I need help with this Virgo guy

met this guy a month ago I was not into him at first i liked his friend. But as the party was going on, once I was observing him I started to like him. And him the same. You can clearly see it and feel it with Virgos! (through their body language, especially in a room with people) He mentions me and him being married , when friends and I were discussing weddings .

So, I got his number and messaged him saying thank you for a nice evening etc . His messages were short but he replied.
Then nothing , so I needed to make a excuse to meet so I made one , we both knew that it was to meet up and not for "some advice" on an issue we were discussing at the party.

Our first night I met his friends who liked me and was giving him compliments about me etc
We have similar upbringings. we shared stories about our lives and opened up about deep subjects
He said "You need a big strong man to take you away" I was not happy at home .

Then After meeting him on a few dates ,I treetrunked it up by going to his house coked up - even though he takes it , but what I relized was - not to that extreme! I have had an addiction for a while and I am in recovery .
When Id meet him we used to take it together. (only twice) So I used to message him nearly night, wanting to meet after my night had finished.

He told me "You are clingy thats why I have not been answering." The two times I apologised he always replied straight away
"Get well soon."

Then I sent another message a week later "I am still in recovery." Basically saying, give me a chance to meet up -(during the day)
and see the real me off coke and booze. He replied straight away saying "Yes for sure" "stay safe"
My friend said "stay safe" could mean GOODBYE .....

But last time when I left his place he did say "Be safe, don't take any more drugs or alcohol."

I know men don't like to read long messages so I sent him some photos of my Family house etc .
To show I am having a normal life etc


I think... because I shared stories about my life and being on coke it had been ruined too soon.


He only replied to one photo of some antique cups I asked cute lol and he replied : "Nice"

After the cup photo he didn't reply to any of my family house pics (WhatsApp)

so I reminded him that I would be coming to London and asked if he wanted to meet for a coffee this week, if not then some other time.

He read it but not one answer .

I think him and I bonded well , we have similar backgrounds and we opened up to each other a lot.

Is he saying without words - I don't want anything more to do with u ?

(My last message I sent )
Hi , I don't know if ur working . Sorry if I disturbed u , I just wanted to apologise to u verbally .
I do like u , and I am just trying to make things right.
if u don't reply, then i guess u don't want to be in contact with me .

His reply : it's all good , don't worry

My mum said leave it for a month then message again to see if he will

How many times are you going to post this, have you put this on the virgo forum yet?

Thank you , Yes I have been advised to do that too .
Last message I sent was : Hi how are you doing ? I will be in London for a bit would you like to catch up
sometime this week?

and he replied : Sorry I am pretty busy at work for the moment.

Its been 3 days I have not sent anything

I will wait a month

Let it go my friend. He knows you are interested. he is not. He told you - you are too clingy. Stay in recovery. Find someone who suits you better wants the same amount of contact as you do.

Plus, while you are in recovery you are suppose to focus on you not other relationships. 😉

Thank you Virgo Lady ! I shall take your advice , my childhood first love was a virgo and he died sadly from a drug overdose 10 years ago. We went through our dramas and distance , but when we would see each other that connection would be there right up until he died . Regarding "fake" he might want to see if I am true to what I say. Two weeks after that drama is certainly not enough. We are not dating and he isn't my boyfriend, at least he has left it open , so if its meant to be that I will see him again then it will happen- Time will tell I suppose.

Little Sparrow, thanks for this I shall take this advice after a month lol I am really not looking for anyone and I am not expecting anyone. I am continuing my recovery at least I can say my drama with him made me change my life and quit the coke .