Need some advice

I have been friends with a Cancer male for about a year now and although he has a gf, we get along great and talk about anything and everything. Anyway, recently I found out he was sleeping around on his gf and told him exactly what I thought of it. Now he doesn't want to speak to me and ignores me when he sees me. I really miss our talks and thought I was doing the right thing. Is there anything I can do to fix it? I know that Cancers need time to think but it's been about a month now and every time I see him, I feel so bad and am afraid to talk to him. Please give me some advice.

hi venuschild,

I am thinking that at the moment, there is not much you can now do except to be patient and to wait and see if he comes around to you which in time he will if he hasn't already.

Most likely the reason for his distance is, he felt judged by you and he was. Your friend is living his life, learning what he needs to learn and he can only do this by experiencing life. From your perspective, what he did was wrong and by society and for most of us, it is. Do you really feel that it was your place to tell him he was wrong? did he ask you for your thoughts on what he did?

Lesson here, it may be helpful for next time to think about keeping your thoughts to yourself unless someone asks you what you think otherwise it comes off as judging another and not allowing him/her to live his life and learn his/her lessons in their way.

...another way to look at this for better understanding is, you may want to put yourself in his place - how would you be feeling had this happened to you?

just my thoughts
hope things are better for you since you have posted

"Most likely the reason for his distance is, he felt judged by you and he was. "

Absolutely right. Cancers are very protective over the decisions they make for themselves even if they are bad decisions. You were just being a friend & trying to talk some sense into him but then again we don't know the whole story. It could've been HOW you said something, versus WHAT you said. In his mind you might be that friend that ALWAYS has something to say or doesn't know when to back off when he screws up (even though you may not see it that way) & you may not be looking at this situation through his eyes & through his point of view. The best thing to do in this situation (regardless of a friend's Zodiac sign) is to back off & let that person make mistake.

Sometimes when I screw up I am glad to have that one friend that would never back off versus the friend who keeps their mouth closed in the times when I really need to hear the truth rather I want to hear it or not. But everybody isn't like that. You've already done your part, you've told him right from wrong & you can't force him to listen or surround himself with you. I don't understand why he would particularly distance himself from you to the point where he's actually going the other way when you're around (because feeling judged or not, that is not fair to you). In life you have to just let people make their mistakes & remember how YOU feel when someone presses an issue on you.

Cancers sometimes don't even know how they feel about something yet, nevertheless don't want to hear how someone else feels