scc17
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9 Years
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How do I win Back the trust and interest of a Capricorn man? (Im Cancer lady)
Firstly I need to know what age you are? Regardless he is a jerk though.He used you then tried to get you to feel bad and like you had done something wrong. Very manipulative. But seriously are you quite younger than him?
No, we're the same age. 27
Posted by BlondeAmbitionWe both have 27!
Firstly I need to know what age you are? Regardless he is a jerk though.He used you then tried to get you to feel bad and like you had done something wrong. Very manipulative. But seriously are you quite younger than him?
Lol! My bad I meant, *arrogant*
Posted by Koniucha
Wow, he sounds like a douche. He said you look chickeny walking in to the room? Pssshhh
Posted by KoniuchaPosted by scc17That is what I said
Lol! My bad I meant, *arrogant*
Posted by Koniucha
Wow, he sounds like a douche. He said you look chickeny walking in to the room? Pssshhhclick to expand
True is, when the first time we had sex, i was drunk as f** and I took a picture of both of us sleeping in bed and send it to our mutual friends.... When i recovered from the hangover and saw what I did, i was ashamed beyond words, i still am, i didn't remember any of it! And I know, I wouldnt have done that if I wasn't drunk. Thats why I feel guilty. I think i probably react the same way he did... :/
Posted by KoniuchaIm sorry, im still ashamed of what I did!Posted by scc17Well that changes things a bit.Posted by KoniuchaPosted by scc17That is what I said
Lol! My bad I meant, *arrogant*
Posted by Koniucha
Wow, he sounds like a douche. He said you look chickeny walking in to the room? Pssshhh
True is, when the first time we had sex, i was drunk as f** and I took a picture of both of us sleeping in bed and send it to our mutual friends.... When i recovered from the hangover and saw what I did, i was ashamed beyond words, i still am, i didn't remember any of it! And I know, I wouldnt have done that if I wasn't drunk. Thats why I feel guilty. I think i probably react the same way he did... :/
This is why it's hard to give advice because we never get the whole story.click to expand
He thinks you are immature. You tell him to keep your relationship between you two, but you're the one who announced it to people.
He also probably thinks you're arrogant and lack class. You probably think you're better than you actually are. That is a major turn off.
Caps are really good at weeding out the ones who pretend to have it from those that actually have the quality. Also, we can't stand hypocrites.
He also probably thinks you're arrogant and lack class. You probably think you're better than you actually are. That is a major turn off.
Caps are really good at weeding out the ones who pretend to have it from those that actually have the quality. Also, we can't stand hypocrites.
Posted by scc17First, you jumped into sex too soon with a cap man.
Two months I was dating a cap guy, we jumped right to sex. Since he's my jiu jitsu teacher, i asked him to not tell anyone about it, so our student relationship wouldn't get involved. But I got so confused and desperate that I told two of our friends in common (seeking for any type of advice), when he found out i started talking about us, he called me and told me he could trust in me anymore, that I broke our vow and that it was over, but that he expected that I would treat him normally, the way we used to treat each other before we got intimate. I told him it was all a Mistake, that I couldn't treat him normally, not after what happened. His response "Seriously? WOW That says a lot about you". We tried to end the conversation in a friendly way, but we just couldn't.
Second, you put his job in jeopardy by blabbing about something that shouldn't be front page news. Don't ever mess with a capricorn's livelihood.
Third, YOU were the one who wanted to keep it secret. He agreed. They YOU went back on your word and told people about it. So you have a double standard? You don't mean what you say? You made a promise and broke your word, then you're shocked that he doesn't trust you?
Fourth, he's right. It's not his fault how you felt. You're responsible for your own actions and your own feelings. And he's absolutely right about not trusting people you don't know.
So, that all said. It will be very, very difficult to regain his trust. He will have to observe you and see if you took heed to anything he said. Gaining trust if the first place takes time, break that and it will be a very, very long time before a capricorn trusts you again. There will ALWAYS be that lingering thought that you aren't trustworthy and a capricorn will be very cautious around you and very leery of you.
Best of luck. You're going to have to prove that you're trustworthy and you're going to have to be very, very patient while he slowly changes his mind. I'm not sure if a Cancer can be that patient in a romantic situation, but if you really want it to work, you'll have to be. It's not over yet, just show him through actions that you're trustworthy. Caps really don't test, but we might if we're trying to re-establish trust again.
