@LibraLovesHim
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Guys...what qualities would make a woman invaluable to you??
Self sufficient, strong, independent, less drama, no superficiality, care for family, grounded, real, gives me space, be a bit crazy like me but cares for the world around her.
Posted by Nepturanus
Submissive
Interesting...can you give more detail here. How about a woman with her own opinion? Does it bother you?
Love all the replies so far! None too shallow....
Invaluable? I know what you mean, but I'm not sure that is the word I would use. Not because it is incorrect or anything like that, but because I have issues with idealization and devaluation. However, I understand the context, so...
... She has to be beautiful, both inside and out. This single word encompasses a lot of the qualities already mentioned here and then some. It isn't a word I use often, but when I do, she has certainly earned it. Especially after the Cancer trials I would put her through.
When I love her, she has to love me back.
Posted by Crabra
Invaluable? I know what you mean, but I'm not sure that is the word I would use. Not because it is incorrect or anything like that, but because I have issues with idealization and devaluation. However, I understand the context, so...... She has to be beautiful, both inside and out. This single word encompasses a lot of the qualities already mentioned here and then some. It isn't a word I use often, but when I do, she has certainly earned it. Especially after the Cancer trials I would put her through.
Cancer trials? I feel like I'm in a neverending one. Seriously, and this is really just a question, what's the purpose of these tests? Is there a method to this madness?
Posted by cvurko
Emotional intelligence. Intellectual and emotional depth. Honesty and sincerity.
That's ME!
Sorry, in booked!
Posted by LibraLovesHim
Posted by Nepturanus
Submissive
Interesting...can you give more detail here. How about a woman with her own opinion? Does it bother you?
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Submissive is when you deluted in your (or someone else's) man!
No opinion she has to except you are the Master!
Do I have to tell you everything?
Posted by SupremeHrH
Posted by Crabra
Invaluable? I know what you mean, but I'm not sure that is the word I would use. Not because it is incorrect or anything like that, but because I have issues with idealization and devaluation. However, I understand the context, so...... She has to be beautiful, both inside and out. This single word encompasses a lot of the qualities already mentioned here and then some. It isn't a word I use often, but when I do, she has certainly earned it. Especially after the Cancer trials I would put her through.
Cancer trials? I feel like I'm in a neverending one. Seriously, and this is really just a question, what's the purpose of these tests? Is there a method to this madness?
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The Cancer trials is just a name I came up with myself in relation to these 'tests' I put a potential interest through. The name itself is not to be taken seriously, but the strong security trait crabs need before they invest their emotions most certainly is, and that's what the trials are about. You're really not even supposed to be aware of them, even the crab might not be aware that they do it.
The method to the madness is to discern that you are someone special, worth investing our time and emotion into. It really isn't even about passing or failing, but being unfamiliar and different than behavior the crab has experienced in the past that lead them to getting hurt.
IOW, just be you, and let the chips fall where they may.
Posted by SupremeHrH
Posted by Crabra
Invaluable? I know what you mean, but I'm not sure that is the word I would use. Not because it is incorrect or anything like that, but because I have issues with idealization and devaluation. However, I understand the context, so...... She has to be beautiful, both inside and out. This single word encompasses a lot of the qualities already mentioned here and then some. It isn't a word I use often, but when I do, she has certainly earned it. Especially after the Cancer trials I would put her through.
Cancer trials? I feel like I'm in a neverending one. Seriously, and this is really just a question, what's the purpose of these tests? Is there a method to this madness?
click to expand
The Cancer trials is just a name I came up with myself in relation to these 'tests' I put a potential interest through. The name itself is not to be taken seriously, but the strong security trait crabs need before they invest their emotions most certainly is, and that's what the trials are about. You're really not even supposed to be aware of them, even the crab might not be aware that they do it.
The method to the madness is to discern that you are someone special, worth investing our time and emotion into. It really isn't even about passing or failing, but being unfamiliar and different than behavior the crab has experienced in the past that lead them to getting hurt.
IOW, just be you, and let the chips fall where they may.
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Guys...what qualities would make a woman invaluable to you??