I NEED HELP! in a virgo relationship

i am extremely! honored to have the opportunity to post here! i have been reading many blogs and am so impressed with all the creative and caring people that this site has! well i will start my story, and i hope many of u can help, because i am stuck.
i meet my virgo guy in the eye doctor. when he came in i have no idea but our eyes just lock! he told me that he has seen me somewhere and i told him i work in a bank as a teller. i work there mon to fri and i never see him. after a month pass i see one of his co-workers there and i tell her that if he can say hi to the doctor for me.the following week he comes in the branch on a wednesday with his co-worker and of course he just stares at me but doesnt say anything. AFTER THAT WEDNESDAY, he has been comming in our bank every wednesday! months pass, and all we do is have small convos and thats it! i get soo nervous around him. a day after christmas, he was there of course, and i knew it was the time to tell him something! but never had the courage to do it!!!! SO WHEN HE LEFT, I COULDNT TAKE IT ANYMORE! AND got his phone number and called him with the branch phone,and i just told him that i wanted to wish him a merry christmas! he was puzzled to say the least and told me why, was i leaving the branch! so i told him no i just wanted to say merry christmas so i said bye! THAT WAS THE MOST EMBARRASSING THING I HAVE EVER DONE IN MY LIFE!

two hours later he calls the branch and i pick up the phone, he asks me to dinner and if we could hang out sometime. i gave him my number and he didnt call for days, so one day i just text him hi! thats when it all started. We started texting each other, he asks soooo mannnnyyy questions about me...ITS LIKE HE WANTS TO KNOW EVERY BIT OF INFORMATION HE CAN GET OUT OF ME! then we went out on a date, he was soo shy that i loved it!!! our date went soo great! he kissed me!!! after the date he told me that he loved hanging out wit me and hopes we can do it again. he start talking to each other, but not that much as before.....its like hes distance! but sometimes he tells me all these sweet things like how he misses me, how he purposly went to the bank just to see me then again 2 DAYS OF NOT CALLING ME...3 DAYS..and he calls and tells me sweet things. ITS SO CONFUSING! ITS BEEN 2 WEEKS AND HE STILL HASNT ASKED ME ON A SEC DATE. YET YESTERDAY HE TELLS ME HOW HE WISHES I WAS THERE WIT HIM SO HE CAN GIVE ME KISSES AROUND MY NECK AND LIPS! I MEAN ... AM SO CONFUSED I NEED HELP! AND

i forgot the key note, last week he told me that he had a relationship of 11 years!! that he recently broke because there was no love in it! hes 32 years old. he said that he dated this other girl but she broke his heart, so he wants to take things slow because he doesnt want to get heartbroken. he told me that hes telling me this because he would love to get to know me more, but wants to take things slow. but sometimes i think that he like me anymore! hes soo distance, he hardly calls me...i have to text him hi! its like am the one wanting to talk to him, and he just waits till i call!

is that right! am i doing things wrong...should i just let him be and wait till he calls me this time.. am soo confused! its like hes playing games wit me!

Ugh yeah same situation here basically. The waiting for THEM to make a move again.....cant tell you waht to do except keep really really busy until he DOES make that move. Ive gotten to the stage where I see Ive been doing most of the work over the past 2 weeks and he's just sat back and twiddled his thumbs so nup, notnemore, his turn!

Go back to your life, he'll no doubt be back when HE is ready...all you need to do is smile and act like no time has passed.

hehehe Im doing that today by having lunch with mine....and I'll kind of be laying my cards on the table (in the nicest way I can). I did the wait game with a Libra for a year....for what? for him to flit off with somebody else after I asked him for something more serious (a year damnit)...he said "Im not ready for a relationship" (after a year).....soooooooooo this time:

Im going to look after myself, after my feelings and believe that having known this guy for 5 years, being good friends for the past 6 odd months, getting involved and being intimate over the last 2 months is enough time for him to know if he has some feelings and if that is the case why the hell does he do the distance thing. THAT is what Im finding out today 🙂

Sure he still finds it difficult after his wife passed almost 3 years ago but again, that is quite some time and if he's dating? it means he has a desire to be with a woman/women and wants to try again. If he's just pulling my strings? I'll find out today = just have to find the right words and use very little emotion - argggghhhhh!!!!

Chatz, good luck with today's "adventure" with the V-dude. 🙂

Girl, they are like that. Trust me, I've dealt with like 5. Same story. Don't chase him. Don't even do that to yourself. If you start out that way, it'll become a pattern, and you'll be short-changing yourself. You deserve to feel desired. In the case of men, always substitute actions for words. Dig me? That's the code. Just trust me, I study them for a living, lol.


The one I'm dealing with now seems pretty consistent AT THE MOMENT. We'll see...