Posted by BlondeAmbitionI disagree by the reasons I listed above. I don't think he's a jerk at all.
Firstly I need to know what age you are? Regardless he is a jerk though.He used you then tried to get you to feel bad and like you had done something wrong. Very manipulative. But seriously are you quite younger than him?
Posted by KoniuchaProbably experience talking and he was right - trust shouldn't come easy.
I think when he was telling you to not trust people you haven't known long, he was referring to himself.
Posted by scc17Oh. Hell. To. the. No!! that was a douchebag thing for you to do. How would you have felt if he did that to you - take a picture and send it to all HIS friends? I can guarantee you wouldn't like that either.Posted by KoniuchaPosted by scc17That is what I said
Lol! My bad I meant, *arrogant*
Posted by Koniucha
Wow, he sounds like a douche. He said you look chickeny walking in to the room? Pssshhh
True is, when the first time we had sex, i was drunk as f** and I took a picture of both of us sleeping in bed and send it to our mutual friends.... When i recovered from the hangover and saw what I did, i was ashamed beyond words, i still am, i didn't remember any of it! And I know, I wouldnt have done that if I wasn't drunk. Thats why I feel guilty. I think i probably react the same way he did... :/click to expand
I would have been done at that moment.
Posted by SensitiveBluesWoah! What a bitch!
you sound like a real dumb insecure idiotic person
i don't get why people are calling the guy a douche
you're the douche
immature too
Posted by truecapI know! 😢Posted by scc17Oh. Hell. To. the. No!! that was a douchebag thing for you to do. How would you have felt if he did that to you - take a picture and send it to all HIS friends? I can guarantee you wouldn't like that either.Posted by KoniuchaPosted by scc17That is what I said
Lol! My bad I meant, *arrogant*
Posted by Koniucha
Wow, he sounds like a douche. He said you look chickeny walking in to the room? Pssshhh
True is, when the first time we had sex, i was drunk as f** and I took a picture of both of us sleeping in bed and send it to our mutual friends.... When i recovered from the hangover and saw what I did, i was ashamed beyond words, i still am, i didn't remember any of it! And I know, I wouldnt have done that if I wasn't drunk. Thats why I feel guilty. I think i probably react the same way he did... :/
I would have been done at that moment.click to expand
Posted by GreenteaThis ^^ too.
He thinks you are immature. You tell him to keep your relationship between you two, but you're the one who announced it to people.
He also probably thinks you're arrogant and lack class. You probably think you're better than you actually are. That is a major turn off.
Caps are really good at weeding out the ones who pretend to have it from those that actually have the quality. Also, we can't stand hypocrites.
Posted by scc17If you have to brag, you have to brag.....just be willing to deal with the consequences.Posted by truecapI know! 😢Posted by scc17Oh. Hell. To. the. No!! that was a douchebag thing for you to do. How would you have felt if he did that to you - take a picture and send it to all HIS friends? I can guarantee you wouldn't like that either.Posted by KoniuchaPosted by scc17That is what I said
Lol! My bad I meant, *arrogant*
Posted by Koniucha
Wow, he sounds like a douche. He said you look chickeny walking in to the room? Pssshhh
True is, when the first time we had sex, i was drunk as f** and I took a picture of both of us sleeping in bed and send it to our mutual friends.... When i recovered from the hangover and saw what I did, i was ashamed beyond words, i still am, i didn't remember any of it! And I know, I wouldnt have done that if I wasn't drunk. Thats why I feel guilty. I think i probably react the same way he did... :/
I would have been done at that moment.click to expand
Chalk it up to immaturity and a life lesson to never, ever, ever do that again. I don't care how drunk you get, never do that again - to ANYONE.
Who—
Youre the one being mean and disrespectful
Why shouldn't I block YOU?
Why shouldn't I block YOU?
Posted by scc17
True is, when the first time we had sex, i was drunk as f** and I took a picture of both of us sleeping in bed and send it to our mutual friends.... When i recovered from the hangover and saw what I did, i was ashamed beyond words, i still am, i didn't remember any of it! And I know, I wouldnt have done that if I wasn't drunk.
bullshit ... you knew exactly what you were doing.
So your way of correcting people is by insulting them? Talk about being a teenager....
Posted by SuperMercurialYes, this is why Caps shit on Virgos.
