HateMeNowIloveit
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Partner thats good for you, in birthchart?
Shit that's a loaded question for me. We are attracted to people (beyond physical attaction) for a reason. Something about them we want or desire, in a partner or ourselves. It can be messy. We learn as we go.
If you are HSP, emotional connection and communication is important. Be it you able to read them or vis versa or both. This is a deal breaker for most HSP. Definitely say the ideal healthy long term relationship compliments you.
Astrology is a great tool. Your own internal tools are much better with Astrology for clarifying.
For instance, everyone is "capable" of cheating. Very much depends on the person themselves beyond placements.
I'm sure you will get many other opinions and angles on your question here. I would need a better understanding of you yourself and what you want to focus on to tell you what exactly to look for. Which will very much depend of your own values, any traumas that still effect your judgement.
There are so many combinations of placements thst would give you that quality, it's actually really fucking awesome. We are awesomely complex creatures. What kind of person are you looking for?
Baseline, is a good place to start, whst are your Deal breaker (nopes) and ideal qualities(😍) ?
If you are HSP, emotional connection and communication is important. Be it you able to read them or vis versa or both. This is a deal breaker for most HSP. Definitely say the ideal healthy long term relationship compliments you.
Astrology is a great tool. Your own internal tools are much better with Astrology for clarifying.
For instance, everyone is "capable" of cheating. Very much depends on the person themselves beyond placements.
I'm sure you will get many other opinions and angles on your question here. I would need a better understanding of you yourself and what you want to focus on to tell you what exactly to look for. Which will very much depend of your own values, any traumas that still effect your judgement.
There are so many combinations of placements thst would give you that quality, it's actually really fucking awesome. We are awesomely complex creatures. What kind of person are you looking for?
Baseline, is a good place to start, whst are your Deal breaker (nopes) and ideal qualities(😍) ?
Posted by Lostthoughts
Shit that's a loaded question for me. We are attracted to people (beyond physical attaction) for a reason. Something about them we want or desire, in a partner or ourselves. It can be messy. We learn as we go.
If you are HSP, emotional connection and communication is important. Be it you able to read them or vis versa or both. This is a deal breaker for most HSP. Definitely say the ideal healthy long term relationship compliments you.
Hmmm. I have trauma but I understand that trauma and how it projects.
Personalities like mark Wahlberg are good examples to me. Someone who is protective of themselves and their boundaries.
Thats a very complex question cause its all in their energy too. (Mark w, has the perfect chart for me fyi) his energy is bossin.
I have absent, abusive dad issues lol used to look for protective figures in men, only to get hurt and when they hurt me id feel emapthy cause I felt empathy for my dad and wanted to be loved.
I got pernament mom issues. My mom was always accusing me of sleeping with my dad so Im constantly seeing other girls be suspicious of me even though I mind my business. I expect that kind of behavior out of women. My sister also used to take my boyfriends so Im used to highway robbery and jealousy from women.
I feel like I bring that out in women. It makes me feel like Im projecting except those behaviors are something that those people are capable of so am I making them do it? Or is it in their character to act badly?
I try to avoid people that seem like they could have been a fitting role in my past.
I also live under a rock and dont get out much lol
Are you doing anything to resolve all these mommy/daddy issues within you or are you just looking for a BF? Dating without managing these issues will inevitably result in repeated patterns.
I hope you’re undergoing intense psychotherapy because if not you’ll keep attracting the same dysfunctional energy especially with that Pisces moon (very loose and cloudy emotional boundaries)
Posted by aquarius09
Are you doing anything to resolve all these mommy/daddy issues within you or are you just looking for a BF? Dating without managing these issues will inevitably result in repeated patterns.
Yeah I am doing something about it. I dont believe I can be aware of my issues and want to keep doing the same thing for rest of my life at the same time.
Posted by MyStarsShine
I hope you’re undergoing intense psychotherapy because if not you’ll keep attracting the same dysfunctional energy especially with that Pisces moon (very loose and cloudy emotional boundaries)
My pisces moon is a royal pain. My pisces rising is my brains lol Ive done therapy lol and dbt. Never again.
