Libra Man Crush

Hey guys! Soooo I’ve been taking workout group classes at this gym. About a month ago this guy started coming to classes. We have sports in common as he used to play basketball in college and I played soccer. The trainer is really interactive so he makes it comfortable for everyone to have inclusive conversations. Well about 2 weeks ago this guy added me on instagram from the gyms page and will like a few of my instaposts. During the week when I would be talking with my trainer about what was going on in my life, this guy would walk over and kind of insert himself in the conversation where it ended up being just us communicating. This happened for a few days and then classes after that I noticed he started watching me and asking if I wanted to do some of the exercises with him. Last Thursday he asked if I was coming to class on Friday as I never go but ended up telling him I would. During Friday’s class I noticed he started casually helping me put my equipment away when I was done but still hasn’t like went into full blown conversation without either our trainer initiating it or me initiating it. Then Friday after class I asked him if he was coming to class on Saturday and he said he may have his boys’ tournament to watch(he’s a coach, no kids of his own yet) and that he’d message me and let me know. So Friday night he messaged me and said he wouldn’t be able to make it Saturday morning and I let him know I was bummed and that I was looking forward to seeing him but that I’d see him on Monday maybe. He confirmed he would be coming today and said “That doesn’t have to be the only time though lol” so I asked what he had in mind and he said anything and mentioned he had plans on Sunday. So I told him to let me know when his schedule freed up. This morning we went and he was sweet. He didn’t do much but he seems to be trying to do more each time I see him? Or I could just be reading into it wrong haha. We got there and he made sure to stand next to me during warmup and we greeted each other. I had told him I had a concert I went to over the weekend so he asked how it was. Every time we have to get equipment he’ll make sure to get one for me or put away my stuff. During one of the exercises I ended up doing 3 rounds with the same weight and he called me out for not increasing it LOL. It wasn’t like an aggressive call out but it definitely showed he’d been watching me. When we were done he waited for me to catch up to him and we walked out together. He’s 34 so I really can’t tell if he’s being nice or he’s interested and just trying to take it slow. The small things he’s been doing is way more than a few weeks ago and seems to slowly increase everytime we see each other but again he may just be being nice since I feel like I’m pretty much always the one initiating conversation. I think what’s getting me is I’m always the one to have to make the decision quick with guys and obviously that hasn’t worked out HA, so I’m trying to be okay with this pace but it’s slow for me😭 I know it’s early but what are y’all’s thoughts? Do Libra’s typically go at a smaller pace? Is doing subtle things for someone how they express their interest or is he just being nice lmao. I’m a Scorpio so I’ve already vetted his whole entire life and I’m ready to get married, kiddinggggg but not🤣

What do you have against paragraphs? Who hurt you?

I think I've reached my reading limit for the day..

Posted by IceStorm
Have you previously only had toxic relationships that moved too fast and crashed and burned? Lol because I’m not sure why you’re questioning this one, otherwise.

He is moving at a slow and respectful pace because you guys are building a solid foundation on something other than lust. You’re building a foundation on common interests. THIS is actually what healthy pursuit looks like. Lol it might look slow or boring to some, but it’s better than those impulsive, fast and furious situationships that end as quickly as they start.

Men do not typically pursue women for friendship without an ulterior motive (such as taking interest in her) unless he is gay of course. If you’re not picking up on any gay vibes, my guess would be the guy is just trying to court you properly.

Lmao that’s a fair ask because yes, yes I have been in toxic relationships. Thank God for growth right? Lol thanks for your response!

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I think I've reached my reading limit for the day..

This is why dxp is the way that it is now.

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I think it's more about consideration.. but she sounds excited so it all just came out.

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Have you previously only had toxic relationships that moved too fast and crashed and burned? Lol because I’m not sure why you’re questioning this one, otherwise.
He is moving at a slow and respectful pace because you guys are building a solid foundation on something other than lust. You’re building a foundation on common interests. THIS is actually what healthy pursuit looks like. Lol it might look slow or boring to some, but it’s better than those impulsive, fast and furious situationships that end as quickly as they start.
Men do not typically pursue women for friendship without an ulterior motive (such as taking interest in her) unless he is gay of course. If you’re not picking up on any gay vibes, my guess would be the guy is just trying to court you properly.

Lmao that’s a fair ask because yes, yes I have been in toxic relationships. Thank God for growth right? Lol thanks for your response!
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I can relate and I known as a Scorpio myself, we can be impatient at times.. especially when we set our sights on what we want. Just try to ride the wave and trust the process, let him lead.. it sounds like you are in good hands with a man that means well and isn’t just trying to get the panties

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Reallllly impatient but great insight. Appreciate your perspective, I’ll let it flow, as hard as that is😂

@icestorm Hahahahsay that again! Thought I’d lighten the mood a bit with my huge obsessive crush lmao

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I think I've reached my reading limit for the day..

This is why dxp is the way that it is now.

Hitting enter twice is not the end of the world.

Thou shalt not forget about the long ass novel of a thread that you posted about your Scorpio friend about 6 months ago.. so don’t be hypocritical. Lol

If you’ve got nothing to offer this thread, just say that. 😊

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I broke into paragraphs.. so, I don't get your point.

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I think I've reached my reading limit for the day..

This is why dxp is the way that it is now.

Hitting enter twice is not the end of the world.

Thou shalt not forget about the long ass novel of a thread that you posted about your Scorpio friend about 6 months ago.. so don’t be hypocritical. Lol





If you’ve got nothing to offer this thread, just say that. 😊

I broke into paragraphs.. so, I don't get your point.

It really does not make that much of a damn difference. 🙄 Lmao y’all are just trolling her because that’s what people do when they get comfy and arrogant on dxp.

