Obsessive thinking

Another thread sparked this question for me. I know we've all had it happen before. When that one person we were dating, in a relationship with, fwb, etc is finally gone and we can't get them out of our heads! Constantly thinking about them. Going back and forth on if we should reach out or not. Wondering if they're thinking about us.

What is it that causes this? Does it have anything to do with astrology, or just our need for closure/answers? Whenever I've had that overwhelming feeling of contacting someone (friend or family) because they were heavy on my mind.....98% of the time something significant was going on with them. So when it comes to any ex's that are heavy on my mind, I always struggle if I should reach out because....fuck them. Lol. I'm struggling with this now as we speak and we ended it on bad terms about 6 weeks ago. They are HEAVY on my mind within the last few days.

Thoughts people?

I agree with everything you just said!!! The older I get, the less I seem to worry how something is going to make me look. Lol. I know my own intentions. I don't necessarily have to defend or explain my actions to anyone else. But that is what I struggle with most I think.

^^^^ very true! Most times it's a one sided thing for people though. I can give and show anyone that I care about or am emotionally vested in their well being, but I don't always get it back. It then becomes a struggle internally, do I keep on going with that or let it go. Especially when they are emotional vampires and everything is always about them.

Oh, and maybe I should add that when this happens to me, that person will be super heavy in my mind all of a sudden, then nothing, then super heavy again. Last person this happened with was my best friend. The afternoon I reached out to her, her aunt passed away that very same morning.