Posted by HateMeNowIloveitPosted by Lostthoughts
Shit that's a loaded question for me. We are attracted to people (beyond physical attaction) for a reason. Something about them we want or desire, in a partner or ourselves. It can be messy. We learn as we go.
If you are HSP, emotional connection and communication is important. Be it you able to read them or vis versa or both. This is a deal breaker for most HSP. Definitely say the ideal healthy long term relationship compliments you.
Astrology is a great tool. Your own internal tools are much better with Astrology for clarifying.
For instance, everyone is "capable" of cheating. Very much depends on the person themselves beyond placements.
I'm sure you will get many other opinions and angles on your question here. I would need a better understanding of you yourself and what you want to focus on to tell you what exactly to look for. Which will very much depend of your own values, any traumas that still effect your judgement.
There are so many combinations of placements thst would give you that quality, it's actually really fucking awesome. We are awesomely complex creatures. What kind of person are you looking for?
Baseline, is a good place to start, whst are your Deal breaker (nopes) and ideal qualities(😍) ?
Hmmm. I have trauma but I understand that trauma and how it projects.
Personalities like mark Wahlberg are good examples to me. Someone who is protective of themselves and their boundaries.
Thats a very complex question cause its all in their energy too. (Mark w, has the perfect chart for me fyi) his energy is bossin.
I have absent, abusive dad issues lol used to look for protective figures in men, only to get hurt and when they hurt me id feel emapthy cause I felt empathy for my dad and wanted to be loved.
I got pernament mom issues. My mom was always accusing me of sleeping with my dad so Im constantly seeing other girls be suspicious of me even though I mind my business. I expect that kind of behavior out of women. My sister also used to take my boyfriends so Im used to highway robbery and jealousy from women.
I feel like I bring that out in women. It makes me feel like Im projecting except those behaviors are something that those people are capable of so am I making them do it? Or is it in their character to act badly?
I try to avoid people that seem like they could have been a fitting role in my past.
I also live under a rock and dont get out much lolclick to expand
How I come to understand Astrology is,
Everybody comes in to world with there own particular favor so to speak. Astrology kinda tells you what you come to learn/experience through life. Which in turn shapes you. How it does is Happenstance with a huge chunk of choice.
Jealousy with woman? Ok I know a few with similar experiences and one woman(who I'm actually after) pretty close to what you experienced, including similar traumas.
Typically Jealous with other woman, means you do have many desirable qualities as a person and they feel like they are competing with you with those qualities on some level or also common, they admire those qualities for themselves. It's rather immature but most of us learn and grow out of it. Lmao exception is when it involves more intimate/closer relationships. The woman I mentioned before, she fucking awesome and a lot of people want her company. Female friends have shown signs of jealous not just because of the attention she gets but they want her time and attention too❤️
So it's often more about them then you. You got to pay attention and ask questions to understand whats going on case by case. Be curious and interested in what is happening and curious about them. Think of it as training your intuition too.
When it comes to personal childhood trauma, it makes more sense to think of it as experiencing the wrong kind and seeking the positive version of it but not knowing what it looks like. Identifying the positive versions is what it's all about.
Given what you said, I'd say you are looking for someone who is reliable and consistent with you. As well as emotionally intelligent. A family/children person too. A Affectionate relationship. That is a good baseline, bare minimum.
Posted by LostthoughtsPosted by HateMeNowIloveitPosted by LostthoughtsHmmm. I have trauma but I understand that trauma and how it projects.
Shit that's a loaded question for me. We are attracted to people (beyond physical attaction) for a reason. Something about them we want or desire, in a partner or ourselves. It can be messy. We learn as we go.
If you are HSP, emotional connection and communication is important. Be it you able to read them or vis versa or both. This is a deal breaker for most HSP. Definitely say the ideal healthy long term relationship compliments you.
Astrology is a great tool. Your own internal tools are much better with Astrology for clarifying.
For instance, everyone is "capable" of cheating. Very much depends on the person themselves beyond placements.
