Confused about Zodiac characteristics

Im a 36 yr old Pisces woman who fell hard for a 40 yr old Cancer man. At first, our friendship was so solid - fun, easygoing, etc. We were about as close as 2 people could be. He is a single father of 2 girls who are now grown up. I have 2 school aged kids that were instantly drawn to him. He's funny, smart, and all round amazing. In some aspects, he is the very typical Crab. He did back away suddenly when we got too close twice. He has told me he's not ready for a relationship. He is planning to move across the country and it's not fair to start something we can't finish. He does care very deeply for me and that's why he won't sleep with me - he respects me too much. I am his best friend and when he is ready for a relationship, he'll be looking for me. He even almost told me he loved me once (while he was letting me down gently).

I recognize those are all lines. I backed off and tried to nullify my feelings for him. Problem is, in the meantime, we started hanging out with a 26 year old friend of mine who is also a single mother of 2 boys my kids' ages. She is a also a pisces. At first, he made it clear to her that he was interested in me. Suddenly, he started hanging out with her more and more behind my back. They did sleep together. She got him into drinking and smoking pot (which he'd always told me he's not into). She is a lousy mother, constantly pawning her children off on other people. She is a chronic partier. We are total opposites. I'm what you'd call a good girl. I value my family. I work hard. I keep my house and children as my #1 priority. I believe sex should be reserved for a committed relationship (which is what he told me he believestoo)

For the record,I'm not talking to her anymore at all and I'm keeping him at arm's length. My eyes are wide open. We will never be close again. I guess my questions are these:
1. How is it possible for 2 pisces to be so completely different morally?

2. Cancer men are supposed to be good matches for Pisces woman...a Cancer man is supposed to value morality and a family oriented environment...why would he opt for a slutty, lousy mother?

3. Do Cancer men lie about everything - give you lines to make you happy or keep you on the back burner or something?

I get that he's not the man for me. Just found it shocking how fast he tossed me aside...in favor of a woman, also a Pisces, who is 1/2 his age with no moral values.

What's more, his personality completely changed when she came into the picture. He turned from sweet & honest to lieing to me & keeping secrets. I know I have to let him go...just confused about the sudden turn in his personality.

As far as she goes, I want nothing to do with her. She's not thinking about anyone but herself. She goes between my friend and her ex, sometimes in the same night! She pawns her children off so she doesn't have to deal with them. Most days that she has to work, she goes in with a hangover. It's very sad. I used to think she was a nice person. Her ex is an alcoholic, but he wasn't a bad guy. It kills me to see how she's using people and getting away with it! Worst of all, being that I can't stand her, my little boy loses a friend too. Her son is confused and angry and lashes out at whoever happens to be there - some of the time of which it has been my son. Now this year, they're in the same class and they have to share a locker. So far my son says it's been great and they've gotten along well and want to be bed buds again and start hanging out after school again. I'm not sure how I feel about that. I love that little boy of hers...our kids have been friends since the oldest was 3.

Life is so harsh and unfair.

Your opinion of her, based off of your feelings about a man .. are saying she's a bad mother and that she has no moral values .. when in reality, that isn't based off of anything except yourself and your own selfish feelings of betrayal.

Let's see how good of a mother you are.

the two boys are friends ..... a good mother would forsake her own selfish vengences against the mother of the child and let the children live.


let's see if you are good enough to do that