helppp!!! gemini girl loves off virgo guy

Am 22 years of age and ive been in love with this virgo male for 9 years, we have
been dating for the past 2 years we have so much differences ive learned alot from him, and he has learned from me well
we're been through alot we argue very often but we spend alot of time talking and working out our issues. ive played a big role in his life, and he values my freindship but he scared he mite hurt me cause i push him too far at times. i cant leave him alone lots of ppl give up on him and i never want to do that. sometimes i do seek a little too much attention and don't give him his space and sometimes he wants to talk to me as if he's my dad which i dunt stand for. he push and i push back but i want my relationship to work i love him too much. so much people tells me to forget him and move on but i keep faith that theres always room for change and i need to stop triggerin him off and just take it easy. some feed back will be great