I read her post just fine. Do you need to point to the words with your finger as you read them, too?

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Yes.. I have to use my finger. You know i'm a little slow 😁

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I think I've reached my reading limit for the day..

This is why dxp is the way that it is now.

Hitting enter twice is not the end of the world.

Thou shalt not forget about the long ass novel of a thread that you posted about your Scorpio friend about 6 months ago.. so don’t be hypocritical. Lol

If you’ve got nothing to offer this thread, just say that. 😊
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I broke into paragraphs.. so, I don't get your point.

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Are you okay? I’ve been trying to ignore your bitterness but it’s oozing out. If my post bothers you so much, beat it. Weirdo.

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@icestorm Hahahahsay that again! Thought I’d lighten the mood a bit with my huge obsessive crush lmao

I’ve never dated a libra myself but I’ve heard that they’re very romantic. Venus enters libra in a couple days too… it’s a time for falling in love 🥰

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I’ve heard that too! Ahhh my excitement about this man is ridiculous 😂

Posted by dragonh0rsecvck
I think Libras normally require patience. I smell Scorpio placements on yours... definitely Mercury. does he live alone? why does he coach minors, does he have younger brothers or was he a star in the sport and just transitioned from that to coach soon after high school? if he wants to have kids, is he dating intentionally? the detail about 34 with no kids yet but coaches kids sounds sus but its probably nothing

Yeah he lives alone, very successful. He’s very into his career from what I know but not supposed to know yet😂 he works in IT but coaches teenage club basketball on the side. Moved here from out of state a few years ago for work but definitely has a passion for basketball which is why he’s probably coaching. He grew up playing and was very talented in college.

Nothing really concerns me on that end, I get green flags from him honestly it’s just more so the slower pace that I’m picking up from him. He’s doing subtle sweet things that he wasn’t doing just 2 weeks ago but also it’s small enough to keep me wondering. Obviously with us like finally carrying conversations only 2 weeks ago is a bit wild to expect more but also used to the toxic love bombing so just trying to see if it’s natural for a healthy Libra to show their interest at a little slower pace😩

Welp, we’re def gym buddies😂 The man hasn’t asked for my number 1 time but added me on instagram so of course he’s commented on EVERY SINGLE POST on my story. Very flirtatious but obviously not asking me out or for my number for that matter. We’re still consistently going to the gym, more playful, more conversation. I’ve stepped back a bit in that I was initially initiating all the conversations with him at the gym because he was very quiet, highly introverted but over the month he’s opened up quite a bit.

A few things I’m trying to take into consideration -

1. The gym we go to is a class that we really enjoy so I’ve thought about maybe he just doesn’t want it to not workout and then one of us is either force to not go due to awkwardness etc

2. Maybe he’s waiting until the holidays are over

3. Maybe he’s just not that into you😂

I genuinely don’t have any doubts that he likes me, just his interactions with me and things he says but also aren’t Libra’s natural flirts lmao? My Scorp sun, Picses Moon, Cancer Rising mind is literally struggling with not having control😂 I’m leaning towards the gym bud and bummed about it💀

Oh come on. Ofc he's interested. Why else would he make all that effort.

Posted by Timone
Oh come on. Ofc he's interested. Why else would he make all that effort.

I’d like to think so but at this point why not ask for my number or ask me out by now, I mean it’s been a month already😂

Posted by 8675309
I think it’s best us water signs stay far away from air signs. Unless there is a significant amount of air in your chart. That’s just my opinion though. However, if you’re not a super emotional water sign like me then you’re probably ok. I get emotional if the wind blows. 🤣

You’re probably right hahaha. I’m definitely the same in that my emotional state is always on 10🤣

Posted by dontgiveup
He is definitely interested. Libras take a little time to make their move.

He is most likely in his head wondering your intentions as well, Libras over think.

He is taking his time to tally up your intentions as well...

He is making moves. Going out of his way to do things with you and liking and commenting on your posts.

Scopios are wired differently they have a target and have to have it. Libras play the strategy game...

They may take longer but they have a goal in mind. He needs reassurance that your interested too

That makes sense. My friend said she thinks I come off as one of the bros to him with my responses but I just don’t know how to flirt without overdoing it. There’s just no in between, I’m either overly obsessed or not interested and I’m trying not to scare him off too early lmao. I guess I have to find some patience with this Libra😭

I’ve had my share of Libra man and they have all acted very quickly with setting up a date of whatever. I didn’t have to do anything but smile and giggle a lot.

Keep smiling, gigging and being super feminine.

I have a strong feeling you have a strong presence and he is on the shy side.

If you wish to date him flirt a little to show your interest. Libra sun...that isn't much to go off of. Have any more placements?

ask him about his dating history and preferences as far as a ideas of dates go. You just have to get him talking about himself and add your own ideas as well.

Libra likes to play with others. Talk to him and find ways you guys can play together so to speak.

Try not to fling your energy right at him. rather hold it in your body like it's a container without suppressing it.

Posted by Lostthoughts
I have a strong feeling you have a strong presence and he is on the shy side.

If you wish to date him flirt a little to show your interest. Libra sun...that isn't much to go off of. Have any more placements?

ask him about his dating history and preferences as far as a ideas of dates go. You just have to get him talking about himself and add your own ideas as well.

Libra likes to play with others. Talk to him and find ways you guys can play together so to speak.

Try not to fling your energy right at him. rather hold it in your body like it's a container without suppressing it.

