Desperate for my Taurus GF back!!!! (Page 2)

I dunno. During my immature days, sometimes when I push someone away, I really want them to run to me. I think some tauruses are less likely to ask for what they want. She may have told you to go but she wanted you to want to stay. To fight for her, to care.

Hard to tell but I agree. The breakup is positive if it leads to personal growth. You have to communicate something that is kinda tricky...

You're in effect telling her you want to be with her but you can't be with her right now. Any woman on here will tell you that that's not going to go over well even though it's the right thing to do.

I'm not sure how to say it correctly to be honest with you but if someone wants to suggest a way that a man can straddle the fence and it not hurt like hell, I'd like to know too?

She was very convincing about wanting me gone.. She brought up breaking up 4 times in 2 months. The first time I begged pleaded and even cried. The second time I reasoned with her. The last time.. we just kinda talked.. I dunno, she just decided to stay on her own. The last time I just said.. ok if this is what you really want...

She brought it up so many times that I was convinced.. That wasn't a fair test if it's a test.

How about" I want to be with you more than anything right now, but I know I have a lot of growing to do and have a lot of things I need to fix about myself. You're worth fighting for. I want to deserve you." ?

I dunno dude. She may hate you but based on what you said there's push and pull too.

For most tau chicks, when we check out, we're out. No more nookie. When did you last have sex?

a couple days before we broke up? And the day before that too, 3rd base.

Is the letter a complete wreck? Should I scrap it and start over?

Ah, hell. I'll post it here. I'd like any input I can get. I care a lot more about this woman than my pride.


LETTER


I care about you. I will always be your friend. You are a very important person to me. I love the person you are and that's never going to change. I'm not writing to ask for your forgiveness nor do I expect it. I just want to apologize for being distant, detached, selfish, and deceptive and for always thinking of myself. I was selfish for leaving and acting like I was ok with everything. I knew it was difficult for you, but I was too proud to show you how much pain I was in. I shouldn't have talked to Morgan or Haruka. My selfishness is the reason you and Haruka are mad at each other. I keep making mistakes and driving things to this point. I need to and I will fix these things about myself so I can grow as an individual.

During our time apart, I have no intentions of dating or seeing other people. As the person, I am, I am not ready for any relationship. This space between us is not about me separating from you or being passive. I would give anything to be with you, but until I can figure out my short-comings and fix them, I don't want to do anymore damage. I want to deserve you.

During this time apart, can you allow me to text you to check up on you and lulu from time to time?



Still working on the ending.

I think you need to make it clear how your life wouldn't be the same without her specifically which is why I said you need to personalize it more. If you can walk away from it and it could be used as a form letter, you've failed.

She wants a new start. She told me this before. Will bringing up specifics about the past just show her that I'm still holding on to it? Once she suggested we break up so we can start over with a brand new relationship.

Also.. If I apologize for specifics, won't that just remind her of them? That was why she got so angry about my apology email. She said she had just forgotten about it but I brought it back up..

I wouldn't necessarily rehash old stuff but I'd be more "love note" than "dear john."

What does it mean when a Taurus woman needs space?

Check yr email kiddo!

For anyone following along...

Him - aqua sun, scorp mars
Her - taur sun, taur venus

Has anyone had this combo? The mars-venus, sun-sun synastry is interesting and based on some of the things he's said, I feel like the mars-venus explains the love-hate dynamic no?

synasty aspects

Read...

Sun opposed Mars
Sun square Venus
Venus opposed Mars


Venus opposed Mars
This comparative combination indicates intense sexual, romantic attractions. It is, however, completely dependent on harmonizing factors elsewhere in charts for any degree of stability or enduring qualities. This opposition shows problems with jealousy and possessiveness, and a lack of diplomacy in the relationship. Mars, in this placement, tends to be overly aggressive and inconsiderate, and Venus here is often supersensitive and easily hurt. Both parties are apt to feel that they are being used, and resentment and conflict often results. Nonetheless, this is a very exciting and sexually stimulating placement.


Sun opposed Mars
Contacts between the Sun and Mars are frequently found in marriages because it is one of strong physical attraction and the blend is productive of much "heat." The desire nature is definitely stimulated. This comparative combination produces a conflict of will and ego, which can result in power struggles and fights for supremacy in the relationship. This is not a good romantic indicator because ego and willfulness will be continuously at odds. The key to successfully working with this aspect is psychological maturity. Because it is impossible to eliminate the competition for dominance imposed here, it is necessary for both to respect the other's free will.

Ironically, venus in taurus, mars in scorpio are supposed to be compatible but I would assume that due to the sun square sun is not allowing the venus-mar relationship to harmonize.

Based on some of the things you said, the synastry aspects fit you two...at least I think.

Simply that. Neutral ground to think, analyze and regroup.

What venus said.

And how long? HA!...forever!

Fire signs (specifically aries) in the chart helps expedite so this person would get over it quicker. Water prolongs.