You should make up with him and then kiss another guy in the class to hurt him again. And then make up with him again, and do something else awful. Never do the same awful thing twice.
I seriously think this is what goes through their heads when they play games.
Reposting b4 you delete post. 😛
Posted by SensitiveBluesCompletely agree with Blues! What the hell!!Posted by SuperMercurialyou say the same sheet on every post
You should make up with him and then kiss another guy in the class to hurt him again. And then make up with him again, and do something else awful. Never do the same awful thing twice.
sleep with your ex's friend, etc etc etc
very bad advice.
what's wrong with you?click to expand
Posted by SuperMercurialUh huh, you know better than not to... 😛Posted by GreenteaNo, virgos are always too nice to capricorns. Thats why we lose with you 😄Posted by SuperMercurialYes, this is why Caps shit on Virgos.
You should make up with him and then kiss another guy in the class to hurt him again. And then make up with him again, and do something else awful. Never do the same awful thing twice.
I seriously think this is what goes through their heads when they play games.
Reposting b4 you delete post. 😛click to expand
I agree with the rest of the posters...you broke his trust in an embarrassing manner. He won't look at you the same...especially since it was with friends of his.
You should honestly cut him off because I think the only reason he is still around is because he feels sorry for you...hence his pep talk.
And that will only probably lead to you thinking you can get things back to the way they were which is not going to happen.
Look at it as a lesson learned. Some people...men and women are very private about their personal relationships. People who run to social media quickly to share intimate moments are not everyone's cup of tea.
That's why it didn't matter if you were drunk or not. If you're a private person it's just in you under the influence or sober. That's why he'll probably never deal with you in that way again.
You should honestly cut him off because I think the only reason he is still around is because he feels sorry for you...hence his pep talk.
And that will only probably lead to you thinking you can get things back to the way they were which is not going to happen.
Look at it as a lesson learned. Some people...men and women are very private about their personal relationships. People who run to social media quickly to share intimate moments are not everyone's cup of tea.
That's why it didn't matter if you were drunk or not. If you're a private person it's just in you under the influence or sober. That's why he'll probably never deal with you in that way again.
The user who posted this message has hidden it.Stop hiding, I read part of that lil miss "caps don't threaten me" 😛
Scc17
My advice would be for you to leave town and have no further with Cap males or any male until you mature. You are giving Lunar women a bad rep.
My advice would be for you to leave town and have no further with Cap males or any male until you mature. You are giving Lunar women a bad rep.
Hm what stays in Vegas stays in Vegas, in this case what stays in your hometown/class stays in class.
He has told you exactly what to do...take his word for it. Yes you can get close to him again but it will take time. Caps dont talk much but when they do you can usually take their word they are extremely sensitive individuals and have very high expectations. You have to be very cautious of your actions with them.
Wow! See this is why drunken sex is not allowed in my world, Yes I have done it before, but that was a sad move. I have sympathy though, you are able to handle this!
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In class we treated each other very distant, said "hi" to each other once in a while, and in my last tournament he didn't even check up on me when i got injured in a fight.
So Three weeks ago, even though we see each other almost every day, I pulled him aside so we could talk about his behavior as my coach and how he was mixing things up. His body language and all we has saying to me sounded so arrogant. He told me it wasn't his fault how i felt, That he was still hurt and mad with me because what happened between us was something serious and i shouldn't told anyone about it. I apologized for what I dd, for talking to so many people and he told me didn't believe in second chances, but , that he was going to break his rule with me, since he also had fuc** up before with other people and he never got a second chance.
He told me was going to give me a second chance to regain his friendship, but that it would be a slow process. He Told me:
"Be more humble, you look so cocky when you enter to our class! Second, do not trust people you haven't known for a very long time, some people can use what you say against you, just to see you fall, sooo be more cautious."
He mentioned again the fact that building our friendship will be a slow process.
I started to do what he told me, at least the "chickeny" part and the not talking about my things with anyone.
I've seen him looking at me several times, dunno if thats good or bad.
But they way hes behaving Its kinda awkward, some days he is friendly and other days he's very distant.
Yesterday for example, after my jiu jitsu class and while I was waiting outside of the gym for a friend to pick me up, he stayed in his car waiting for my friend to arrive so I wouldn't be alone.
Like he was hiding or keeping distance...
I don't know what to think anymore....Why give me a second chance and act like that?
Any advice?