He is SO shy, like I’ve never encountered a man this shy before truthfully and he’s very sweet and soft spoken. Still says yes ma’am and no ma’am to some of the olderish ladies when they speak to him, which is my favorite because wow manners lmao. I can tell he’s trying to be a little more outgoing and playful like when we’re lifting he’ll come over and increase my weight and call me out on lifting too light lmao. But you’re also right in that I’ve been going for almost a year now and the gym is very family oriented so I’m pretty comfortable having conversations with everyone.

He’s only told me his birthday and the city he was born in but I felt like asking the time of his birth to calculate other placements may be a bit too much right now😂

So with that, a few weeks ago when he first reached out on IG he mentioned he wouldn’t be coming to one of the workouts because he had to coach so I told him, I was looking forward to seeing him and that I’d see him the next day then. He said “that doesn’t have to be the only time we see each other” and I asked what did he have in mind and his response was “Lol it doesn’t matter. Anything” So I stopped asking those questions lmao.

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I have a strong feeling you have a strong presence and he is on the shy side.

If you wish to date him flirt a little to show your interest. Libra sun...that isn't much to go off of. Have any more placements?

ask him about his dating history and preferences as far as a ideas of dates go. You just have to get him talking about himself and add your own ideas as well.

Libra likes to play with others. Talk to him and find ways you guys can play together so to speak.

Try not to fling your energy right at him. rather hold it in your body like it's a container without suppressing it.

He is SO shy, like I’ve never encountered a man this shy before truthfully and he’s very sweet and soft spoken. Still says yes ma’am and no ma’am to some of the olderish ladies when they speak to him, which is my favorite because wow manners lmao. I can tell he’s trying to be a little more outgoing and playful like when we’re lifting he’ll come over and increase my weight and call me out on lifting too light lmao. But you’re also right in that I’ve been going for almost a year now and the gym is very family oriented so I’m pretty comfortable having conversations with everyone.

He’s only told me his birthday and the city he was born in but I felt like asking the time of his birth to calculate other placements may be a bit too much right now😂

So with that, a few weeks ago when he first reached out on IG he mentioned he wouldn’t be coming to one of the workouts because he had to coach so I told him, I was looking forward to seeing him and that I’d see him the next day then. He said “that doesn’t have to be the only time we see each other” and I asked what did he have in mind and his response was “Lol it doesn’t matter. Anything” So I stopped asking those questions lmao.

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“Lol it doesn’t matter. Anything”

That was a open invention and for you to take the next step. He figuratively held out his hand there and asked if you wanted to dance. Lmao as a woman, I doubt you didn't realize that. You yourself have said you KNOW he is interested.

So what insecurity kicked in that blocked you there?

You still interested, you will need to reference that conversation and ask about that statement he made and throw out some suggestions and what he would be interested in too.

I can tell you as a shy guy and with many libra qualities, he is trying to dance with you. He takes a step and waits for you to take a step. Then he will take a step. Etc. as a soft man this is also how I operate.

He is starting slow but I suspect things will pick up after you guys begin to dance in Ernest.

Look, This may or may not apply but from your description I can relate to his words and actions. So I'll tell you about my courtship and why.

I have no interest in always being in charge as it is draining and just something else to manage. That's exhausting. I don't want eye candy or trophy wife or anything like that.

I'd rather have a true partner and companion to work together with in life as a equal, a true partner. So my courtship style reflects that.



P.S. he is a coach. Don't confuse softness for weakness. The man is already leading and teaching a bunch of humans. That takes leadership and care as well as a bunch of other traits to be moderately successful.

He will likely give you a lot more leeway and room as a individual so long as you don't cross any hard lines for him. Go out on a few dates and see how you guys jive and the nature of your relationship in a more private setting then a family style gym.

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I have a strong feeling you have a strong presence and he is on the shy side.
If you wish to date him flirt a little to show your interest. Libra sun...that isn't much to go off of. Have any more placements?
ask him about his dating history and preferences as far as a ideas of dates go. You just have to get him talking about himself and add your own ideas as well.
Libra likes to play with others. Talk to him and find ways you guys can play together so to speak.
Try not to fling your energy right at him. rather hold it in your body like it's a container without suppressing it.

He is SO shy, like I’ve never encountered a man this shy before truthfully and he’s very sweet and soft spoken. Still says yes ma’am and no ma’am to some of the olderish ladies when they speak to him, which is my favorite because wow manners lmao. I can tell he’s trying to be a little more outgoing and playful like when we’re lifting he’ll come over and increase my weight and call me out on lifting too light lmao. But you’re also right in that I’ve been going for almost a year now and the gym is very family oriented so I’m pretty comfortable having conversations with everyone.

He’s only told me his birthday and the city he was born in but I felt like asking the time of his birth to calculate other placements may be a bit too much right now😂

So with that, a few weeks ago when he first reached out on IG he mentioned he wouldn’t be coming to one of the workouts because he had to coach so I told him, I was looking forward to seeing him and that I’d see him the next day then. He said “that doesn’t have to be the only time we see each other” and I asked what did he have in mind and his response was “Lol it doesn’t matter. Anything” So I stopped asking those questions lmao.
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“Lol it doesn’t matter. Anything”

That was a open invention and for you to take the next step. He figuratively held out his hand there and asked if you wanted to dance. Lmao as a woman, I doubt you didn't realize that. You yourself have said you KNOW he is interested.

So what insecurity kicked in that blocked you there?

You still interested, you will need to reference that conversation and ask about that statement he made and throw out some suggestions and what he would be interested in too.

I can tell you as a shy guy and with many libra qualities, he is trying to dance with you. He takes a step and waits for you to take a step. Then he will take a step. Etc. as a soft man this is also how I operate.

He is starting slow but I suspect things will pick up after you guys begin to dance in Ernest.

Look, This may or may not apply but from your description I can relate to his words and actions. So I'll tell you about my courtship and why.