I'm sure you will get many other opinions and angles on your question here. I would need a better understanding of you yourself and what you want to focus on to tell you what exactly to look for. Which will very much depend of your own values, any traumas that still effect your judgement.
There are so many combinations of placements thst would give you that quality, it's actually really fucking awesome. We are awesomely complex creatures. What kind of person are you looking for?
Baseline, is a good place to start, whst are your Deal breaker (nopes) and ideal qualities(😍) ?
Personalities like mark Wahlberg are good examples to me. Someone who is protective of themselves and their boundaries.
Thats a very complex question cause its all in their energy too. (Mark w, has the perfect chart for me fyi) his energy is bossin.
I have absent, abusive dad issues lol used to look for protective figures in men, only to get hurt and when they hurt me id feel emapthy cause I felt empathy for my dad and wanted to be loved.
I got pernament mom issues. My mom was always accusing me of sleeping with my dad so Im constantly seeing other girls be suspicious of me even though I mind my business. I expect that kind of behavior out of women. My sister also used to take my boyfriends so Im used to highway robbery and jealousy from women.
I feel like I bring that out in women. It makes me feel like Im projecting except those behaviors are something that those people are capable of so am I making them do it? Or is it in their character to act badly?
I try to avoid people that seem like they could have been a fitting role in my past.
I also live under a rock and dont get out much lol
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How I come to understand Astrology is,
Everybody comes in to world with there own particular favor so to speak. Astrology kinda tells you what you come to learn/experience through life. Which in turn shapes you. How it does is Happenstance with a huge chunk of choice.
Jealousy with woman? Ok I know a few with similar experiences and one woman(who I'm actually after) pretty close to what you experienced, including similar traumas.
Typically Jealous with other woman, means you do have many desirable qualities as a person and they feel like they are competing with you with those qualities on some level or also common, they admire those qualities for themselves. It's rather immature but most of us learn and grow out of it. Lmao exception is when it involves more intimate/closer relationships. The woman I mentioned before, she fucking awesome and a lot of people want her company. Female friends have shown signs of jealous not just because of the attention she gets but they want her time and attention too❤️
So it's often more about them then you. You got to pay attention and ask questions to understand whats going on case by case. Be curious and interested in what is happening and curious about them. Think of it as training your intuition too.
When it comes to personal childhood trauma, it makes more sense to think of it as experiencing the wrong kind and seeking the positive version of it but not knowing what it looks like. Identifying the positive versions is what it's all about.
Given what you said, I'd say you are looking for someone who is reliable and consistent with you. As well as emotionally intelligent. A family/children person too. A Affectionate relationship. That is a good baseline, bare minimum.
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Basically yes. Lol
Oh I have probed and gotten close to the jealous ones, never will I do that again.
Jealous women are women that need to have their journey very far far away from me. Im a womans woman. I dont feel jealousy when I see good in others instead I want to sit next to them and learn. My mom has thrown grown woman fits at me, not limited to: throwing hot plates of food in my face, smashing my face into a wooden box until I was black and blue in the face. Standing and making herself known when my dad would walk in the room and say things like "no incest now" no thanks mom, I dont like used goods. 🤮🤮🤮
My sister told me she likes to have other girls men because it makes her feel good that she is better in bed than the gfs. Shes got some nerves. Its really hard for me to walk into a room full of girls like this and force myself to be interested
They dont respect themselves or others. They have no standards and believe making others miserable is glory for themselves.
I once lived with an old friend who seemed to be jealous of me and I wanted to prove myself wrong so I stayed close to her, got to know her.
The more I got to know her, the sicker I felt.
My bf had cheated on me while I was living with her and of course we talked about it. He gave me a curable std but it was a very depressing stage for me, I confided in her. A week later her neighbor who had been friends with us both for years was having a get together and I went over there and was hanging out on the balcony talking to mike the neighbor. She got so jealous walked up to the balcony with other people on it and announced the std that I had (got rid of).
I said wow (neighbor had known my bf cheated on me) he stayed with me and apologized to me for her. Ive been through worse with women, but no I will not be showing interest in women who know nothing about love, I can not force them to understand anything about friendships.
