need advice from pisces men

I am completely enamored with a Pisces male. We know each other through mutual friends and mostly from his family. He is recently divorced-about a year now, from a Leo, whom he has been with many (Leos) in his life. I don't think he's ever been with a Scorpio woman before, and maybe doesn't quite understand our immediate and very passionate connection. He has kept me at arms length from the start. I, in typical Scorpio fashion, have been very aggressive about my interest in him. I am considered to be above average in appearance, and very intimidating.
Although I've never been comfortable downplaying any of my qualities to suit any man, I'm not really sure how to handle this one. I've been with other Pisces men in the past, and it has worked because they've always pursued me.
I care about this man very much, and would like some advice on how to get him to move towards me.

If he's been with many Leos, I cannot see that you'll be too intimidating for him. Leos are a very strong sign, especially for a fish to be dealing with. He must be quite a strong character.


It's living in the Leo's shadow, for me, that's difficult. I keep telling myself all of the things that you told me. But, see I am also cursed with this rather large ego that won't allow me to stay rational for very long. I get frustrated and want to sting. I have resisted all impulses to do so.

Tell me, why does it feel like he's making me jump through hoops? His father(another Scorpio) had even warned me that he is quite the chess player. Is that the case, or is it that he can keep himself that well hidden?

"If you're a strong, attractive woman - you'll already have his attention. You won't have to do much at all. Just be patient."

Well my dear, see that's the problem. I have a hard time leaving things alone and letting them take their natural course. I try as hard as i can to refrain from contacting him, but always do. when I do it's always through humor. Never a phone call, he never answers his phone for anyone. Always text messages and emails-I hate it. I hate this feeling. When I get no response, it brings me to the feeling of not being good enough, which I do know is ridiculous. I find that I am still reacting to the Aquarius I was dating before. I had stepped so far out of my own character with that one that it has become a reaction habit to do so.


I fear I might have messed things up, though i don't know, because I pushed the physical stuff too soon. I haven't slept with him, I know i couldn't handle that. i do admit approaching him while he has been drinking, always at social gatherings-never to be alone with me. he's notorious for his drinking which has only gotten worse since his divorce, I see that he is weakened and i go in for some affection. He in turn is then very sexually aggressive, because he knows i don't want him to be. Or not. It's very confusing.

I guess the only thing I can do at this point is to try and put him out of my head, for now. I am definitely learning how to be patient, which not being has always stopped me from getting too involved, or even involved a all. The "I want it now" routine has never gotten me what I've wanted, although it has, but of course it wasn't what i wanted. My ego is tough to reason with.
Did any of that make any sense just then? jeez.

well, just knowing this person has changed something in me. I hope I can one day find out...

Wow Bijou,
That's exactly the kind of thing i would have said to you. How funny we are...

This whole thing is totally exhausting me, to the point of sleeplessness. i keep trying to put him out of my head, but i don't feel like he's letting me. (like you said). We barely even speak, but I feel that we still communicate. In fact I'm possitive because when i do see him, we seem to be on the same emotional thought sequence, pattern, whatever. I know i have to trust myself and my feelings about this. i always have a fear that I will be easily forgotten if I'm not aggressive enough, which is such bullshit. People I barely know remember me from 5+ years ago. (just happened today). So why would this person that I obviously have a connection with forget about me? My emotional intelligence vs my logical (?) reasoning.. I don't know which one to listen to. It's maddening. i do know NOT to listen to the ego, if i can catch it first that is.

I'm very close friends with his sister, and father and the rest of his siblings. I'll be around, he knows that. I think you are right about him wanting to protect me.


ok, 6 months? How did it finally happen? I mean how did you know that you weren't just chasing a ghost? That what you had been feeling about what happening was real and not just in your head?

I'm glad I found this site. I'm feeling better already.