I have no interest in always being in charge as it is draining and just something else to manage. That's exhausting. I don't want eye candy or trophy wife or anything like that.

I'd rather have a true partner and companion to work together with in life as a equal, a true partner. So my courtship style reflects that.



P.S. he is a coach. Don't confuse softness for weakness. The man is already leading and teaching a bunch of humans. That takes leadership and care as well as a bunch of other traits to be moderately successful.

He will likely give you a lot more leeway and room as a individual so long as you don't cross any hard lines for him. Go out on a few dates and see how you guys jive and the nature of your relationship in a more private setting then a family style gym.

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I really appreciate the insight!

I struggle because wouldn’t he have made suggestions instead of pulling it back? Once he said that then I mentioned what I had going on that weekend and asked if he was available at a certain time I had open and then all of a sudden he was busy with watching football somewhere and maybe coaching a practice😂🙄 it just always feels like a cat and mouse game with him like he doesn’t want to seem too available which would lead me to question if he’s actually interested or enjoys the game.

I wanted to give him the opportunity to truly make the first move because I can be very demanding and once I make the first move I’m making every move after that😂 I’ve been told that men want to take the lead so I’m trying to do this differently and allow him but we’re getting nowhere🙃

Posted by NotALibra
He likes you, maybe he is not the type to ask for your number or ask you out formally

Can't you manufacture it so you both leave at the same time or something and get him to go for a drink with you? You're a Scorpio you're supposed to be strategic and cunning

We do leave at the same time and still nothing😂 I’m trying to allow him to ask me out first but I guess I’ll have to make the first move

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I have a strong feeling you have a strong presence and he is on the shy side.
If you wish to date him flirt a little to show your interest. Libra sun...that isn't much to go off of. Have any more placements?
ask him about his dating history and preferences as far as a ideas of dates go. You just have to get him talking about himself and add your own ideas as well.
Libra likes to play with others. Talk to him and find ways you guys can play together so to speak.
Try not to fling your energy right at him. rather hold it in your body like it's a container without suppressing it.

He is SO shy, like I’ve never encountered a man this shy before truthfully and he’s very sweet and soft spoken. Still says yes ma’am and no ma’am to some of the olderish ladies when they speak to him, which is my favorite because wow manners lmao. I can tell he’s trying to be a little more outgoing and playful like when we’re lifting he’ll come over and increase my weight and call me out on lifting too light lmao. But you’re also right in that I’ve been going for almost a year now and the gym is very family oriented so I’m pretty comfortable having conversations with everyone.

He’s only told me his birthday and the city he was born in but I felt like asking the time of his birth to calculate other placements may be a bit too much right now😂

So with that, a few weeks ago when he first reached out on IG he mentioned he wouldn’t be coming to one of the workouts because he had to coach so I told him, I was looking forward to seeing him and that I’d see him the next day then. He said “that doesn’t have to be the only time we see each other” and I asked what did he have in mind and his response was “Lol it doesn’t matter. Anything” So I stopped asking those questions lmao.
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“Lol it doesn’t matter. Anything”

That was a open invention and for you to take the next step. He figuratively held out his hand there and asked if you wanted to dance. Lmao as a woman, I doubt you didn't realize that. You yourself have said you KNOW he is interested.

So what insecurity kicked in that blocked you there?

You still interested, you will need to reference that conversation and ask about that statement he made and throw out some suggestions and what he would be interested in too.

I can tell you as a shy guy and with many libra qualities, he is trying to dance with you. He takes a step and waits for you to take a step. Then he will take a step. Etc. as a soft man this is also how I operate.

He is starting slow but I suspect things will pick up after you guys begin to dance in Ernest.

Look, This may or may not apply but from your description I can relate to his words and actions. So I'll tell you about my courtship and why.

I have no interest in always being in charge as it is draining and just something else to manage. That's exhausting. I don't want eye candy or trophy wife or anything like that.

I'd rather have a true partner and companion to work together with in life as a equal, a true partner. So my courtship style reflects that.



P.S. he is a coach. Don't confuse softness for weakness. The man is already leading and teaching a bunch of humans. That takes leadership and care as well as a bunch of other traits to be moderately successful.

He will likely give you a lot more leeway and room as a individual so long as you don't cross any hard lines for him. Go out on a few dates and see how you guys jive and the nature of your relationship in a more private setting then a family style gym.

I really appreciate the insight!
I struggle because wouldn’t he have made suggestions instead of pulling it back? Once he said that then I mentioned what I had going on that weekend and asked if he was available at a certain time I had open and then all of a sudden he was busy with watching football somewhere and maybe coaching a practice😂🙄 it just always feels like a cat and mouse game with him like he doesn’t want to seem too available which would lead me to question if he’s actually interested or enjoys the game.

I wanted to give him the opportunity to truly make the first move because I can be very demanding and once I make the first move I’m making every move after that😂 I’ve been told that men want to take the lead so I’m trying to do this differently and allow him but we’re getting nowhere🙃

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Do you enjoy chasing?

Initiating and leading don't need to go hand and hand lol

Hmm cat and mousé? Tease him and pull back. Tom and Jerry lmao. Have some fun.

Tho don't have any expectations of this guy if you feel this is the actual nature of your relationship rather then him being shy and soft.

Got his date of birth? I don't need time to get a general feel of the connection/synastery.

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I have a strong feeling you have a strong presence and he is on the shy side.
If you wish to date him flirt a little to show your interest. Libra sun...that isn't much to go off of. Have any more placements?
ask him about his dating history and preferences as far as a ideas of dates go. You just have to get him talking about himself and add your own ideas as well.
Libra likes to play with others. Talk to him and find ways you guys can play together so to speak.
Try not to fling your energy right at him. rather hold it in your body like it's a container without suppressing it.