What I will be doing is staying close to women that are hyper aware of themselves, highly involved with their shadow side and understand emotions and how to concur self.
If someone can not openly talk about their demons I see it as a red flag.
Posted by HateMeNowIloveitPosted by MyStarsShine
I hope you’re undergoing intense psychotherapy because if not you’ll keep attracting the same dysfunctional energy especially with that Pisces moon (very loose and cloudy emotional boundaries)
My pisces moon is a royal pain. My pisces rising is my brains lol Ive done therapy lol and dbt. Never again.click to expand
Why never again?
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by HateMeNowIloveitPosted by MyStarsShineMy pisces moon is a royal pain. My pisces rising is my brains lol Ive done therapy lol and dbt. Never again.
I hope you’re undergoing intense psychotherapy because if not you’ll keep attracting the same dysfunctional energy especially with that Pisces moon (very loose and cloudy emotional boundaries)
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Why never again?
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It felt like every one even my one on one therapist was very "your so strong" she even told me I should be a therapist. Sure Im strong and smart but Im weak and I dont actually know what I was supposed to be getting out of it. Dbt just made me realize how much bpd people are just good people who are having reactions with abuse and the coping ideas they have are on the dululu side for me. I need real and raw not "lets watch the butterflies fly away with all our problems" I figured out a way to get myself to stop splitting, on my own and eventually I discovered how to trauma detox and its been years since then and I am doing amazing compared to where I was. After everything was done I just felt like I am my greatest teacher. People are just doing their jobs but it didnt help at all. It helped in the sense that I got tired of people not helping me so I did it myself. Im hyper independant so if people dont help me I pick up and do ten fold what others can do.
Posted by HateMeNowIloveitPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by HateMeNowIloveitWhy never again?Posted by MyStarsShineMy pisces moon is a royal pain. My pisces rising is my brains lol Ive done therapy lol and dbt. Never again.
I hope you’re undergoing intense psychotherapy because if not you’ll keep attracting the same dysfunctional energy especially with that Pisces moon (very loose and cloudy emotional boundaries)
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It felt like every one even my one on one therapist was very "your so strong" she even told me I should be a therapist. Sure Im strong and smart but Im weak and I dont actually know what I was supposed to be getting out of it. Dbt just made me realize how much bpd people are just good people who are having reactions with abuse and the coping ideas they have are on the dululu side for me. I need real and raw not "lets watch the butterflies fly away with all our problems" I figured out a way to get myself to stop splitting, on my own and eventually I discovered how to trauma detox and its been years since then and I am doing amazing compared to where I was. After everything was done I just felt like I am my greatest teacher. People are just doing their jobs but it didnt help at all. It helped in the sense that I got tired of people not helping me so I did it myself. Im hyper independant so if people dont help me I pick up and do ten fold what others can do.
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Was she a psycotherapist or a Counsellor? …. The first one goes a lot deeper. I found it life altering…
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by HateMeNowIloveitPosted by MyStarsShineIt felt like every one even my one on one therapist was very "your so strong" she even told me I should be a therapist. Sure Im strong and smart but Im weak and I dont actually know what I was supposed to be getting out of it. Dbt just made me realize how much bpd people are just good people who are having reactions with abuse and the coping ideas they have are on the dululu side for me. I need real and raw not "lets watch the butterflies fly away with all our problems" I figured out a way to get myself to stop splitting, on my own and eventually I discovered how to trauma detox and its been years since then and I am doing amazing compared to where I was. After everything was done I just felt like I am my greatest teacher. People are just doing their jobs but it didnt help at all. It helped in the sense that I got tired of people not helping me so I did it myself. Im hyper independant so if people dont help me I pick up and do ten fold what others can do.Posted by HateMeNowIloveitWhy never again?Posted by MyStarsShineMy pisces moon is a royal pain. My pisces rising is my brains lol Ive done therapy lol and dbt. Never again.
