restricted and I just want to break free. But, I can not take a rushed decision, after all there are many good things in my relationship with him, and I can not just abandoned it all out of sudden.
Guys, your advice is needed? what do you think I should do? Has anyone been in my same situation? HEEEEEELLLLPP

I was about to go off on you but that would be wrong of me.

I dated a pisces since I was 15 too.
I would say our relationship was similar, very comfortable.
After hs graduation he felt the same way.

It would be nice of you to tell him this.
or at least just break up with him instead of fucking around behind his back 🙂

He is also 21 do you have venus in aries?

@warmwaters yes I have Venus is aries!!! why? :O

I am in a similar situation as you, its pretty identical actually. Long term 3 year relationship with a Capricorn. I am also an aries venus, which I think in some ways is hard to keep up with romantically. I decided to tell my boyfriend how I felt. With the boredom and feeling like its desperate stagnation due to convenience and comfort. To be honest I cannot say it helped much in the actual relationship department, but it did help to let him know whats going on in my head.

Capricorn males, don't really function much on emotion, so while they can tell you are discontent its definitely unreasonable to expect him to know exactly why. You should figure out where you stand and feel in all of this and decide if it merits a change. Although I why am I giving advice? As I just mentioned and I am in the same exact boat as you so what do I know?

To say that your feelings about the relationship is wrong or unfair would be a lie. Plenty of couples who have been in long term relationships can attest to have at some point asking themselves the same questions.

Repetition is something that human beings are wired to eventually get bored with after so long. There's this myth that being in love means never getting bored or questioning the relationship. The people who believe in that myth probably just WISH that were true either b/c they're inexperienced in the love department OR haven't ever been able to sustain a healthy long term relationship themselves and so their knowledge comes from fantasy ideals and not reality/experience

As a matter of fact, I'm here to encourage you to be perfectly fine with taking a deeper look at things & evaluating the relationship every blue moon. Sometimes people are just going & going and eventually forget why they're going. They're running off of fumes & not off of mad passionate love like before. And they don't realize it often times until many years later...and all those years later, THESE types or inner conversations happen.

Those who refuse to have THIS conversation with themselves or their partners are most likely to seek a solution outside of the relationship (i.e. cheating or becoming resentful), all b/c they forgot the rule that you can't address or change what you're too afraid to acknowledge

Should you cheat? NO. Should you leave him all b/c you're feeling bored or unsure? NO. Should you feel guilty for examining how you really feel? NO. Remember connection is just as important as their outside resume. He may sound like an ideal catch on paper, but if that inner flame b/w you two blew out, then you have 2 options: 1. Remember that the grass isn't always greener on the other side, so start watering it to see if it gets green again before making a permanent decision that you may not be able to reverse OR 2. take a break to discover if the grass is greener (it may in fact be greener), & just hope and pray that your time of solitude brings you to the right conclusion & does't ruin the relationship if you were to persay decide to stay.

I mean some folks aren't necessarily cool with you placing them on 'hold' while you're trying to figure yourself out lol But hey, you never know, there's a big chance he's had this convo with himself too & never told you

It is perfectly normal to outgrow someone

It is very normal for 1 or both people in the relationship to do a quarterly/yearly evaluation on their relationship, not b/c they're ungrateful, but b/c they fear complacency

It is perfectly normal for repetition and routine to get old and almost change/decrease your partner's value. (A person being a challenge is not just crucial in the beginning...this creed also applies throughout the relationship...some folks can achieve it, and some can't no matter how much they initially loved each other)

It is also perfectly normal to reach this point in a relationship & not be sure what to make of the sudden questioning of yourself and the relationship

I'm glad you're having this inner dialogue with yourself. Many people have it but are too afraid of looking ungrateful. They're worried about the people who would say, "How dare you not be 100% happy, when you're with everybody's ideal man?!!" They're worried about the dangerous places their boredom, desire for variety/difference, or imagination may take them. They're wondering if they're losing their minds.

Again, all normal. The people who never address these feelings end up suppressing them. And with suppression comes BAD solutions to problems and/or resentment. This is why some people are being brutally honest when they say they're not sure why they cheated or suddenly had a mid life crisis. They were too afraid to address & have the convo when they should've