He is SO shy, like I’ve never encountered a man this shy before truthfully and he’s very sweet and soft spoken. Still says yes ma’am and no ma’am to some of the olderish ladies when they speak to him, which is my favorite because wow manners lmao. I can tell he’s trying to be a little more outgoing and playful like when we’re lifting he’ll come over and increase my weight and call me out on lifting too light lmao. But you’re also right in that I’ve been going for almost a year now and the gym is very family oriented so I’m pretty comfortable having conversations with everyone.

He’s only told me his birthday and the city he was born in but I felt like asking the time of his birth to calculate other placements may be a bit too much right now😂

So with that, a few weeks ago when he first reached out on IG he mentioned he wouldn’t be coming to one of the workouts because he had to coach so I told him, I was looking forward to seeing him and that I’d see him the next day then. He said “that doesn’t have to be the only time we see each other” and I asked what did he have in mind and his response was “Lol it doesn’t matter. Anything” So I stopped asking those questions lmao.
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“Lol it doesn’t matter. Anything”

That was a open invention and for you to take the next step. He figuratively held out his hand there and asked if you wanted to dance. Lmao as a woman, I doubt you didn't realize that. You yourself have said you KNOW he is interested.

So what insecurity kicked in that blocked you there?

You still interested, you will need to reference that conversation and ask about that statement he made and throw out some suggestions and what he would be interested in too.

I can tell you as a shy guy and with many libra qualities, he is trying to dance with you. He takes a step and waits for you to take a step. Then he will take a step. Etc. as a soft man this is also how I operate.

He is starting slow but I suspect things will pick up after you guys begin to dance in Ernest.

Look, This may or may not apply but from your description I can relate to his words and actions. So I'll tell you about my courtship and why.

I have no interest in always being in charge as it is draining and just something else to manage. That's exhausting. I don't want eye candy or trophy wife or anything like that.

I'd rather have a true partner and companion to work together with in life as a equal, a true partner. So my courtship style reflects that.



P.S. he is a coach. Don't confuse softness for weakness. The man is already leading and teaching a bunch of humans. That takes leadership and care as well as a bunch of other traits to be moderately successful.

He will likely give you a lot more leeway and room as a individual so long as you don't cross any hard lines for him. Go out on a few dates and see how you guys jive and the nature of your relationship in a more private setting then a family style gym.

I really appreciate the insight!

I struggle because wouldn’t he have made suggestions instead of pulling it back? Once he said that then I mentioned what I had going on that weekend and asked if he was available at a certain time I had open and then all of a sudden he was busy with watching football somewhere and maybe coaching a practice😂🙄 it just always feels like a cat and mouse game with him like he doesn’t want to seem too available which would lead me to question if he’s actually interested or enjoys the game.



I wanted to give him the opportunity to truly make the first move because I can be very demanding and once I make the first move I’m making every move after that😂 I’ve been told that men want to take the lead so I’m trying to do this differently and allow him but we’re getting nowhere🙃

Do you enjoy chasing?
Initiating and leading don't need to go hand and hand lol
Hmm cat and mousé? Tease him and pull back. Tom and Jerry lmao. Have some fun.
Tho don't have any expectations of this guy if you feel this is the actual nature of your relationship rather then him being shy and soft.

Got his date of birth? I don't need time to get a general feel of the connection/synastery.

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Not even a little that’s why I’m trying to allow him to make the first official move? If that’s even what you call it lol.

Lmao I’ll try that and see😂

I definitely think he was shy at the beginning but can tell he’s getting comfortable.

His DOB is October 21, 1990

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I have a strong feeling you have a strong presence and he is on the shy side.
If you wish to date him flirt a little to show your interest. Libra sun...that isn't much to go off of. Have any more placements?
ask him about his dating history and preferences as far as a ideas of dates go. You just have to get him talking about himself and add your own ideas as well.
Libra likes to play with others. Talk to him and find ways you guys can play together so to speak.
Try not to fling your energy right at him. rather hold it in your body like it's a container without suppressing it.

He is SO shy, like I’ve never encountered a man this shy before truthfully and he’s very sweet and soft spoken. Still says yes ma’am and no ma’am to some of the olderish ladies when they speak to him, which is my favorite because wow manners lmao. I can tell he’s trying to be a little more outgoing and playful like when we’re lifting he’ll come over and increase my weight and call me out on lifting too light lmao. But you’re also right in that I’ve been going for almost a year now and the gym is very family oriented so I’m pretty comfortable having conversations with everyone.

He’s only told me his birthday and the city he was born in but I felt like asking the time of his birth to calculate other placements may be a bit too much right now😂

So with that, a few weeks ago when he first reached out on IG he mentioned he wouldn’t be coming to one of the workouts because he had to coach so I told him, I was looking forward to seeing him and that I’d see him the next day then. He said “that doesn’t have to be the only time we see each other” and I asked what did he have in mind and his response was “Lol it doesn’t matter. Anything” So I stopped asking those questions lmao.
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“Lol it doesn’t matter. Anything”

That was a open invention and for you to take the next step. He figuratively held out his hand there and asked if you wanted to dance. Lmao as a woman, I doubt you didn't realize that. You yourself have said you KNOW he is interested.

So what insecurity kicked in that blocked you there?

You still interested, you will need to reference that conversation and ask about that statement he made and throw out some suggestions and what he would be interested in too.

I can tell you as a shy guy and with many libra qualities, he is trying to dance with you. He takes a step and waits for you to take a step. Then he will take a step. Etc. as a soft man this is also how I operate.

He is starting slow but I suspect things will pick up after you guys begin to dance in Ernest.

