How do I go about getting this Leo back?

I'm an Aries/Leo and he is a Leo/sag and my connection with him feels overwhelming and I haven't been able to shake it, we were seeing each other for over a month and I fell hard and fast. He did not as he had another girl he was seeing before he decided to see me. Long story short, we had an argument over him lying to me about the seriousness of his feelings towards me and this other girl, she left him, he said he hated me, that I ruined everything then withdrew completely. I haven't heard from him since (this was five months ago) I still see him around very often as he only lives four houses down from me. I texted him a month after the argument and asked if he still hated me (probably not a smart thing to say to a Leo) I didn't get a reply. Since its been a while now I'm wondering if there's any way to diffuse the situation so this Leo and I can get back to seeing each other and let the romantic potential we have fully blossom.

Girl he said he hated you and to boot he ignored your text. Have some dignity and move on. I know you care for him and have feelings for him but no amount of chasing or manipulating (which is what you'd have to resort to here) is going to see how great you are and that you need to be back together again. He's hung up on another girl. It's best to just move on.

I know that was a bit tough. But this was from one Aries to another. You deserve better babe. Move on.

Yeah id let this one go

Posted by Butterflies

we had an argument over him lying to me about the seriousness of his feelings towards me and this other girl, she left him, he said he hated me, that I ruined everything then withdrew completely.

Reading between the lines ..... if you ruined his relationship with the other girl, which makes him hate you ... then I take it that you made problems in his life for him.

What do you mean by, "him lying to me about the seriousness of his feelings towards me"? ...... you are saying that you are telling him he is serious about you, in which he is denying?


This whole thread sounds to me as: you like him and wanted him to break up with the other woman, but, wouldn't, so you contacted this other woman and ruined his relationship with her, and then told him that he's serious about you, and that's why you did it, in which he is refusing to accept your analysis.

There are holes all over this, in where you've left reasons out, as to why you've done what you've done ...


People deserve what they have earned. People who believe they are deserving of things they've never earned are morons, and the reason why we continue to stay so primitive in our emotional evolution. You're not a fucking Princess.

If my suspicions are correct, in where you've stepped over your boundaries ... then what you've earned is to be fucked over, and to suffer for that consequence.

If that means that he told you he thought highly of you, and you believe that to be a lie because he was still with the other woman ... then it's still your bad for having zero integrity.


A person with integrity would step away from a man who has side pieces ... in where you think this is a good man, and you would wait with baited breath for him to notice you again.


No matter which way I try and work out that quote of yours ... you come out looking like the problem you are having.



who in the hell waits for months on end for a dude who ignores her?


what are you 12?

Woah! Ok, my fault for leaving out a ton of information because I didn't want to write a HUGE post but with comments like that I might as well. Also I haven't really
been waiting, I just stated its been months since that relationships and I still have feelings for him. I have dated in between but haven't found that spark. Anyway here's the explanation;

I met this guy because he worked with an ex, we started texting and texting turned to talking every single day over the phone for a month. He works out of town so he was out at work for that long. Through out our month of talking he told me he wasn't really interested in his girlfriend and he was going to break up with her etc. He would text me every single morning before I woke up all the way right to bed with phone calls in between that consisted of him telling me how he felt about me and he wanted to make this work, asking me to fly out to him and he wants to see me really bad, wishing I was there etc. I asked him about the other girl and he made it seem like he wasn't talking to her anymore also that we was in the progress of breaking up.Well he came home we went on several dates and had a blast, Everything was going great that was UNTILL he left back for work. We were still talking every day so I was under the impression things were good but two weeks after he left my ex calls me and we start chatting and I don't know how it came up but he told me one of his co workers was taking this girlfriend on a trip somewhere, I didn't pay any particular attention to it until he said his name. At that point I was confused and didn't know what was going on. Later that day I get some Facebook messages from who I understood to be his ex asking if I was seeing him. I kept my lips sealed and didn't reply until after I called him and he was very apologetic and said he just couldn't decide who he wanted to be with, I got upset and asked why he would lead me on etc. He said he had feelings for me and didn't want to let me go. So I told him I would call him back and he agreed. I started to talk to the girl who sent me there message and she explained to me that he told her he wanted to be with her and he cared about her that I was just some "crazy person" harassing him. I told her that he has been "seeing" me for almost two months and that he has been telling me how unhappy he is with her, that he wanted someone like me etc. I called him about an hour after the conversation I had with the this girl and he didn't seem angry but he was telling me that he's a bad person, he doesn't deserve anyone, he should just be alone and a while plethora of negative self depreciative comments. I tried to reassure him and remind him of the valuable qualities about him which just made him mad. So I stayed quiet while he ranted about what a terrible person he was and then he said he hated me so I told him "if that's how you feel then I can't change that m, but I could say something similar" we then said good bye and hung u