Listen to what they say, but most importantly, watch what they do. 😉

well its been two weeks, and this guy still hasnt asked me out on a second date....yet he textes me that he misses me, how he wishes he was there with me kissing me and making me feel better. hes an extremely shy guy..but come one! i give him hints

and guess what ...he still comes to the branch to deposit his check..once a week. i mean he can go to any bank he wishes!!! but he comes to mines to see me.

eveyone is right! thanks for ur advise. am just gonna let him go and see where it takes me...no more calling him or texting him. i dont know if hes playing games with me or hes just not that into me! and thats why i came to this site to see what others say about it. i hope more people can give me helpful tips...

He told you he wanted to take this slow.

Slow doesn't mean fast.



Women would be much better off if they realized one simple thing ... men's emotions aren't bombarded with feelings on a constant basis like a woman's.

Woman meets man ... 24/7, this man and how she feels about him overshadows everything .. all she can do is feel this man .. falls alseep, wakes up, takes meals, drives down road === being clouded over with these intense feelings about this man.

Man meets woman ... thinks about her when with her, goes out with boys, scratches nuts, burps, looks at cute butt on waitress .. oh yeah, I have a girl, I should call .... with his woman on phone now and is reminded why he cares so much about her and tells her ... gets off phone and doesn't even remember that he's feeling her because football game in on.


When a woman feels her man, she has this unrealistic expectation that the man is as overwhelmed with feelings, as if he is a female like her .. but, he's male.

Women need to fully grasp that a man is male.


gyspy .. 2 days of not talking to him isn't long. He said he wants to take this slow .. slow does not mean 24/7.

Slow means .... occasionally, when time in life allows.

^ what she said.

wow i am soo honored to have u P-Angel answer my call for help! i have seen many messages and u have a way to give advise! thank you first off...and yes i should take it slow as he said. but sometimes i feel like he is dating someone or has another girl in his life. i was thinking about it..and i actually took the initiate to call him to have lunch with me on our break..and of course he came and we did. we kissed and he held my hand. but he only wants to see me in the day light (example. go to the branch) yet he never wants to see me in the night time. its like hes hiding his night life away from me. should i tell him if there is someone else involved... or if hes seeing someone.

or should i just let it go...and be patient and find out sooner or later.

thank you for all the great responds! it has helped me tremendously

Okay, whoa, please do not feed her ego...

brianafay

omg

well i guess i been out for a while! i took alot of peoples GREAT ADVISE! and just be very patient n let him just go for it! n u know what IT WORKED@ one month we were like friends, and he hardly call, hardly text. but i would always leave at least one text message so he can have me on his mind just for a bit. like a good morning, or have a great day, or good night!


now my virgo is ALL OVER ME! he wants to see me constantly, he calls me about everything, he texts me whenever he goes out with his friends. the relationship has gotten soo much stronger...n guess why..BECAUSE I WAS PATIENT!!!

it is true patience is a virtue and the reward was a man as great as him. we are extremely happy now. we are dating, nothing as girlfriend n boyfriend, but its only been 3 months, so i am not hurrying anything. we just are happy n love each others company! I WILL KEEP U GUYS UPDATED! N THANK U FOR ALL THE GREAT ADVICE!

now my advise to everyone whos into a virgo
BE PATIENT!! i know sometimes hes cold n hot, n he sometimes doesnt even call, but then when he does u think hes soo into u, n then hes cold again. DONT WORRY SOME ARE LIKE THAT! i dont know why they do it...because i dont have their brain, but just be patient but dont ignore them too.. cause they want u to keep on trying. i dont know if i can explain myself more than that..but thats comming from my experience. i wish u ALL GOOD LUCK N THANK YOU

Congrats!!

So much for "he's just not that into you" advice. 😛

gypsyqueen,

Glad to hear it worked out!

Patience is key, but if you think a VirGuy may be interested in you, give him a little bit of encouragement, and see how he responds. Our actions are louder than words - very straightforward most of the time.

well guess i have bad news...

we were doing amazing, he would call me more than i would to him... text me constantly! even played his guitar at night so i could sleep! he told me he cared about me. last friday was the last time i heard from him, he was over his friends house at the beach and i told him to be safe and that i miss him! he said he missed me too...and that was the end of it.


i havent recived any calls from him, whenever i call him he doesnt respond, and he tells me through text that hes busy right now and hes gonna call back...but he never does. yesterday was thursday and it was the day we were suppose to spend the whole day together since i have my day off... i texted him if he was still on for the day, even though we didnt talk to eachother those other days.

and he said that he was again at his friends house at the beach! so i told him straight up, whats wrong with him...why havent i heard ur voice, i are u not the same anymore and this is what he said...


" i know am sorry, i have no excuse! i guess i needed to be alone. i know its not nice to u"

and i told him that i get it, sorry for bothering him see ya. WHATS WRONG WITH HIM! i did nothing wrong, we were perfect!!!!! n even played the guitar and sang me " am here without u" from three doors down! what did i do! what should i do! am soo sad! 😢