Look, This may or may not apply but from your description I can relate to his words and actions. So I'll tell you about my courtship and why.

I have no interest in always being in charge as it is draining and just something else to manage. That's exhausting. I don't want eye candy or trophy wife or anything like that.

I'd rather have a true partner and companion to work together with in life as a equal, a true partner. So my courtship style reflects that.



P.S. he is a coach. Don't confuse softness for weakness. The man is already leading and teaching a bunch of humans. That takes leadership and care as well as a bunch of other traits to be moderately successful.

He will likely give you a lot more leeway and room as a individual so long as you don't cross any hard lines for him. Go out on a few dates and see how you guys jive and the nature of your relationship in a more private setting then a family style gym.

I really appreciate the insight!


I struggle because wouldn’t he have made suggestions instead of pulling it back? Once he said that then I mentioned what I had going on that weekend and asked if he was available at a certain time I had open and then all of a sudden he was busy with watching football somewhere and maybe coaching a practice😂🙄 it just always feels like a cat and mouse game with him like he doesn’t want to seem too available which would lead me to question if he’s actually interested or enjoys the game.





I wanted to give him the opportunity to truly make the first move because I can be very demanding and once I make the first move I’m making every move after that😂 I’ve been told that men want to take the lead so I’m trying to do this differently and allow him but we’re getting nowhere🙃

Do you enjoy chasing?

Initiating and leading don't need to go hand and hand lol

Hmm cat and mousé? Tease him and pull back. Tom and Jerry lmao. Have some fun.

Tho don't have any expectations of this guy if you feel this is the actual nature of your relationship rather then him being shy and soft.



Got his date of birth? I don't need time to get a general feel of the connection/synastery.

Not even a little that’s why I’m trying to allow him to make the first official move? If that’s even what you call it lol.

Lmao I’ll try that and see😂

I definitely think he was shy at the beginning but can tell he’s getting comfortable.

His DOB is October 21, 1990

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Lol he is very libran. With Gemini Mercury some sag and I see some leo too.

Wow actually I see a lot of passion in his chart. There is a very good chance this shy shit is a mask. Because he does have some strong Capricorn placements but nothing that should really suppress the energy his chart elodes too.

Toy with him and tease, build up that tension. Enjoy yourself and set the tone of your interactions. Do what makes you laugh is my motto.

He will enjoy the attention. Honestly I think this all would have been set off on it's own left to play out by itself. It would be just a matter of when.

WTF? I’da asked him out long ago.

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I have a strong feeling you have a strong presence and he is on the shy side.
If you wish to date him flirt a little to show your interest. Libra sun...that isn't much to go off of. Have any more placements?
ask him about his dating history and preferences as far as a ideas of dates go. You just have to get him talking about himself and add your own ideas as well.
Libra likes to play with others. Talk to him and find ways you guys can play together so to speak.
Try not to fling your energy right at him. rather hold it in your body like it's a container without suppressing it.

He is SO shy, like I’ve never encountered a man this shy before truthfully and he’s very sweet and soft spoken. Still says yes ma’am and no ma’am to some of the olderish ladies when they speak to him, which is my favorite because wow manners lmao. I can tell he’s trying to be a little more outgoing and playful like when we’re lifting he’ll come over and increase my weight and call me out on lifting too light lmao. But you’re also right in that I’ve been going for almost a year now and the gym is very family oriented so I’m pretty comfortable having conversations with everyone.

He’s only told me his birthday and the city he was born in but I felt like asking the time of his birth to calculate other placements may be a bit too much right now😂

So with that, a few weeks ago when he first reached out on IG he mentioned he wouldn’t be coming to one of the workouts because he had to coach so I told him, I was looking forward to seeing him and that I’d see him the next day then. He said “that doesn’t have to be the only time we see each other” and I asked what did he have in mind and his response was “Lol it doesn’t matter. Anything” So I stopped asking those questions lmao.
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“Lol it doesn’t matter. Anything”
That was a open invention and for you to take the next step. He figuratively held out his hand there and asked if you wanted to dance. Lmao as a woman, I doubt you didn't realize that. You yourself have said you KNOW he is interested.
So what insecurity kicked in that blocked you there?
You still interested, you will need to reference that conversation and ask about that statement he made and throw out some suggestions and what he would be interested in too.
I can tell you as a shy guy and with many libra qualities, he is trying to dance with you. He takes a step and waits for you to take a step. Then he will take a step. Etc. as a soft man this is also how I operate.
He is starting slow but I suspect things will pick up after you guys begin to dance in Ernest.
Look, This may or may not apply but from your description I can relate to his words and actions. So I'll tell you about my courtship and why.
I have no interest in always being in charge as it is draining and just something else to manage. That's exhausting. I don't want eye candy or trophy wife or anything like that.
I'd rather have a true partner and companion to work together with in life as a equal, a true partner. So my courtship style reflects that.

P.S. he is a coach. Don't confuse softness for weakness. The man is already leading and teaching a bunch of humans. That takes leadership and care as well as a bunch of other traits to be moderately successful.
He will likely give you a lot more leeway and room as a individual so long as you don't cross any hard lines for him. Go out on a few dates and see how you guys jive and the nature of your relationship in a more private setting then a family style gym.

I really appreciate the insight!


I struggle because wouldn’t he have made suggestions instead of pulling it back? Once he said that then I mentioned what I had going on that weekend and asked if he was available at a certain time I had open and then all of a sudden he was busy with watching football somewhere and maybe coaching a practice😂🙄 it just always feels like a cat and mouse game with him like he doesn’t want to seem too available which would lead me to question if he’s actually interested or enjoys the game.