I hope you’re undergoing intense psychotherapy because if not you’ll keep attracting the same dysfunctional energy especially with that Pisces moon (very loose and cloudy emotional boundaries)
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Was she a psycotherapist or a Counsellor? …. The first one goes a lot deeper. I found it life altering…click to expand
Lol psychiatrist I think. Whats psychotherapist like?
Posted by HateMeNowIloveitPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by HateMeNowIloveitWas she a psycotherapist or a Counsellor? …. The first one goes a lot deeper. I found it life altering…Posted by MyStarsShineIt felt like every one even my one on one therapist was very "your so strong" she even told me I should be a therapist. Sure Im strong and smart but Im weak and I dont actually know what I was supposed to be getting out of it. Dbt just made me realize how much bpd people are just good people who are having reactions with abuse and the coping ideas they have are on the dululu side for me. I need real and raw not "lets watch the butterflies fly away with all our problems" I figured out a way to get myself to stop splitting, on my own and eventually I discovered how to trauma detox and its been years since then and I am doing amazing compared to where I was. After everything was done I just felt like I am my greatest teacher. People are just doing their jobs but it didnt help at all. It helped in the sense that I got tired of people not helping me so I did it myself. Im hyper independant so if people dont help me I pick up and do ten fold what others can do.Posted by HateMeNowIloveitWhy never again?Posted by MyStarsShineMy pisces moon is a royal pain. My pisces rising is my brains lol Ive done therapy lol and dbt. Never again.
I hope you’re undergoing intense psychotherapy because if not you’ll keep attracting the same dysfunctional energy especially with that Pisces moon (very loose and cloudy emotional boundaries)
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Lol psychiatrist I think. Whats psychotherapist like?click to expand
This explains it well~
Psychotherapy is typically a more in-depth, long-term process that focuses on a person's feelings and past experiences. It can lead to personal growth. Counseling, meanwhile, is more likely to refer to short-term talk therapy. It focuses on helping a person find solutions to current issues.
Posted by HateMeNowIloveitPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by HateMeNowIloveitWhy never again?Posted by MyStarsShineMy pisces moon is a royal pain. My pisces rising is my brains lol Ive done therapy lol and dbt. Never again.
I hope you’re undergoing intense psychotherapy because if not you’ll keep attracting the same dysfunctional energy especially with that Pisces moon (very loose and cloudy emotional boundaries)
click to expand
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It felt like every one even my one on one therapist was very "your so strong" she even told me I should be a therapist. Sure Im strong and smart but Im weak and I dont actually know what I was supposed to be getting out of it. Dbt just made me realize how much bpd people are just good people who are having reactions with abuse and the coping ideas they have are on the dululu side for me. I need real and raw not "lets watch the butterflies fly away with all our problems" I figured out a way to get myself to stop splitting, on my own and eventually I discovered how to trauma detox and its been years since then and I am doing amazing compared to where I was. After everything was done I just felt like I am my greatest teacher. People are just doing their jobs but it didnt help at all. It helped in the sense that I got tired of people not helping me so I did it myself. Im hyper independant so if people dont help me I pick up and do ten fold what others can do.
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" but no I will not be showing interest in women who know nothing about love, I can not force them to understand anything about friendships."
" What I will be doing is staying close to women that are hyper aware of themselves, highly involved with their shadow side and understand emotions and how to concur self.
If someone can not openly talk about their demons I see it as a red flag."
Seems my words were wasted you already figured it out.
And you figured out what bpd actually is and addressed yours👏👏👏
Glad to hear dbt isn't a crutch and actual works.
Especially the part it's just good people hurting.
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Venus 23° 14' Capricorn (r)
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Jupiter 2° 0' Cancer (r)
Saturn 18° 50' Capricorn
Uranus 7° 21' Capricorn
Neptune 13° 2' Capricorn
Pluto 17° 38' Scorpio
North Node 16° 59' Aquarius (r)
Chiron 12° 1' Cancer (r)
Ascendant 8° 37' Pisces
MC 20° sag
1st House starts at 8°Pisces
2nd House starts at 0° Taurus
3rd House starts at 29° Taurus
4th House starts at 20°Gemini
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5th House starts at 9° Cancer
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6th House starts at 1°Leo
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