hey bitchez

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After that we didn't text or call and I dealt with him not being around. That was until I saw him again we locked eyes and the feelings came flooding in. I'm not one to get hung up on a guy especially after the drama he put me through but I wouldn't be interested if what I felt didn't feel genuine. We make eye contact and a brief smile when we pass by each other, the feelings are still there but I think both of us are too prideful to say anything.

So anyway there's the meat and potatoes of this story.

We're missing an important peice of information. How close is he with your ex?

Not very close. They chatted here and there.

Im pathetic for talking to a guy for a month and going on some dates after that? I didn't know talking and going for coffees and walks was considers being a side chick, I thought thought they sleep around with a guy knowing and not caring about his relationship status. Maybe I need to brush up on street slang.I have plenty of self esteem and it's not like me to get into a situation like this, but thank you for the assumption. Lots of cranky people on these forums !

Ps. they split up and are still split, I know his from several sources including the girl

Posted by Butterflies

Im pathetic for talking to a guy for a month and going on some dates after that?

Yes, you are.

Because it's not just talking to a guy, it's talking to a guy you are interested in dating who isn't available. You try to defend yourself, by minimizing the reality, and say just a guy you talked to,.


NO, that's not the situation. so you further make yourself look even dumber by trying to use half of the information as your defense.


Yes, you're pathetic .. along with:

a douchebag, for dating a guy you know has a girlfriend
a cheater, for dating a guy you know has a girlfriend
and a moron, for dating a guy you know has a girlfriend


If you expect to be taken as a respectful person with values .. then I suggest you act like it

Posted by Butterflies

it's not like me to get into a situation like this

You contradict yourself.

If you've done nothing wrong, according to you in your defense when you state that you see nothing wrong in having walks and coffee with a guy ... then you wouldn't have a reason to say that this is a situation you're in.


A "situation like this" that you got yourself into, is admitting that you realize you fucked up, and are fucked up for doing it.

You're a fool. Not only for a "situation like this" that you admit to being in ... also because you're so dense that you cannot grasp that your viewing audience can put two and two together.

Lol I'm sensing some insecurities and/or trauma. no need to be so bitter and hold so much anger. don't even know what what tree tunked means.

its dating.. Not marriage. There's a reason you date, to find someone compatible. There's a BIG difference between getting to know a person better via a coffee date and an affair with said person. The situation I'm speaking of is I don't get caught up on guys like this, I've never had a problem brushing a guy off my mind before. If I didn't feel somethig deeper than just an attraction stirring around I wouldn't have thought twice about the situation.

Anyways thank you for the read, I always find it interesting when people get offended and angry that they need to resort to name calling on the Internet. And even more interesting that there's someone your age with your demeanour !

Posted by Butterflies

..... I wouldn't have thought twice about the situation.

You have maintained this whole time that you don't think twice about chasing/dating a man who has a girlfriend.

According to you, you run around acting like this .. and only when you have feelings that you begin to consider your actions. But, even then, your only concern is yourself.


You couldn't give a rats ass about your participation in emotionally harming her ... you're a fucking cunt.

Lmao ? And you know she's hurt how? Because I can tell you she is not and she wasn't at all because they didn't date long.. But according to you she was extremely in love and they had A huge deep relationship going! i run around acting like what? did you even read what i wrote? Lol!! I said I don't Think twice about a boit any guy in general. Not this specific exact situation. Sheesh lady loosen up ‚

You are one of those horrible females out there who don't care about other women, and will move in on him without consideration of other females.

One day, your due will come. You will fall in mad love to the point that you feel you will break without this man, and he will toss you aside, believing you're not worth loving ... because that will be what you deserve.