I wanted to give him the opportunity to truly make the first move because I can be very demanding and once I make the first move I’m making every move after that😂 I’ve been told that men want to take the lead so I’m trying to do this differently and allow him but we’re getting nowhere🙃

Do you enjoy chasing?


Initiating and leading don't need to go hand and hand lol


Hmm cat and mousé? Tease him and pull back. Tom and Jerry lmao. Have some fun.


Tho don't have any expectations of this guy if you feel this is the actual nature of your relationship rather then him being shy and soft.


Got his date of birth? I don't need time to get a general feel of the connection/synastery.

Not even a little that’s why I’m trying to allow him to make the first official move? If that’s even what you call it lol.

Lmao I’ll try that and see😂

I definitely think he was shy at the beginning but can tell he’s getting comfortable.

His DOB is October 21, 1990

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Lol he is very libran. With Gemini Mercury some sag and I see some leo too.

Wow actually I see a lot of passion in his chart. There is a very good chance this shy shit is a mask. Because he does have some strong Capricorn placements but nothing that should really suppress the energy his chart elodes too.

Toy with him and tease, build up that tension. Enjoy yourself and set the tone of your interactions. Do what makes you laugh is my motto.

He will enjoy the attention. Honestly I think this all would have been set off on it's own left to play out by itself. It would be just a matter of when.

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Ahhhhh I may have to rethink this, I have mostly water with a sprinkle of Virgo and Capricorn🤣

I’ll try teasing though maybe that’ll get him going lol

Thanks for all of your help!! Hopefully at some point he’ll crack lmao

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Oh come on. Ofc he's interested. Why else would he make all that effort.

I’d like to think so but at this point why not ask for my number or ask me out by now, I mean it’s been a month already😂

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Could be he's not sure you're interested. Fear of rejection. Doesn't want to come across as a gym creep.

Eh, If I were you I would be rather reserved with this guy. I mean, being flirtatious but hasn't asked your number, being a gym buddy and not a single date asked out. I would just move on about my life and pay no mind. As a crab rising, don't you prefer to take things slow?

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Welp, we’re def gym buddies😂 The man hasn’t asked for my number 1 time but added me on instagram so of course he’s commented on EVERY SINGLE POST on my story. Very flirtatious but obviously not asking me out or for my number for that matter. We’re still consistently going to the gym, more playful, more conversation. I’ve stepped back a bit in that I was initially initiating all the conversations with him at the gym because he was very quiet, highly introverted but over the month he’s opened up quite a bit.

A few things I’m trying to take into consideration -

1. The gym we go to is a class that we really enjoy so I’ve thought about maybe he just doesn’t want it to not workout and then one of us is either force to not go due to awkwardness etc

2. Maybe he’s waiting until the holidays are over

3. Maybe he’s just not that into you😂

I genuinely don’t have any doubts that he likes me, just his interactions with me and things he says but also aren’t Libra’s natural flirts lmao? My Scorp sun, Picses Moon, Cancer Rising mind is literally struggling with not having control😂 I’m leaning towards the gym bud and bummed about it💀

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Eh, If I were you I would be rather reserved with this guy. I mean, being flirtatious but hasn't asked your number, being a gym buddy and not a single date asked out. I would just move on about my life and pay no mind. As a crab rising, don't you prefer to take things slow?

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Welp, we’re def gym buddies😂 The man hasn’t asked for my number 1 time but added me on instagram so of course he’s commented on EVERY SINGLE POST on my story. Very flirtatious but obviously not asking me out or for my number for that matter. We’re still consistently going to the gym, more playful, more conversation. I’ve stepped back a bit in that I was initially initiating all the conversations with him at the gym because he was very quiet, highly introverted but over the month he’s opened up quite a bit.

A few things I’m trying to take into consideration -

1. The gym we go to is a class that we really enjoy so I’ve thought about maybe he just doesn’t want it to not workout and then one of us is either force to not go due to awkwardness etc

2. Maybe he’s waiting until the holidays are over

3. Maybe he’s just not that into you😂

I genuinely don’t have any doubts that he likes me, just his interactions with me and things he says but also aren’t Libra’s natural flirts lmao? My Scorp sun, Picses Moon, Cancer Rising mind is literally struggling with not having control😂 I’m leaning towards the gym bud and bummed about it💀

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That’s fair. But as a crab rising, no, no I do not😂 I want to take things slow with him as I would hate for it to not workout and then it’s awkward at our fitness class but usually I’m not one to take things slow lmao

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Oh come on. Ofc he's interested. Why else would he make all that effort.

I’d like to think so but at this point why not ask for my number or ask me out by now, I mean it’s been a month already😂
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Could be he's not sure you're interested. Fear of rejection. Doesn't want to come across as a gym creep.

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My friend that goes as well has said that I come off as a friend to him but I feel like I try to show my interest. I just may not be good at it lol

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Well sth is stopping this guy for sure,

I think he's already involved with someone, that explains adding you only on Instagram and not asking for your phone number?

or maybe he doesn't want to be with anyone at the moment, but he sure like you.

Have you stalked him online? On Facebook maybe,

Yeah I’ve stalked him on everything lmao I haven’t seen anyone else in the picture from his social media so I’m not sure. The way that he responds to all of my stuff I would hope he’s not involved with someone else doing that

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He is definitely interested. Libras take a little time to make their move.
He is most likely in his head wondering your intentions as well, Libras over think.
He is taking his time to tally up your intentions as well...
He is making moves. Going out of his way to do things with you and liking and commenting on your posts.
Scopios are wired differently they have a target and have to have it. Libras play the strategy game...
They may take longer but they have a goal in mind. He needs reassurance that your interested too

That makes sense. My friend said she thinks I come off as one of the bros to him with my responses but I just don’t know how to flirt without overdoing it. There’s just no in between, I’m either overly obsessed or not interested and I’m trying not to scare him off too early lmao. I guess I have to find some patience with this Libra😭
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My suggestion, be yourself. Say what you truly want. Don't worry about "coming off a certain way"

That might just be what the Libra wants or needs. The real you..

