Need urgent advice from Sag males! Thanks :-)

So there is this Sag man I met 8 and a half years ago. We clicked from the first second, and were in a long distance relationship for about 8-9 months. He never said he loved me, but he did things that showed he was into me.
Unfortunately he found another aries girl and I was heart broken. After a year he started contacting me again, he appologyzed and even tho i was in a new relationship and he was still with that girl he kept asking to see me. Which I said no to, both cause I knew i was soooo weak for him, but mainly cause i didnt want to let him come between me and my, at the time, boyfriend.

Long story short. He breaks up with that girl. I break up with that guy.
We re single at the same time and we meet for lunch the next time i was in his area.
At this time it had been 3 years since we broke up and 2 since we started talking again.
Lunch felt like we ve been together for every single day during those years and naturally led for us spending more time together... Which led to slowdancing at the end of the night and kissing on the dancefloor. I didnt go home with him, I was to afriad to have my heart broken again. But the chemistry is so strong so i ended up at his place the next day to hang out which led to sex. Which we both, btw. have expressed is the most amazing we ve ever had... We talked about our connection and he expressed that he has not been able to stop thinking of me, but he did not express anything that had anything to do with love. He asked why i dont move to the city he lives in, but he didnt ask to move there because of him. So I never did.
We agreed that we wouldnt lable whatever it is that we feel and that we would stay in touch.

Right after he became a little unavalable. Turns out his ex was pregnant and I became pregnant with another SAG (!!!My god, lol) and we had kids the same year.

Still we stayed in touch.
He never went back in a relationship with his babys mother, and has not been in a relationship since.
I tried a serious relationship with my childs father, but he cheated on me and we broke up last year.

Me and the sag Im asking about, have stayed in touch during these past 8 something years, we cant move on. Like we dream about eachother if we havent spoken for a longer while... its crazy. So we flirt a little, but nothing heavy. We can go without speaking for a couple of months or 4. I try to let him be the first one to reach out most of the tiimes.

I try to let him be the first one to reach out most of the tiimes.
He has not once said or done anything hurtful since that time 7 years ago when he found another girl.

We ve never talked that this could be love. But back in may i had enough and wrote him asking about these things.
He says that Im awfully far away.
That he has never known a female for this long.
That there has got to be a reason why we re still in touch.
That he wouldnt stay in touch with me if he didnt want to.
And then he said if i lived near by things would have been different between us.

I found that so unfair, cause he never asked me to move, he left me and broke my heart...

So i told him to either love me or leave me alone, cause I cant deal with this no man??s land...

Of course he didnt respond to that. It went about 5 weeks, and then hhe texted me something random. I replied lightly and left it alone
Then he texted me again 4 weeks after that about another rrandom thing. This time asking how i was.
Saying he thinks its lame im not in his city during the summer... I replied that i was never invited.
Then he started talking about us meeting again this fall. Which im up for, since I just am not able to stay away when he keeps reaching out... This fall will be 5 years since the last time we saw eachother.

I feel that I ve been patient, funny, light hearted, forgiving, understanding, never demanding, honest etc.... but am I anywhere near reaching to his heart? What do I do next to make him do more?

I appreciate anyone who takes the time to read this and reply. I tried keeping it short but its not easy :-)

Posted by sealight
What was the question ?
Honestly I read all these two portions but I don't see what type of urgent advice your looking for ? To reach his heart first you will have to reach up to his mind

Thanks, that was the question.
And to reach him mind you mean what? He says and shows that im on him mind a lot. But somehow i have a feeling thats not really what you ment? :-)