Good luck. Let us know what happens

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Thanks!! Will do

Okay update -

So last week my friend who works at the gym mentioned that this guy brought a girl to the gym. He said they weren’t touchy or anything just came to workout. I was able to find her on social media and she’s a trainer at another gym. Fast forward to this past Saturday.

So Saturday I missed our workout class and he messaged me and asked why I wasn’t there. We talked all day again through social media because still at this time I didn’t have his number. So it was just friendly talk and then today we of course went to class this morning and he was clinging to me. Flirty but calling me out, always trying to be next to me and then towards the end he assured I worked in HR and asked me how I would handle a situation he’s going through with his company.

It was different like we’ve never discussed work with each other and this was literally the most I’ve heard him talk. There’s a lady who’s been trying to get me to come work with her and I’ve kept turning it down. While him and I were talking she asked him about helping her with something and got his number. I told him to keep me updated on work and we left.

After work I asked him how everything went(through social media DMs again) and we started talking about it and then he randomly gave me his number to talk more.

I texted him and he called me to tell me how the lady was trying to get him to work with her too and she mentioned my name and he said that’s why he gave me his number to talk about it.

I feel like I got friendzoned😂 like when we were done talking he was like okay I’ll see you in the morning and that’s it. Like I don’t even know what I’m supposed to do at this point he was so nonchalant it was super weird😂

What are y’all’s thoughts like I literally can’t read him at all. Like I got the number but I feel like I’m not supposed to use it😂

Also are Libra men calculated because that’s how this feels. Like he doesn’t seem shy anymore and maybe he’s comfortable, I don’t know I literally can’t read him💀

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Also are Libra men calculated because that’s how this feels. Like he doesn’t seem shy anymore and maybe he’s comfortable, I don’t know I literally can’t read him💀

Yes they/we are to some extent but it's not just that with him or about this situation.

It sounds like you still haven't asked if he wanted to go out for drinks or coffee some time. Oddly enough, seems like you guys have found a way to be more involved in another way🤔

If you insist on not initiating a more personal relationship then don't worry about it and you do you. Maybe one of you will become enough interested as you get to know each other🧘

P.S. So you don't feel anyway about another woman pulling his attention and working with him instead of you—?

Believe it or not libra men like some assertiveness and people who push for their own interests.

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Also are Libra men calculated because that’s how this feels. Like he doesn’t seem shy anymore and maybe he’s comfortable, I don’t know I literally can’t read him💀

Yes they/we are to some extent but it's not just that with him or about this situation.
It sounds like you still haven't asked if he wanted to go out for drinks or coffee some time. Oddly enough, seems like you guys have found a way to be more involved in another way🤔
If you insist on not initiating a more personal relationship then don't worry about it and you do you. Maybe one of you will become enough interested as you get to know each other🧘
P.S. So you don't feel anyway about another woman pulling his attention and working with him instead of you—?
Believe it or not libra men like some assertiveness and people who push for their own interests.

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Lol I haven’t asked him for drinks or coffee because I just can’t fully tell if he’s friend zoning me or he’s interested. Once we were done talking on the phone he said “okay see you tomorrow” not “you have my number now don’t be afraid to use it” or something that assures he wants me to use it. It seemed like he gave it to me just to tell me about the lady at our fitness class.

I do feel a way about him bringing another women to work out with him but I just can’t figure out how to navigate this one.

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Also are Libra men calculated because that’s how this feels. Like he doesn’t seem shy anymore and maybe he’s comfortable, I don’t know I literally can’t read him💀

Yes they/we are to some extent but it's not just that with him or about this situation.

It sounds like you still haven't asked if he wanted to go out for drinks or coffee some time. Oddly enough, seems like you guys have found a way to be more involved in another way🤔

If you insist on not initiating a more personal relationship then don't worry about it and you do you. Maybe one of you will become enough interested as you get to know each other🧘

P.S. So you don't feel anyway about another woman pulling his attention and working with him instead of you—?

Believe it or not libra men like some assertiveness and people who push for their own interests.

Lol I haven’t asked him for drinks or coffee because I just can’t fully tell if he’s friend zoning me or he’s interested. Once we were done talking on the phone he said “okay see you tomorrow” not “you have my number now don’t be afraid to use it” or something that assures he wants me to use it. It seemed like he gave it to me just to tell me about the lady at our fitness class.

I do feel a way about him bringing another women to work out with him but I just can’t figure out how to navigate this one.

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I gave you a impression of his chart. A lot of passion there. Kinda cheated by doing so.



He has felt you out.

He has taken some steps towards you and you did not return them. It's that simple.

As a man who has a lot of librarian qualities and who holds back a lot of my nature in public, Im not going to go further with you then he has either.

Will maintain the relationship as is until you let me know otherwise. Relationships are about mutuality and mutual interest. From what you describe about your actions and responses you are lukewarm towards him. So that's what you are going to get from him. Get it?

Those days where men have to do all the work and chasing are over. And good riddance with that too!

To top it off, if he starts making passes at every attractive woman he is interested in at the gym he will get a bad rep. People talk and pay attention. Best to stick with the ones with mutual interest and to develop the relationships outside of the gym.

Enjoy the friendship and maybe something more will come out of it or maybe not. Either way you don't seem to be interested enough to act. Someone else is interested in developing a relationship with him in a position he is interested in you having. That you seem to not care about either.